Self Care and Chill With Maui

On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes to how to show up for themselves, be confident and give themselves grace. Check out his music and tour dates below. My personal favorite song is Love Jones. WATCH THE FULL VIDEO HERE https://youtu.be/zwQKyr7cl3U TOUR TICKETS - AJTHEGREAT.COM/TOUR APPLE MUSIC - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/aj-mcqueen/540889165 SPOTIFY - https://open.spotify.com/artist/5yQzq87Fu3ZTADxVWwWoj7?si=zXp1_iaeQHmvTHaw9b05-Q

On this episode we talk about what the people you have loved had in common and where they a REFLECTION OF YOU? What did certain people show you when it comes to your healing? What did you admire about them if anything? What are some things that your inner child really need as a child that you can supply them with right now to make them feel loved and safe ? You’re not on this journey alone, there are a million other people journeying just like you, don’t forget that. Here is the link to my LTK with all of my must haves and favorites, I will keep adding more books https://www.shopltk.com/explore/Maui_w and you can always ordering my books from my website www.mauithewriter.com

On this episode I talk about all of the things that I have been learning in therapy and utilizing in my daily life. Boundaries, communicating, validating emotions and getting my needs met by my partner. This season of my life has felt so transformative and I feel like I’m becoming a different person emotionally, so of course I wanted to share this with all of you. Let me know some of the things you have been working on in your life.

This episode is mainly my birthing story and how Hos does so many things in our lives that show us how grateful we should be.

This episode is all about love! With Valentine’s Day coming up I wanted to leave you with a few to look for while dating someone or dating yourself!

This episode is filled with everything that we need to be leaving in 2023 and not bringing into the new year! It’s a new year and new version of ourselves for everyone! I hope that you use this year to really tap into your full potential and take advantage of all the beautiful things that you have going on in your life!

Today I talk about why do men help women who bring nothing to the table but are reluctant to help women who they see are already doing so much on their own? Do they feel like since she can do it all what does she need me for? Or do they just naturally have no desire to offer or be of service to her because their ego desires someone who NEEDS them?

This episode is about where you are going or not going for first dates and why. They made a list on Instagram of first date places that women don’t want to go to and I also made a list of 9 qualities I think are important for you to notice if someone has when you are dating or in a relationship with them. These qualities are important to me, but that doesn’t mean they have to be for you lol. Anyways I’m happy to be done touring and god willing book number #5 will be ready for you to preorder this Friday !!

I start off with my new poem Invisible Girl On this episode I talk about how much courage it takes to walk into love with no wall up. How walls may protect you but they also keep things from coming in, some really beautiful things. Don’t be afraid to show up as your full self in any type of relationship, WE ARE NOT STARTING FROM SCRATCH WE ARE STARTING FROM EXPERIENCE. If you are afraid to be hurt I understand, but that’s one of the risks we take. I hope that you are able to take that risk for what you want. Use the link below for my upcoming shows https://beacons.ai/maui_w

On this episode I give a recap and talk about not feeling guilty about expressing what you need. A lot of the times we don’t want to feel like we are a burden or asking for too much so we allow ourselves to continue to be unsatisfied or to feel unappreciated. It is okay to ask for what you need, it is okay to say “this is not working for me, let’s try a different way” , you do not have to settle for what is offered to you. FOR TICKETS TO MY UPCOMING SHOWS USE THE LINK BELOW https://beacons.ai/maui_w

On this episode I talk about letting people live in their world of delusions, being accountable if you’ve been the delusional one and forgiving yourself but not being too hard on yourself because you are doing your best. Make sure you get tickets below for the last poetry nights that I will be having for the year !!!! NY 9/28 Indy 10/5 Boston 10/13 St. Louis 10/20 https://beacons.ai/maui_w

Today I talk about not watering down your expectations or desires because you’re with someone you feel like will never give it to you. Don’t make excuses for why someone won’t show up for you or try and convince yourself that you don’t need certain things in a relationship because you’ve accepted the fact they won’t put the effort in to do it. Make sure you get tickets to see me in New York this month at City Winery New York https://citywinery.com/newyork/Online/mapSelect.asp?doWork::WSmap::loadMap=Load&createBO::WSmap=1&BOparam::WSmap::loadMap::performance_ids=00AD16AD-49C6-43D3-B26A-197A5174AB24

On this episode I talk about being a placeholder. Allowing someone to continue to reap benefits from you while you never get what you want in return, they will use you up while they wait for what they actually are looking for. I talk about people leading you on, being misleading or saying anything you want to hear so that they can keep using you. Check out my books at www.mauithewriter.com and my NY show 9/28 at City Winery

On this episode we talk about how being in toxic relationships also effect the other personal relationships in your life. Everyone from your friends, to your children and family, can get hurt by seeing someone they love constantly being hurt. I talk about choosing yourself, letting someone go, creating a list that will help you with perspective and not having to beg someone for what you need. You can find all my books at mauithewriter.com

Sending love and prayers to my friend and sister Andrea Jones and healing strength to her family. This episode is for my people pleasers, I beg you to stop doing more for people who already don’t appreciate you. Stop going out of your way for people who hurt you, stop allowing people to keep using you, save some of YOU for YOU!!!

On this episode we talk about wanting to get your lick back or revenge on people who have hurt you or embarrassed you. We talk about being hurt by people that we cared for and really having to sit with those emotions of betrayal and embarrassment. I also answer 3 audience questions. Also check out all my books and use the code LOVE for free shipping at www.mauithewriter.com

On this episode here are some of the topics that I talk about MAKE SURE YOU FOLLOW ON INSTAGRAM AT @SELFCAREXCHILL CLICK THE LINK BELOW FOR SHOWS AND BOOKS https://beacons.ai/maui_w

On this episode I talk about how being hurt can change the way that we love and our ability to let people in to also love us properly. I talk about being comfortable expressing your standards, qualities to look for in a partner, breaks during relationships and being with someone on your emotional level. You deserve to experience a love that has no limits when it comes to you and a love that will show up for you when you need them the most. This episode was recorded in real time also on instagram live so that I could answer your questions. Check out my relationship books below https://www.mauithewriter.com/

This episode is for the people who are pouring into and building connections with people who have no desire to be with them or take them seriously. Set boundaries and expectations when it comes to dating so that you do not keep wasting your time on dead end situationships

On this episode of Self Care and Chill we talk about everything sex related. From being a late bloomer, trying new sex positions and even relationships. I had a great time recording this episode because it was super funny yet informative. If you were a tom boy like me growing up I know you will really be able to relate to some of my experiences. I loved how open Ler and Lionel were on their perspectives, so make sure you also check out their podcasts Late Night With Ler & Lionel. Also subscribe on youtube so you can watch the visual when it drops this week! https://www.youtube.com/@MauiTheWriter