YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner. 00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert 00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner 00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment 01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships 02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication 03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication 04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages. In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships. The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck. Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward! 00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships 00:28 The Five Key Step 01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward 04:03 Inappropriate Hope 12:17 Healing and Moving Forward 20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace 26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In the 5th episode or a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families. 00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships 01:06 Power of Personal Journeys 02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship 02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes 06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships 09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions 14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations 18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics 23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship 25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices 28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships 31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing 36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward 41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth 45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners...

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship. In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship. Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink. 00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship” 02:17 Reflections and Realizations 03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship 05:47 The Power of Support Groups 07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing 10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples 20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems 26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships 31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics 33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics 34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding 36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions 39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories 44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward 53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers 01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and...

Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics. Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 (Season 4) of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. This 5-part series is about navigating relationship challenges to figure out a path forward. 00:00 Welcome to Episode 2: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships 00:28 The Five Key Steps for Relationship Challenges 01:35 Episode Overview: Stopping the Bleed 03:59 The Support Group 04:49 Exploring Personal Stories and Insights 15:57 Exploring Boundaries and Codependency 26:00 The Impact of Communication Styles and Trust Issues 26:57 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships 27:41 The Importance of Individual Therapy 36:00 Setting Boundaries for Safety and Emotional Well-being 46:23 The Physical and Mental Health Consequences of Relationship Stress 48:24 Looking Ahead: Making Difficult Decisions ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you a framework for navigating your own neurodiverse relationship. 00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship 01:46 Introducing the Support Group: A Safe Space for All Neurotypes 04:41 Decision Making in Neurodiverse Relationships 06:22 Understanding the Stages of Assessing Relationship Challenges 11:14 Triage: Assessing the Risk in Your Relationship 16:41 Reflecting on Personal Experiences with Neurodiversity and Relationships 26:36 The Importance of Assessing Needs and Risks in Relationships 29:39 Unpacking the Past: Stories of Miscommunication and Conflict 30:17 The Christmas Eve Incident: A Tale of Family Dynamics 32:27 Navigating Neurodivergence and Codependency 33:47 The Shift from Romance to Reality 35:30 Unveiling Incompatibilities 40:19 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxicity 52:08 The Journey to Self-Recognition and Healing ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more...

In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and less alone in their experiences. The first episode airs on Wednesday, March 20th. 00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships 00:14 Introducing the Co-Host and Our Mission 00:31 Five Key Steps for Navigating Relationship Challenges 00:58 Personal Journeys: Learning from Our Own Relationships 01:15 The Importance of Sharing Vulnerable Experiences 01:35 Join Us for the Journey

Debunking the Myth that Everyone is Narcissistic Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are abused by narcissists, and aims to educate listeners on the true nature of narcissistic behavior versus normal human flaws and dysfunction. 00:00 Introduction 00:10 Debunking the Myth: Everyone is Narcissistic 00:42 Understanding Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits 01:02 Identifying Narcissistic Traits 01:36 The Narcissist's Use of Victimhood 01:58 Power and Control in Narcissism 02:15 Conclusion: We're Not All a Little Bit Narcissistic

Autism, Narcissism, and Dangerous Myths In this episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the distinctions and potential comorbidity between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning. Jodi dispels dangerous myths suggesting that narcissistic traits are universal, pointing out the unique and harmful characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder that differentiate it from common human behaviors. She highlights the risks posed by individuals who exhibit both autism and extreme narcissism, including their potentially destructive actions and lack of regard for others' wellbeing. 00:00 Introduction 00:10 Understanding Autism and Narcissism: A Comparative Analysis 00:38 The Dangers of Autistic Narcissists 01:12 Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits 01:35 The Myth of Universal Narcissism 01:46 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse 02:27 Identifying Narcissistic Traits 03:23 The Power Dynamics of Narcissism 03:40 Conclusion

Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism, particularly in relationships. She explains that most people will tell 'little white lies' to avoid confrontation in an antagonistic relationship, and highlights the need for communication and resolving conflicts that can lead to lying. Jodi distinguishes between 'manipulative lying' and lying to avoid conflict, noting that the latter is more common amongst individuals on the spectrum. She suggests addressing any existing parental dynamic in which one partner might feel like they need to lie to avoid trouble. 00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying 00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships 01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic 01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict 02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies 02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Relationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member. 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. AUTISM QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member. 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved. She suggests ways to manage interactions that are triggering in order to have safe conversations. Jodi highlights the key roles of reflective listening, avoiding judgment, and understanding that differing opinions and perspectives do not alter the value or feelings of each partner. 00:00 A YouTube Comment 00:52 Validity of Emotions in Relationships 01:12 The Problem of Unresolved Conflict 02:23 The Importance of Safe Conversations 03:20 The Solution: How To Handle Emotional Triggers 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In the bonus episode, explore the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships. Discover the importance of conveying both physical and emotional limits to your partner and learn strategies for explaining your responses to specific actions without trying to control your partner. Hear about the importance of teaching children about setting boundaries and feeling safe within their boundaries. 00:00 Introduction 00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships 01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control 01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior 02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children 02:46 Challenges of Setting Boundaries with Smart Kids 03:06 Conclusion: Modeling Boundary Setting

Recently, someone reached out to me on my YouTube channel and asked for more videos about autistic gay men. So, I want to shed some light on the topic. It's important to understand that when it comes to neurodiversity and neurodiverse relationships, sexuality is not a determining factor. Regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation. In fact, the insights and advice I provide apply to all kinds of neurodiverse relationships. Whether it's a friendship, a coworker relationship, or a parent-child relationship, the principles of understanding and supporting neurodiversity remain relevant. The key is to apply what you learn here to your own relationships because at the core, autism is autism, irrespective of sexual orientation.

In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas those with a #personalitydisorder can be. Jodi points out that the difficulty of autistic individuals to recognize their partners’ distress does not make them abusive although it can feel like it to partners. She also highlights the importance of listening to gut instincts about personal safety if you are in a questionable relationship. To watch the video on YouTube, visit: https://youtu.be/vZjDrNXDaoA 00:01 Introduction and Viewer's Comment 00:12 The Commenter's Relationship Experience 01:44 Jodi Carlton's Response and Clarification 02:25 Understanding Autism vs Narcissism 03:39 The Traits of Autistic Individuals 04:31 The Pattern of Abusive Behaviors 05:03 Advice for Those in Similar Situations 05:53 Conclusion and Resources ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

BONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection, and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically. Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is good, you are more likely to perceive it as a good experience. You may actually miss how your partner is perceiving it, and have totally different memories and narratives about your sex life. _______________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing. I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied. 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women. #autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men. Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com #autismsigns #neurodivergent #signsofautism #asd #autismtest #jodicarlton #aspergers #aspergersinmen