Happy Polydays
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The Happy Polydays project is a series of intimate conversations about polyamory, identity, sexuality and relationships. Leanne Yau (she/they), the host of this series, is a polyamorous content creator, writer, educator and advocate. She founded Poly Philia (@polyphiliablog), the largest social media platform dedicated to non-monogamy education and awareness in Europe, where she creates and curates humorous and educational memes, tips, videos, and other bite-size content.
Location:
United States
Description:
The Happy Polydays project is a series of intimate conversations about polyamory, identity, sexuality and relationships. Leanne Yau (she/they), the host of this series, is a polyamorous content creator, writer, educator and advocate. She founded Poly Philia (@polyphiliablog), the largest social media platform dedicated to non-monogamy education and awareness in Europe, where she creates and curates humorous and educational memes, tips, videos, and other bite-size content.
Language:
English
Website:
https://www.polyphilia.blog/
Episodes
Polyamory and Blackness with @marjanilane
12/23/2021
Marjani Lane (@marjanilane) is one of the most well-known Black polyamorous educators and is a hugely important voice in the community when it comes to pro-Black polyamorous activism. To round off this season, we discuss Marjani’s life as a queer, disabled polyamorist, as well as several controversial, hard-hitting issues in the Black polyamorous and polygamous communities:
- why Marjani believes that people can be polyamorous cheaters, and that solo polyamory is a life philosophy rather...
From A Closed Cult To Open Love with @chillpolyamory
12/22/2021
CW: emotional abuse, eating disorders
In this harrowing, vulnerable episode, Morgan of @chillpolyamory shares her experiences in a cult from the age of 15-21, how she left and unpacked all the internalised shame and guilt around her sexuality, and went on to embrace an open, polyamorous life. We discuss:
- the parallels between high-control groups and certain oppressive religions, and the harm that causes to one's psyche
- how content creation has enabled Morgan to deal with her trigger...
Duration:00:57:04
Polyamory and Abuse with @polypages
12/21/2021
Abuse happens in all kinds of relationships, and non-monogamous people are no different. Claire from @polypages and I discuss:
- The Duluth Model of the power and control wheel as applied to abusive polyamorous dynamics
- Whether the book More Than Two by Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux should still be recommended as a polyamory introductory text
- Why toxic positivity culture is harmful and does a disservice to the polyamorous community
- Why non-monogamous people are more susceptible to...
Polyamorous and Asian with @polyamorouswhileasian
12/20/2021
Michelle Hy's polyamory advocacy work (@polyamorouswhileasian) on the political intersection between relationships and race, sex positivity, and body neutrality is well known to many. In this episode we discuss:
- Michelle's very sudden introduction to polyamory at 18 years old
- Misconceptions in mainstream polyamorous narratives
- Handling boundaries and expectations with Asian parents
- Why my mother is less accepting of my bisexuality than my cousin's lesbianism
- Handling...
Polyamory and Religion with @puritytopolyamory
12/19/2021
What do purity culture and mononormativity have in common? I speak with @puritytopolyamory as she shares her fascinating story of moving from the oppressive Evangelical Christian religion to solo polyamory. We discuss:
- How purity culture is rape culture, and why it is particularly damaging to people socialised as women
- Why the many changes that occur in the opening up process lead to so many previously monogamous relationships failing at no fault of their own
- How Christianity and...
Polyamory Under Late-Stage Capitalism with @femmmeow and @antimononormative
12/18/2021
How is polyamory influencing current and future generations under late-stage capitalism? Join myself and Nayeli (@antimononormative), who are both Gen Z, and younger millennial Sky (@femmmeow) as we talk about how modern monogamy is influenced by the commodification of intimacy under capitalism, colonialism and heteropatriarchical forces. We discuss:
- Sky's upbringing in the Scientology cult and how her embracing her queerness led her to question monogamy and relationships
- Nayeli's...
Flirting While Neurodivergent with @polymananswers
12/17/2021
How do polyamorous, neurodivergent people flirt? Albert from @polymananswers and I discuss the difference between (and success rates of) consent-based, directly communicated flirting methods and those utilised by "pickup artists" in mainstream media (which are often built on a foundation of deception and manipulation). We also discuss:
- Albert's experiences growing up in a polygamous Hmong household with 2 mothers and a father
- How neurotypical people can support their neurodivergent...
Queering Compersion with @lifewflo and @polyamoryinpractice
12/16/2021
Compersion, the feeling of joy/happiness at seeing your partner with other people, is often touted as the Holy Grail of polyamory: a milestone you reach once you have achieved complete security within yourself, fully embracing the abundance mindset, and having a complete lack of jealousy. In reality, it's a lot more complicated than that. In this episode, Flo (@lifewflo), Alexa (@polyamoryinpractice) and I discuss:
- deconstructing the binary of compersion/jealousy
- queering the timeline...
Polyamory as Revolution with @openrelating
12/15/2021
Polyamory challenges traditional love and many societal norms, but one aspect that is not often talked about is how it can be a tool for anti-capitalist revolutionary change. Roy (@openrelating) is a polyamorous personal coach who specialises in helping people of all relationship orientations discover and design their own unique, authentic, conscious and intentional relationships. Together we discuss:
- Roy's journey to polyamory and, in particular, his story as a victim of abuse by a...
Polyamory and Toxic Masculinity with @polyamfam
12/14/2021
A big part of polyamory is challenging one's core beliefs and insecurities, and one big thing polyamorous men struggle with is toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is a specific set of expectations and attitudes associated with men that have a negative impact on men's psyche as well as society as a whole, such as aggressive competitiveness and machismo, entitlement to and ownership of women's bodies, tying one's self-worth as a man to sexual performance, and so on. Today I speak with Chad...
Solo Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy with @unapolygetically
12/13/2021
Ro Moed (@unapolygetically) is a solo polyamory content creator, personal coach, and aspiring writer. We discuss:
- Ro's polyamory origin story, and how she came to reclaim her independence through solo polyamory after a toxic relationship
- What solo polyamory is and how it is still a relatively new term with different definitions within the polyamorous community
- Digital boundaries online, parasocial relationships, and how we navigate demands on our time and space and negative comments...
Polyamory and Race with @monogamishpod
12/12/2021
Jhen (@monogamishpod) grew up in Jamaica and moved to America when she was 20, whereas I (@polyphiliablog) grew up in Hong Kong and moved to the UK when I was 16. We talk about the intersection of polyamory and race, including:
- our experiences as polyamorous women of colour in both our home countries and the ones we currently live in
- the difference between growing up in a majority-white country versus growing up among people of your own race, and how that impacts your psyche
- how our...
Polyamory and Kink with @annie_undone
12/11/2021
CW: very explicit discussions of sex and kink!
Annie (@annie_undone) is a kinky switch in a polyamorous BDSM dynamic. We discuss:
- How to handle breaches of trust within a polyamorous kink dynamic
- How kink and group dynamics can intersect in fun ways
- How high romance can be kinky!
- How polyamory and kink both teach great lessons on consent, communication, and intentionality, and are both excellent mediums for personal growth
- How polyamory and kink can conflict when negotiating...
Demisexual vs. Megasexual with @remodeledlove
12/10/2021
Jes (@remodeledlove) is demisexual: she doesn't experience sexual attraction except with an existing romantic/emotional connection. I (@polyphiliablog), meanwhile, am megasexual: I don't experience romantic/emotional attraction except with an existing sexual connection. We discuss:
- Jes’ identity as a #DemisexualSlut
- Why I prefer to have sex on the first date
- Meeting up on the first date vs texting for months before meeting up
- Why certain “nice guys” may interpret someone’s...