HOW MY PARENTS RAISED ME

This week on the HEAL blog 3 Ways To Stop A Fight. Melissa Lyon West personifies strength and resilience like no other. From a young age, she was entangled in a cult, dominated by her father's controlling influence. Up until she turned thirty, every aspect of Melissa's life was dictated by strict rules. There was no room for personal choice in this cloistered environment where men held all the power, and women were relegated to a subservient role. However, a series of events gradually chipped away at the foundation of her beliefs, leading Melissa to question the life she had been forced to lead. The turning point came when she boldly declared, "I'm not going to lie anymore." That single decision marked the beginning of her quest for truth, the catalyst for her healing journey. With unwavering determination, Melissa embarked on a path to freedom, breaking free from the shackles of the cult's control. Every step she took brought her closer to reclaiming her autonomy, as she refused to be bound by oppressive rules any longer. Now, our story finds Melissa at a pivotal moment in her life. Having endured a lifetime of conformity, she stands firm in her decision to sever ties with the cult once and for all. No longer willing to be part of something that stifles her spirit, Melissa takes a courageous stand and embraces her newfound freedom. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss How To Stop A Fight: 3 Strategies For Conflict Resolution. Bekki's upbringing unfolded within the walls of a toxic household. Her mother's highly toxic behavior, coupled with her father's abusive and intimidating nature, created a volatile environment where Bekki and her siblings fought to survive. Tragically, Bekki often found herself on the receiving end of her mother's abuse, leaving her bewildered, traumatized, and fearful from a very young age. Despite the challenges, Bekki took on the role of protector, doing her best to shield her mother from her father's abuse. Yet, at any given moment, her mother could turn on her, leaving Bekki devastated. Toxicity inevitably permeated the entire family unit, as everyone lived in survival mode. Becky endured immensely difficult times and embarked on a long journey of healing, to understand the events that had shaped her life. In this episode, Bekki generously shares her experiences, insights, and lessons learned, offering a profound opportunity for those on their healing journey to find solace, understanding, and hope. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 8 Crucial Reasons You Should Take A Mental Health Day The reason you don’t feel happy is because you’re living your life to please other people. Growing up in chaotic and traumatic environments conditions us to prioritise pleasing others as a means of ensuring our own safety. However, choosing to live life on your own terms is the most empowering decision you will ever make. In this quick chat episode Michael Unbroken discusses his journey of breaking the cycle of chaos within his family and embracing a life that aligns with his true self. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 8 Crucial Reasons You Should Take A Mental Health Day Barbara Lane believes the most important factor to the continuation of child abuse, is secrecy. From a very young age we are taught to keep secrets. We are silenced and we are shamed. It is generational. Barbara’s story is extraordinary and she is determined to tell it so that others might have a different experience. One of eleven sisters, Barbara’s mom simply walked out one day and never came back. Barbara was three years old and she remembers the love and deep care her sisters gave her in the orphanage. She remembered that love and care throughout all the years she lived in a foster home filled with abuse and despair. You can find Barbara at her website Barbara's book Broken Water is available here If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Generational trauma On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 3 Steps To Heal From Devastating Childhood Neglect. In this quick chat episode we are looking at how trauma is passed down your family line. Whatever has happened to your parents, your grandparents and beyond can have a huge impact on your life simply as a result of what is shared within that family line. Systemic Theory looks at the family system as a whole and how this affects you today. My guest is Johanna Lynn, and she works in the field of epigenetics. Johanna explains that whilst we might be born with trauma from past generations, it doesn’t belong to us. Johanna is amazing! You can find her at https://johannalynn.ca/ and on instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefamilyimprint_institute/ If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am worthless On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 3 Steps To Heal From Devastating Childhood Neglect. From her earliest memories Victoria felt worthless. Her brothers and sisters were significantly older and the messages she got growing up were ‘we don’t want you’. At school Victoria was bullied and rejected. Such was her lack of self worth, Victoria never looked in the mirror because she didn’t like what she saw. As an adult, Victoria believed that if she achieved all the award and accolades, she was worthy, but there were years of depression and finally, Victoria found herself sitting on the end of her bed with a bottle of pills. How did Victoria turn her life around? This is Victoria’s journey from hopelessness to living a full and incredible life. Victoria is now The Heart Healer and she is helping women find their self worth. You can find Victoria Finch The Heart Healer on her WEBSITE and on Instagram HERE⁠ If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Toxic mother On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Five Steps To Break Free Of Generational Family Patterns Alex Scott is a Narcissistic Abuse Healing Coach. She knows first hand what growing up with a narcissistic mother is like and how that relationship can lead to adult relationships with narcissists, because the abuse is familiar and normal. In this quick chat episode, Alex shares the signs your parent was narcissistic and includes her own experiences of growing up with a narcissistic parent. You can find Alex Scott on INSTAGRAM and via her WEBSITE. ⁠ If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Self love On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Five Steps To Break Free Of Generational Family Patterns Dr Heather Browne's Mom had Schizophrenia. She was a truly magical woman, but she was also deeply unable to cope. Heather cared for her Mom in a way nobody else could, and when Heather's Mom took her own life, Heather was hurting and in such deep pain, she knew she needed to find the strength to move on, she just needed to figure out how. It was dark times and it was hard, and Heather learnt so much on that journey. Heather is now known as the Reframe Queen of Orange County, because she has a gift for looking at a situation and finding the possibility for growth and change. You can find Dr Heather Browne at her ⁠WEBSITE⁠ If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Am The Scapegoat On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss HOW I HEALED FROM DEPRESSION: 5 TIPS TO DEEPLY SUPPORT YOUR HEALING It usually only takes one toxic parent to change the entire dynamic of a family. One toxic parent means everyone in the family is scrambling to be in the good books. Nobody wants to be the scapegoat. Nobody wants the entire family turned against them. In this quick chat episode Bailey is talking about how living in fear led to telling a lot of lies in order to stay safe. How she felt so alone and in so much pain from a very young age and how all of her siblings were turned against her. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Teen trauma On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss HOW I HEALED FROM DEPRESSION: 5 TIPS TO DEEPLY SUPPORT YOUR HEALING Do you remember being a teen? For many of us, it was a tough time. You're no longer a kid and you are not an adult either. Our culture has us believe that teens are trouble, but in reality a teen's brain is wired to start to individuate. We are not supposed to follow our parents and do as they say forever. Teens are meant to question, change and grow. Teen Coach Lainie Liberti, works with teens to help them have a better experience than she did. Lainie’s mom was narcissistic and her teen years were filled with anger, loneliness and self sabotaging behaviours. We are left with so many deeply limiting beliefs about ourselves from childhood and Lainie wants us to understand it is totally possible to reprogram those limiting beliefs and heal the generational wounds that have been passed down to us. Meet Lainie Liberti, Teen Mentor, Confidence Coach, Community Builder. You can find Lainie at her WEBSITE If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gaslighting and manipulation On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss FIVE SIGNS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY Adriana's narcissistic mother was abusive, toxic and abandoning and kept Adriana in a tiny world with very few outside connections. Adriana describes herself as a pawn baby and was used in a game by her mom to manipulate her Dad. When Adriana finally decided to leave it took more than one attempt because the manipulation and gaslighting were in full force. Adriana is now creating beautiful healing spaces for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse. You can find Adriana on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/letsgetyourshifttogether/ and please checkout her online community here https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/ If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Finding love after trauma. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 5 SIGNS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY Lynetta and Mark are the Soul Mate Coaches. Both have had significant trauma in their lives and both have struggled in previous relationships. By the time these two met, they had both done years of healing and work on themselves and they now had the tools to create an incredible soul mate relationship. So much of what Lynetta and Mark are sharing will resonate with your own relationships and they are sharing plenty of tips around how to do your relationships better. The Soul Mate Coaches are helping people like you to find their Soul Mate by helping you heal the triggers, stories and trauma that are holding you Do The Worback. You can find the Soul Mate Coaches via their ⁠WEBSITE⁠ and purchase Lynetta's book Do The Work, Five Steps To Transcend Trauma HERE. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 9 FACTS If you struggle with setting boundaries, people pleasing or putting yourself first, your core belief is "I am not enough just as I am" and that belief affects your friendships and relationships too! How your parents modelled relationships for you affects how you form bonds, what you will accept from your friends and your ability to have balanced relationships. My guest is author, blogger and therapist Erin Falconer. Erin Falconer is the author of How To Break Up With Your Friends. You can find her HERE. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How I became an alcoholic On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 9 FACTS In Part 2 of Dr Constance Scharff's story we hear about her incredible road to recovery. Please listen to Part 1 first to understand the full story. Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood that alcohol would negate her need to feel anything. By the time she was in college, Constance was drinking two litres of hard liquor a day. She believed at this point she didn’t have long to live and friends said she would not make it through her twenties. As a small child, Constance was abandoned and uncared for. She was lost in a family who did not protect her or keep her safe. She believed she drank because she was scared of her father, but when her father died, she realised she couldn’t stop. Dr Constance Scharff is the Founder of the Institute for Complementary and Indigenous Mental Health Research, an author and speaker and since becoming sober 25 years ago, she is passionate about the topics of addiction, recovery, mental health and sharing her story. You can find Dr Constance Scharff on her ⁠WEBSITE ⁠and on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ You can find her ⁠BOOKS HERE⁠. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What helps heal emotional trauma? On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss FIVE STEPS TO HEAL YOUR INNER CHILD What are the key steps to heal your emotional trauma? Melany Oliver grew up with a narcissistic mother. Her basic needs were met, but she received no love, and there were years of abuse. Melany was traumatised and she searched endlessly for how to heal. It wasn't until she got to the heart of her emotional wounding that she was really able to turn her life around. Melany Oliver is an Emotional Healing Coach and she will lead you back to truth, love and healing. You can find Melany on Instagram or Linktree If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How I became an alcoholic On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss FIVE STEPS TO HEAL YOUR INNER CHILD Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood that alcohol would negate her need to feel anything. By the time she was in college, Constance was drinking two litres of hard liquor a day. She believed at this point she didn’t have long to live and friends said she would not make it through her twenties. As a small child, Constance was abandoned and uncared for. She was lost in a family who did not protect her or keep her safe. She believed she drank because she was scared of her father, but when her father died, she realised she couldn’t stop. Dr Constance Scharff is the Founder of the Institute for Complementary and Indigenous Mental Health Research, an author and speaker and since becoming sober 25 years ago, she is passionate about the topics of addiction, recovery, mental health and sharing her story. You can find Dr Constance Scharff on her WEBSITE and on INSTAGRAM You can find her BOOKS HERE. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Childhood grooming On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma. What does child grooming look like? Jan Broberg was just twelve years old when she was abducted by a friend of the family. Her abductor's entire life revolved around planning and executing this kidnapping. He manipulated everybody... Jan, her family, her sisters, the church community. They all believed he was a good guy. But he was a sociopath and he went to extreme lengths to achieve what he set out to do, groom a child to sexually abuse her. One in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually assaulted by someone who is familiar to them. These are terrifying statistics and it is the reason Jan continues to share her story to bring awareness to how deeply manipulative and easily missed this abuse can be. Hear the full story in Jan's book The Jan Broberg Story and her podcast The Jan Broberg Show. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am not good enough Enter the draw to win a copy of Jana Wilson's book Wise Little One by signing up to the HEAL Newsletter HERE. If you are already signed up, send us an email with the heading Jana Wilson Book Draw HERE to enter. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma. Jana's trauma began in the womb. Her father would beat her mother as Jana grew inside. As a newborn, the trauma continued for Jana as her very young mother was unable to feed her. In fact, Jana would go on to tick all 10 boxes on the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, a measure of trauma in childhood. But a life changing, out-of-body experience at age twelve gave Jana an incredible insight. In that moment she found her voice and spoke up for the very first time. She found an understanding into why she was here and who her parents really were. Jana has spent a lifetime learning how to heal herself so that she can teach others how to heal and everything she shares is deeply valuable. Jana is the author of Wise Little One, her story of healing from childhood trauma. You can find Jana's book HERE. You can connect with Jana via her website or on Instagram. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don't want kids. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Mandy was a little girl lost. She went through more trauma than most humans will ever understand. And Mandy decided that because of her own experiences she would never have kids of her own. But at some point this changed and Mandy had two children who she adored. But despite years and years of sitting in talk therapy, raising her own children meant deeply held trauma reared its ugly head and Mandy was devastated. She felt triggered, angry and at times, out of control. That’s when Mandy discovered somatic healing and began her journey of healing trauma through the body. If talk therapy has only taken you so far on your healing journey you need to hear what Mandy is sharing. You can find Mandy on Instagram Facebook and her Website. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do I feel less than? On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Christina grew up in a good family. They loved each other and she was cared for. But as the middle child, Christina never felt good enough. Her older sister was the golden child and her brother was the exceptional younger child. Her siblings seemed to excel at life and yet nobody placed any expectation on Christina who was struggling with undiagnosed ADHD. Christina's family were deep into the church and believed following all the rules made them good people. Meanwhile Christina felt like a prisoner inside her own head. Even her thoughts felt unsafe in a religious environment where there were rules around what you were allowed to think. There are so many reasons we feel less than and this story shares how Christina overcame hers. Christina is a Certified Life and Energy Coach, Specializing in Self Relationship. You can find Christina's website HERE ⁠and she is on instagram HERE If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject ⁠⁠or send an email to ⁠⁠bigloveproject@iinet.net.au⁠⁠. I would LOVE! to connect with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.