Parenting The Adlerian Way

Dr. Mike Rucker is the author of “The Fun Habit”. In this episode we’ll discuss the concept of happiness, the moral injury that can occur when we seek it too much and the benefits and methods for fitting joy and awe into your life and through your parenting. Additional resource book mentioned in our convo: 50 Dangerous Things (you should let your children do) Follow Dr. Rucker on all his platforms: Website https://michaelrucker.com Twitter https://twitter.com/performbetter Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mike.rucker.phd Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thewonderoffun LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelrucker Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/mikeruckerphd Simon & Schuster https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Fun-Habit/Mike-Rucker/9781982159054 Substack https://funhabit.substack.com *************************** I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website at: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Could AI replace standard counselling? It’s certainly cheaper. With the trend towards “manualizing” therapy, maybe we are closer than we know. How do you feel about that? How scared should we be? Adlerian counsellor and teacher/trainer, Calvin Armerding, shares his thoughts with me. Read the original article and other posts from Calvin on his Substack at: https://calvindarmerding.substack.com/ Follow Calvin on social media at: https://www.instagram.com/henosispress/ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLe4ACV00vWcS3DTATvos1XVm2MhTKSq2Z https://www.instagram.com/travelersrest.counseling/ https://twitter.com/ArmerdingC *************************** I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 9yr old son is not trying and his confidence is dwindling. Q2. 14yr old son with type1 diabetes is too lazy to take his insulin at school. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Amanda Craig is the author of “Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening”. In this episode, Dr Craig defines what the tween years are, what is happening developmentally and how to maximize the parenting opportunities during this unique period. She also discusses the important four pillars of your parenting to focus on and methods to achieve that stable base in the relationship. Links mentioned in the show: Book: Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening Dr Amanda Craig’s Website Follow Dr Amanda Craig on social media at IG @amandacraigphd *************************** I am always looking for question for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amy Yip is the author of “Unfinished Business” and in this interview we talk about her personal journey of being a child of immigrant parents and how that experience impacted her life. She discusses how she took charge of the process of changing the relationship with her parents and how that informs her parenting today. For anyone dealing with wounded relationships with their parents, or who wants better for their own children, this is the podcast for you! Links mentioned in the show: Amy’s book: Unfinished Business http://unfinishedbusinessbook.com/, Amy’s Website https://amyyipcoaching.com/ Follow Amy on social media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amycyip & https://www.facebook.com/amyyipcoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amycyip & https://www.linkedin.com/company/amyyipcoaching Instagram: @amyyipcoaching Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 10yr old son having difficulty with change (new items in home). Plus, my thoughts on under- and over-functioning parenting. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenna Hermans has used her own extensive training and personal parenting experience to write a book for overwhelmed parents. In this podcast Jenna shares her story and gives us the highlights of the 5 tips we should all incorporate into our family lives for more calm in 2024. Links mentioned in the show: On IG @Jennazhermans Website https://jennahermans.com Buy her book at a local book seller or online here: From Chaos to Calm Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Marina Bluvshtein is a renowned researcher and archivist of Adler’s life. She shares how the events of his life shaped the development of his theory we know as Individual Psychology. In this conversation, Marina shares Adler’s own parenting journey and how his theory, and that of Rudolf Dreikurs, came together to still be an evolving, optimistic parenting model. Links mentioned in the show: Learn more about the Adlerian Summer School known as ICASSI Check out the offerings at the Adler Academy of Minnesota And write directly to Dr Bluvshtein at mbluvshtein@adler.edu to learn more about Adlerian training events in Chicago, Vancouver and online. On social media, you can find Dr Bluvshtein on FB. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 6 year old hits and gets angry when he doesn’t get his way Q2. 7 year old tells “creative stories” about how his day was (aka lying). Q3. 2.5 year old is defiant with screaming fits esp on waking in the night. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Adlerian father/daughter duo Ted Wohlfarth and Marjie Longshore talk about their impressive work in using games and play to create unique experiences for developing the skills and felt experiences needed to help build peaceful, win-win relationships. You’ll hear how their game methods and unique scoring system can be useful at home, in the classroom, the workplace and indeed anywhere people gather. Check out The Family Leadership Center website And social media FB Or on IG @the_4cfamily If you would like to support the work of The Family Leadership Center which is a non-profit organization, you can donate to their “A Peaceful World Starts At Home” campaign that furthers their work. Check out the free games and resources at EnTeam’s website Here is the summary of some of EnTeam’s corporate success stories: https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Manufacturing-Plant-Turnaround.pdf https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/International-Pharmaceutical-Company-.pdf https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Electric-Power-Plant-Teamwork.pdf And follow EnTeams on social media FB LinkedIn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How much do you know about AI? Are you prepared to talk to your kids about it? How will it impact them? How do you respond when the school emails you to share that your child plagiarized a paper using AI? Thankfully, Adlerian Valerie Tih of JoyFULL Coaching has the answer parents are looking for! FREE Download: Top 10 Tips for Navigating AI with your Child https://mailchi.mp/a04b5ed1d560/alyson Enneagram course: https://joyfullcoaching.ca/the-enneagram-unplugged-course/ Use code “Alyson” for 20% off Enneagram Discovery Package: https://joyfullcoaching.ca/coaching/ https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/enneagram-discover-package-tickets-644373918737?aff=oddtdtcreator Use code “Alyson” for 20% off Follow Val and JoyFULL Coaching on social here: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/JoyfullCoaching IG https://www.instagram.com/joyfullcoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerietih/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Kindergartener doesn’t want to go to school and explodes. Q2. Even with all the Adlerian approaches, 10 and 12 yr old sisters still fight. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am excited to share my conversation with two-time Fulbright Scholar Sam Young M.Ed., a neurodivergent educator, as we discussed issues such as masking, the pitfalls of deficiency models and the importance of strength-based talent development. In the podcast Sam mentioned the great Sir Kenneth Robinson TED Talk, “Do schools kill creativity?” so I am including that link here: https://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY?si=_bROeNrtJqEcp_kA You can also look at the online classes and resources at Young Scholar’s Academy, the school that “Mr. Sam” runs as an adjunct to their main educational outlet. His courses can be found here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Always fantastic to interview my fellow Adlerians who are creating important curriculum for the public. In this episode, I talk to Morgan Crew who is a single mother of two (ages 17 and 20), a registered nurse as well as a registered psychotherapist and mental health educator. She has created a program to help teach mental health skills in an upstream manner, rather than waiting for a crisis. It’s great for parents, but also for teens and parents to take together! Connecting with Morgan: Therapy practice website is www.morgancrewcounselling.ca Email morgan@morgancrewcounselling.com PREVAIL course can be found at: www.prevailproveyourpower.ca email is: info@prevailproveyourpower.ca Social media: Facebook and LI is Morgan Crew Instagram is @morgancrew.ca If you like my podcast Parenting The Adlerian Way – please like, share and write a review! Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692 https://dailyadler.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 10yr old daughter claims she forgets everything and I have to remind constantly. Q2. 16yr old is skipping 3-4 classes a week and I worry about her marks. If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Check out The Daily Adler Podcast too. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it mean to be a “good parent” by today’s northern hemisphere, privileged standards? Good grades, good jobs, good car, and house. What if that is all wrong? What if that is actually contributing to the downfall of civilization? Dr Elizabeth Cripps, a parent herself, applied her educational training in philosophy to try to answer how we solve global problems like climate change, pandemics, antibiotic resistance, and social inequity by the way we parent and use our collective power for the good of our children but also for all. We had a great discussion about all of that, as well as her latest book, “A Philosopher’s Guide to Doing Right by Your Kids – and Everyone Else”. Check out some of these great organizations for social action: https://parentsforfuture.org https://www.momscleanairforce.org https://ourkidsclimate.org/ And keep following Dr Cripps work here: on twitter at @ebcripps www.elizabethcripps.weebly.com If you enjoy my podcast, please like, share and/or write a review! Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692 https://dailyadler.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every parent needs to be aware of the possibility that their child may have an intimate photo being distributed without their consent, and the harmful effects this causes. In this episode, I talk with British Columbia’s Attorney General, Niki Sharma, to discuss the alarming rise in sexploitation and the work she has done in B.C. to protect the rights of victims of sexual violence. Minister Sharma announced new legislation that removes the previous barriers to getting those images removed and better legal recourse for the platforms that host them. To read a copy of the letter from the Minister’s office, visit: https://news.gov.bc.ca/files/Intimate_Images_Protection_Act_Letter.pdf To learn more about the Intimate Images Protection Act, visit: https://gov.bc.ca/ProtectingYourImages To read about supports available for survivors of gender-based violence, sexual assault, or domestic violence, visit: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/safety/public-safety/domestic-violence To access resources and research about the online sexual exploitation of children, visit: https://cybertip.ca/en/ If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Help with sleep training a 20 month old the Adlerian way Q2. Help with fostering independence in a 13 year old Looking for more Adlerian Wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author and journalist Jennifer Wallace discusses the research and findings that lead to the writing of her amazing book, titled above. We discuss what conditions have created this problem, how it’s affecting both our parenting and our children… and most importantly; what we can do about it. You can find Jennifer’s website here Her book can be ordered here: Check out “The Mattering Movement” here. Follow Jennifer on IG @jenniferbwallace If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maya Payne Smart has a mission to help parents nurture, teach and advocate for children getting on the road to reading. We discuss her book “Reading For Our Lives” and why it has such a gripping title of urgency. She also spells out an action plan from birth to six on ways parents can foster literacy. In this episode we learn what the research shows about best practices and how “laps over apps” is the way to go when it comes to reading to our children. Plus, so much more! Give it a listen and share with your friends. Maya has a great website full of free weekly resources for parents at: www.mayasmart.com You can also get social with Maya at: IG: @mayasmarty Twitter: @MayaSmart Pinterest: @mayasmart Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.