A Millennial Mind

Babbel: Learn a new Language and get up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/milllennialmind In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Millie Mackintosh for an honest conversation about sobriety, motherhood and rebuilding your identity during a time of major personal change. We talk openly about questioning your relationship with alcohol, navigating anxiety and panic attacks, and the reality behind “mummy needs wine” culture. Millie shares why she stopped drinking, how becoming a parent reshaped her priorities, and what it really takes to show up more present for your children and yourself. This is a deeply emotional discussion about the sober curious movement, coping mechanisms, mental health and the pressure many women feel to keep everything together. Together, we explore how alcohol and anxiety can become linked, why telling the truth about your struggles matters, and how choosing sobriety can be part of becoming the person and parent you want to be. ✨ Who this episode is for • Anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol or exploring sobriety • Parents navigating anxiety, identity shifts or motherhood pressure • Women interested in sober curious living or quitting drinking • Anyone rebuilding themselves after a big life change ✨ What you’ll learn • Why Millie Mackintosh chose to stop drinking • The truth behind “mummy needs wine” culture • How alcohol can mask anxiety and emotional overwhelm • What helped her become a more present, grounded parent 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 ------- millie mackintosh sobriety interview, why i stopped drinking story, sober motherhood uk, sober curious women, alcohol and anxiety women, quitting alcohol journey, mummy needs wine culture, parenting and mental health, motherhood identity shift, panic attacks motherhood, rebuilding identity after motherhood, a millennial mind podcast, shivani pau interview, sobriety and parenting conversation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Body positivity is everywhere, yet many women still feel stuck hating their bodies or pretending to feel confident. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Alex Light explores diet culture, body image and self worth, and why loving your body is not the requirement we have been led to believe. We talk about toxic body positivity, the pressure to perform confidence online, and how to improve your relationship with your body without forcing self love. This is an honest conversation about stopping the cycle of comparison and learning how to feel more at peace in your body, even on difficult days. ✨ Who this episode is for: • Women struggling with body image and self worth • Anyone tired of diet culture and forced positivity • People who want to stop hating their body • Anyone wanting to feel more confident without changing their body 🤍 What you’ll learn • Why body positivity can feel overwhelming • How diet culture impacts confidence and self worth • What actually helps improve body image • How to feel more confident without faking self love 00:00 Why body positivity feels exhausting 02:45 Do we have to love our bodies to heal 06:10 The pressure to perform confidence online 10:30 How diet culture shapes self worth 15:20 Why weight is not a measure of health 20:40 The problem with “looking healthy” 25:30 Pretty privilege and thin privilege 31:10 The cost of chasing thinness 37:00 Recovery, respect and body neutrality 42:20 What actually helps improve body image 48:10 How to stop hating your body 53:40 Feeling confident without changing your body 58:30 Final thoughts on respect over self love 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Botox and fillers are everywhere right now, but are women choosing them for confidence or from pressure? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, aesthetic doctor Dr Pyal Patel talks about ageing, beauty standards, social media comparison and why so many women feel they need to look younger. We discuss preventative Botox in your 20s, the fear of falling behind, why everyone online seems to have the same face, and how to tell if cosmetic work is coming from self love or insecurity. This is not about shaming treatments. It is about understanding the psychology behind the choices we make about our faces. 💉Who this is for: • Women questioning Botox or fillers • Anyone feeling pressure to look younger • People comparing their face to social media • Women unsure if cosmetic work is confidence or insecurity • Viewers interested in beauty standards and ageing ✨What you’ll learn: • Why so many women feel pressure to get Botox • The psychology behind cosmetic treatments • How social media affects body image and self-worth • The difference between empowerment and insecurity • How to make confident, informed choices about your face What are your thoughts on filler & Botox? Are you for or against minor aesthetics and injectables? 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you staying because you want to… or because you’re scared to leave?In this solo episode, I talk about what happens when nothing is “wrong” but staying no longer feels honest. On the surface, this episode is about me and my partner becoming digital nomads and testing life in Dubai, Miami, and LA. But underneath that, this is really a conversation about choosing the unknown when staying feels safer but smaller.This episode is for you if:You’re in a relationship that looks fine but feels misalignedYou’re stuck in a job you’ve outgrownYou’re scared to start over, speak up, or choose yourselfYou keep waiting for certainty before you make a moveWe talk about:Why “good enough” is the hardest place to leaveThe fear of being judged for your choicesThe sunk cost fallacy (and why it keeps you stuck)Why trying is not the same as committing foreverHow to stop living through the eyes of other peopleYou don’t need certainty.You don’t need permission.You just need courage for the first step.🎧 If this episode resonated, make sure you subscribe — it helps this conversation reach the people who need it most.Thank you for being here 🤍🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Babbel: Learn a new Language and get up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/milllennialmindShopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk When a relationship looks perfect on the outside but feels deeply wrong behind closed doors, leaving can be one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever make ❤️‍🩹 In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Nelly Patel, known from Married at First Sight UK, to talk openly about her marriage to Steven Springett, what really went on behind the scenes, and why she ultimately chose to walk away. Nelly shares the reality of being in a toxic relationship under public scrutiny, the emotional confusion that comes with mixed signals, dishonesty and power imbalances, and how cultural expectations made leaving even harder. We talk about losing self-trust, recognising red flags too late, and what it actually takes to let go of a relationship that’s hurting you. This is an honest conversation about toxic dynamics, self-worth, and choosing yourself - even when it’s painful, public, and misunderstood. 00:00 Trailer: leaving a toxic relationship 01:12 Meeting Steven on MAFS UK 04:05 Early red flags in the marriage 07:40 What the cameras didn’t show 11:10 Feeling confused and doubting myself 15:05 Dishonesty and broken trust 19:30 The impact of public pressure and opinions 24:10 Cultural expectations and staying too long 29:45 Realising the relationship was toxic 34:20 The moment I knew I had to leave 38:50 Life after MAFS and rebuilding self-trust 43:30 What I’ve learned about relationships 47:55 Advice for anyone in a toxic relationship 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve been doing all the “right” manifestation work but still feel stuck, frustrated, or like nothing is landing — this episode is for you. In this conversation on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with renowned astrologer Debbie Frank to explore why manifestation often feels blocked, and how understanding timing, alignment, and your own inner patterns can change everything. We talk about divine timing, free will vs fate, and why forcing outcomes can actually create more resistance. Debbie explains how astrology isn’t about prediction, but self-awareness — helping you understand when to push forward, when to pause, and how to work with your natural rhythms instead of against them. This episode is a grounding, practical reframe of manifestation that feels calm, empowering, and deeply reassuring. 🤍 Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels stuck despite trying to manifest change People frustrated with manifestation that “isn’t working” Those curious about astrology but sceptical of fluff Anyone navigating a transition or waiting for clarity People wanting to understand timing, alignment, and readiness Listeners feeling behind, blocked, or out of sync with life ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why manifestation can feel blocked even when you’re doing the work The role of timing and alignment in creating change How astrology can support self-understanding (not control) The difference between forcing outcomes and allowing flow Why feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing How to let go of pressure and work with your natural cycles A calmer, more grounded way to approach manifestation 00:00 Trailer: Manifestation, timing & astrology 01:05 Why manifestation feels blocked 05:10 Astrology explained without prediction 08:00 Free will vs fate in manifestation 11:15 Why timing matters more than effort 15:05 Wanting something vs being ready for it 19:00 How forcing outcomes creates resistance 23:40 Understanding divine timing 28:25 How astrology helps you align with your cycles 33:00 Signs you’re pushing the wrong chapter 37:10 Letting go without giving up 42:00 How to stop forcing manifestation 47:05 What alignment actually feels like 52:30 A calmer way to manifest change 57:10 Trusting the timing of your life 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Self-doubt can quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and confidence — often without you even realising it. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Shadé Zahrai to unpack why so many of us struggle with self-trust, imposter syndrome, and feeling “not good enough”. We explore the psychology behind self-doubt, why confidence doesn’t come before action (it comes after), and how your self-image directly influences the life you build. Dr Shadé shares science-backed tools to stop second-guessing yourself, challenge your inner critic, and start backing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable. If you’re stepping into a new chapter, navigating change, or simply tired of holding yourself back, this conversation will help you move forward with more clarity and self-belief. Who This Episode Is For: Anyone struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome People who constantly second-guess themselves High-achievers who feel like they’re “faking it” Those wanting to build real self-trust and confidence Anyone stuck in overthinking, comparison or fear of failure What You’ll Learn: Why self-doubt isn’t a personality flaw The science behind self-trust and confidence Why action builds confidence — not the other way around How imposter syndrome actually works How to quiet your inner critic Practical tools to stop overthinking and start acting Whether personality really can change (and what science says) 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Use code CHRISTMAS20 for 20% of tickets to my workshop- valid for 72hours only! Get your tickets here: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshopIn today’s solo episode, I’m sharing the most vulnerable decision Nikhil and I have ever made. We’re moving abroad. Not because we have everything figured out, not because life pushed us, but because we’re choosing growth over comfort, even when it feels terrifying.This episode is the real story behind why we’re moving, what led to it, and the fears, guilt and emotions that come with leaving family, friends, work, and the only place I’ve ever lived.I talk about:🌍 Why we’ve always dreamed of living abroad☀️ How weather, energy and environment impact your happiness💭 The mindset of moving before you feel ready🏠 Renting, break clauses and the judgement we received👪 The guilt of leaving family + future kids growing up differently💸 Money, ambition and wanting more for your future💛 Choosing opportunity instead of waiting for permission✈️ The cost of change and why we’re doing it anywayIf you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid to take a risk, or worried about making the “wrong” decision… this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who gets it. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful interview, director Neeraj Ghaywan and cast members Ishaan Khatter and Vishal Jethwa discuss the themes of classism and casteism explored in the Netflix movie 'Homebound.' They share personal experiences and reflections on how caste and class discrimination still permeates Indian society today, despite assumptions that such issues are outdated. The conversation delves into the impact of systemic discrimination, the importance of education for marginalised communities, and the transformative experiences the cast underwent while preparing for the film. 00:00 Introduction: Is Classism Still an Issue? 00:19 Personal Experiences with Class and Caste 01:14 Understanding Caste in India 02:31 The Impact of Caste on Identity 05:16 Experiences of Discrimination 08:20 Exploring Caste in Rural India 13:03 Moments of Unity and Generosity 15:33 Navigating Social Expectations 16:02 The Privilege of Career Choices 16:43 Survival vs. Ambition 18:29 Microaggressions and Their Impact 19:03 Taking Back Power and Dignity 20:14 Identity and Social Capital 25:32 Education as a Path to Empowerment 26:29 Challenging Assumptions and Division 28:06 Final Thoughts and Reflections 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Savannah Sachdev, who bravely shares her journey with food, body image, and self-worth. Savannah opens up about her struggles with body image, the impact of society's judgment, and her transformative decision to undergo breast reduction surgery. We delve into how her relationship with exercise and food evolved, the importance of self-reflection, and the power of setting boundaries. Savannah also touches on the challenges and joys of becoming a stepmom and how that has shaped her self-acceptance process. This episode is a must-watch for anyone dealing with similar issues, offering a profound look at the complexities of self-worth and the importance of healing from within. Savannah’s story will inspire you to take actionable steps toward a healthier and happier life. Don't forget to subscribe, follow, and have your notepad ready for this enlightening conversation. 00:00 Introduction: The Complex Relationship with Food 00:07 Personal Struggles and Body Image 00:15 The Turning Point: Seeking Validation 00:21 Addiction and Self-Worth 00:31 The Impact of Judgment and Boundaries 00:57 The Longest Relationship: With Yourself 01:16 Guest Introduction: Savannah Sev 02:01 Savannah's Journey: From Struggle to Healing 02:56 The Influence of Body Image on Self-Perception 03:44 The Role of Confidence and Authenticity 11:38 The Impact of Breast Reduction Surgery 26:00 Changing Relationship with Food and Exercise 29:56 Discovering Self-Worth Beyond Appearance 30:13 The Turning Point: Embracing Fitness and New Identities 33:22 Overcoming Insecurities and Finding Comfort in Your Own Skin 35:29 The Role of Friends in Personal Growth 38:36 The Impact of Relationships on Self-Perception 40:23 Finding Solace in Running and Routine 45:38 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Choices 55:12 Balancing Personal Happiness and Relationship Dynamics 59:07 Balancing Career and Personal Life 01:00:07 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 01:01:14 Becoming a Stepmom 01:02:24 Journey to Content Creation 01:03:18 Managing Multiple Jobs 01:09:03 Dealing with Disordered Eating 01:12:53 Finding Balance and Happiness 01:14:53 Advice for Overcoming Challenges 01:22:50 Concluding Thoughts on Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Motherhood is often sold as “natural” and intuitive - but for so many women, it feels overwhelming, confusing and nothing like they expected. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with parenting expert Zoe Blaskey to explore the real, science-backed identity shift of motherhood, from hormonal changes and brain remodelling to the emotional load no one prepares us for. We talk about why becoming a mum can feel like a second adolescence, how societal pressure fuels burnout, and why guilt shows up even when we’re doing our best. Zoe shares practical tools for setting boundaries, finding yourself again, strengthening your partnership, and making motherhood feel lighter, calmer and more intentional. If you’re a mum, planning to be one, or simply curious about the truth behind the transition into motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported and less alone. Who This Episode Is For ✨ Mums feeling tired, overwhelmed or burnt out Women struggling with the identity shift of motherhood (matrescence) Anyone carrying “good mother” guilt or pressure Parents wanting healthier boundaries and calmer homes People curious about the science behind motherhood What You’ll Learn ✨ Why motherhood feels harder than we’re told The science of matrescence (your “second adolescence”) How to set boundaries without guilt How to lighten the mental load How to strengthen your partnership after kids Practical ways to enjoy motherhood more of the time 00:00 Introduction to Motherhood Myths 00:08 Guest Introduction and Initial Reactions 00:17 Understanding Mares Essence 00:53 The Neuroscience of Motherhood 01:39 Podcast and Book Journey 03:44 Personal Development and Coaching 04:58 Navigating Motherhood Challenges 06:36 Self-Compassion and Resilience 29:26 Debunking the 'Having It All' Myth 41:26 The Guilt of Self-Care for Moms 42:38 The 'One for Me, One for You' Tool 43:55 Challenging the Selfless Mother Narrative 45:32 The Concept of Minimum Viable Needs 46:17 The Mental Load and Super Mom Myth 47:17 Mother Kind Toolkit: Identifying Pressure Sources 51:10 Navigating Family Expectations and Boundaries 01:08:39 The Value of Caregiving and Shared Responsibilities 01:14:42 The Physiological Changes of Parenthood 01:17:47 Final Thoughts and Self-Compassion 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you feel lost right now, stuck in the same routines, or like your life has stopped feeling like your own - this episode will feel like a deep exhale. This week on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Mimi Ikonn to talk about one of the most universal experiences we go through as adults:outgrowing your old life… but not yet knowing who you’re becoming. Mimi opens up about identity shifts, evolving relationships, ego deaths, career changes, intuition, and what happens when your “perfect life” no longer fits. If you’re navigating a transition or craving reinvention, this conversation is for you. This episode is for you if you are: • feeling lost or “stuck” in life • outgrowing old identities, habits or relationships • craving a fresh start but scared to make a change • navigating big life transitions (career, relationships, motherhood, purpose) • wanting to reconnect with yourself again • ready to reinvent your life from the inside out In this episode, we dive into: • why you feel stuck - and what that feeling is really telling you • how to recognise when you’ve outgrown your old life • the psychology behind feeling lost • how to create a life that actually fits who you are now • what identity shifts feel like in real time • how to level up without burning your old life to the ground • how intuition guides reinvention • practical steps for starting over 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change 01:14 Guest Introduction: Mimi Ikonn 02:46 Navigating Life Transitions 04:28 Facing Fear and Embracing Growth 06:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness 18:18 Modeling Healthy Boundaries 26:07 Overcoming Self-Sabotage 46:41 Facing Self-Doubt and Embracing Vulnerability 50:13 The Fear of Success and Its Implications 51:34 Balancing Ambition and Personal Life 56:51 The Reality of Parenting and Sacrifice 01:07:04 Preparing Mentally for Parenthood 01:15:32 The Power of Affirmations and Growth Mindset 01:24:24 Living Boldly and Embracing Adventure 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast This week's episode includes a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get your exclusive discount at betterhelp.com/millennialmind to become your best self ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people? This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust. I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay. But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back. If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever. 💚Who This Episode Is For: Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust ✍🏼What You’ll Learn: How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control Why strong, independent women still get targeted How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving How to recognise early red flags before they escalate How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame Why it is never the victim’s fault Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern How to set boundaries without guilt or fear The link between self-worth and saying no Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected. 00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please 01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose 04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment 08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm 12:45 The Guilt of Saying No 15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth 18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness 23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing 26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries 31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish 35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing 40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response 45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning 49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma 54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt 58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws 01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No 01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable 01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please 01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works. I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition. If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves ✨ What You’ll Learn: How energy healing and Reiki actually work The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally 00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism 00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing 01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach 02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives 04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing 05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression 12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience 14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective 18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki 28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections 38:20 A Childhood Intuition 39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism 40:38 Gut Health and Intuition 41:23 Energy and Vibrations 42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing 42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing 44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing 49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing 51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing 52:13 Reiki in Hospitals 52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners 57:03 Empowering Self-Healing 01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice 01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation 01:14:11 Crystals and Energy 01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition self 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could feel incredible with more energy, focus and calm without spending a fortune? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, Coral Pearl breaks down the truth about biohacking: what it really means, how to start biohacking on a budget, and why you don’t need expensive supplements, trackers or cold plunges to optimise your body and mind. Coral shares practical, science-backed ways to support your nervous system, balance your hormones, improve gut health and boost natural energy. She explains how small, affordable biohacks — from better sleep and sunlight to real food and mindset shifts — can transform your wellbeing, longevity and mental clarity. We talk about the habits our ancestors lived by, the modern wellness myths that keep us sick, and how to eat, move and live in a way that supports your biology. I wanted to have this conversation because Coral makes wellness and biohacking feel achievable again. No elitism, no pressure — just simple, evidence-based tools to reconnect with your body and feel like yourself. If you’ve ever felt lost in the health space or overwhelmed by expensive trends, this one will remind you that real health starts with simple, accessible habits. These are all real-world examples that Coral has tried and tested herself to turn her life around and, she says, improve her health for the better. ✨ Who this episode is for Anyone curious about biohacking, wellness or longevity but unsure where to start Listeners tired of expensive wellness trends and quick fixes People looking to improve gut health, nervous system balance and natural energy Those wanting to understand the science of stress, recovery and nutrition Millennials searching for affordable, realistic health and lifestyle habits 💡 What you’ll learn What biohacking really means and how to do it on a budget The low-cost daily habits that improve focus, energy and mood How to regulate your nervous system naturally The connection between nutrition, inflammation and mental health Why modern wellness gets health wrong and how to simplify it 0:00 - What if everything you’ve been taught about health is wrong? 1:00 - Why Coral stopped trusting traditional medicine 3:05 - The “ancestral living” lifestyle explained 5:00 - Biohacking isn’t just for the rich — here’s how to start for free 7:30 - Grounding, breathwork, and sunlight: the ultimate morning trio 9:45 - Coral’s wild morning routine (and the headband hack!) 11:10 - How biohacking changed her energy, sleep & focus 13:20 - The truth about mouth taping and deep sleep 15:10 - Why blue light might be ruining your health 17:00 - How to calm your nervous system instantly 20:00 - The trampoline trick that boosts your mood 25:30 - Coral’s 5AM morning routine & discipline secrets 29:00 - Her full step-by-step health routine revealed 33:00 - From vegan to ancestral eating — why she switched 36:00 - Are plant-based diets actually bad for you? 39:00 - What pesticides are doing to your gut 42:00 - The 3 foods Coral would *never* eat again 45:00 - The shocking truth about milk and pasteurisation 47:00 - How to find what really works for your body 49:00 - Coral’s message for anyone feeling stuck in their health journey Follow Coral Peal: https://www.instagram.com/coral.peal 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Note: Some topics discussed might be triggering. In this deeply personal and heartfelt episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with one of my closest friends, Dr. Rhona Eskander, as she opens up for the first time about her harrowing journey into motherhood. From experiencing a traumatic miscarriage and the emotional turmoil that followed, to navigating the complexities of fertility treatments, and finally, the unforeseen challenges of a high-risk pregnancy that led to an emergency C-section and a NICU stay for her baby, Rhona bravely shares it all. This conversation sheds light on the silent struggles many parents face, the societal pressures around fertility, and the importance of mental health and support during such times. I am incredibly grateful for Rhona's vulnerability and hope this episode fosters understanding and compassion for those facing similar battles. Please listen with care, and if you know someone who might benefit from this, share it with them. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Anyone who has faced pregnancy loss or fertility struggles Mothers navigating premature birth or NICU experiences Women processing grief, anxiety, or trauma after childbirth Parents learning to find strength and gratitude through adversity Anyone seeking an honest look at modern motherhood 00:00 Opening Up About a Personal Journey 00:05 The Miscarriage Experience 00:20 Navigating Fertility Challenges 00:34 Emergency C-Section and NICU 00:52 Introduction to the Episode 02:17 Rona's Fertility Journey 03:05 Egg Freezing and Societal Pressures 05:12 Struggles with Conception 06:06 The Miscarriage and Its Aftermath 07:05 IUI and Pregnancy Success 15:15 The Trauma of Miscarriage 24:40 Pregnancy Journey and Mental Health 30:40 Concerns About Baby's Growth 34:58 Discovering the Gentle Birthing Method 36:02 Dealing with Placental Insufficiency 36:54 The Pressure of Not Showing During Pregnancy 38:57 Navigating Public Perception and Body Image 42:26 The Trauma of an Emergency C-Section 49:15 The NICU Journey 51:05 The Importance of Mental Health and Support 01:07:28 Reflections on the NHS and Final Thoughts This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link ⁠www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind⁠ to start your therapy journey and become your best self. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔑 Keywords / Tags pregnancy journey, miscarriage story, pregnancy loss, emergency c-section, 30 weeks premature, premature birth, NICU baby, motherhood journey, fertility struggles, pregnancy complications, maternal health, emotional healing, premature baby story, Rhona Eskander, A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with Dr. Marta Deiros Collado, a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience and a mother of two. We dive into the hot topic of smartphones and social media, exploring whether they're helpful tools or harmful threats, especially for children and parents. Dr. Marta shares her insights on the fear and misconceptions surrounding technology, and offers evidence-based strategies for finding balance and boundaries in our digital lives. We also discuss the impact of screen time on relationships and mental health, and how parents can build healthier tech habits for themselves and their kids. If you've ever struggled with screen time or are concerned about your children's digital habits, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation. Please don't forget to like, follow, and subscribe to support more meaningful and impactful discussions like this. ✨ Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels anxious, guilty, or overwhelmed by their phone use Parents trying to help children build healthy screen habits Millennials and Gen Z struggling with digital burnout or social media anxiety People who want to create boundaries with technology without a digital detox Anyone curious about the psychology of screen time and mental health 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why notifications trigger anxiety and how to calm your brain’s response The science behind phone addiction and emotional overstimulation How to build a healthier relationship with social media and tech Practical tools to set digital boundaries at home and work How parents and kids can find balance and connection offline Why technology itself isn’t bad, it’s how we use it that matters Jump to: 00:00 Introduction: Are Smartphones a Tool or a Threat? 01:06 Challenging the Smartphone Narrative with Dr. Marta 02:07 Meet Dr. Marta: Clinical Psychologist and Mother 02:39 The Dual Nature of Smartphones: Tool and Threat 03:23 The Emotional Impact of Smartphone Use 04:34 The Importance of Awareness and Mindful Use 05:46 The Role of Technology in Modern Life 08:09 The Science Behind Smartphone Use and Its Effects 08:56 Addressing Misconceptions and Media Fear-Mongering 10:23 The Balance Between Technology and Human Experience 15:02 Smartphone Habits and Compulsive Behaviors 36:25 The Impact of Smartphones on Relationships 38:52 Balancing Screen Time and Family Time 40:08 Deciding When to Give Kids Smartphones 42:26 Navigating Social Pressures and Exclusion 45:28 Building Trust and Open Communication 48:12 Creating Healthy Digital Habits 51:21 The Impact of Social Media on Self-Esteem 01:01:46 Setting Boundaries and Family Phone Pledges 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 phone anxiety, social media anxiety, smartphone addiction, digital burnout, digital wellbeing, screen time anxiety, notifications stress, tech and mental health, social media balance, phone detox, screen time habits, parenting and technology, kids screen time, mindful tech use, digital balance, Dr Martha Deiros Collado, Shivani Pau, A Millennial Mind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode of A Millennial Mind, I’m joined by Abigail Foster, an accountant, money expert, and founder of Elent Financial. Abigail has built a reputation for making money simple, relatable, and actually enjoyable to talk about. In this episode, we dive deep into the truth about money in 2025: from renting vs buying, saving and investing, and even the fairness of inheritance tax. Abigail also unpacks how childhood experiences shape our money mindset, why budgeting feels so overwhelming, and the practical steps millennials and Gen Z can take to feel more financially free. If you’ve ever felt stressed about money, stuck in financial habits, or just confused by the UK tax system, this episode will help you make sense of it all. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Millennials and Gen Z who want to feel in control of their finances. Anyone stuck between renting vs buying and wondering what’s right for them. People who want to start investing but don’t know where to begin. Those struggling with budgeting, saving, or money mindset. Anyone curious about UK money topics like taxes, inheritance, or the cost of living. 📚 What You’ll Learn How your childhood experiences shape your money habits today. Why budgeting feels hard - and how to make it easier. The truth about renting vs buying property in 2025. Simple steps to start saving and investing (even if you feel clueless). How to think about tax, inheritance, and wealth without overwhelm. Why shifting your money mindset is the key to building wealth. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 --- 🔑 Abigail Foster, Elent Financial, money mindset, budgeting tips, saving money, how to invest, investing for beginners, UK tax explained, inheritance tax, cost of living 2025, UK finance 2025, personal finance for millennials, Gen Z money tips, renting vs buying property, financial freedom, money habits psychology, A Millennial Mind podcast, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's AMM Minutes segment, I chat with Sarover Auja from 'Love is Blind UK' about the challenges of getting parental acceptance in relationships and dealing with societal judgment. We delve into the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and open communication when integrating a partner into one's family. Sarover opens up about her personal journey, sharing insights on resilience post-divorce and emphasising that love transcends cultural and societal boundaries. 00:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Parental Acceptance Check out the full episode where Sarover goes into DETAIL about her Love Is Blind experience, here: 01:38 The Struggle with In-Laws and Cultural Expectations 03:06 Breaking the Cycle of Judgment and Fear 03:51 Dealing with Divorce and Societal Judgment 05:30 Love Beyond Cultural Boundaries 07:48 The Importance of Character Over Community 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices