Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl

What's it like being married when one person is deconstructing and one person isn't? Today James and I both share the hardest parts of this deconstruction journey, how it's affected our marriage and what we’ve learned along the way. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! We hope you enjoy this final episode of the season. XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What did James initially think about deconstruction? (@0:44) Q2: Was James ever afraid that Tiffany might leave the faith? (@1:35) Q3: Looking back, where did your ideas on hot topic issues originate? (@3:00) Q4. What did James think about the podcast episodes this season? (@3:40) Q5: Was our takeaway different than was intended when we were growing up in church? (@5:43) Q6: What was the hardest part of deconstruction for Tiffany? How has our approach to Bible reading changed? (@7:18) Q7: Did deconstruction conversations ever feel divisive or like a personal attack to James? (@12:50) Q8: Does James still have catastrophic worries about Tiffany ending up in spiritual la la land? Why or why not? (@16:50) Q9: Why is deconstruction sometimes seen as black and white with only one possible ending? What is the fruit of our journey saying? (@17:50) INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Today we're talking with Carlos Rodríguez about if our approach to evangelism needs to change. We're also talking about a bunch of hot topics in social justice and about finding Jesus in deconstruction!! SO EXCITED about this episode!! It is so thought-provoking and a different perspective than I ever heard growing up. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: Would you tell us a little of your personal journey with social justice and Christianity? And what has been the fruit (good or bad) of that approach? (@4:18) Q2: What have you observed about conservative Christian approaches toward social justice? What is the fruit of the approach? (@6:11) Q3: Does God have a preference for the poor? And is that the best thing He can also do for the rich? (@12:48) Q4. How, if at all, does this understanding of social justice change the way we view evangelism? If so, what changes should we be making as the church? (@14:12) Q5: Let’s take a side bar here. Is deconstruction biblical? Did Jesus teach it? (@15:07) Q6: Have our mission trips been evangelization or colonization, or both? (@16:26) Q7: Is it okay to question everything? Will we find Jesus there? (@17:51) Q8: Growing up we emphasized the salvation of souls over the physical bodies of people. What are your thoughts on that? (@21:36) Q9: I want to dive into a couple hot topic social justice issues with you. The first one is racial justice. (@27:10) Q10: On a similar note, would you talk with us about Christian Nationalism? (@33:32) Q11: What do you think it means to be pro life? Is our version of pro life biblical? (And can we talk about identity politics?) (@37:51) Q12: What does the Bible teach us about political parties? Would Jesus want us to only vote Republican? (@45:06) Q13: What do you think is the most important takeaway for my listeners? (Spoiler: It’s about deconstruction!) (@51:12) CARLOS’S INSTAGRAM: @carloshappynpo https://www.instagram.com/carloshappynpo/ CARLOS’S BOOKS: (The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.) Drop the Stones: https://amzn.to/3oT2HFO Simply Sonship: https://amzn.to/3LEq4wv RECOMMENDED READING (The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links. These are the books we talked about in the episode!) ⭐️“The Road Away from God: How Love Finds Us Even as We Walk Away” by Jonathan Martin https://amzn.to/3rRZCYr ⭐️Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s Books: https://www.amazon.com/Danya-Ruttenberg/e/B001JRYKX6?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1645035627&sr=8-1 ⭐️“Living Brave” by Shannon Dingle https://amzn.to/3LELppD NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Mike McDonald of The Bible Project about social justice! What does the word "righteous" actually mean, and how is it tied to justice? (This word study changes everything!!) How is bad theology hurting our approach to justice? What is biblical vs social justice? (Is there even a difference?) SO EXCITED about this episode!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: Why do you think social justice can be such a controversial topic in some Christian circles? (And what is the church history behind this “controversy”?) (@1:38) Q2: Why do you think social justice is sometimes pegged as a liberal issue in churches? (@5:40) Q3: What is the fruit of a Christianity where you neglect the social justice aspect of our faith? (@8:15) Q4: Why are we quick to split up the social justice vs. the spiritual disciplines? (And how does our heaven and earth theology play into this?) (@11:00) Q5: Where does this biblical understanding of justice begin? Why is it so important to God? (@14:05) Q6: What is the difference between “biblical justice” and “social justice”? (@17:35) Q7: What are the original words for righteousness and justice? How do they work together? (@19:55) Q8: How do we practically make a difference? (@23:45) Q9: How do we figure out self-care boundaries in our approach to justice? (@27:25) Q10: Why is it so difficult to accept we’ve been a part of the problem? What does repentance look like as a passive participant in the problem? (@30:20) Q11: How can we use our voices for justice? (@34:21) VIDEO ON SOCIAL JUSTICE: https://bibleproject.com/podcast/justice-part-2-what-social-justice-and-righteousness-bible/ NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

James and I both grew up in purity culture and both saved sex for marriage. And today we’re talking about that! We’re debriefing our segment on purity culture + sex, and sharing what we’re learning about a biblical view of sex! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What did you grow up believing about sex, and have those beliefs changed? (@0:11) Q2: What do you believe about a healthy biblical sexuality now? (@2:55) Q3: Does the Bible really say to save sex for marriage? (@3:53) Q4: Let’s talk about the way we approach modesty + bikinis in conservative evangelical circles. Is our approach helpful or harmful? (@10:55) Q5: Does saving sex until marriage = a great marriage? Does a sexual past and/or masturbation = a ruined marriage? (@16:20) Q6: What started purity culture, and what would have been a better way to approach sexuality in the church? (@19:23) NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: From James and Tiffany Dawn! What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Sheila Gregoire about some of the damaging teachings we grew up hearing about "biblical sex" in marriage. She's turning some of those teachings on their heads as she shares what a truly biblical sex life looks like, and how this new perspective actually makes sex so much more enjoyable! We're also going to debunk some modesty and dating myths while we're at it. SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What was your old perspective on sex, and what fruit did that bring in your life? (@3:01) Q2: What are two of the most common and toxic teachings about sex in evangelical Christian circles? And how do those teachings affect women? (@5:55) Q3: There's an idea in some Christian circles that women are obligated to have sex anytime their husbands want sex. Where does this idea come from? What does the Bible ACTUALLY say? (@15:28) Q4: Is orgasm important for a woman to experience? Or is it enough to simply cuddle and enjoy the closeness of sex, without worrying about orgasm? (@20:39) Q5: Is it okay for women to be a little "selfish" during sex - to pay attention to their own needs and desires? Is that biblical? (@25:01) Q6: Is it a woman's responsibility to help her husband stay pure (mentally, emotionally, physically) by having lots of sex with him? (@28:29) Q7: Let's talk about modesty. Is it a woman's responsibility to dress in such a way that guys won't be tempted to "stumble"? (@35:12) Q8: Will your husband have "eyes for only you"? Is that what godly men do? (@38:45) Q9: How can a woman heal her perspective toward sex, whether single or married? (@42:38) Q10: What resources do you recommend? (@45:24) HERE ARE THE RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT: (The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.) ⭐️Sheila's Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com ⭐️Sheila's "Bare Marriage" Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918 ⭐️Sheila's Orgasm Course: https://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.com/courses/the-orgasm-course ⭐️The Great Sex Rescue Book: https://amzn.to/3JQwyHT ⭐️The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Book: https://amzn.to/3HMxgEh ⭐️Talking Back to Purity Culture Book: https://amzn.to/3qZtkcD ⭐️The Making of Biblical Womanhood Book: https://amzn.to/3q6epxL ⭐️The Where Do We Go From Here Podcast: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Religion--Spirituality-Podcasts/Where-Do-We-Go-From-Here-p1274502/ THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: From James and Tiffany Dawn! What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Kat Harris about masturbation, sexuality, and how to deconstruct purity culture while keeping a biblical approach to sex! SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE OUR QUESTIONS: Q1: When you grew up in the height of purity culture, what was your approach to sexuality? (@3:03) Q2: What was the fruit of that approach, and the shame you felt? (@8:01) Q3: Let's talk about contentment and when we're trying to mask our longing for a relationship with spiritual language... (@15:54) Q4: What aha moment led you to deconstruct your view of sexuality? (@18:43) Q5: What does the Bible say about sexuality as a whole, and about the human body? (@24:31) Q6: How did you come to understand the Bible's message about premarital sex? (@36:56) Q7: What does the Bible say about masturbation? (@45:35) OTHER RESOURCES: ⭐️Podcast episodes on masturbation: https://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-i-is-masturbation-a-sin https://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-ii-is-masturbation-a-sin ⭐️Kat's Instagram: @therefinedwoman ⭐️Kat's book: https://amzn.to/3zAPSnP (👆My Amazon affiliate link to her book!) ⭐️Kat's website: https://therefinedwoman.com NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Deconstructing your faith can be REALLY hard on your mental health. So today we're talking with Brittney Moses, host of The Faith and Mental Wellness Podcast, about mental health during deconstruction, recognizing spiritual manipulation, healing from church hurt, finding a healthy community, and SO MUCH MORE! Welcome back to Episode 9 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! HERE ARE THE QUESTIONS FOR TODAY: Q1: When you were younger, what was your approach to mental health as a Christian? And what was the fruit (good or bad) of that approach? (@3:20) Q2: How does growing up in a fundamental or legalistic faith tradition affect our mental health? (@7:42) Q3: How can we recognize if our approach to spirituality is healthy or unhealthy? (@15:17) Q4: Many of my listeners are deconstructing at least some parts of their faith right now, and I know firsthand that can be extremely stressful and anxiety-provoking. Why is deconstruction so hard on our mental health? Is this a common experience? (@21:52) Q5: What red flags should we look for to see if we're being manipulated or gaslighted? And how do we respond if we think that's happening to us? (@29:12) Q6: What should we do if we’re in a toxic church situation? (@34:22) Q7: How do we recognize a healthy church? (@38:54) Q8: How do we heal from church hurts? (@41:42) Q9: I loved your IG reel: "Things I thought were holy that were actually unhealthy." Would you share a few of these with us, and some steps we can take to become healthier in these areas? (@46:53) Q10: There’s sadly still such a stigma around mental health in some church circles. So how has your study of the Bible AND psychology led you to view mental health as a Christian? (@53:00) Q11: You've put together some really thoughtful resources for Christians wrestling with mental health. Would you tell us about your resources and where we can find them? (@59:11) LINKS WE MENTIONED: ⭐️GRACE (for reporting and investigating church abuse concerns) -https://www.netgrace.org ⭐️Brittney's website with resources: https://brittneyamoses.com ⭐️Brittney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittneymoses/ ⭐️Pre order Brittney's book: https://tinyurl.com/brittneybook ⭐️Faithful Counseling link: Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

We're wrapping up our mini series on women's roles! Here's what we each believe + our journey to this point. We'll also take a brief rabbit trail to talk about deconstruction and some of the recent press it's been getting. Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & James MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/ti... NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Let's dive into episode 7 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl!" Today we're talking with the Rev. Dr. Amy Peeler, an Associate Professor of New Testament at Wheaton College and Associate Rector at St. Mark’s Episcopal Church. Here are the questions we'll be talking about: 1. What did you grow up believing about women's roles in the church and in marriage? (@2:10) 2. How did you come to understand 1 Timothy 2, and how it applies to women today? (@6:30) 3. Can you walk us through 1 Corinthians 14, and help us better understand how this might apply to women today? (@23:44) 4. What is the fruit of silencing women in church? (@30:57) 5. Would you talk with us about 1 Corinthians 11, and how that informs our understanding of women's roles in the church today? (@35:10) 6. Let's talk about marriage and submission. Would you walk us through Ephesians 5? (@44:34) 7. Let's talk about feminism. One of your specialties is feminist theology. What is that, and is it biblical to be a feminist? (@53:43) 8. What resources would you recommend for people who want to study this topic further? (@57:49) Come back next week as James and I debrief this episode and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic! Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me! XOXO, Tiffany AMY'S WEBSITE: amypeeler.com AMY'S BOOKS: Hebrews: An introduction & study guide: https://amzn.to/3qpHgOg You Are My Son: The Family of God in the Epistle to the Hebrews: https://amzn.to/3bYp0TR (👆My Amazon affiliate links) THE BOOKS AMY RECOMMENDED TO LEARN MORE: Discovering Biblical Equality: https://amzn.to/3qpvcwm Paul and Gender: https://amzn.to/3qpvgMC Rediscovering Scripture's Vision for Women: https://amzn.to/3krnYUW Women in the World of the Earliest Christians: https://amzn.to/3knt6JS (👆My Amazon affiliate links) MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

We're wrapping up our mini series on LGBTQ+! Here's what we each believe + our thoughts on some of your comments. Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & James WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT TODAY: @1:14: Why is this topic the “litmus test” of being a Christian and obeying the Bible? @2:50: Growing up, what was the message you heard about being gay? @4:03: When did you start thinking more about this topic? 7:01: seeing the depression in his life @7:28: What made you start wondering if your understanding of Scripture was correct in this area? @19:30: As far as what the Bible says on this topic, what are some of the things you’ve been thinking about on this journey? INCLUDING: - Something to keep in mind when talking about historical / cultural context - Why is the topic of LGBTQ+ such a huge deal in Christian circles when it’s only talked about 6 times in Scripture? - Thoughts on the passage when Jesus talks about divorce, and could that apply here, or not? - Are we outgrowing the Bible on this podcast? - Let’s compare Romans 1 to the wording in 1 Corinthians 11. - But Jesus never addressed same sex relationships - what does that mean? - Are we really meant to make a judgment call in this area, as heterosexual people? @30:40: What do you believe on this topic now? - Also brief side bar @33:33: What did God intend marriage to be? Monogamy or different genders? MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Let's dive into part 5 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl!" Today we're talking with Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case for Same Sex Relationships." Here are the questions we'll be talking about: 1. What did you used to believe it meant to honor God with your sexuality? (@4:05) 2. What was the fruit of seeing sexuality that way? (@13:10) 3. Would you tell us about how you approach the Bible? (@16:05) 4. Would you tell us why you wrote "God and the Gay Christian"? (@20:13) 5. What would the words for "homosexuality" have meant to Bible readers in the early church? What did "homosexual behavior" look like at that time in history? (@26:43) 6. Let's talk about the Bible passage that I used to think ended any conversation on homosexuality: Romans 1. Would you give us just an overview of what your Bible study has revealed about this passage? What about that word "unnatural"? (@34:15) 7. What is Scripture's trajectory with gender roles? (@37:45) 8. Let's go back to Romans 1! What was same sex behavior commonly associated with at that time? (@40:56) 9. So what about the option of celibacy? (@45:07) 10. What about other sexual orientations and gender identities? (@47:23) 11. Would you tell us more about The Reformation Project and the resources you offer for those who want to learn more? (@49:56) Come back next week as James and I debrief this episode and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic! Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me! XOXO, Tiffany MATTHEW'S RESOURCES - highly recommend!!👇 GOD + THE GAY CHRISTIAN: https://amzn.to/3Gw0XJR (👆My amazon affiliate link) MATTHEW'S INSTAGRAM: @thereformationproject REGISTER FOR THEIR CONFERENCE: https://reformationproject.org/conference/#virtual-tickets THEIR NEW 7-HOUR ONLINE COURSE: https://reformationproject.org/courses/the-biblical-case-for-lgbtq-inclusion/#details MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

We're wrapping up our mini series on hell + heaven! Here's what we each believe + our thoughts on some of your comments! Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & James WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT TODAY: What did we grow up believing about hell? What was the fruit of that belief? Why is this conversation even important? What do we think hell is, and why? What was the purpose of Jesus's death + resurrection? Can people go to heaven if they're not a "Christian"? What stood out to us from the previous two podcasts? And more! THE SKELETONS IN GOD'S CLOSET: https://amzn.to/3FMoW7h (👆My amazon affiliate links) MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/ti... NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Let's dive into part 2 of our mini series on hell! Today we're talking with Josh Butler, author of "The Skeletons in God's Closet." Here are the questions we'll be talking about: 1. What was your old way of thinking about hell? (@2:16) 2. The first thing we’ll be looking at is fruit. What is the fruit of that belief about hell? (@4:30) 3. What is a biblical view of heaven and earth? (@8:15) 4. What is hell and why is it merciful? (@12:25) 5. Who goes to hell and who goes to heaven? (@26:15) 6. How do I know I'm heaven-bound? (@30:10) 7. Would you walk us through the parable of the wedding feast (Matt 22), and what that story tells us about hell, heaven and God's posture toward all of us? (@37:14) 8. Can you talk us through the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15), and again the picture that gives of heaven, hell and God's posture toward all of us? (@43:50) 9. Should this new understanding of hell change the way we think about missions and evangelism? If so, how? (@51:00) Come back next week for part 3 on hell, as James and I debrief this mini series and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic. Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me! XOXO, Tiffany JOSH'S BOOKS - highly recommend!!👇 SKELETONS: https://amzn.to/3FMoW7h PURSUING GOD: https://amzn.to/3AKeI3z (👆My amazon affiliate links) JOSH'S TWITTER: @butlerjosh MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEW YT VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawn NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Today I got to interview pastor and author Steve Daughterty (IG: @stepd0c)! I LOVED getting to talk with him about hell! Here are the questions I asked him: 1. What was your old way of thinking about hell? (@2:57) 2. The first thing we’ll be looking at is fruit. What was the fruit of that belief in your life? (@6:03) 3. What was your aha moment when you realized maybe you were misunderstanding the Bible? (@8:42) 4. The second thing we’ll be looking at is intent and the original language in Scripture. What are the four words that are translated "hell" in our English Bibles? (@13:20) 5. What is this idea of "eternal destruction"? (@25:16) 6. Is God's justice restorative or retributive? (@27:50) 7. What are the wages of sin? (@31:08) 8. What about the "lake of fire" in Luke 16? (@35:39) 9. If there's no hell, why did Jesus die? (@43:52) Come back next week for part 2 on hell, an interview with pastor and author Joshua Butler, talking about why Jesus died, who's in and who's out, etc! Then the following week, James and I will debrief and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic together. Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with us! XOXO, Tiffany STEVE'S BOOK: https://amzn.to/2YD61uX (👆My amazon affiliate link) INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffany... NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

What do WE mean by deconstruction? How has Tiffany's "deconstruction" affected our marriage? What do we each believe about Scripture? How has that view changed? And do conversations like this promote unity or disunity in church?? Welcome back to Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl (OCG) - Season 2! Can't wait to share this episode (and all of season 2!) with you guys!! Praying God uses this to help all of us find common ground! Here are today's questions, that James and I are both answering! 1. What was your old way of thinking about God and the Bible? 2. The first thing we’ll be looking at is fruit. What was the fruit of that in your life? 3. What was your aha moment when you realized maybe you were misunderstanding the Bible? - A brief overview of what season 2 will be talking about, and why we're only sharing one side of the story on each topic!- 4. The second thing we’ll be looking at is intent. What do you believe about Scripture now? 5. There’s is a buzz word going around right now that has so many different meanings. Some fear it, some love it, some are confused by it. So let’s talk about it. Deconstruction. What does that mean to you? Are you on that journey now? 6. What has the journey been like for James? How has Tiffany's "deconstruction" affected your marriage? 7. Some would say these conversations will only lead to disunity. What would you say about that? Come back next week to begin a mind-blowing, 3-week series about hell! NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn This is the final episode of our "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" series. It's all about how this journey to grow deeper into my faith, and to outgrow some of the legalism from my past, has set me free in a whole new way. 🙌 I hope this can encourage you as well! Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany And please comment below: What other topics would you like to talk about after my maternity leave? ♥️ PREVIOUS EPISODES OF "OUTGROWING THE GOOD CHRISTIAN GIRL": YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7JVVzI5tshcn63oFH2-Nk3Rai9lf-A5c PODCAST: https://tiffanydawn.buzzsprout.com​​ NEW UNDERSTANDING OF MY QUIET TIME: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVX-C-aL69M BOYCRAZY BOOK: Read the love story + learn how your heart can come alive - while single! https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU: Ditch the duds and catch a keeper. https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com THE INSATIABLE QUEST FOR BEAUTY: Learn how to love your body + heal your heart. https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store INSTAGRAM: Come along for a day in my life! @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEED ENCOURAGEMENT? Sign up for my monthly emails on dating, marriage, singleness, faith + body image! https://dedicated-architect-5242.ck.page/join-us NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

Sometimes we hear damaging messages about emotions in church circles. So let's talk about this: Does God care if you're happy, or only if you're holy? Are some emotions bad enough that we need to hide them? And as always, share your thoughts in the comments below! XOXO, Tiffany PREVIOUS EPISODES: YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7JVVzI5tshcn63oFH2-Nk3Rai9lf-A5c PODCAST: https://tiffanydawn.buzzsprout.com​​ BOYCRAZY BOOK: Read the love story + learn how your heart can come alive - while single! https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU: Ditch the duds and catch a keeper. https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com THE INSATIABLE QUEST FOR BEAUTY: Learn how to love your body + heal your heart. https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store INSTAGRAM: Come along for a day in my life! @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn NEED ENCOURAGEMENT? Sign up for my monthly emails on dating, marriage, singleness, faith + body image! https://dedicated-architect-5242.ck.page/join-us NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

This was the next big question on my journey. I wanted to understand what the Bible really meant on this issue. But along the way something unexpected happened - I learned to be okay with gray areas, and with not having all the answers. Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany PREVIEW EPISODES: YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7JVVzI5tshcn63oFH2-Nk3Rai9lf-A5c PODCAST: https://tiffanydawn.buzzsprout.com​​ RESOURCES: "How the Bible Actually Works" by Peter Enns https://amzn.to/3rqYVlW "God and the Gay Christian" by Matthew Vines https://amzn.to/3rlHGm6 "Inspired" by Rachel Held Evans https://amzn.to/3pVIn5n (Please note: The above Amazon links are affiliate links.) "Gay Marriage and the Bible" Blog http://www.gaymarriageandthebible.com The Reformation Project: YT: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheReformationProject/videos IG: https://www.instagram.com/thereformationproject/ -- I especially LOVE their IG posts!! My video: "Am I Gay?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cdbAIpKZ1Q NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn BOYCRAZY BOOK: Read the love story + learn how your heart can come alive - while single! https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU: Ditch the duds and catch a keeper. https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com THE INSATIABLE QUEST FOR BEAUTY: Learn how to love your body + heal your heart. https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store INSTAGRAM: Come along for a day in my life! @tiffanydawniqb NEED ENCOURAGEMENT? Sign up for my monthly emails on dating, marriage, singleness, faith + body image! https://dedicated-architect-5242.ck.page/join-us NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕 NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

In Episode 3 I'm asking: "Are we too obsessed with 'sin'? Is inherent sin REALLY our identity? And if we talk about God's love too much, does that water down the gospel?" Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany Dawn WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/ShzfvkA4bdo THIS SERIES: I've been dreaming up a series called "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" for about a year now. It's all about my faith journey from growing up in a conservative, predominantly white evangelical homeschool community, and the questions and anxieties and cynicism I started experiencing a few years ago. I want to share the path I feel like God has guided me on - to find a new understanding of my faith - and the freedom that's brought. NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn BOYCRAZY BOOK: Read the love story + learn how your heart can come alive - while single! https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU: Ditch the duds and catch a keeper. https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com THE INSATIABLE QUEST FOR BEAUTY: Learn how to love your body + heal your heart. https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store INSTAGRAM: Come along for a day in my life! @tiffanydawniqb NEED ENCOURAGEMENT? Sign up for my monthly emails on dating, marriage, singleness, faith + body image! https://dedicated-architect-5242.ck.page/join-us NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

In Episode 2 I'm asking: "Is the Bible really as black and white as I once thought? Have I been using the Bible the way it was intended? Is it ALL meant to be literally applied?" Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany Dawn WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/ciqtjqoEhrw EPISODE 1: GROWING PAINS https://www.buzzsprout.com/1613266/7300993-episode-1-growing-pains-with-tiffany-dawn.mp3?blob_id=31752688&download=true THIS SERIES: I've been dreaming up a series called "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" for about a year now. It's all about my faith journey from growing up in a conservative, predominantly white evangelical homeschool community, and the questions and anxieties and cynicism I started experiencing a few years ago. I want to share the path I feel like God has guided me on - to find a new understanding of my faith - and the freedom that's brought. NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling! (This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.) http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn BOYCRAZY BOOK: Read the love story + learn how your heart can come alive - while single! https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥 https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU: Ditch the duds and catch a keeper. https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com THE INSATIABLE QUEST FOR BEAUTY: Learn how to love your body + heal your heart. https://www.tiffanydawn.net/store INSTAGRAM: Come along for a day in my life! @tiffanydawniqb NEED ENCOURAGEMENT? Sign up for my monthly emails on dating, marriage, singleness, faith + body image! https://dedicated-architect-5242.ck.page/join-us NEED A COUNSELOR? Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp! (This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.) http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawn INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb