Rethinking Manhood

About this Episode: After a 2 week break, we're back again! This episode I am joined with one of my soul friends (Johnny Cole). Every conversation I've had with Johnny always hits beyond the surface, and feels filling and life-giving. In this episode I have the opportunity to interview Johnny and talk about how patriarchy has shaped their relationships (both romantic and platonic), their relationship to touch, and of course we talked a bit about sex too! More about Johnny! Johnny is "healing men from living in the patriarchy, one conversation at a time" through various Men's Retreat and through their newly founded organization "Hey Brother Co" Interested in getting connected with Hey Brother Co? Complete the following form. "Please submit your contact information if you are interested in learning more about Hey Brother Co., a new men's work organization. We are a growing community of men who seek introspection, leadership, community, authentic bonds with other men, learning emotional regulation, and overall improvements to well-being. This is an inclusive community for all men/masculine folx, and our diversity is our greatest asset, with our identities as men being our strongest bond." In case you missed it: Click this to get connected! Thank you again for listening. It means the world <3 Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I discuss The Construction of Black Masculinity and reflect on how my interest in exploring Black Masculinity led to the creation of this podcast, and the content that's created on Rethinking Manhood. Here are some of the sources that have helped shape this conversation! (And some additional articles to check out!) Collins, P. H. (2005). Black sexual politics: African Americans, gender, and the new racism. New York: Routledge. Ferber, A. (2007). The Construction of Black Masculinity: White Supremacy Now and Then. Journal of Sport & Social Issues. Majors, R. (2017). Contemporary Themes: African Americans in Sport. Stuart, F., & Benezra, A. (2018). Criminalized Masculinities: How Policing Shapes the Construction of Gender and Sexuality in Poor Black Communities. Social Problems, 65(2). I love you all and thanks for listening! <3 Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I have the opportunity to sit down with my great friends and fraternity brothers Josh (@CobbUnplugged) and Billy (@Yozefu_Umubaji). Friendships are already hard; but even harder when you mix it with patriarchal masculinity. Billy, Josh, and myself discuss the way in which patriarchal masculinity influences the way that we connect with other men and masculine folks. As we are socialized into 'rigid' definitions of masculinity and manhood, we realized that the pathways for connecting with other men and masculine folks are usually through sex, sports, or politics. We've found it hard often to connect, when those topics aren't at the center. I hope that you enjoy this honest, and transparent episode! Let us know what you think! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

"We are not resting to recharge so we can do more. We are simply resting because it is our divine and human right." -Tricia Hersey (@TheNapMinistry) As some of you may have noticed there was no episode last week! I would love to be able to say that this was part of the plan and that this was intentional to make this episode come alive; but it wasn't. There wasn't an episode last week, because I was burnt out. In this episode I talk about the importance of rest, and how patriarchal masculinity influences and shapes so much of our beliefs and practices around rest, I hope you enjoy this episode! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I'm joined with Chris Joseph, a creative and community builder to discuss Gentleness and Black Masculinity. Often our society pushes boys, men, and masculine folks to reject any and everything associated with gentleness or softness; leaving many folks with having to mask themselves, or put themselves in a box that they don't want to be in. In this episode we will talk about about our experiences growing up in Christian households, navigating Homophobia, and our relationships to men and other masculine folks. I hope you enjoy this episode! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

*Content Warning: This episode is about men and masculine folks who are survivors of sexual assault. Please take care of yourself if you choose to listen to this episode. If you are personally impacted by sexual assault and need someone to talk to, please know that you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). "Researchers have found that at least 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse or assault, whether in childhood or as adults. And this is probably a low estimate, since it doesn’t include non-contact experiences, which can also have lasting negative effects. If you’ve had such an experience, or think you might have, you are not alone." (1in6.org) Sexual assault is something that many men and masculine folks have experienced, but also something that most men don't talk about (because of shame, fear, etc). In this episode I share some of my personal experiences, and just information on the impact of sexual assault. Some resources for men and masculine folks You can chat anonymously and confidentially with a RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) support specialist who is trained to help at online.rainn.orgMale Survivor has different webinars, live events, and also support groups that you can join (some of these support groups offered are also identity based).1 and 6has resources for friends and families of survivors, ranging from book recommendations, statistics, and survivor stories.Sending all my love to the survivors out there. You are not alone. <3 Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode, I have the privilege of chatting with Selina (@sexwith_sel), a Queer relationship counselor, and sexologist based in Sydney, Australia. We spend some time talking about where people's beliefs about sex come from, the porn industry and it's impact on the sexual experiences of men and masculine folks, and how patriarchy has shaped our understandings of sex. To get more connected with Selina check out her Linktree! I hope that you enjoy this episode! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

“When men embrace feminist thinking and practice, which emphasizes the value of mutual growth and self-actualization in all relationships, their emotional well-being will be enhanced. A genuine feminist politics always brings us from bondage to freedom, from lovelessness to loving.” -bell hooks This episode named after "We Should All Be Feminist" by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, explores how patriarchal masculinity is something that can be discussed because of the writings, and activism of feminist. Because Feminism is something that benefits everyone, we should all be feminism. Here's a link to the article I reference towards the end: "23 Ways Feminism Has Made the World A Better Place for Men" Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I step back from asking the questions, and allow a trusted friend to ask me questions for once. Join me and my guest host Kyle Thompson, LSW for a transparent and authentic episode about masculinity and manhood. Kyle and I worked at a local ice cream shop 10 years ago, and have still been able to stay connected! While this is the end of the first season, it's certainly not the end of the podcast. I will still be creating great content on the @RethinkingManhood Instagram account, and will release Season 2 in the Fall of 2022! I love you all. Thank you for listening to me, and thank you for allowing me to have this platform. See you in the Fall! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode Samu (a great friend of Rethinking Manhood!) and I have a conversation about feminism, Masculinity in Europe, gender, and sexuality. The season finale of Rethinking Manhood premiers next Tuesday, May 10th! While I'm so sad that this season is coming to an end, I have so much gratitude for everyone who has been listening through the journey. I hope that you enjoy this interview! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

Content Warning: This episode will include topics that are sensitive, and triggering such as Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, Power & Control, and other forms of Abuse and Violence. Please prioritize your well-being as you listen to this episode. In this reflection I take you all on a journey of what went through my mind during an evening walk. I found myself deeply disturbed by this constant cycle of harm (hurt people, hurt people). The journey of healing is one that we all must take. It's important. It's necessary. It's required. That's what I hope people take away from this episode. Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode Johnny and I have a discussion around "Machismo" and the experiences within our personal lives that have shaped the way we live our lives/and see ourselves as men today. To stay updated on all things related to Rethinking Manhood follow our Instagram account (@RethinkingManhood). Join the conversation and leave a review! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode Bobby Yang and I explore the relationship between our bodies and how much (or how less) of a man they make us, our society and cultures obsession with penis sizes, and Asian-American Masculinity and the way the media depicts it. To stay updated on all things related to Rethinking Manhood follow our Instagram account (@RethinkingManhood). Join the conversation and leave a review! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode we explore the epidemic of silence. Many men (due to patriarchal masculinity) are suffering or struggling in silence. Many studies show that many men are experiencing depression and anxiety, but not seeking any support. Destyn shares his personal experiences with silence, bullying, and the overall impact that silence has on well-being. Don't forget to follow @RethinkingManhood on Instagram, and to leave a review. You are appreciated! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I host a Zoom session with 6 important Black men in my life. This conversation features a licensed and ordained pastor in the Church of God in Christ, an educator, a seminary student, a Higher Education professional, graduate student, and a professional musician. I hope you enjoy this episode! Part 2 of the conversation addresses homophobia in the church, creating spaces for Black men, and young people to be their fullest self, and answering is there a need to rethink Black masculinity? If you're looking for a way to support Rethinking Manhood check out my Buy Me a Coffee page! (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/destyn) Your support (in every way) means a lot to me! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

In this episode I host a Zoom session with 6 important Black men in my life. This conversation features a licensed and ordained pastor in the Church of God in Christ, an educator, a seminary student, a Higher Education professional, graduate student, and a professional musician. I hope you enjoy this episode! Part one of this conversation discusses who/how we learned what it means to be a man, our relationship with our emotions, and the differences between manhood and masculinity. Be on the look out for part two next week! If you're looking for a way to support Rethinking Manhood check out my Buy Me a Coffee page! (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/destyn) Your support (in every way) means a lot to me! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

We often hear people talk about toxic-masculinity, or the "manbox." But what's patriarchal masculinity, and why should we care? This episode dives into the impact that patriarchy has on everyone, and how patriarchal masculinity is harmful (even to the men that it benefits). Join the conversation by following us on Instagram (@rethinkingmanhood). If you're looking for a way to support Rethinking Manhood check out my Buy Me a Coffee page! (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/destyn) Your support (in every way) means a lot to me! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

Welcome to Rethinking Manhood! This episode focuses on getting to know the podcast host, Destyn, and his connection to the topics of masculinity and manhood. Hope you enjoy listening! For updates follow @RethinkingManhood on Instagram! If you're looking for a way to support Rethinking Manhood check out my Buy Me a Coffee page! (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/destyn) Your support (in every way) means a lot to me! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

Welcome to Rethinking Manhood. This podcast hosted by Destyn L. (@destynforgreatness on Instagram) is about bringing men together to unlearn patriarchal masculinity and making space for men to heal, grow, and learn. For updates and to further connect follow the podcast on Instagram @rethinkingmanhood! If you're looking for a way to support Rethinking Manhood check out my Buy Me a Coffee page! (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/destyn) Your support (in every way) means a lot to me! Support the show Want to get more connected with Rethinking Manhood? Follow usInstagramSupportBuyMeACoffee PageSend us an emailrethinkingmanhood@gmail.com

Welcome to Rethinking Manhood. This podcast hosted by Destyn L. (@destynforgreatness on Instagram) is about bringing men together to unlearn patriarchal masculinity and making space for men to heal, grow, and learn. For updates and to further connect follow the podcast on Instagram @rethinkingmanhood!