The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast

Marlene is back to hear the reflections that Denzel and I have about her typology session. Enneagram type and instinctual stack are clarified.

Denzel Mensah is back on the show with me for a series on how typology can be a powerful tool for finding your romantic relationship blindspots. Meet Marlene, an INFP on the journey towards finding her Enneagram type and instinctual stack. Marlene vulnerably shares her experience of infidelity and the unraveling of her long term relationship. Please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com and contact me if you are interested in sharing your story and learning and growing with Denzel and I.

Meet Karl Hebenstreit, Author, International Speaker, Executive Coach, and Human Resources and Organization Development Leader with 25+ years of experience in the biotechnology, healthcare, telecommunications, high-tech, pharmaceutical, and real estate services industries. . Karl has just released the third edition of his book "The How and Why: Taking Care of Business with the Enneagram". Karl and I discuss some commen Enneagram patterns he sees in the corporate world and how he works with them. Karl is also the author of the children's book, "Nina and the Really, Really Tough Decision." Get Karl's book here https://www.amazon.com/How-Why-Taking-Business-Enneagram-ebook/dp/B0CJLQGS3K?ref_=ast_author_mpb

This episode we welcome long time teacher Tom Condon to share some of his favorite tips on working with your Enneastyle. Register for Tom's online conference with Russ Hudson this weekend to learn more. https://russhudson.com/event/what-we-have-learned-and-how-we-apply-it/#tribe-tickets__tickets-form

I'm very excited to introduce you to my colleague Denzel Mensah https://denzelmensah.com/ that I met on my Meyers Briggs Typology training journey. Denzel also received his MBTI Training from Personality Hackers six years ago and has a well established typology and coaching practice. You can also check out Denzel's very fun and wise You Tube channel at https://denzelmensah.com/ Denzel and I are excited to start highlighting our typology and coaching skills on a new live platform, so we're looking for relationship pairs that are facing a challenge that we can help type and strategize with live. You may be anonymous and have audio only, or have your session recorded for others to view. Please reach out to me at KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 min meet and greet to discuss your situation and set up the typing/coaching session with us. In this episode Denzel and I discuss the pain of landing on your type. We also unpack the challenge that exists in point seven. We also discuss the concept of legacy and the experience of being attachment types. We also describe our experience of extraverted feeling. We also explain how we know that an Fe dominant Type 9 is not a 2. Holderness video link - "Me in my 20's vs. Me in my 40's" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pG0N4QnNBk Want to see into the inner world of an ENFJ??? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oe14FZiteq4 is really fun to watch. Denzel is SOOO creative!

I'm pleased to introduce my community to Simon Goland, founder of Simon Says Consulting, Inc. Simon has a new program launching in October called Awakened Living that you can register for here https://simongoland.com/application-tuition-details/ In this episode Simon and I explore what the divine masculine energy is, and what it is not. We also discuss the importance of shadow work, our own egoic triggers, and how we find our way back to presence. We also have some fun talking about how our dogs can be our teachers. If you would like to sign up for any of my offerings please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com

Catherine Bell from the Awakened Company is back to discuss her new offering with Dr. Debra Egerton, The Power of Relationships. In this episode Catherine and I discuss our relationship to fierce compassion, how the law of three presents in interpersonal relationships, and the importance of honoring each other's experiences because they all contain wisdom. Catherine and I also share our experiences of transmission, and how the Enneagram shows us how to better connect to source. We explore how the changing and unchanging nature of things is always present and end with a discussion of how play can be an antidote to pain. If you would like to try my classes on relationship building, please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com to sign up for a free trial. If you would like to enroll in any of Catherine's upcoming offerings you can learn more and sign up at https://awakenedcompany.com/upcoming-events/

Stephanie Jaie is back for a final episode in our three part series on sexual empowerment. In this episode Kara and Stephanie discuss their experience of erotic energy and how it has supported their own emergence. What is the role of pleasure and how do we connect with it? Why do people fear sexual instinctual energy? And for our typology friends, further exploration of Stephanie's Enneagram Type (is she a three or a seven???) and instinctual stack. Kara enjoys coaching couples and individuals that are experiencing issues around the sexuality circuit. She uses typology, resonant healing, and nonviolent communication to support healing and connection. Schedule a free 30 minute meet and greet at KaraNanceMD.com if you'd like to explore working together. You can sign up for Stephanie's Sexual Empowerment Academy at https://stephaniejaie.teachable.com/p/sexual-empowerment-academy

Stephanie Jaie is back again to discuss sexuality and the ways its been distorted in a way that blocks us from our power. We touch on the topics of generational trauma, the ways a trauma response can present in different Enneagram types, privilege, and how to respond to some of the more common responses. I will be offering a four week Enneagram Overview starting Wednesday July 26th from 6:30-8:30 CST for beginners that want to have a more solid basic understanding of the system and types or for intermediate and advanced students that want to bring real life learnings from the perspective of the type. Visit KaraNanceMD.com to register for class. If you would like to work with Stephanie, check out her website at https://www.stephaniejaie.com/ for more information.

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast is back for Season 2! Loyal listeners will know that Season 1 morphed from focusing solely on the Enneagram and Instinctual Drives into welcoming in other forms of typology to help us make sense of our experience. In this interview with @StephanieJaie we hear about how my use of typology leads to a deeper understanding of her life's journey. Stephanie is also wired with high levels of point three and seven energy and also leads with extraverted intuition as an ENFP. Over the course of a few interviews we came to believe that Stephanie probably fixates at the point three energy like I do, but is Sexual dominant and Self Preservation blind in contrast to my Self Preservation dominance and Sexual blind. Enjoy this episode to learn more about how the two types present and navigate the world. Wanting to learn about the Enneagram basics? Join my FREE 90 minute Introduction to the Enneagram class at 6:45pm CST on July 12th! You can come live to the Palatine Park District Community Center at 250 E Wood St. Palatine, IL 60067 or register on my website for the zoom link at KaraNanceMD.com Wanting to learn more about Stephanie and/or sign up for her upcoming offerings? Visit https://www.stephaniejaie.com/

This week I am releasing a very tender episode in which Annie from Episode 41 is back to show me and all of us how a repair process works. My initial interview and promotion of it two weeks ago lacked the sincerity, care, and consideration around trauma that are so important to me. Please listen so that we can all become more trauma informed and learn how to "reclaim your no" if you've lost it and learn how to mourn impact and really take in what another is saying if you stumble into the role of aggressor. Annie models courage in this interview and demonstrates a way that I hope we all could learn to navigate repair when we find ourselves in one of our Blindspots.

Meet Adam Molyneux-Berry, the founder of the Integral Impact Institute, a social enterprise founded on more than 20 years of experience building that has lead award winning social enterprises, SMEs, and nonprofits in Europe, the US and the MENA region. Adam supports leaders, changemakers and high-impact organizations to thrive in the midst of complexity. He enjoys operating at the nexus of systems change, wellbeing, with the goal of navigating uncertainty and creating positive social impact. I hope you enjoy his story as an ENTJ 7w8 and I think it's especially fun to compare this interview to episode 34 where I interview Ingrid Hurwitz, also a SX/SO/SP 7, but with a six wing and ENFP cognitive preferences. I think you can get a real sense of how wing and cognitive preferences impact the energy, flavor, and life story of these two individuals.

Annie O'Shaughnessy is a trauma informed Enneagram coach that's working in schools to create spaces for feedback through cultivating respect, belonging, and feeling like you have a voice. Annie very openly shares her trauma history and how she experienced the emergence of her sexuality. She helps us to see the deep shame that women experience as they try to cultivate a healthy sexual instinct. We explore the differences between sex as a strategy for intimacy vs. sexual pleasure, as well as unpack some of the ways the neuroticism of the sexual instinct shows up. If you are an individual struggling with your relationship to your sexual instinctual energy, please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 minute consultation to discuss ways that you can embark on your own healing journey.

Meet Flemming Christensen, SP3w4 with INTJ cognitive preferences. Flemming talks about his new concept of the Blind Type. Flemming has a new book out that you can buy at https://www.amazon.com/stores/Flemming-Christensen/author/B07VPBCCWQ?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true Flemming takes us through how we can use the Blind Type to find our life theme or narrative. Kara and Flemming are both SP3 but with different wings and blind types. Hear how that leads to our very different presentations. If you want to work with Kara you can schedule a free 30 minute consultation at KaraNanceMD.com

Meet Kristin Messegee, a trauma informed Enneagram coach that specializes in working with Enneagram Point Sixes. Kristin identifies as an SP blind 6 with a 683 trifix and ENFP cognitive preferences. Kristin shares how she came to identify her instinctual stack and we compare experiences of living with extraverted intuition as our hero function. We also explore the way introverted sensing provides important balance to extraverted intuition. Kara and Kristin discuss the difference in strategy to developing strengths or cultivating weaknesses. What is the different between Six and Self Preservation? Why does the experience of Motherhood evoke shame and rage and how do we work with it? Why is releasing shame such an important part of the work for all types? How do you know you're not an Eight? Observations on Point Nine If you would like to work with Kristin you can message her at Kristin@kristinmessegee.com or join her Facebook group for Enneagram Point Six https://www.facebook.com/groups/201879333945167 If you would like to work with Kara please send an email to social@KaraNanceMD.com to learn more.

Here's the second part of my conversation with Frederik Coene, our sexuality and the enneagram expert! Here Frederik and I take on conversations about porn addiction, monogamy and polyamory and how to transcend the usual state of craving and self soothing behaviors that we find ourselves working with every day. Want to schedule a call to address your own sexual issues within yourself or your relationship? I enjoy working with individuals that want to address the sexuality circuit and how we can come into healthier relationship with it. Schedule a free consultation at KaraNanceMD.com Want to join our habit change community? Classes are free for the next two weeks on Wednesdays at 6-7pm CST. Register on my website to receive the zoom link.

Meet Frederik Coene SP/SO/SX 6w5 that is an EU diplomat turned Enneagram sex researcher and content creator. In this episode Frederik talks about his vision for increasing accessibility to high quality Enneagram teachings that can have a global reach. Frederik describes his interest around the Enneagram and sexuality and reveals how 3’s, 5’s, 6’s, and 4’s are likely to talk about sex. Frederick describes “Why people have sex” and why dissatisfaction often emerges when ego gratification is the primary motivator for sex How Sixes work with exploring polarity and going beyond their own safety in sex How does instinctual stack influence what meaning people layer over sex? How is social media replacing sex and leads to less intimacy and vulnerability.

Sarah McMahill is back after her latest Diamond Heart retreat to share some new insights regarding how the instincts influence sexual behaviors. We also talk about some of the Meyer's Briggs cognitive functions and how introverted intuition powers Sarah's work as a massage therapist. We also learn the difference between introverted feeling and introverted thinking. You can find more information about how to work with Sarah at https://www.sarahmc.net/ Check out my new website and sign up for free classes in April at KaraNanceMD.com

Join Kara and Katherine, two ENTP ladies, as we take you on a whirlwind tour of how we use the Instinctual Drives, the Enneagram, and the Meyer's Briggs Cognitive Functions to support individuals that want to understand their programming. Katherine, a SX/SP/SO 874 has been a certified Enneagram teacher for almost 30 years and has made major contributions to the research and discoveries in this field. She shares typing pearls, gives in depth explanations about the core fears and motivations of the instinctual drives and the centers of intelligence, and also unpacks the origin of the Hornevian groups. Katherine discusses what she has discovered about the instinctual blindspot and reveals how individuals can best work with their stack. Katherine also takes a deep dive into the sexual instinct and shares her views on how this influences an individual's choices of monogamy or polyamory.

Meet Ingrid Hurwitz, the director of Takdir Transformation and the lead of the Facebook Group Enneagram Community of Practice. Ingrid is a trauma informed Enneagram professional that offers a wide variety of coaching and educational experiences through her school. Join us for a beautiful conversation about the inner workings of a SX/SO/SP Seven and how she uses the Enneagram to help individuals heal from the wounds that lead to the self sabotaging behaviors that emerge from our Enneagram and Instinctual blindspots. You can learn more about Ingrid at https://takdir.co.za/ Don't forget to register for the FREE Resonant Healing Summit at https://sarahpeyton.com/resonance-summit-2023/ to learn more ways of working with trauma. If you would like to schedule a resonant healing session with Kara visit KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 minute Consult. Kara is also offering five weeks of FREE resonant healing classes where you can learn more and practice starting March 28th. Visit her website to register.