The Generous Husband Daily Rant

I warned you recently about the problems that can come from putting your marriage into autopilot mode. But what about doing sex on autopilot? It’s easy to slip into sex autopilot. You find something that works, and you stick with it. The more trouble... The post Don’t Let Sex Get Stale: Avoid Autopilot Mode first appeared on The Generous Husband.

In her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want (Kindle), Sonja Lyubomirsky mentions a study done by Pennsylvania State University. A group of students was told to hug at least five times a day for four weeks, and... The post FF: A Hug Makes You Both Happier first appeared on The Generous Husband.

I’ve talked about busyness a good deal here, with some of it being a confession. And apparently plenty of you worry about this; my post “The Sin of Busyness” was the fifth most read post the year I wrote it. I’ve talked about how... The post Your Mind Needs a Break from Busyness first appeared on The Generous Husband.

The maxim that people don’t change is wrong. I’ve changed over my 39 years of marriage, and so has my wife. And I’ve seen plenty of other husbands and wives change. Some big changes, some small, and some ongoing. Real change, significant lasting change,... The post The Journey of Change: Embracing Patience and Love first appeared on The Generous Husband.

When we go to church, Lori and I can take as many as four kids with us. Today it was just me and the five-year-old grandson. For thirty-five minutes both ways. We had a blast, but I realised I give my grandson a lot... The post The Power of Choosing to Give Grace first appeared on The Generous Husband.

Mixing it up a bit sexually can be a good thing. But it’s important to make sure what we do is good for our wife. So let me suggest something different that most women can enjoy. Simply put, you sit behind her and make... The post Sit Behind Her and Give Her an Orgasm first appeared on The Generous Husband.

This is a follow-up on Confessions of the Husband of a Sex Positive Wife post, and specifically comments and emails generated by the post. …you can be the best person possible, even near perfect, but if your wife doesn’t want to also do this,... The post FF: Paving the Way for Change first appeared on The Generous Husband.

Let’s talk about your marriage and sex life as self-care. If your marriage and sex life are a source of stress, this may not make sense to you. But when your marriage is healthy, it can be a great source of calm. It can... The post Marriage and Sex as Self-Care: Refuge and Intimacy first appeared on The Generous Husband.

We hear a lot about “self-care” these days. Some scoff at it as weakness or a waste of time that could be better used in other ways. Thing is, the Bible is all about self-care. The 23rd Psalm would be one example. One pastor... The post The Importance of Spiritual Self-Care first appeared on The Generous Husband.

In today’s sermon, our pastor talked about autopilot. We all have places in our lives that run this way, and it can be a good thing. But it can also cause us problems because we miss things we need to embrace, challenge, or otherwise... The post Avoid Marriage Autopilot: Stay Engaged for a Healthy Relationship first appeared on The Generous Husband.

Let’s talk about frameworks and sex. We all have a framework for sex. And most of us had a significant framework for it long before we ever had sex. By the time you were with your wife, your framework was massive and probably set... The post Breaking Free from Broken Sexual Frameworks first appeared on The Generous Husband.

A couple of weeks ago, Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage wrote “10 Confessions of a Wife Who Loves Sex”. Then J of Hot, Holy & Humorous did her “Confessions of a Sex-Happy Wife” and it became a trend. You can find five such... The post FF: Confessions of the Husband of a Sex Positive Wife first appeared on The Generous Husband.

I want to talk a bit more about our mental frameworks for marriage. In particular, how we got those frameworks. It’s rare to intentionally build a mental framework. We generally start with something we pick up from others, and modify it. So our framework... The post Marriage Frameworks: Building, Checking, and Adapting first appeared on The Generous Husband.

At the peaching workshop, we talked a good deal about the mental framework we apply to scripture. A framework can be a great tool for understating a passage, but it can also be a problem. If something falls outside our framework, do we just... The post The Problem with Frameworks: Good Tool, Bad Master first appeared on The Generous Husband.

I got home from my preaching workshop at 2 AM Saturday morning. My wife woke up, we talked a bit, then I crashed. She woke before me and let me sleep – which was great as I was very short on sleep from the... The post The Beauty of Sacrificial Love in Marriage first appeared on The Generous Husband.

I was reading a research study, and it started with this: Female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is a medicosocial problem and one of the most common complaints in sexually active women, affecting as many as 30-50% of them… If it affects 30% of women, that’s... The post The Sobering Reality of Female Sexual Dysfunction and What Can Help first appeared on The Generous Husband.

Most of us daydream about what we would do if we won or inherited a great deal of money. What if someone could give you more time? What if you suddenly had 28 hour days – an extra four hours a day with nothing... The post FF: If You Had More Time: Uncovering Desires and Making Room for Dreams first appeared on The Generous Husband.

This week I’m in El Paso, Texas attending a preaching workshop with the rest of the preaching team from our church. A decade ago, I could never have imagined attending such an event. It was about ten years ago, my pastor challenged me to... The post Embracing God’s Calling: Why I Preach first appeared on The Generous Husband.

Last Tuesday I did a post about trauma. When I got to the coffee shop that morning, two of my friends from church were discussing the post, and one said it was probably his favourite I’ve ever done. Then I get home and see... The post Addressing Past Trauma and Its Impact on Life and Relationships first appeared on The Generous Husband.

You can’t fix something if you don’t know how it works. And if you try, you will probably make things worse. If you have no idea how a car works, opening the hood when it won’t start isn’t going to help. And if you... The post Trying to Fix Without Understanding Can Make Things Worse first appeared on The Generous Husband.