Live IFS

🔸 Camouflaged, a ripple in negative space. 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Hard to say. It’s nice, when a caller and I get to this place, I’m not doing much guiding. Doesn't feel like a problem. Maybe with more experience or training I would know how to guide in these kind of places, but maybe not. IFS is simple. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 People quietly walking away. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: One of those days, racing home, have just a minute to catch my breath before getting on a call. But having the convo was just what my parts & I needed. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 A keyhole. Easy is scary. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: A lot of this felt familiar, I believe we had already done some witnessing here, so I wanted to see if we could take some shortcuts ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Sit down, shut up, hold on! 2️⃣Pod boppins. We’re allowed to have concerns? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Must remember to stretch before calls w Clare! We haven't done IFS in ~6 months, so when "This way, not that way" parts show up, I don’t feel like I have much room to challenge them. But I do wonder “how much of this part's role is diversionary?” Is the future/giggling just a more pleasant place to be? I wonder what percentage of journeyers have this kind of instant, visual access to these realms. 5? It’s hard for me to know how to guide other than “I'll hang out with you while you travel” 2️⃣ I could have worded it better, but my confidence in her and this process is strong. Maybe I was talking to my own skeptical parts… they’re saying “where’s the sadness, where’s the hurt, are we having too much fun, are we being distracted?” … maybe. But the only way out is through. Meaning, evn if that’s the case, we’ll find out only by continuing to notice and engage from where we are. Some of that confidence comes from knowing that Clare's “people pleaser” parts aren’t extreme. She’s not doing this for me! Her “personal development” parts work hard, but she’s not beating down my door to do this work. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Step 1: Who’s here? 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I could be wrong! I had parts on edge, this being a first time caller, parts saying “jump in now! No now!” Others saying I should just observe for now, meditate on it later. But who knows if we'll talk again? My confidence of that being a part: 86%. I got stuck in town today, arrived home 60 seconds before call start, Riben didn't see my messages asking for 10 min late start, all of that had my parts scrambling a bit. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Teenage angst, impossible heaviness. She didn't think I'd get this far. 2️⃣ Rageful truth of the body. These social games feel like shit. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 1️⃣ Low energy today, but it felt right to hit the gas. We don’t meet often, it’s been maybe 2.5 months, and nothing else booked, so that’s another reason I go faster, especially when spacey was getting involved. Combined self energy was on the edge, but I'm confident in Onyx, her route and tools. 2️⃣ Onyx's system reminds me of my own, probably more than any other caller's. So I have to be very careful to avoid projecting. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Gambling; the game of life. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: It's been about a year since we talked, and the only intention we set was to chat, not do IFS. So I took this call while walking, and didn't prep much. Presenting with what he called his most significant trauma, at beginning of call I was wanting to offer detours, not make the mistake of going too fast. But I'm not confident when I'm just one foot in IFS, and I don't think I was being particularly skillful or helpful. When an old pal reaches out and says "my mom died", even if our intention was to do IFS, it doesn't feel right to respond with "How about a minute of meditation? Got any parts...?" ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 We don’t live there anymore 2️⃣ Left out of the family picture 🔹 Parts: 2️⃣ 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 2️⃣ One of those hot midday summer calls, didn’t sleep great, headachy. I was finishing too many of her sentences but aiming for efficiency (win if I guess right!) ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Collapse. There’s a lot riding on this. 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Tech problems had me flustered. Justine's intuition is so strong, I'm hesitant to open my mouth. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 My dad was a good gardener… 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I’m doing too much analyzing, making too many comments without purpose or intention. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 A block around remembering my dreams 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My non-responses weren’t always cuz I thought that would be ideal, just not at full power, long day. I could have called attention to the mom-defender, maybe I just didn't have the language, or thought it might pull us off track. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 “I have to be good at this” 2️⃣ Triangles and check-in tips 🔹 Parts: 2️⃣ ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Alethea Hanna is a trauma recovery coach with IFS Level II training. She is passionate about the IFS model and looks forward to the day when everyone can regularly experience the relief of looking at and listening to their parts with love. She can be reached at alethea.hanna@gmail.com ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 The cost of youthfulness; making sense of “You’re ugly” 2️⃣ The precious house, where the little girl was almost strangled to death. 🔹 Parts: 2️⃣ 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Don’t know. Maybe not much. Felt bad ending the call where we did but it didn’t seem too disruptive. Not sure how to handle when a part says “don’t leave” and I'm like “ok time to go”. I’ll try to get Mio in again soon, but I'm also curious how she handles it on her own. 2️⃣ Kept my foot on the gas the whole time; not stopping to check with every protector. Felt right. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Getting to matter 🔹 Parts: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 1️⃣ Beyond committed. The art and science of figuring out your entire self 2️⃣ Deep down bad parts. It’s crazy the way kids are treated. 📌 1️⃣ Olivia Followed up: i will say-- i actually wish i talked more about this on the pod but the mdma aftermath isn't always a treat, there are actually some big feelings of turmoil afterwards, you kind of feel like your life is a mess for a couple weeks because stuff is hitting you. i felt that way and my friend also felt that way... but the ensuing clarity and breakthroughs are worth it it's like you're ripped open a bit and then enable to heal though the healing still requires a good amount of work or at least it did in my case, i found it hard to even do my job for a week, and i was constantly feeling like, how do i figure out this maze of feels?! james: Ive not experienced that negative side, but maybe I had less I was needing (or willing) to heal Olivia: i'm definitely willing to believe it's different for everyone my friend for instance, i dont think she would even say she did a lot of work to get to her breakthrough she was just a mess for 2 weeks and then had kind of a sudden realization 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 1️⃣ Do differently? No; whatever got me here, to this place, with this person, makes me glad I did everything the way did. Cynical part's answer: quit Live IFS, start Live MDMA. 2️⃣ It’s been 2+ weeks of high stress / high stakes stuff for me. I've been increasingly concerned about the effects on my health, multiple ailments reappearing. Today was *my* do whatever day, finally vacation day. I just lounged around, fed the crows, stretched a lot, ate what & when I wanted, skipped exercise (and that ~hour of call prep I normally do). So this was fitting. When I start getting sick, my “figure it out” part takes over, researching like mad, making a project out of it, documenting everything, reviewing old notes. But lately I've been working with it more, taking it seriously, and allowing that process to complete. Then I actually arrive at “I've read enough, made enough todos and appts, time for that part to rest. Let's try calm, space, and see what intuition (now more informed) brings. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 A floating freight train 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I coulda been a little quicker on the draw. Kinda feel that way about all my calls. But. I have time. I rarely regret taking it ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Overwhelming beauty: Charlotte's wins and/or "too high on life" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Climate control new IFS room. Oh, it was Frank Anderson saying "source", not Jay Early. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 What are the consequences of being vulnerable? Of trusting men? An experiment. 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Do differently: prepare better for midday calls, I'm often a little slow out of the gate. Grateful for Christine's leadership, which refocused the session multiple times. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Doing it wrong and the real fear chat with James. 🔹 Parts: 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Day 4 of deep relaxation, a personal vacation, have been doing lots of my own parts work. I'd like to do more to maintain continuity; "doing it wrong" gives us these glimpses, and when they're share with me (not Justine-Self), I should take more responsibility for following up. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire