Let's Talk Bruh

Without a doubt this is the most personal LTB episode yet. And you could say this episode took 33 years to make. I could never say my dad and I had a bad or unhealthy relationship, however I always knew I wanted to be closer, always desired something deeper. But I wasn't sure how to go about it and wasn't sure if he wanted the same thing. Years of therapy, years of conversations, years of tears, years of (released) resentment have led to this moment. Coming back home in 2020, I was eager to work on the relationships with my parents. When met with some (intergenerational) roadblocks, I realized that what I was trying to work through was built on foundations of trauma passed down from parents, grandparents, great grandparents, well you get it. When speaking with my dad, I realized that he and I share many of the same fears, anxieties, thought patterns, behaviors and that my story mirrors his in many ways. My frustrations with him are similar to what he experienced with his own parents. A lack of communication, lack of guidance at times, lack of emotional closeness. For so long I can recall feeling empty when it came to the relationships with my parents. I don't feel that way anymore. Seeing my dad as a man, trying to figure out his own life, and not just as a dad eased some of the resentment I felt and created the opening for empathy and understanding. Seeing him own his healing journey and being willing to listen to me and have some of those difficult yet necessary conversations healed parts of my inner child that were perhaps unseen or unheard for so long. So here it is. Sharing a piece of our journey with yall. Documenting this moment in time for the two of us and for whoever comes next. The Long Way Home. A return to ourselves. Thank you for listening.

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Watch the first two episodes from the final season on YouTube: We Outside - Black Men in Nature | Let's Talk Bruh Healing Across Generations at Lee's Barbershop -The Shape Up- Let's Talk Bruh x Starting With Today

Yep, it's time yall. Let's Talk Bruh (the podcast) is ending. Been a hell of a ride and it's time to say goodbye.... Join us at Lee's Barbershop for the Shape Up, in collaboration with Starting With Today, this Saturday July 22nd at 11AM EST: https://bit.ly/3QiaNGP

Instagram Live on 9/25/22 LTB is back with the help from a couple of our good friends Bemo Brown, Nalo Zidan and Quay Weston. We discuss Jay-Z's recent comments about words like "capitalist" being made up, full quote below: In response to a question from Rob Markman about his verse, Hov said, "We not falling for that tricknology, whatever the public puts out there now. Before it was the american dream, pull yourself up by the bootstraps, you can make it in america. All these lies that america told us our whole life and then when we start getting it they try to lock us out of it. They start inventing words like capitalist and things like that. We've been called nigger and monkey. So those words yall come up with, yall gotta come with stronger words." Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram

Watch The State of Black Masculinity Pt. 2 on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ue16pZoVeTs It's been a minute since we hit yall with the State of Black Masculinity Pt. 1. 2 years ago to be exact. In many ways it's a completely different world. As we enter year 3 of the pandemic, our lives, to varying degrees, have been flipped turned upside down. But in some ways, Black masculinity and the livelihoods of Black folks have remained unchanged. In today's episode we talk about living through the pandemic, the impact of white supremacy and state violence on us and we discuss a few names you may or may not have heard about from Boosie, to Dave Chappelle to Kevin Samuels. We close the show talking about what divesting from patriarchy looks like for us. We've all been indoctrinated into a system of patriarchy and toxic masculinity, but what does it look like to imagine alternatives for Black men? What does that work of unlearning harmful behaviors and replacing them with new ones look like? What lies on the other side of patriarchy for Black men? Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Watch Black Men Talking About Mental Health on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obTLAA1B6w4 Fellas, are you happy? Are you good? You sure bruh? No foreal, let’s sit with this for a minute. Patriarchy at an early age forces us to lie. Lie to others of course, but the first lie we tell is to ourselves. We say we’re good when we’re not. We suppress our feelings and emotions. We minimize both our pain and our joy and find it difficult to name our feelings when they even come up. Point blank, patriarchy teaches us to deny our own humanity and suffer in silence because that’s” just what it means to be a man” and “that’s what men do” But what if we could reclaim our feelings, emotions and the fullness of our humanity? What if instead of "boys don’t cry" we told each other “you are enough just the way you are” or "your emotions and feelings are valid bro." In this episode we take a look at how patriarchy and toxic masculinity has impacted our mental health. We talk about why Black men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than other demographic groups. We also discuss how we can heal the wounds from patriarchy and reclaim our humanity. Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Watch Black Men Talking About Love on YouTube Part 1 - Brotherhood Between Straight & Queer Black Men https://youtu.be/xj4P5mFGQdc What do we mean when we say brotherly love? Who are we including that phrase? Are all Black men included or only some? This episode explores what love can look like between Black men. We also unpack how homophobia has prevented us from establishing deeper connections with each other as Black men. And for those of us who are straight, what has that unlearning process looked like and how has it shown up with our other straight male friends? Patriarchy and toxic masculinity require us to do and be several things, but love is rarely part of that equation. So what happens when we make love a requirement for ourselves as Black men and boys? Part 2 - Are You Good at Being Vulnerable? https://youtu.be/NPuT_t_Nx8U What does it mean to be vulnerable? Are you good at it? Do you like being vulnerable? For many of us, embracing vulnerability is a foreign concept. It's uncomfortable and frankly at times it can be scary as hell. As men, we've been taught to reject vulnerability. It's looked at as a sign of weakness or softness. But we know that's not true. To be vulnerable is an act of courage. To be vulnerable is also an act of self love. It's an act of self acceptance. This is Part 2 of our conversation, "Black Men Talking About Love" and we also unpack what love means for us. We share what our self love game looks like. We attempt to define what love is. We live in a world where Black boys and men aren't typically associated with love so we try to envision a world that makes love a requirement for Black men and boys instead of patriarchy. In the first 20 minutes of today's episode we tackle a few Black Card Revoked Questions along with some questions from the My Therapy Cards for Black men deck. Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Black men, when was the last time you felt completely free during a sexual experience? It’s okay if you’ve never felt that way. Patriarchy teaches us to prioritize power, control and performance in sexual experiences which can lead to wack sex at best and harmful consent at worst. But when we divest from patriarchy, we can begin to focus on pleasure instead of performance. Connection instead of control. Vulnerability / intimacy instead of power. Let's get free... Watch Black Men Talking About Sex on YouTube Part 1 - Black Men, What Does Sex Mean For You? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIzZYBRYii4 Part 2 - Black Men, Who Taught You About Sex? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQnNYVv1Czc Part 3 - Black Men, How Do You Connect With Your Body?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKnNNmZtTA8 Part 4 - Dropping October 29th on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Groceries on LTB x Cash App Giveaway #2 Instructions 1. Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube channel 2. Send us an email to letstalkbruh@gmail.com with the subject line, "yall got me?" and your CashApp handle in the message 3. Friday October 15th at 9am we'll randomly select 5 winners and send each winner $100 via CashApp Additional Information 1. To ensure we receive your entry, please turn off the following YouTube privacy setting: Keep all my subscriptions private 2. If you're already subscribed to us on YouTube, simply send an email to letstalkbruh@gmail.com with your YouTube username in the message 3. We will be accepting entries until 9am EST on Friday October 15th and winners will be announced and notified by 10am EST "NO PURCHASE NECESSARY TO ENTER. Must be 18 years or older and U.S. Resident. Void where prohibited. This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, sanctioned, or associated with YouTube or Instagram. Winners announced Friday October 15th by 10am EST. Groceries on LTB x Cash App Giveaway Information - https://bit.ly/GroceriesOnLTB Black Men Talking About Sex (Trailer) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DObssVXubI&t=8s Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Lunch on LTB x Cash App Giveaway Instructions 1. Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube channel 2. Send us an email to letstalkbruh@gmail.com with the subject line, "I want lunch on LTB" 3. Friday October 8th at 9am we'll randomly select 5 (five) winners and send each winner $30 via CashApp Additional Information 1. To ensure we receive your entry, please turn off the following YouTube privacy setting: Keep all my subscriptions private 2. If you're already subscribed to us on YouTube, simply send an email to letstalkbruh@gmail.com with your YouTube username in the message 3. We will be accepting entries until 9am EST on Friday October 8th and winners will be announced and notified by 10am EST "NO PURCHASE NECESSARY TO ENTER. Must be 18 years or older and U.S. Resident. Void where prohibited. This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, sanctioned, or associated with YouTube or Instagram. Winners announced Friday October 8th by 10am EST. Lunch on LTB x Cash App Giveaway Information - https://bit.ly/LunchOnLTB The State of Black Masculinity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nzkzJ8oFTg&t=527s Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group

Attention! This is not your typical Let's Talk Bruh episode! On this week's episode we collaborated with David Ryan Castro-Harris, the Host of This Restorative Justice Life Podcast, for a conversation on restorative justice and accountability. We talk to David during Part 1 of our collaboration about his work with restorative justice and what that looks like. When you finish listening to Part 1, go over to This Restorative Justice Life Podcast for Part 2 where we get a little more personal with the times we've been held accountable for some of the harm we've committed in relationships and in our community. Got it? Ight bet, let's get it then. Listen to "Let's Talk Restorative Justice Bruh Pt. 2" on This Restorative Justice Life: https://bit.ly/3lTIQWz Learn more about David's organization, Amplify RJ here: https://www.amplifyrj.com/ Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

On today's show we link up Dr. Jared Ball. Dr. Ball is a father and husband. After that, he is a Professor of Communication Studies at Morgan State University in Baltimore, MD. and is founder/curator of imixwhatilike.org, a multimedia hub of emancipatory journalism and revolutionary beat reporting. Ball is also author of The Myth and Propaganda of Black Buying Power. Today we talked about his book, his earliest ideas about manhood and masculinity and what freedom looks like for him. Tap in and let us know what you think. Follow Dr. Ball on IG and Twitter Visit: Black Power Media Buy: The Myth and Propaganda of Black Buying Power This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

In today's episode we talk to Shaan Lashun, 1/2 of the Molly House Project. Molly House Project is a community of bois, men, and masculine-of-center* trans folk committed to changing the way we talk about sex work. We speak to Shaan about the they do with MHP, how they got started in sex work and sex work activism and discuss some of the issues that male and masculine of center sex workers experience. If you're like us this will be a learning experience so we challenge you to listen with an open mind, heart, and ear. Let's get free. Tap in. Follow Shaan on IG and Twitter. What is Molly House Project - July 29th | 6pm CST Learn more about Molly House Project here: MollyHouseProject.org Meet the Founders of the Molly House, Where Masculine-of-Center Sex Workers Are Mobilizing Online - The Body This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

In today's episode we bring back an OG return guest of the show, Zach Nunn of Living Corporate. Living Corporate is a digital media network that amplifies the voices of Black and brown folks at work. In our conversation with Zach we talk about the recent performative uptick in corporate D&I initiatives during the pandemic and following the uprisings last summer. Zach talks about maintaining his values through this process as "all money aint good money". And in typical LTB fashion we bring it back to the personal and ask Zach how he's been balancing work, parenthood, being a husband and still have a full time job outside of Living Corporate. Tap in. Visit Living Corporate.com https://www.living-corporate.com/ Check out Living Corporate TV: https://www.living-corporate.com/webinars/ This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

In today's episode we link up with Ryan Ken! If you've been on the internet at some point in the last year, you've probably seen their Tik Tok videos go viral and make it to your timeline at least once or twice. Ryan is extremely talented and their brilliance shines through by pulling off something very difficult in comedy. They're able to challenge and pushback against societal norms when it comes to masculinity, gender identity / performance, and race while still being very funny. Ryan humblebrags a bit in our conversation about how they've only been doing comedic writing and acting for less a year (wow) and near the end of the conversation Ryan shares with us what divesting from patriarchy means for them. Tap in. Check out clips from this episode on our YouTube page: Ryan Ken On How They Starting Creating Tik Tok VideosRyan Ken Shares What They've Learned From Acting and How Homophobia is a PrisonRyan Ken Reflects On The Messages They Received Growing Up About Masculinity Watch Ryan's Tik Tok Videos mentioned in this week's show The townspeople talking to Beast after the curse is brokenY’all know you want the pineapple drinkDoing my part to keep cis straight male comedy alive This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

On today's episode we link up with Neal Carter, Principal of Nu View Consulting, the only Black and disabled own general consulting firm in the country. During our conversation with Neal we talk to him about his article, "What Hearing Police Sirens Means to Me as Black Disabled Man" and his experience living with Spina Bifida. We discuss what it means to live at the intersection of being Black living with a disability and close the show with what divesting from patriarchy looks like for him. Check out the aforementioned article by Neal below as well his, "A Black Mans's Guide to Rape Culture Syllabus". Listen and let us know what you think! After you finish listening to this week's episode, check out these articles: What Hearing Police Sirens Means to Me as a Black Disabled Man A Black Man’s Guide To Rape Culture: A SyllabusDisability Ain’t for Ya Dozens (or Demons): 10 Ableist Phrases Black Folks Should Retire Immediately Neal's Book Recommendations: Books on misogynoir The Best books for Budding Black Feminists Google Drive list with PDFs This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

This week on Let's Talk Bruh we linked up with Mark Anthony Neal. Dr. Neal is a Distinguished Professor of Black Popular Culture in the Department of African and African-American at Duke University, author of several books including: The New Black Man and Looking for Leroy focusing on Black masculinity. In our conversation today we talk about what it means for him to be a feminist and what divesting from patriarchy looks like for him. This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw

This week's episode is about 3 years in the making. If you remember in the early Let's Talk Bruh days, we reviewed a documentary called, "The Feminist on Cellblock Y" and in that episode we interviewed the producers of the film Contessa Gayles and Emma Bordeaux. Fast forward to now and we finally have the opportunity to link up with one of the central figures in the documentary, Richie Reseda, and talk about his experience leading the program featured in the documentary called Success Stories. On today's show, we also speak to Indigo Mateo, one of the co-founders of Question Culture alongside Richie. We dig into her upcoming project "Single Player" and what it means to divest from patriarchy in her art and in her life overall. Watch "The Feminist on Cellblock Y" - CNN The Feminist on Cellblock Y documentary review and interview - Let's Talk BruhStream Indigo's latest single, "IRL"Indigo's Let's Talk Bruh ReceiptRichie's Let's Talk Bruh Receipt Join the LTB Book Club as we discuss All Boys Aren't Blue on 6/16: http://bit.ly/LTBBookClub This year our theme is, "Divesting from Patriarchy" so here's how you can get involved and have your opinion heard on the show: 1. Record a 30 second message of what divesting from patriarchy means to you 2. Send your message to letstalkbruh@gmail.com OR call 708-320-3126 to leave a voicemail OR send us a voice text via Instagram DM 3. Tune in to hear your clip on the show. Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Subscribe to the Let's Talk Bruh YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsa2wXlKMWlpAER8v16zXZw