You're Making It Worse
Starburns Audio
Although performing stand-up comedy was what initially united Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago, it’s their openness (and sense of humor) about feeling totally lost and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. On YMIW, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the good, bad, and ugly tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features a special guest -- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white, urban-dwelling gay dudes in their thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan check their own privilege at the door, eager to instead explore what life looks for those not afforded the same concessions.
Location:
United States
Networks:
Starburns Audio
Description:
Although performing stand-up comedy was what initially united Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago, it’s their openness (and sense of humor) about feeling totally lost and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. On YMIW, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the good, bad, and ugly tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features a special guest -- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white, urban-dwelling gay dudes in their thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan check their own privilege at the door, eager to instead explore what life looks for those not afforded the same concessions.
Language:
English
Episodes
John Arthur Hill
5/30/2024
Beloved producer of innumerable gay canon TV shows, John Arthur Hill joins us to discern between P-Town and Fire Island and YES, if you must know, Andy Cohen comes up, too. But first, ALAN AIN'T HAPPY to learn about GLAAD's 2024 Social Media Index Report about how Big Tech is failing miserably to protect LGBTQ+ users from hate. And finally, Brent reads the "statistically perfect" way to date in the era of dating apps -- and the guys aren't having it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:01:00:45
Jon Klaft
5/23/2024
Wildly popular Los Angeles DJ Jon Klaft joins us to discuss the unique craft of choosing songs for drunk people to dance to. But first, a New Jersey bakery turned lemons into lemonade after they received a hateful note for flying a rainbow flag. And finally, Brent finds TaskRabbit very sexual in nature...but the straight guy he hires to help assemble some furniture does not! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:50:24
Par Parekh & Ali Hart
5/16/2024
Ali Hart and Par Parekh join us to discuss their amazing new documentary, Sister Una Lived A Good Death, about how a very unconventional nun spent her final year on earth. But first, Alan vents about a recent movie PR campaign that played coy with their straight leads sexualities. And finally, we update our list of dating app red flags including one particular trope that's really weirding Brent out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:56:42
Ian Lockwood
5/9/2024
Amazingly talented comedian and pop musician Ian Lockwood joins us to talk about his unique twist on pop music. But first, some straight Glee actor named Darren Criss says he's "culturally queer," is that weird?! Are we offended? Or no? And finally, the guys unpack the whole Barbra Streisand/Melissa McCarthy Ozempic debacle during which Brent takes a hard anti-Barbra stand and Alan ain't having it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:57:46
Rheeqrheeq Chainey
5/2/2024
Hilarious writer Rheeqrheeq Chainey joins us to talk about, well, mostly the older white women we're all obsessed with. But first, we dive into the PA school board's controversial cancellation of an anti-bullying speech by 30 Rock actor Maulik Pancholy. And finally, we discuss the "Gay Art of Fast Walking." Easter egg: Brent was sick while recording and by the end he sounds like death and is high from NyQuil! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:51:30
Kevin DeBacker
4/25/2024
Kevin DeBacker, amazing comedian BUT ALSO gay foster dad, joins us to have such an enlightening and heartwarming conversation about gay foster parenting. But first, did JoJo Siwa REALLY invent gay pop or is that just delusion talking? And finally, Eliot wants to know, does owning a Tesla make you...a douche bag?! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:58:12
Colton Dowling
4/18/2024
Colton Dowling, one of the funniest Texans, joins us to talk about the intersectionality between stand-up comedy and his X-rated Onlyfans page. But first, the guys chat about Biden 2024's LGBT outreach (and Brent gets v heated about people who don't vote!). And finally, Eliot wants to know what our seasonal color palette is...[rolls eyes]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:53:48
Liam Gareau
4/11/2024
The downright hilarious Liam Gareau chats with us about being gay in Canada and his pop culture canon...mostly Linda Rondstadt. But first, we discuss a report that Grindr, in an attempt to monetize the platform, might introduce AI chatbots!? Brent ain't having it! And finally, Eliot is dying to know, what do we music novices think of Beyonce's new country album, Cowboy Carter? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:56:06
Halle Kiefer
4/4/2024
Adorable and hilarious Halle Kiefer joins us to talk about why her Catholic faith is more terrifying than the most gruesome horror movies. But first, One Million Moms goes to war against...Paris Hilton and the color pink. And finally, Grindr turns 15! We celebrate by musing whether it's been a good or bad influence on us all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:54:47
Adam Bucci
3/28/2024
The multi-talented Adam Bucci joins us to discuss his beloved horror and pop culture shop, Small Town Weirdo, devolving into us geeking out on Ryan Phillippe and all things horror (Eliot excluded, too scary!). But first, why is BYU forcing incoming freshman to read an anti-gay speech that involves musket fire!? And finally, hear firsthand how Brent dupes Eliot with a sleazy texting app literally multiple times a week! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:51:55
Barrett Blackman
3/21/2024
The delightfully dry Barrett Blackman joins the guys to discuss all things Golden Girls (yes, even Golden Palace) as well as his appearance on Judge Mathis (jealous!). But first, would you believe that trans high school thespian Max Hightower went head-to-head with their Texas principal...and won?! And finally, should there be a protocol for swapping nude pics?! Eliot needs to know! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:54:56
Dubbs Weinblatt
3/14/2024
Dubbs Weinblatt joins us to talk about coming out stories and maybe even how great Columbus, OH is! But first, is it weird that RuPaul's new bookstore is selling Kirk Cameron novels? And finally, hear about all the drama that happened the day after an amorous fella sent Eliot a bunch of filthy videos on Grindr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:46:55
Parker Callahan
3/7/2024
Parker Callahan, hilarious performer and writer, engages us with a freewheeling chat about microdosing, Cards Against Humanity, and his brilliantly gay-themed body of theater work. But first, we explore the horrific death of Oklahoma non-binary teen Nex Benedict, who mysteriously dropped dead one day after being assaulted by bullies in their suburban Tulsa high school. And finally, what should we make of Fentanyl test strips being available in gay bars!? Should we be scared? Relieved? Who even still does coke!? Not Alan...😬 Here's the GoFundMe for Nex Benedict: https://www.gofundme.com/f/dagny-benedict Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:51:37
Kate Stayman-London
2/29/2024
The effervescently hilarious Kate Stayman-London joins us to discuss her romance novels, Taylor Swift's sexuality, and working for Hillary. But first, the guys discuss why Greece legalizing same-sex marriage is a huge deal for an Orthodox country. And finally, Eliot discusses the kind of business he dreams of opening and Brent shares his own...rather dark idea. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:58:27
Reid Pope
2/22/2024
The brilliant comedian Reid Pope comes on to discuss their viral "thirst trap recreations," and how unamused many of those self-serious influencers were. But first, will you invest in the NEW Fire Island that's gonna be in Greece, I guess? And finally, learn how gays paved the way for all those straight DINKs out there. No, that's not a sex term, you'll just have to listen to find out what it means! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:56:26
Jenny Yang
2/15/2024
Comedian and action star (!!) Jenny Yang joins the guys to talk about her self-care rituals and fight scene prep. But first, find out what happened after Indiana opened up a hotline to report "transgressive" public school curriculum like...civil rights 😬. And finally, the guys debate post-wedding name changes but ONE host reveals he's inexplicably anti-all-last-names! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:53:41
Hot Topics: Oscars, Nipple Inspections and Straight Dudes Going Gay-ish
2/8/2024
The Oscars season is upon us! The guys pepper Alan, resident movie aficionado, with questions about this year's Oscar nods and glaring omissions. But first up, why the hell are there nipple inspections happening at gay bars in Seattle? And finally, speaking of movies like Saltburn [rolls eyes], Alan wants to know what the guys think of modern gay-baiting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:53:35
Matt McConkey
2/7/2024
Matt McConkey joins us AGAIN (hate to brag) to chat about why Sex in the City resonates with gays and to dish on its infamous reboot...fingers crossed Che Diaz doesn't listen. But first, we explore a new poll that reveals how LGBTs are more inclined to adopt and foster kids but fear of stigma stands in their way. And finally, would any of us visit a psychic? Find out AND hear our favorite psychic fail stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:56:50
Kim David Smith
1/25/2024
TWO GUESTS THIS WEEK! First, cabaret legend Kim David Smith comes on to talk Marlene Dietrich and a million other campy things that went over Brent's head. Plus, "Nate", a full service masseur (yes, Happy Endings included) joined us this week to have a frank, free-wheeling, and de-stigmatizing conversation about working in the sex industry. But first, the guys chat about Rep. Robert Garcia, the gay Congressman who quoted...the Housewives in Congress? 😬 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:01:05:09
Maggie Winters
1/18/2024
The internet's funniest content creator Maggie Winters dazzles the guys with a convo that ranges from stew to her Disney World employee experience. But first, what do the guys think of the newest most powerful gay politician, France's Gabriel Attal? (Eat your heart out Latvia). And finally, we wade in on the 5000 word [sigh] editorial in the NYTimes about Taylor Swift's sexuality. Yikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Duration:00:49:19