Honestly Unorthodox. with Kayla Perry

Dylan and I discuss the Industrial Revolution and how it has made us all similar to the "fitless humans" in the movie Wall-E. Between the habit of poor positioning when we scroll on our phones on the couch, to education systems keeping children sedentary, our society as Americans is quickly headed towards poor health and, possibly, a lifetime of pain. This is especially pronounced for those with disabilities, who may lack the language and cognitive capacity to fully understand how to address and communicate pain, manage pain, and strengthen themselves with the human body armor that is muscle. Can people with disabilities still benefit from good nutrition, lifting heavy things, and a life similar to that of the Hadzabe tribe? Hell yeah, they can! We just have to be willing to do it ourselves. Challenges of the Week: 1. Continue to walk for 30 minutes, 3 times per week. 2. Choose a habit you'd like to change, and simply carry around a notecard or notepad to which you'll tally off whenever you engage in the habit. 3. If you are religious about your Apple Watch, try taking it off for an entire day and make note of what you feel. 4. Sit on the floor, with your back unsupported, for 10 minutes while you're watching a TV show or answering emails. 5. Please leave us a review! Our egos have not recovered from the reviews we are left with. ;-) Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

HOUSEKEEPING: 1. Dylan and I are starting a nonprofit related to common-sense approaches to health, wellness, and building of communities to mitigate poor mental health and bad therapy. With a slew of psychotropics and endless access to useless "therapeutic" interventions, we are attacking Big Pharma the Mayan Way: through togetherness, community-based strategies, and offering people purpose and meaning over digital prestige. 2. In an effort to detox ourselves and others from the effects of cesspool-gram, we have started a pen pal club! If you'd like to help us send letters to all of our clients who get lonely during the holiday season, please email me at theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com for details. Challenges of the Week: 1. Walk for 30 minutes, 3 times per week. 2. Delete all social media apps and any access to social media for 1 consecutive week. 3. Spend 3-5 minutes every day completely devoid of stimulation; no phone, no talking, no TV, no computer, no nothing. 4. Report your findings to us theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

In short: no. The long answer: while this may have been a great step for our field, as we need to start somewhere, Dylan and I discuss the necessary steps that each individual needs to take in order for something like the Unpopular Conference to have long lasting effects. Pssst: it starts with you. We also go into depth about what our plans are, if I'm leaving the field or not, and what our next venture may be post-Nazi-Gate. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

Of course, behavior analysts are upset about free speech being a bad thing. Have you considered moving to North Korea? I kid, but sadly, I'm serious. On today's episode, Dylan and I discuss our thoughts and our hopes leading up to The Unpopular Conference, our very obvious stance on free speech, and why we believe that behavior analysts are, as of today, completely unequipped to handle any problem outside of those experienced by autistic children. Oh, and lastly, we discuss why I moved away from the stupidity of social media for an undisclosed period of time---- as a behavior experiment, of sorts. See you all at the conference! Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

Adam returns to first review the past few weeks of a failed cancellation attempt. Have we both survived? Are we living on the streets? Are we morally injured? As you can imagine, the answer to every question is "no", except for the first--- because we are thriving in today's episode talking about language, perception, and explaining concepts like death and grieving to people with disabilities. We also touch on school refusal, how avoiding anxiety makes anxiety worse, and differentiating between burnout and bullshit. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

For today's episode, Kait and Dylan return to discuss the loss of her brother to suicide, while I dive into the loss of my brother to a Fentanyl overdose. Losing loved ones is spoken about as a loss, one that is sometimes tragic, but we often struggle to find the "right" words to console a grieving person. Considering we have our own ideas of grief, is there a correct and incorrect way of offering support? We finish with talking about whether or not we believe in an afterlife, if we're spiritual or not, and if Kayla is actually an atheist. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

TO LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE, BECOME A SUBSCRIBER AT WWW.HONESTLYUNORTHODOX.SUBSTACK.COM. THIS IS A PREVIEW EPISODE. Kayla Aces the Diversity Test: She Found A POC Immigrant of Catholic-Upbringing Culture! For our first-ever entirely bonus episode, we put ourselves to modern day's litmus test: identifying how many intersectional checkboxes we can scratch off, in our own lives and in the lives of those poor Barbies. With today's guest, Mariel, she is essentially a token person: she speaks of moving to America from the Phillippines, we compared the Barbie movie to life in America and life as immigrants trying to live the American Dream, and we took a sharp right turn into an article circling social media: "The Autism Surge: Lies, Conspiracies, and My Own Kids". We go off on the Neurodiversity Movement, Disability Activism, and how anyone could possibly think autism is a superpower or a gift. Well, only the most privileged people. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

Honestly Unorthodox is now offering paid subscription options, with bonus content and bonus episodes being offered to paying subscribers! For $7.00/month, you can access all bonus episodes, one pre-recorded CE EVERY MONTH, recorded university lectures, and bonus Substack articles. On today's episode, we discuss how body image changes for women when they are pregnant, how dating has changed over the past few decades, if children are being taught poor ideas of masculinity and femininity, and if the sanctity of marriage is still ... a thing. For the bonus content, we discuss the nitty-gritty of dating amongst culture wars, the fear in raising young boys in modern day, and why the F someone would want to have a kid in the first place. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

Favorite panelist Dominique returns once again to weigh in on the apparently not-so-endless quest to find men who don't wish to have kids, how the age for having kids is getting older, if there's any rational reason to want to be a parent, and if you're mindful... or your mind is full. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

How am I doing mentally? How has my perception of the field changed in the last year, 6 months, 6 weeks? Do I warn my students about the potential problems mounting in psychology related fields? A long ramble explaining how I run my classroom, how my kids are braver than most adults, and the way forward. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) )

Colleagues and friends, it has been a week. I'd be remiss if I didn't thank everyone for their continued support and for those who have reached out to me directly to arrange times to discuss this past week's happenings in further depth. For this episode, I answered as many questions as I've been sent and addressed as many concerns that have been mentioned... to the best of my ability. We're all human--- it's best if we don't forget that. Please email me with any questions, comments, or concerns! theangrybehavioranalyst@gmail.com (I need a new email address, don't I... :-) ) IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Mass shootings have gripped the nation's headlines, leaving families scared to send their children to school or in public spaces unattended. While mass shooters tend to share a series of precursor behaviors and predispositions to violence (lack of empathy, nothing to live for/nothing to lose, traumatic or troublesome upbringing), they aren't necessarily all mentally ill as the media suggests. Merrill explains what comprises a mass shooter, the difference between an active shooter and a terrorist, and lays to rest the longstanding debate about video games causing violence. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Cancelled Counselors (Alex) comes back to the podcast to discuss the sometimes-sad reality of therapy, how the patient-counselor relationship goes awry when approached through a victimhood lens, and what it would take for psychology and related fields to make their way back towards... you know... reality. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox This podcast is produced and edited by Pretty Easy Podcasts. If you are looking for production help on your own podcast, go to prettyeasypodcasts.com to get started!

Panelist Dominique returns to discuss a wide array of rapid-fire topics, from whether or not YT chicks seek out too much therapy, to psychedelics, to good 'ole trauma-informed care, to a hefty critique of skills-based treatment and trigger-warning-therapy. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, otherwise known as 'ADHD Dude', is a Certified School Social Worker, ADHD-Certified Clinical Services Provider, and father to a son with ADHD and learning differences. Not only did he create the first-ever parent-training protocol specifically for learners with ADHD, he helps parents to set boundaries, follow through, and avoid the emotional trap of becoming their child's friend. Follow Ryan on Instagram: @adhddude The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Will Reusch, podcast host of Cylinder Radio and wildly popular on instagram (@willreusch) has become quite well known as bringing his high school civics classroom to social media. Between his beautifully nuanced views and ability to teach tolerance of viewpoint diversity, Will is scaling education in a manner most every educator, parent, or adult can benefit from learning. Follow Will on Instagram: @willreusch ; check out Will's work at www.cylinderradio.com Listen to Will's Podcast: Cylinder Radio The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

ChatGPT and AI have reminded us just how close we are to the ending of the movie I, Robot. While it certainly has propensity for good, it is a stark reminder as to the thousands of biases we hold as humans, and when we rely on human communication to create artificial intelligence... well... expect some biased responding. Dylan and I conclude that ChatGPT is most similar to a 29-year-old, self-hating millennial. Sorry, we're just not your stereotype. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Negotiation is one of the most crucial skills we can home in on and develop, regardless of our age. Whether we're in an intensive fight-or-flight situation or in a high-stakes business dialogue, the components of negotiation function to draw more meaning from your conversations and relationships. Scott Tillemma, a hostage negotiator and keynote speaker, joins Honestly Unorthodox to explain the wide range of business and conflict situations in which a negotiation skillset is the best "back-up" we can possess. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

Dr. George Bonanno has studied trauma and PTSD extensively in his work over the past two decades. He is is a professor of clinical psychology at Teachers College, Columbia University, U.S. Dr. B is responsible for introducing the controversial idea of resilience to the study of loss and trauma. He is known as a pioneering researcher in the field of bereavement and trauma. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox

The differences between compassion and permissiveness, parenting styles, and the means by which we tell ourselves we're "morally good" are at the core of much discourse surrounding therapeutic fields. With so little guidance as to what "morally good" or even "virtuous" looks like, we customize our own categories to make ourselves fit. Dr. Merrill Winston joins me today (as a continuation to our podcast with Paulie) to discuss empathy gone wild, excessive compassion, PTSD/CPTSD, and why the DSM should always be a piece of material we fall back on. The Angry Behavior Analyst has officially rebranded. We are now "Honestly Unorthodox." IG: @honestlyunorthodox