Sex Chat for Christian Wives

J explains why it's a great idea to have a euphemism for sex.

Earlier on in our podcast, we had an episode in which we gave advice to our newlywed selves. Today we want to revisit that topic a bit, but rather than talking to ourselves, we want to share the wisdom we've gained with young wives. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian marital aid and sex toy store, for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 Resources Episode 32: Advice for Our Newlywed Selves Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage The Bad Plan of Bartering for Sex - Hot, Holy & HumorousEmbrace a Sexual Growth Mindset - Hot, Holy & Humorous What I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & HumorousA Letter to My Newlywed Self: Age 25 - Hot, Holy & HumorousFaithful Counseling (online therapy with a fellow believer through Better Help) Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching OrgasmUnlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon BurnsOrgasm Webinar - ONLY $10! Donate to the ministry HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, Chris gives you four tips on dealing with a gag reflex during oral sex.

When we talk about romantic attraction, we think of personal charm, visual appeal, and that spark of chemistry when a certain person is near. But for today's episode, consider this scientific one from Merriam-Webster, defining attraction as "a force acting mutually between particles of matter, tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation." We're not just particles, but we want to be drawn toward our husband and to resist separation from him (and vice versa). But attraction doesn't stay the same over the whole of our marriage. Today, we talk about how we can keep attraction going or revive it if it's been lost. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring the episode! Get 25% off the Transform Your Shower Set for the month of April with our special code FCWTA. From the Bible My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished among ten thousand. Song of Songs 5:10 But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen. 2 Peter 3:18 Resources What If You Don't Find Your Husband Attractive - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Boost Romantic Chemistry in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 70: Pursuing & Wooing Your Wife, with Kevin A. Thompson - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson (kevinathompson.com) Donate to the Ministry HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie sex tip encourages you to learn about your husband's body.

You've probably heard that sex is good for your husband or good for your marriage, but what about you? We share our thoughts on what's so great about sex for WIVES. Listen in! Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian sex toy store, for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible So I commended enjoyment, because a man has nothing better under the sun than to eat, drink, and be merry; for this will remain with him in his labor all the days of his life which God gives him under the sun. Ecclesiastes 8:15 (NKJV) So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day. Genesis 1:27, 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Resources Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.Sex Is for You TooEpisode 132: The Orgasm IcebergControversial Ideas: Does Semen Act As an Antidepressant to the Recipient? (popsci.com)The Health Benefits of Sex (healthline.com)The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford & Joyce PennerEpisode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce PennerRethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli SlatteryEpisode 147: God, Sex, and Your Marriage, with Dr. Juli Slattery Donate to Our Ministry Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

In this week's sex tip, Chris talks about undressing for your husband as a sort of foreplay that helps both of you.

Today, we tackle listener questions about whether low sex drive might be genetic, as well as how to address lack of desire; dealing with a husband's erectile problems; and what to do about a husband who disrupts a wife's sleep for sex. Sponsor Share the Soap goat milk aromatic bath and body skin care Sex Chat Special: Order Face Serum, get Lip Balm for free! Enter code FCWSPRING at checkout (through March 31, 2024). From the Bible Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, 8:4 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:19 Resources Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon BurnsUnlock Your Libido by Bonny Logsdon BurnsDear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.How Not to Think About Sex | The Forgiven WifeSex Is for You TooWhat Is Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous2020 Study about Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction5 Times of Day to Make Love | Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Sex Wake You Up or Make You Sleepy? | Hot, Holy & HumorousMelatonin Gummies (Amazon) Donate to Our Ministry HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's Sex Chat Quickie is about learning about your own body.

What does it mean to prioritize sex? What does that look like in a real-life marriage, especially in a real-life marriage and when there are obstacles to sexual intimacy? From the Bible Do not deprive one another—except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5 (CSB) Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12 Resources Intimacy In MarriagePicking Your Priorities (Sex Should Be One of Them) - Hot, Holy & HumorousA Prayer for Our Priorities (Including Sex) - Hot, Holy & HumorousAfter Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven WifeMaking Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 118: Sex Is for You TooEpisode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & HumorousCalm.Healthy.Sexy. Key #6 - Create Margins Around Your Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.Why She's Too Busy to Have Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (hotholyhumorous.com)Strong Wives Subscribe to our newsletter Donate to our ministry Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

We're launching a new feature of the Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast—Sex Chat Quickies! On the weeks between our full-length episodes, one of our hosts will bring you a quick sex tip. This week's tip is what to ask your husband.

It's hard to believe that we started this podcast seven years ago! Today, we're giving updates about our endeavors, talking about lessons learned, and announcing a few changes, including one big announcement. From the Bible Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9 Resources The Healthy Dinners ToolboxPodcast Bingo Card5 Ways to Feel More Sensual - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.CoverGirl Colorlicious Lipstick, Spellbound [325]Subscribe to Our NewsletterAs-You-Like-It Granola - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! if you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and Healthy Life Toolbox.com - Gaye Christmus Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." We are mindful of this promise as we share sad news about the unexpected death of Chris Taylor's husband. Please listen and consider how you can help. Support Any amount is appreciated. Thank you! Fundraiser for Christel Taylor: Grateful for Doug Taylor (gofundme.com) To send a check directly: Chris Taylor c/o Cullom UMC 103 E. Van Alstyne PO Box 264 Cullom, Illinois And if you want to know more about Doug Taylor, aka Big Guy, here are a couple of relevant posts from Chris’s first blog: Interview with Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife27 Things I Love About Being Married to Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife Apologies for the poor audio quality in some places. We were not in our usual recording setup but felt it important to go ahead and get this news out.

We carry on our annual tradition of sharing Christmas season gift ideas with stocking stuffers that are sweet, surprising, sensual, and sexy! Happy holidays, everyone. Sponsors Share the Soap Married Dance Gift Ideas Sweet Framed Photo or Memento from Early in Your RelationshipTableTopics Couples Question GameTableTopics Date NightOur Bucket List Adventures: A Journal to Plan Your Life Dreams as a Couple and Celebrate Your Favorite MemoriesKeto Christmas Desserts Cookbook Surprising Dollar Store Adventure - gift cards you can useEvery Love Intimates Date Night Box SubscriptionThe Ultimate Fun Book for Couples: 60 Exciting and Lighthearted Quizzes, Games, and Challenges to Bring You Closer Than EverDeck of Sex Position Cards Game (marrieddance.com) Sensual Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-on from our friend and advertiser, Share the SoapMini Massage GunHand LotionMassage OilMassage Candle Sensual Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-on from our friend and advertiser, Share the SoapMini Massage GunHand LotionMassage OilMassage Candle This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

One of our earliest episodes addressed sex toys, but we haven’t talked about it in a while. And yet, it’s one of the most often asked questions. Are they okay? How to use them? How not to use them? We cover that ground and more. And stay tuned to the end for our special announcement. Sponsor Married Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping) From the Bible “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. 1 Corinthians 10:23–24 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Resources Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" - Hot, Holy & HumorousHaving Sex When You Have a Disability - Hot, Holy & HumorousSexual Mobility Aids | Sex Accessibility Equipment (intimaterider.com)Should You Use a Dildo? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "I'm Desensitized to My Husband's Touch!" - Hot, Holy & HumorousWhat Consent Looks Like | RAINN Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? - Hot, Holy & HumorousMarried Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (see specific items mentioned below) 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program Yoga Sex Swing Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Pulse Solo Vibrating Stroker Satin Blindfold Love Cuffs Donut Erection Enhancer Rings 3 Pack Sex Games & Sex Dice for Couples Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Once again, we're answering your questions! Today, we'll cover three topics: what does "deprivation" really mean (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), dealing with the messiness of sex, and when sex cannot happen. Sponsor Share the Soap has a September Special for our listeners! Buy a Face Set (face renewal, eye gel & facial soap) and get a free lip balm. Put the face set & lip balm of choice in the cart, then add coupon at checkout: FCWFS. Helps skin transition to the Fall! From the Bible The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources Vibrator for Husband/Couple Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? - Hot, Holy & HumorousMaintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex Isn't Possible | WORTHY Bible StudiesEnjoying Your Husband's Semen | The Forgiven Wife Liberator Fascinator Throw Sex Sheets | Married DanceDealing with Erection Problems | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker) This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

Subscribe to our upcoming newsletter HERE! Recorded while still on our retreat in Nashville, Tennessee, we're playing a game and invite you to play along! Inspired by a board game in the Airbnb where we stayed, Chris and J present trivia questions about sex and test how much we "sexperts" really know. DOWNLOAD YOUR FACT OR FICTION PRINTABLE! Sponsor Married Dance online Christian sex toy / marital aid store 13% off sitewide for Labor Day with code LD23 at checkout. From the Bible For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources The Hardest Sex Quiz You Will Ever Take (buzzfeed.com)Sex Trivia Quiz (buzzfeed.com) Penis Size: From the Wife's Point of View - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "Is My Penis Big Enough?" - Hot, Holy & HumorousQ&A with J: Doesn't She Really Want a Bigger Penis? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Is Sex Disconnected from Love for Men? - Hot, Holy & HumorousSex After a Hysterectomy - Part 1: The Basics | The Forgiven WifeEpisode 132: The Orgasm IcebergOrgasm WebinarFun Findings about Sex - Hot, Holy & HumorousBentCarrot.comWhat we didn't know about male anatomy | Diane Kelly - TED Talk Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

We have often shared tips of things you can do to enjoy sex more, but today we're going to talk about things not to do. In this episode, we address 6 things not to do during sex. Sponsor Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimacy Cruise From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Enough, Already | The Forgiven Wife4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Engaging Your Mind in Lovemaking - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wives: What Is Your Husband Thinking During Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (guest post from Gerad Harris) Does Your Spouse Think about Previous Lovers? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Words Your Higher-Desire Spouse Needs You to Hear - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 118: Sex Is for You Too This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

You’ve probably heard of love languages, or maybe you haven’t. But when minister Gary Chapman noted that spouses often communicated love past one another, he realized that we express love in different ways. So, he proposed that there are five love languages—and his book of the same name became a bestseller and perennial favorite. Today, we’ll talk about those languages and what they mean when it comes to our favorite topic: sex. Sponsor Get 20% off the new CBD skincare and bath & body line (derived from USA-grown hemp and independently lab tested to be THC free). Use coupon code FCW20 at checkout! Click here for the new CBD Line Click here to visit the main webite From the Bible Gifts: Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12 Quality Time: My beloved is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 2:17 Physical Touch: His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Acts of Service: I would lead you and bring you to my mother’s house— she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the nectar of my pomegranates. Song of Songs 8:2 Words of Affirmation: HE How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. SHE How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. (Many other passages in Song of Solomon demonstrate Words of Affirmation!) Resources The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary ChapmanDiscover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages®Identify Your Spouse's Love Language - Love Languages Quiz (calmhealthysexy.com)Speak Your Husband's Love Language- and Strengthen Your Marriage (calmhealthysexy.com)Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language is Important • Bonny's Oysterbed7"Do You Enjoy Getting Flowers?" What Your Answers Tell Me About Marriage - Hot, Holy & HumorousHelp Your Husband Speak Love in Your Language | The Forgiven WifeLoving My Husband | The Forgiven WifeEpisode 67: Romance and Your BedroomFuzu Massage Candle | MarriedDanceAstroglide Strawberry-Flavored Water-Based Personal Lubricant | MarriedDanceEpisode 10: Tending Your GardenBedazzled, Bothered, and Bewildered - Hot, Holy & Humorous (on vajazzling)Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

The term “emotional labor” has come to mean the emotional cost of outwardly acting with composure when inwardly we are feeling something different. Rose Hackman, an expert on emotional labor describes is at the editing work of emotions that someone would do in order to have an effects on the emotions of someone else. Today, we want to talk about emotional labor and how it can negatively affect sexual interest. Sponsor MarriedDance - Christian sex toy store - Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping Join the podcast team for a Meet & Greet! Saturday, July 22, 1:00–3:00 pm 1035 Acorn Drive, Nashville TN 37210 From the Bible Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6:2–5 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. Ephesians 4:9 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. Proverbs 31:10–18 Resources What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships? (brides.com)5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say – CalmHealthySexyHow to Manage Your Family’s Schedule (to Reduce Stress!) – CalmHealthySexyThe Working Mother’s Guilt GuideHelping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS VoicesWomen are earning more, but they’re still doing more housework and caregiving : NPRDoes Choreplay Work? – Knowing Her SexuallyWhy a Husband Helping Around the House Makes a Wife More Open to Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com)Episode 5: Sex SchedulingEpisode 148: Sex Scheduling 101Calm. Healthy. Happy. – 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and C – CalmHealthySexy This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)