Remodeled Love

Alternative episode title: Famous Last Words In this episode, The Daylovers (Jes, Joe, and Ash) talk about: *what Datty is learning in polyamory (fear of trying and failing at finding compatible partners), *what Ash is learning about parenthood and co-parenting (letting go of attachment, not trying to immediately nip things in the bud or cast judgment, learning to pause...), *what Jes is learning in polyamory, which she breaks down to what she is learning through each of her partners: >>with Joe: are we "just" gay best friends? >>with Dr. M: learning to lean into my fear of my partner's expansion, which is really just fear of my own, >>with Loverboy: (GASP. WHO IS LOVERBOY?? Find out inside this episode!) Most heatedly, they talk about the dreadful art of "Downplaying" after Joe accuses Jes of downplaying her connection with Loverboy. Downplaying in polyamory can be a really contentious topic. Downplaying can be: pretending that new connections don’t have a sexual or romantic vibe when they actually do, dampening one's excitement or hope about a new connection, dampening how you actually feel about a new connection, downplaying the possibilities of what may come, etc... This convo gets real and honest as fuck, and we're excited to bring y'all into the room with us and how we work through conflict/call each other out on our bullshit. Hear the rest of this episode, and receive access to all our exclusive episodes plus 2+ years worth of exclusive content on our Patreon: www.patreon.com/remodeledlove.

In this episode: Joe finds out Ash is having an affair with Dr. M('s pores), we talk about our journey to get Ash qualified for FMLA as a polyamorous family, and we discuss, in depth, our favorite punctuation. We also talk about what Jes and Joe are individually learning in the world of parenthood right now, and Ash shares what they are learning in the world of polyamory. There's also some other stuff about sex parties, autistic embarrassment around being "too eager", and village growing pains. *** Support us on ⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠, ⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠, and ⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠ on our ⁠⁠website⁠⁠!

This is by far the best and most unhinged episode we've ever recorded and we're worried we may never top it. (We will.) It's honestly all over the place and we're not sure how to summarize it, but we talk about: age gap relationships, sleeping arrangements, Jes's new orgasm discovery she calls "bass orgasms", how Ash loves to listen through the vent to Jes and Dr. M boning, why Ash's pants were at half mast in the preview photo, what it's like living with partners who have boundaries around how they help with the parenting, and what you do with the thumb you just pulled out of your lover's booty... There's also lots and lots of roasting of each other and this episode ended with everyone in tears from laughing so hard. Wanna hear the rest? Join our Patreon at a level you can afford and receive access to this episode and so much more.

In this episode The Daylovers (all 4 of them!) try to catch you up on everything that happened in 2023, which was both the best and worst year of their lives. This is the first episode recorded as a nested polycule, including the notorious Dr. M! *** Support us on ⁠Patreon⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠Rituals for Connection⁠, ⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our ⁠website⁠!

When we left off 6 months ago (holy shit), it was right before Jessica's birthday orgy and Joe was about to meet his long distance lover, Ash, for the first time. Well, now it's 6 months later and YOU get to meet her...cuz she lives here now. And she's the best thing to ever happen to our little family. *** Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content! Also donate to our new community-building app, Nuclear Fusion, before August 6th, and be a part of the beta program! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like Rituals for Connection, and The Reluctant Polyamorist, on our website!

In this episode, Jessica and Joe talk about how hard it was to get this episode made, the chaos created when you move two partners into your small home within a year, how hard it is to purge your home, and what the fuck is a Roth IRA. Enjoy the full episode, as well as a bunch of other exclusive content, on our Patreon (www.patreon.com/remodeledlove).

You may know Emily, Dedeker, and Jase as the hosts of the world-renown podcast, Multiamory. And now you can officially add 'authors' to their bio lines! Dropping May 23rd, 2023 (though available for pre-order today), "Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships" is a curated collection of the most popular communication tools, advice, and wisdom from the Multiamory podcast that have helped thousands of listeners improve their communication and create healthy relationships. In this book, you’ll learn how to: Get what you need out of conversations with your partner with the Triforce of Communication, create Microscripts that will interrupt old patterns, diffuse tension, and form better communication habits, set up a regular RADAR check-in to support the long-term health of all of your relationships, determine your unique processing style, and how it may be clashing with your partner’s, process and reconnect after an argument with Repair SHOP, and more! Learn more about their book at www.multiamory.com/book. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier Guests: Emily, Dedeker, and Jase of Multiamory *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: www.remodeledlove.comAmazonPatreon.com/remodeledlovewww.remodeledlove.com

Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death. Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier Guest: ashe danger phoenix, Tenderfire Media *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode The Daylovers catch you up on all things Remodeled Love, including some yummy new support groups. changes in the structure of their personal+professional life intersections, and some exciting visions for the future. They also share some Hot Goss (the hottest goss they've ever had), aka: Jes's upcoming birthday orgy, and some delicious new elements to her relationship with her boyfriend...and quite possibly the most exciting development ever for Joe. The episode ends with Joe sharing his existential dread around the nature of higher ed, and Jes and Joe answer a lister question about seeking clarity in a relationship. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In the kickoff to Season 3 of the "Remodeled Love" podcast, Jes chats with the creator of and artist over at @Shrimpteeth, Sam. There are several arguments against the presence of the "peer support" model in the polyamorous digital sphere:the potential for the abuse of power, the fact that there's no board to report abuse to, no official training or accreditation for "coaches", the charging of money, etc. But how does peer support actually work? Jes and Sam break down their backgrounds, how they personally show up in the peer support space, the issues they come across, how peer support makes these essential services accessible and inclusive, and why it's essential for anyone offering peer support to know their scope and have a fall out plan. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode of Remodeled, Jes chats with a brilliant and diverse group of polyamorous men, some of whom you may recognize as popular content creators in the polyamorous digital sphere. Joining Mr. Daylover at the table is our good friend Wade (remember him from Season 1??), Albert of @Polymananswers & @Albah.Love (and Jes' comet partner in Sacramento), and Bear of @Bear.n.Fifi. Jes asks the guys what they've noticed as polyamorous men, as well as polyam peer support specialists, around the struggles of polyamorous and poly-curious men to recognize, feel, process, and receive help around the emotions that dudes must confront on this path. The group dives deep into some vulnerable and powerful intersectionalities, and unpack some of their own, deepest emotional struggles. Topics covered include: toxic masculinity, race, sobriety, trans identities, demisexuality, bisexuality, power, control, fear, insecurity, and white supremacy, just to name a few. This episode is a must-listen for, well, everyone. But especially for Dudes and anyone who loves them. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers enjoy deliciously upscale recording accommodations and talk about their new book, "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children". They offer a brief overview of their new book, and share a little of the behind-the-scenes process. Jes also shares some show feedback--mainly that folks really enjoy the episodes between the two of them, and Jes promises to return to more of a balance between those types of episodes and the interview style episodes featuring special guests (she still has 6 fantastic interviews on the back-burner she needs to get out, though...). They also introduce their new format for episodes featuring just the two of them: I. What's new with Remodeled Love (in this episode: their new e-book, and "Dudes with Feelings": a support group for polyamorous men) II. The Hot Goss (reflections on their respective love lives) III. ETIBHL ("Existential Thoughts I've Been Having Lately". In this episode: Jes talks about the housing crisis, and (CW) Joe talks briefly about gun violence). IV: Dear Flabby (the advice column portion of their show where they answer a listener question. In this episode they answer a question about how to handle "moodiness" from your partner when you're getting ready to go on a date.) This episode is very funny, and informative, and they hope you enjoy it. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode Jes chats with @coach_shor on the intersections of compulsory monogamy, compulsory heterosexuality, compulsory cis-ness, and fatphobia. And, as always, they dive into the semiotics of it all. Sponsor for this episode is the good folks from Beducated!: Click here or copy past this link (http://beducate.me/pd2206-remodeled-couples) to receive 65% off a yearly subscription, locked in for life! #RedefineFamily #RedefineLove #RemodeledLove ••• 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode, Jes and Joe catch you the fuck up on their polyamorous lives. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED SINCE THEY GOT BACK ON THE APPS! They share some exciting new connections, some tragic lessons, and a hilarious anecdote that only polyamorous parents can truly understand. 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this extremely vulnerable episode, The Daylovers "come out", and share with you the raw details of their evolution into a beautiful, asexual, polyamorous marriage. They lay out every piece of their journey: Jes's fearful confession of her asexual feelings toward Joe a few months ago, how that landed in Joe's world, Joe's processing of those emotions, why they think of it as an "evolution", and Jes's very detailed theory as to the factors behind this evolution-- including pieces of their past, Jes's demisexuality, life as a postpartum mother, the nature of long term relationships, and Joe's exploration of his own sexuality. They sternly offer several disclaimers, including that just because they are polyam, does NOT mean all polyam married folks are asexual, nor does it mean they're polyamorous "because" of their asexual vibe; and most importantly, they did not "become asexual" as a consequence of exploring polyamory. The episode ends with their mutual unpacking of their extremely passionate, and also thorough, answer to the question: "Then why stay married?" If you are exploring similar dynamics in your relationship, you are not alone. Head to www.remodeledlove.com and click on "peer support" to learn more about how The Daylovers can hold space for you, and guide you through this shift into a beautiful expansion. #RedefineMarriage *** >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

In this interview we chat with @lavitaloca34 — she shares her backstory, the character arc of her life so far, her polyamory origin story, how she became a content creator, her critiques of the polyamorous community, and some deep wisdom that everyone needs to hear. TIP US! 👇🏼 CashApp: $lavitaloca35 PayPal: easawyers24@yahoo.com Venmo: Evita-Sawyers CashApp: $jessicalevity PayPal: homesliceproductions@gmail.com Venmo: @jessica-levity *** >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

[CW: Brief mentions of trauma, intimate partner violence, and sexual violence] In this episode, Jes chats with fellow Instagram content creator, Sydney Rae Chin. Sydney (they/she) identifies as a queer, non-binary, East Asian, anti-capitalist femme. They talk Sydney's critique of the social media space: the entrepreneurial culture, the problematic nature with some of the Polyam content creators, the lack of consent found in the space, and also what Sydney calls the "Survivorship Industrial Complex". Sydney is stepping away from IG for a while, but you should follow them anyway @SydneyRaeChin. Additionally, you can tip them for their brilliance on Venmo @Sydney_Rae, and make sure to read their blog at sydneyraechin.com/blog. *** >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

In this highly anticipated episode of "Remodeled", Jes chats with clinical psychologist Dr. Antonia Jurkovic about her perceived and experienced correlations between ADHD and Polyamory. They dive into: how much Dr. Antonia thinks Polyamory and ADHD are related to one another, how the identities are inherently intertwined, and the growing observation that so many non-monogamous folks have ADHD. They also talk about how ADHD might impact what draws someone to polyamory (a need for excitement, spontaneity, change, novelty...), and how it could possibly explain some of the difficulties people find themselves having within polyamory (like: time management, polysaturation, “Moving fast”/push-pull dynamic within relationships, NRE addiction, having a hard time saying no to something you really want, and texting partners/having a hard time getting off your phone). Dr. Antonia also shares why is it helpful to have this knowledge. (So, spread this episode far and wide!) This is going to be the first of a series about Neurodivergence and Polyamory, so please email any followup questions you may have for Dr. Antonia to RemodeledLove@gmail.com Also, join our new Discord server! We will be launching a channel specifically for discussions around ADHD and Polyamory this week. *** >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

We continue our Polyamorous Men series with this live interview with The Good Chad of @Polyamfam. In this episode we discuss Chad's polyamory origin story. Chad shares the struggles he had early on-- his insecurities and jealousies, and how polyamory actually helped him work through them to become a better version of himself. Chad talks about the role toxic masculinity played in his polyamorous journey, and he gives us his number one tip in helping other men overcome toxicity: Listen. To. Women. You can support Chad by buying his art, attending his events, and following his page. You can support me in various ways, all found at www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

~ From Purity Rings to Non-Monogamous Things ~ In this episode, The Daylovers chat with a special guest, Instagram's @PurityToPolyamory (now @puritytopercolating). In part 1, she shares what lead her to starting her Instagram account, and her reaction to its quick success. She mentions that "exvangelical" and "deconstruction" circles are on the rise right now, and delves into the parallels within her journey between the deconstruction of her faith and her realization that she is polyamorous. @PurityToPolyamory also gets into the toxic elements of purity culture, the damage it does on young individuals, and how she's having to unpack all of those pieces now as an adult stepping into the fullness of her sexuality. In part 2 she shares the twisty-turny story of how she discovered her own polyamorous nature with her husband, whom she's been with since she was 16, as well as the unexpected-but-profound shift that's occurred in the last few weeks. *** You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing remodeledlove@gmail.com, or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com. >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @RemodeledLove 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCER: Homeslice Productions Sponsorships: on for this episode