The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Is it possible to feel better even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change? Even if the stress doesn’t change? Theoretically, yes. Your chronic watchdog or possum state means you are in chronic protection mode. Is it possible to shift out of protection mode before the chaos in your life changes? That’s exactly what we address in today’s episode! In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: Connection Or Protection {EP 7}When Your Nervous System Is Fried {EP 139}The Privilege Of Parenting With Safety {EP 169}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feelbetter Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

This episode originally aired on September 20th, 2022 Another important piece of understanding what is underneath your child's big, baffling behaviors is the Stress Response System. Our Stress Response System plays a huge role in our children's behaviors and also how we perceive those behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn: Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/ Check out my recent series on Building the Foundation of the Brain mentioned in this podcast HERE Over on my website you can find: Video series and ebook Trauma, Memory, and Behaviors (FREE) What Behavior Really Is: Video Series & eBook (FREE) Brilliance of Attachment: eBook (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Settle in for a fun and inspiring chat with hosts from Therapist Uncensored and authors of the new release Secure Relating, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: therapistuncensored.comSecure Relating!therapistuncensored.com/upcoming_events/Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/securerelating Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

This episode originally aired on August 1st, 2023 Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. But what if we told you that understanding the balance between enabling and co-regulation could be your guiding light? This week, we break down this crucial contrast, demystifying the term 'enabling', often misconstrued in the mental health field, and venture into the science behind lowering demands - a strategy that can bolster your child’s stress response system. In this episode you'll learn: Resources mentioned in this podcast: Connection or Protection??? {7} What to do after We Mess up {80} Stress Response System {94} Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/Enabling Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

I’m sure you’ve had moments (days, weeks, months) where it felt hard, maybe even impossible, to keep offering connection to your child. It is hard to offer connection to someone who seems to constantly reject it! If it feels hard to keep offering your child connection, I actually want you to shift your focus. Don’t prioritize offering connection to your child. Instead think about: You’ll also learn how glitter boots are related to giving and receiving connection! Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/offeringconnection Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

If regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well, does that mean connected kids are always cooperative? Definitely not! In fact, there’s a level of connection to others- and to themselves! - that invites in the safety to be UNcooperative! In this episode, you’ll learn UNResources mentioned in this podcast: Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/cooperative Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

This is NOT an episode about how to make your kid go to school. What you WILL learn in this episode: Resources mentioned in this podcast: Can’t Not Won’t by Eliza FrickerThe Family Experience of PDA by Eliza FrickerThe Educator's Experience of PDA by Eliza FrickerHow to Connect with Eliza Fricker: WebsiteFacebookInstagramTwitterRead a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/SchoolRefusal Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

The question of ‘can I heal’ or 'can my child heal' or ‘how do I (or my child) heal’ is a tricky one. Healing is a word that gets used a lot without really pausing to ask ourselves what it actually means. If we are aiming for a nebulous goal that hasn’t been defined, it will feel impossible to reach. Impossible tasks often feel hopeless. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}Scaffolding Is A Form Of Co-Regulation {Ep 82}Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {EP 155}Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1 {EP 161} Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/heal Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

***This episode originally aired on February 2nd, 2021*** Lying is probably the behavior parents seek support with the most. It's confusing. It's triggering. It's exhausting. Did you catch last week's episode on X Ray Vision Goggles? We can use those goggles to get underneath the lying so we can respond in ways that actually sets the boundary and increases the possibility of helping our children developing more socially and relationally appropriate behaviors. Free Infographic: https://RobynGobbel.com/lyinginfographic Read the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/lying/ Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated? This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do. This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.” It is exhausting to live with someone who is chronically unhappy, or chronically dysregulated. Knowing you’re not alone can help. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: Self-Regulation Doesn’t Exist!!When Parenting Is Traumatic {EP 95}Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP 163}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/chronicallydysregulated Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

***This episode originally aired on February 16th, 2021*** Connection. Empathizing. Offering choices. These parenting ideas sound good in theory but if you are living with a child who seems chronically angry or won’t get out of bed or is otherwise pretty much always unhappy or dysregulated- none of those parenting suggestions seem to do much good. So…what should you do instead??? This episode takes you through the three places I always recommend parents start first when they are trying to support their child who feels chronically dysregulated. 1. Food, water, and movement 2. Structure, routing, and predictability 3. Stick close These may or may not help your child to decrease their level of arousal and dysregulation but they are always where I recommend parents start first! Download a FREE infographic: https://RobynGobbel.com/dysregulatedinfographic Read a full summary or the full transcript at: www.RobynGobbel.com/alwaysdysegulated Over on my website you can find: Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

It’s very common for all humans- kids and adults- to have more behavior struggles and dysregulation. Kids with vulnerable nervous systems, as well as attachment trauma, are especially likely to demonstrate some confusing patterns with regard to where they are regulated and where they aren’t. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment (Part 5 of 6) {EP 38}Stress Response System {EP 94}When Connection Isn't Safe {158}Read the full transcript at: Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

***This episode originally aired on May 11th, 2021*** You’ve asked yourself “Is this a behavior that’s coming from my child’s trauma? Or is this regular acting out kid behavior???” Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that question, you’re probably in a situation where it isn’t obvious. What if I told you it doesn’t matter? Hear me out. Why do you want to figure that out? Usually because it feels like you’ll handle the situation different based on the answer. But actually, it doesn’t matter. And it’s impossible to determine anyway. What you really want to think about is- how dysregulated is my child? And then respond to that!! There are some core truths about humans- regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well. So if you’re child isn’t doing well- ask yourself if this is about regulation, connection, felt-safety or some combination of those. Then, based on your child’s level of arousal/dysregulation, you can intervene in a way that will calm their arousal and bring back their owl brain. To view the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/traumabehavior/ Over on my website you can find: Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Parenting with co-regulating and seeing below our kids behaviors is actually a privilege we rarely talk about. It’s always a privilege, but especially when we consider different marginalized and oppressed identities that a lot of kids- and those of you listening- intersectionally hold. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: https://www.mrchazz.com/https://www.instagram.com/mrchazz/https://www.instagram.com/prntgdcolonized/What Happened to You Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/privilege Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Parents of kids with a history of relational and complex trauma are some of the loneliness people I’ve ever known. The loneliness of parenting becomes compounded when the loneliness isn’t seen. The loneliness is traumatic. It leaves an imprint on our spirits that wreaks havoc on our health (physical and mental) and our relationships (with others, and with ourself). Undoing aloneness is one of the most important ways professionals and helpers can support parents of children impacted by trauma. Parents- it's important to find spaces where you can be fully welcomed, seen, and known. Friends, partners, therapists, support groups- face to face connections are life-changing of course, but the pandemic has taught us that even virtual connection changes the brain. Undoing Aloneness is one of the primary reasons I created The Club- a virtual community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids impacted by trauma, and the professionals who adore them. CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members Over on my website, you can also read and share a blog about Undoing Aloneness. Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Kids with vulnerable nervous systems often say BIG, hurtful, and scary words. They say things like “I hate you!” or “You hate me!” They sometimes threaten to hurt themselves- or you! Verbal aggression almost always pulls us right onto the watchdog pathway ourselves- which is understandable. Let’s talk about how you might respond if you’re able to hang onto your owl brain. In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {EP 155}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/hate Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn: Resources mentioned in this podcast: Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all? In this episode, you’ll learn Resources mentioned in this podcast: The Connected Therapistrobyngobbel.com/theclubhttps://martiot.podbean.com/What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean? {EP 122}Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155} Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/silliness Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Our kids don’t need us to be perfect. Not only do they not need us to be perfect, it would actually be bad for them if we were. In fact, research shows parents are in attunement with their children about 30% of the time. 30%! That’s it! When I teach, I often reassure parents that ⅓ of their interactions with their child are “getting it right.” About ⅓ of the time they are “getting it wrong” (whatever that even means- we all have our own, valid definitions). The rest? The remaining ⅓? Well ideally, the other ⅓ is spent in repair. Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/RuptureRepair Over on my website you can find: Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With The Club is open to new members now until Friday May 3! The Club is a virtual community for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. Members receive support from each other, the opportunity to "pick Robyn's brain" and over 100 hours of video content. Head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub to read all the details and join us! ::::: Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club! Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you! Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources