You Are Not A Frog

If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break? Links How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2Download your THRIVE Week PlannerDownload your Overwhelm SOS guide Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effectively. Download the episode’s podsheetJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: How to Increase Your Confidence and ImpactWhat to Do When Your Strengths Have Side EffectsHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People Mentioned in this episode: Take our quiz, and receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist! 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints. Download the Thrive Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheetJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You DoHow to Have More Impact with Less Effort Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it. Download the episode’s podsheetDownload your free Overwhelm SOS guideJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupThe Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedomHow to Stop Making Decisions Based on FearHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck Mentioned in this episode: Take our quiz, and receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist! 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?” Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More AliveHow to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult SituationHow to Live With No RegretsFinding Your North StarDownload the episode’s podsheetJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy. Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Agnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives. Website LinkedIn | Facebook Resources Watch the video version on YouTubeHow to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your CareerDefining Your Own Success in LifeDownload the episode’s podsheet

What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped? 🛟 Download your free Overwhelm SOS guide When we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from it In this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for. Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDownload your free Overwhelm SOS guideFinding Your North StarWhy You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About itVery Nice People and Other Deadly PerilsDownload the episode’s podsheet Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com

Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint. This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels. She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations. This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Professor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills. LinkedIn | Twitter Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK)How to Be a Professional WomanThe Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in MedicineHow to Be a (Happy) Working Parent

Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically). Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers. But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Lasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace. Website | LinkedIn Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel StuckHow to Challenge Upsetting BehaviourWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened toDownload the episode’s podsheet

We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us. Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeLife’s Too Short NOT to Love What You DoFinding Your North StarDownload the episode’s podsheet Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com Find out more about our training Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other option but to stay put. These “shoulds” can come from societal expectations or the idea that you’ve put so much into your job already that it would be silly – or even irresponsible – to quit now. ⭐️ Work Well Webinars These myths and pressures keep us feeling stuck, and prevent us from exploring alternative possibilities within or outside of our current field. This week, Rachel is joined by Dr Sarah Goulding, who breaks open those myths, and shows how we can uncover new possibilities. It all starts by recognising we’re not defined solely by our roles, and embracing the idea that it's okay to change and to pursue work that aligns with our strengths and passions. Sarah also has a set of self-coaching questions that can help us discover what we’re going to do with our “one wild and precious life”. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Sarah is a Career Coach for Doctors, passionate about the power of finding your place to thrive. She has 7 jobs, including GP; educator; mentor; and Head of Development at the Joyful Doctor. Website | Instagram | LinkedIn Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeWhy We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’Finding Your North StarBringing Your Best Self to WorkDownload the episode’s podsheet Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with...

We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can overlook the bigger stuff – and it’s possible that our current career trajectory might not take us there. That’s why we need to find and then follow our North Star. Finding it starts with prioritising four fundamental needs: feeling fully human, deep connections, meaning and purpose, and growth and learning. By aligning our goals with these needs, we can find true fulfilment. ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel outlines how we can understand what makes us feel alive, cultivate meaningful relationships and activities, and embrace continuous growth in all aspects of our lives. If we carry on putting achievement ahead of our own needs – especially if we’re doing so to please someone else – we may end up feeling empty and unsatisfied. But by tapping into those four fundamental needs, we’ll find ourselves on a path to a more fulfilling and balanced life. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDefining Your Own Success in LifeHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’How to Reconnect With Your Purpose in LifeDownload the episode’s podsheet Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com Find out more about our training Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake...

We all experience moments of feeling stuck. Sometimes we have the motivation, but something’s in our way. On other days the simplest things can feel like pushing a boulder up a hill. Now matter how competent we know we are, that feeling of inertia can wreak havoc on our self-confidence. If we’re going to get unstuck and move forwards, we first need to find out what’s blocking us. ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now The solution is to take a conscious leadership approach. This means shifting our mindset and becoming more aware of our reactions and thought patterns. By recognising when we’re “below the line” and stuck in victim mode, we can consciously shift “above the line” and take control of our actions and reactions. This week, Rachel is joined by executive coach and conscious leadership expert, Nicola Rylett-Jones. Nicola offers practical steps you can take today to embody the role of a conscious leader – even if you don’t consider yourself as having a leadership position. Living below the line makes us feel frustrated, demotivated, and without the ability to make progress. It can also make us less effective leaders and colleagues, more prone to agitation. But by becoming more aware of our triggers, we can work better together with less effort. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Nicola Rylett-Jones is a senior leader who has held both regional and national Director roles with some of the UK’s most prestigious organisations. She is currently a Trustee and Deputy Chair of the Institute of Leadership, executive coach and relationship manager for the Welsh Government’s Accelerated Growth Program, and chair of two leading marketing organisations. Website | LinkedIn Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubePassing the Naughty Monkey BackHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing PeopleConversations Which Will Get You UnstuckDownload the episode’s podsheet

If you were in a life-or-death scenario and the only path out was over hot coals, would you take it? Of course. But when it comes to situations that are making us uncomfortable or even miserable, we seldom want to experience that discomfort to get to what we know will be better for us. ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores the importance of considering the long-term impact of our work, and offers a single question you can ask yourself right now, to discover what you really want to do with your one wild and precious life. If you’re on a burning platform or in a situation that could get worse, you can make a change – even if it's a small one. Any change can help you break free from the status quo. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeHow to Live With No RegretsHow to Say F**k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters)Should I Stay or Should I Go?Download the episode’s podsheet Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com Find out more about our training Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

If you’re in a job where you use your brain a lot, it can be easy to feel disconnected from your body and emotions. This in turn can lead to a lack of self-awareness and even difficulty in expressing yourself. That lack of awareness changes how we outwardly express ourselves, even in ways we’re not aware of. But by becoming consciously connected with our body, we can get a bit more control over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and over how others see us. ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now This week, Rachel is joined by coach and trainer Helen Leathers, who shows us how our posture, our movements, even the way we dress, can affect not only our mood, but how we’re perceived at work. She also shares a practical exercise that can help us cultivate stillness, so we appear more confident and open. It’s natural for those of us in cerebral jobs to see the body as just a vessel for the brain. But if we disconnect for too long, we can find it harder to tap into, understand, and express difficult feelings like stress and overwhelm. But there are simple things you can do to reconnect with your body, to literally shake off those negative feelings, and to “fake it ‘til you become it”. 🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Helen Leathers is a transformational coach with expertise in helping people use their body to access thoughts and emotions. She helps women who feel lost or overwhelmed to find their way in life again, and teaches doctors coaching and communication skills. Website | LinkedIn | Instagram | YouTube Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeTiny Habits, Big ChangesWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened toDoctors’ Transformational Coaching Diploma

We all experience shame from time to time, but when it becomes toxic, we can end up in a shame spiral from which it's difficult to escape. When we’re called out on something about which we feel shameful, it can make us defensive. And so often, no-one can punish us as harshly as we punish ourselves. In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her strategy to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindset; by sharing our shame, taking some perspective, and seeking support from others. She unpacks her SHAME model that was inspired by a recent spiral, which is a simple five-step framework for working through the sensations of shame and finding a way to be kinder to ourselves. Shame doesn’t make us better people – it only makes us harder on ourselves and leads to us being defensive. So this episode offers a chance to break free of that spiral, remember that we’re human, and remind ourselves we’re doing our best. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeHow Do You Say No When Someone Might Die?Why Can’t I Say No?How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and BurnoutHow to Avoid Becoming the Second VictimTara Brach leads a Guided Meditation: The Practice of RAINDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com Find out more about our training Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work,

When we’re presented with a difficult problem, naturally we use logic and reasoning to solve it. But some problems – like stress and burnout – can’t be solved with logic alone. The left hemisphere is the area of the brain focused on tasks, logic, and problem-solving. But the right hemisphere deals with relationships, connections, and new perspectives. It’s also visual and metaphorical, so it can help us see problems in a different way. So our right brain can help us live more easily with problems that can’t be solved by the left. This week, executive coach Yda Bouvier explains how introducing visuals can activate our right brain and give us new perspectives and insights, which can help us understand complex issues, improve problem-solving, and enhance our connection with others. Over-relying on our left brain can leave us struggling with complex relationships, focusing too much on threats, and making it harder to adapt. But by incorporating more visuals and movement, we can tap into the power of our right brain and unlock new insights and possibilities. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Yda Bouvier is an executive coach with 15 years of experience helping individuals and teams navigate challenges and develop their potential. Yda has a background in strategy consulting and holds a degree in physics. She is the author of the book "Leading with the Right Brain" and is passionate about incorporating right-brain thinking into problem-solving and decision-making processes. LinkedIn | Website Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video versionHow to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry AboutHow to Feel Happy, Calm, and ConnectedLeading with the Right BrainDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these...

So you’ve got a problem, maybe a relationship issue at work or difficulties managing your workload. You’ve talked it with friends, but the solution won’t present itself. Often the problem isn't that we lack solutions, but rather that we haven't fully understood what the problem is in the first place. In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her three-step model to help you identify and address the real problem you’re facing. It involves recognising we have choices, embracing our human needs and limitations, and thinking differently. If we keep doing what we've always done, we'll continue getting the same results. But changing our mindset can give us confidence and the ability to approach situations from a fresh perspective. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights Resources Watch the videoTHRIVE Weekly PlannerHow to Be REALLY Productive… Without Losing the PlotHow to Know if You’re Being “Resilience Victim Blamed”How to Say No and Deal with PushbackDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form Enjoyed this episode? Write a review and share this with your friends. Connect with Rachel Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms: @Dr-Rachel-Morris@DrRachelMorrishello@youarenotafrog.com Find out more about our training Mentioned in this episode: 🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" Course Wake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

Faced with a difficult situation, we often ask the question “should I stay or should I go?” It could be about work, a relationship, or something more personal. We all face this question at various times in our life, and it can be overwhelming to make a choice when we’re scared of the unknown. This week, we’re revisiting a discussion with Corrina Gordon-Barnes, about how to tackle the decision-making process. Instead of relying on traditional methods like pros and cons lists or seeking advice from others, Corrina suggests a different approach, which involves noticing the difference between facts and thoughts, and recognising when we have the power to leave rather than simply tough it out. When we keep ourselves trapped in the limbo of indecision, when we’re neither fully committed nor able to make a decisive choice, this can leave us frustrated and angry. Those frustrations can boil over into our home and work lives, or make an uncomfortable situation even worse. But by taking a moment to reflect on our current situation, we can start the process of questioning and gaining clarity, therefore revealing the choices we do have. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Dr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact. LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram | Website Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerZone of Power handoutHow to take control of your thoughtsDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD formThe Work of Byron...

If you have a high-stakes job like medicine, shame can show up in unexpected and unwelcome places. Doctors have incredibly high societal expectations, with constant pressure to be invulnerable. It’s time to challenge these unrealistic expectations and foster an environment that supports doctors in their vulnerability. This week, we’re featuring one of our most popular and impactful episodes from 2023 to help you identify and combat shame. In this episode, Dr Sandy Miles discusses the impact of shame on doctors and how we can address it by changing the toxic stories we tell ourselves. We all make mistakes, but shame keeps us from being objective and fair, leading us feeling like we’re inherently bad or wrong. Finding ways to be kinder and more supportive to ourselves will help not only our wellbeing, but will brighten the lives of those closest to us. Listen to this episode to Episode highlights About the guest Sandy Miles is a practising GP and a medical educator. She is also the co-founder of Acacia Retreat, holding bi-annual retreats for doctors feeling overwhelmed. Passionate to help fellow medical professionals, Sandy has written several research articles about shame and maladaptive behaviours in the medical industry — such as perfectionism in healthcare workers. Sandy gained her Bachelor of Medicine from the University of London and then earned her Master of Science in Medical Humanities from King’s College London. Twitter | Facebook Resources THRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Avoid Becoming the Second VictimThis is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior DoctorBooksvideosShame and MedicineShame in Medicine: The Lost ForestShame and MedicineMindset: Changing the Way You Think to...