Built, Not Born

Id love to hear from you! -chels Chelsea and Sal discuss their transformative eight-month journey into relationship purity, revealing how choosing abstinence has deepened their bond spiritually and emotionally beyond what they thought possible. Their conversation explores the biblical concept of being "equally yoked" and how this spiritual alignment has improved their ability to resolve conflicts and grow together. • Exploring what it means to be "equally yoked" in a relationship and the natural progression into healthy gender roles • Sal shares his powerful spiritual deliverance experience, including speaking in tongues and physical manifestations • Discussion about hookup culture, OnlyFans, and the spiritual consequences of casual intimacy • Breaking down the concept of soul ties – how we connect spiritually with not just our partners but their past partners as well • Men's perspective on pornography, casual sex, and the pride/validation dynamic that drives these behaviors • Challenging the notion that the Bible is a "rule book" rather than a guide for protection and peace • Sal's insights for couples considering purity: approach with open communication and gradual integration versus ultimatums If you enjoyed this episode, follow Sal on Instagram @salfittorio and let me know what stood out to you!

Id love to hear from you! -chels Our words reveal the posture of our hearts, functioning as a spiritual gauge that displays what we believe and where we're still operating from pain rather than truth. • Words we speak are a direct reflection of our heart condition • Complaints, gossip, and negative speech show unresolved inner issues • Speaking fearful or hopeless words means agreeing with enemy's lies • 2 Corinthians 10:5 instructs us to demolish arguments against God's truth • Every word either advances God's kingdom or darkness—no neutral ground • True heart transformation naturally changes our speech patterns • Many reject Christianity because believers' words don't reflect God's love • Emotional and spiritual maturity shows in how we speak to others • When close to God, our words naturally become more loving and patient • Practical step: pause before speaking to evaluate heart motives

Id love to hear from you! -chels Chelsea returns to the podcast with a bold message about authentic Christianity and surrendering control to God. She shares her transformative spiritual journey and challenges listeners to examine where they might be holding onto control rather than fully trusting God. • Distinguishing between being a "highlighter Christian" versus a woman of God • The importance of surrounding yourself with people who are pursuing God • How our spirits quiet when unfed, unlike our loud demanding flesh • Chelsea's personal breakthrough during a 12-week Freedom curriculum • Identifying money as a soul tie and area of bondage • The spiritual significance of tithing and fully surrendering finances • How politics can become an idol when we place our hope in human systems • The fruit of our lives reveals the truth about our faith • Walking in spiritual authority as believers • The need for bold, authentic Christianity that goes beyond aesthetics It's time to step into a new season of boldness, authority, and authenticity in your faith. Remember that you have the same Holy Spirit within you that raised Christ from the dead - start living like it!

Id love to hear from you! -chels Chelsea Tansey returns to discuss the intersection of faith, entrepreneurship, and overcoming scarcity mindset. She reveals powerful strategies to regulate your nervous system and reconnect with God when faced with anxiety as a high-achieving woman. • Identifying when your nervous system is in "bear chase mode" causing anxiety and scarcity feelings • Understanding that feelings aren't labels—you're not "an anxious person," you're experiencing temporary emotions • Breaking free from avoidance masked as spirituality that prevents true emotional processing • Creating a daily conviction process to anchor into empowerment rather than fear • Recognizing spiritual warfare when you step into your divine calling • Using scripture as a sword against enemy attacks rather than just as a Sunday accessory • Making play, laughter, and joy non-negotiable parts of your daily routine • Setting realistic expectations to avoid perpetual disappointment • Building community support with like-minded women of faith If you feel called to join A Players, Chelsea's new 4-month mini mastermind for faith-based women ready to step into their spiritual boldness, message "A Players" to get early-bird pricing before the official launch. Visit Chelsea's newly redesigned website to see all the details. Access The Conviction Code: https://bppqg3wxbqqi8yxhh5m6.memberships.msgsndr.com/offers/f08422bb-c1d1-4554-a929-2b55150d8cc1?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAafgFhztaORmypL38u6aBqip6nXaEiyw8iIwMOeW_S5o79f7Sm-5J52bBZthLA_aem_rOw3IxEDCB1xDxbsLW9D9Q A-Players Details: https://chelseatansey.com/welcome-to-a-players-with-chelsea-tansey

Id love to hear from you! -chels Three entrepreneurs share their journeys from chasing financial success to finding deeper purpose through faith and surrender. • Developing thick skin while stewarding a growing social media platform • Building courage by taking risks despite fear, not by eliminating fear • Moving from survival-based motivation to desire-based motivation • Finding God during rock-bottom moments including health crises and financial struggles • Recognizing how material success often leads to emptiness rather than fulfillment • Shifting from self-led business decisions to God-led direction • Experiencing supernatural provision during critical moments of business uncertainty • Understanding that your mess becomes your message • Reframing prayers to focus on benefiting the world rather than just personal gain • Creating a legacy of impact rather than a legacy of wealth

Id love to hear from you! -chels Chelsea and Jess share their transformative journeys from fitness influencers seeking validation through success to finding deeper fulfillment through faith. They explore how surrendering control and discovering their worth through a relationship with God changed everything about their approach to life, relationships, and leadership. • Both hosts initially explored New Age spirituality and self-help practices before finding faith • Discovering your value isn't tied to appearance, accomplishments, or social media validation • How faith transforms conflict resolution in relationships by focusing on grace rather than "winning" arguments • Understanding that bad things happen because of free will, not because God causes suffering • Conviction versus obligation: following spiritual guidance from internal transformation rather than external rules • Meeting people where they are as leaders, inspired by their understanding of grace • Finding "the rock at the bottom" when you've exhausted all your own resources We're both so open for questions and curiosity. If you're searching or have questions, please know you can come to us. Share this with someone you think might need it, because we just want to share how much our hearts have grown following this path. Connect with Jess here: https://www.instagram.com/jess1ca_grace?igsh=Ymp1MGszcjk2NHI1

Id love to hear from you! -chels Chelsea explores the false idolatry of money and uncovers how childhood patterns of neglect shape our relationship with finances and self-care. She shares a personal breakthrough about how her craving to be taken care of conflicts with her discomfort in receiving support, revealing the connection between her self-neglect and money patterns. • Creating Wholehearted as a different approach to business that rejects stressful, money-focused coaching practices • Understanding false idolatry as placing anything higher than God in our lives • Scripture warnings about the love of money being the root of harmful patterns • The contrast between people with fewer resources often being more grateful than those with abundance • How childhood neglect creates patterns of overworking and self-neglect in adulthood • The core fear of being neglected manifesting as a self-fulfilling prophecy • Four reflection points to help identify and heal your relationship with money and self-care • Recognizing warning signs of self-abandonment and implementing preventative self-care measures I encourage you to ask yourself daily: "What do I need today?" and "Do I feel taken care of?" These simple questions can transform your relationship with yourself and with money.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Servanthood isn't about subjugation or self-abandonment—it's about performing a role with compassion and putting others' needs before our own in leadership. • The self-help industry has conditioned us to focus exclusively on ourselves rather than lifting our communities • Cancel culture has destroyed meaningful relationships by denying people the grace to make mistakes • True servant leadership is not people-pleasing—people-pleasing is actually selfish manipulation • Most successful people got where they are because someone believed in them and served them • Being a leader is a privilege, not a right, and requires genuine care for others' growth • We often judge others harshly for struggles we've either experienced or may face in the future • Community and support are crucial factors in determining whether someone reaches their potential I have three spots opening up in Wholehearted this month, so if you're listening to this, this is your sign.

Id love to hear from you! -chels In today’s episode, I share personal stories of navigating health challenges and their impact on my creative energy. By focusing on holistic health and examining the relationship between physical and mental well-being, I discuss how it can dramatically shift our creative capabilities. • Discuss challenges faced with health issues and trends toward self-care • Explore the link between physical health and creative expression • Insights into biblical teachings (Psalm 73) about envy and doubt • Emphasize the importance of spiritual grounding in career pursuits • Insights on emotional struggles of comparison in today’s digital age • Encouragement for others to seek guidance and remain faithful during hard times • Discussion on personal evolution from a health perspective to faith and leadership • Insights on redefining success and prioritizing self-care Please share this episode with anyone who might benefit from it! You never know who needs to hear these words of encouragement today.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Navigating the complex interplay of health, personal accountability, and business success, this episode challenges listeners to confront their choices and growth paths. Chelsea shares her struggles with health issues, emotional resilience, and the need for structure in entrepreneurship, all while emphasizing the transformative power of making intentional decisions. • Exploring the impact of health on business performance • Discussing the importance of detox and emotional health • Confronting complacency in successful endeavors • Resisting structure and recognizing its necessity • Emphasizing personal accountability and responsibility • The interplay between choices and transformative growth • The significance of aligning actions with personal goals • Urging listeners to embrace discomfort and take charge of their journeys

Id love to hear from you! -chels We explore the myth of urgency and how it influences our stress levels and overall satisfaction in life. By discussing real-life challenges and emphasizing the importance of acceptance and self-care, we reveal how relinquishing urgency can lead to a more fulfilling existence. • Discussing the harm of urgency and deadlines • The impact of instant gratification on satisfaction • Personal stories of overcoming debt and anxiety • Understanding bodily responses to stress • The significance of emotional acceptance • Encouraging fun and playfulness in life • Practical tips for slowing down and enjoying life • Encouraging awareness of one’s journey and present moment

Id love to hear from you! -chels This episode invites listeners to explore the essential connection between self-worth and the often-ignored emotions of anger and confrontation. Through practical strategies and personal reflections, we emphasize the importance of setting boundaries and expressing feelings to reclaim self-respect and build healthier relationships. • Explore the shame that diminishes self-worth • Understand the power of confrontation in emotional healing • Recognize self-neglect habits in prioritizing others' feelings • Discover methods for expressing anger and discomfort • Learn about the vital role of boundaries and communication • Promote self-worth through active emotional engagement

Id love to hear from you! -chels This episode explores the intricacies of developing A players within your team. The hosts discuss essential leadership qualities and support mechanisms necessary for transforming team dynamics and fostering growth in individuals who possess potential but may fall short of A player status. • Understanding the defining traits of A players • The possibility of cultivating A players from lower-performing team members • Importance of proper vetting and hiring processes • Transformational leadership vs. transactional leadership • Borrowed belief as a cornerstone of effective leadership • Enhancing team culture and morale through supportive practices • Real-life examples illustrating team dynamics and leadership • The pivotal role of leaders in nurturing self-accountability among team members • Creating a vision that engages team members beyond their job descriptions You can message me if you're in a position currently where maybe you're like, "Wow, I do need to be a better leader," maybe I need to stop being so pissed off when one of my team members brings something to me. Maybe I need to get a little bit deeper into my vision so that my people around me can be just as bought in. Maybe my retention sucks because my people don't see me as the character that they want to follow.

Id love to hear from you! -chels This episode delves into the transformative journey of transitioning from personal training to mindset coaching, uncovering the true value behind this nurturing relationship. By focusing on specificity in offerings, the importance of marketing, and the conviction necessary for success, we explore how individuals can bridge the gap between their clients' current realities and future aspirations. • Exploring the journey from personal trainer to mindset coach • The significance of personal transformation in coaching • Addressing misconceptions around the viability of mindset coaching • Focusing on clarity and specificity in offerings • The role of marketing in building emotional connections • Understanding the "chocolate-covered kale" approach • Emphasizing authenticity and conviction in selling • Encouraging genuine relationships with clients

Id love to hear from you! -chels What if you could break free from the relentless hustle culture and still maintain your productivity? Join me as I share my insights on pursuing a more intentional lifestyle, embracing a balance between slowing down and consistently showing up for those who rely on you. Personal setbacks like illness can serve as formidable barriers, but it’s crucial not to let them become excuses. By openly addressing my own experiences, like facing cold sores, I aim to inspire you to cultivate resilience and push past your own obstacles. Success isn't just about effort; it's about personal responsibility and deliberate action. I'll take you through my journey of overcoming personal challenges, such as learning to drive without much support, and highlight the necessity of taking initiative. Drawing parallels between fitness and business, I challenge the notion of entitlement and emphasize the continuous effort required to achieve your goals. Acknowledging the importance of rest, I stress the need for dedication and consistency in personal and professional growth, just like maintaining a fitness regimen. Embrace the journey of entrepreneurship with its challenges and lessons, and redefine what it means to achieve success. By referencing powerful stories from the Bible and the TV series "The Chosen," we explore the importance of perseverance and character development. It's not about seeking the easy path but about growing emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Through real-life examples, we encourage you to find inspiration in imperfect paths, showing up as your best self despite fears or imperfections. Let these stories propel you to embrace hard work and personal growth, pushing through obstacles without making excuses.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Reflecting on past successes helps us recognize that our journey is not confined to a single year but rather a culmination of experiences that shape our lives. By pacing ourselves and celebrating even the smallest victories, we can approach 2025 with intention, embracing our capacities and understanding that true leadership revolves around positively impacting future generations. • Celebrating growth over resolutions • Shifting focus from years to a lifelong journey • Embracing grace over grind in goal-setting • Understanding the importance of pacing and purpose • Connecting creativity and childlike wonder to success • Building a movement rather than just a business • Recognizing the impact of leadership on larger change

Id love to hear from you! -chels What if the journey of building and rebuilding never truly ends? That's the question I grappled with during a transformative meeting with my business coach in Austin. Inspired by that encounter, I embarked on a significant overhaul of my business strategy, realizing that every step in life, whether in entrepreneurship or personal growth, is part of an ongoing reconstruction process. In this episode, we explore the potent mix of fear and hope that accompanies new opportunities, the courage required to face failure, and the evolution of our identities as we transition through life's stages—be it shifting from a partying lifestyle to embracing self-help and goal setting. Next, we dig into the concept of failure, not as an endpoint but as a stepping stone for future success. By openly sharing my own experiences of criticism and self-doubt, I encourage a mindset shift towards resilience and self-trust. Through personal anecdotes, we emphasize how embracing failure can unlock new avenues for personal and professional development. From the challenges of sudden fame to the intricacies of evolving leadership, this episode provides insights on maintaining a solid foundation amid life's unpredictable nature, preparing you for breakthroughs while highlighting the importance of patience and readiness. Finally, we tie it all together with the metaphor of a fixer-upper, likening personal and career growth to renovating a structure that requires sturdy foundations before scaling up. Personal stories of overcoming setbacks, like betrayal and negative talk, illustrate the power of resilience and the confidence that comes from adversity. As 2024 approaches, we challenge you to reflect on your own growth journey. Are you proud of the person you're becoming? Join us for a candid discussion on handling challenges, embracing success, and crafting an identity that thrives in the face of obstacles.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Struggling with imposter syndrome and wondering if authenticity really matters? You're not alone. I recently faced a creative block with Built Not Born, wrestling with the challenging balance of staying true to myself while fearing the loss of listeners. This episode uncovers my journey in aligning the podcast with my personal vision and faith, confronting the raw insecurities that imposter syndrome often conceals. We discuss the courage needed to express personal faith publicly, and how embracing vulnerability can actually strengthen your sphere of influence. Moving through the maze of self-doubt, I share insights on the importance of recognizing and confronting these fears. Formal education doesn’t define your credibility, especially in entrepreneurship where personal growth and authenticity can speak volumes. The conversation reveals actionable strategies to build self-worth and nurture self-belief, inviting you to appreciate your unique journey and break free from societal pressures. By questioning the roots of our insecurities, we learn how authenticity helps us overcome these personal hurdles. Finally, the episode encourages you to honor your body's needs and set boundaries as a path to true contentment. From challenging diet culture's impact to celebrating personal achievements, the focus is on self-acceptance and authenticity. I share a heartwarming story about raising funds for a church donation, illustrating the power of embracing who you truly are. This authentic journey brings a vital reminder: true success stems from valuing your personal milestones and being genuinely yourself, without the weight of comparison.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Have you ever wondered how subtle childhood influences shape our perceptions of gender and race? Join me, Chelsea Tansey, on Built Not Born as we confront the online trend where individuals from all genders undermine each other, exacerbating systemic sexism rather than fostering connection. By sharing my own experiences and acknowledging the privileges and biases we all carry, we aim to encourage understanding and challenge the harmful narratives that prevent true equality. Together, we explore how recognizing and overcoming these ingrained biases can lead to a more empathetic society. Throughout this episode, we unravel the complex web of patriarchy's impact on both men and women, emphasizing that its constraints serve neither gender well. By highlighting the pressures men face to conform to rigid roles, we advocate for safer spaces where they can express emotions freely, leading to healthier relationships. This isn’t about blaming one gender; it’s about realizing that trauma and shame are universal, and healing comes from personal accountability. By offering empathy and support, we inspire listeners to rewrite their narratives and embrace the humanity in each other. We also take a critical look at cancel culture and the effects of shaming, exploring how these practices hinder growth and perpetuate division. Through this conversation, we stress the importance of distinguishing between shame and guilt and how respecting individuality fosters healthier connections. Join me in reflecting on the privilege and gratitude of being a woman today, and the role empathy plays in supporting the men in our lives. Together, let's work towards nurturing a more unified and compassionate world for all genders.

Id love to hear from you! -chels Imagine waking up after an unexpected nap, feeling invigorated and ready to conquer the world. That's the kind of energy I discovered through the power of rest and laughter, and in this episode of Built Not Born, I share how these simple acts can truly transform our lives. From waking up refreshed to the joyous experience of laughing until your sides hurt while watching "Elf," I delve into the significance of embracing these moments to lift our spirits and drive our success. Let's reconnect with these simple joys and explore their profound impact on our daily lives. Reflecting on my past, I recount the many holiday seasons I spent without family, where the generosity of strangers and church communities shaped my journey. These acts of kindness were a beacon during my challenging times, inspiring me to focus on giving back, especially to foster children who share similar struggles. By looking back on these experiences, I aim to inspire others to contribute to their communities and offer the kind of support that can make a meaningful difference in someone's life. Join me as I share my vision for fostering generosity and compassion, inspired by Victory Church’s impactful work. This holiday season, I'm planning a fundraiser to provide essential gifts to families in need, and I invite you to be part of this movement. Every contribution, no matter how small, can have a significant impact. We'll explore how embracing a spirit of giving not only changes lives but also enriches our own, urging everyone, especially coaches, to incorporate generosity into their daily practices. Let's transform our communities through kindness and support, fostering a more compassionate world.