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Hi beautiful people! Today’s episode is a bittersweet one, I’m announcing that I’m putting the podcast on hold. I’m not sure if it’s for now or if it’s forever but I know that it feels right to stop recording episodes for the time being. I’ve loved having the podcast for the last couple years & I’m so grateful to all of you angels who listen weekly. I’ve loved hearing from you and even meeting some of you in person. I’m turning my attention now to my membership called Womanhood. So if you still want to hear from me weekly on a more intimate level, I’m inviting you to join us over there! It’s a beautiful space to share, to connect, and to grow surrounded by women on a similar journey as you. I’m so excited for this space. For more information, click the link below: https://www.kelleymbode.com/womanhood Sending you all SO much love & I hope to see you inside the membership. Xo, Kelley

Apply for 1:1 Coaching Here: https://form.typeform.com/to/LoReHh2i Dating for Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love Free Date Like a Goddess Workshop: https://www.kelleymbode.com/ Hey babes! On this week's episode, we have another podcast coaching session! This time we are diving into some somatic healing and moving old stories and protective mechanisms that are stopping Claire from experiencing the love she wants. This episode is a great listen for single women or for any woman who finds herself continually frustrated with men and shutting down around them. Can’t wait to hear what you get out of listening to this one! Sending lots of love, Kelley

Today’s episode is all about Bali! Living here, traveling here, why I’m here & more! I’ve gotten a lot of messages from you guys on social media asking about Bali so I decided to dedicate a podcast to it! Before I lived here, I met an American guy who lived here full time and I was PERPLEXED! So I really get that there can be a lot of questions about it. Now that I’ve lived here for 3 years, it feels so normal! I love living in Bali & it comes with its downsides as well - like any place! I’m excited to hear what you get out of listening to this episode! Xo, Kelley P.S. If you want to be coached by me and ask questions about relationships & dating live: I have a Q+A session coming up next week! Click the link below to check out all the details and sign up to join us: https://www.kelleymbode.com/offers/sfzX3Qru/checkout

In a new series of coaching sessions, Kelley sits down with her first guest, Olivia, to discuss situationships, compromise, the process of connecting to your feminine energy and sticking with your truth. Olivia’s vulnerability in this episode is sure to help anyone in a similar situation who may be struggling to find a balance between compromising with a potential partner or staying true to yourself and following your desires. Join Kelley and Olivia in a raw discussion where they dissect Olivia’s feminine and masculine traits and where these may be causing a disconnect and gain clarity and new perspectives about herself and her relationship. More from this episode: Letting go of the super independent, self-sufficient role and embracing your feminine where you let your partner lead insteadHow to deal with confusing emotions like being totally uninterested in dating to becoming completely infatuated with someoneHow we should always strive to find happiness and joy within ourselves and not through our partners or other external sourcesHow to navigate the common trap of looking for your partner to be in his masculine so you can then be in your femininePracticing feeling your feelings through journaling, meditation, being present and moreHow being willing to get in touch with your desire and hold that vision is an important part of being in your feminine Connect with Kelley: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Nobody’s sexuality looks the same so why are we so afraid to talk about it? Sex and self-pleasure are those topics that everyone’s so curious about but no one wants to be the first to put themselves out there in case their experience isn’t like everyone else’s. But that’s just the thing, you define what your pleasure looks like, so you can never be wrong! Today’s episode is honoring self-pleasure with Carli Jo Cabrera, a speaker, author and Self-Pleasure guide. Kelley and Carli leave no stone unturned in their discussion about how not talking about sex and self-pleasure can make addressing the hiccups in our sex lives that much more difficult. Carli also breaks down one of her self-pleasure sessions and shares how giving yourself permission in sex translates into permission everywhere. More from today’s episode: How Carli dealt with meeting the perfect person but having a sex life that just felt “off”The essential differences between masturbation and self-pleasureThe importance of communication especially in those moments when we don’t feel 100% in the mood to have sexSisterhood is so important! Having that one conversation with a friend about our sex lives can literally change our lives and perspectives on sex and pleasureHow permission is at the root of a healthy, turned on relationship with our partners and ourselves Connect with Carli: The Pleasure Portal: Free Community - carlijo.mn.co The Membership, 1 month free - https://carlijo.mn.co/plans/265293?bundle_token=98c7ee45f6089fa0197a03868cf53c48&utm_source=manual Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

You’re in for a treat today! I have an incredibly real and in-depth conversation with my guest Sam Orman where we dive deeper than ever into conversations about wanting acceptance from our parents, exploring the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in gay relationships, and all the details from my shaved head butch lesbian days! Our conversation is a full and beautiful one where we exchange stories about coming out where Sam had to navigate a strong religious upbringing where purity was at the forefront of everything, and where I was still trying to find myself and battling external validation. Sam opens up about giving up his need for acceptance from his mom and finding something even more real underneath, all of our needs to be accepted by ourselves and to simply be happy. What else we talk about: How we can either choose to have a relationship with someone or we can be rightHow Sam’s Unification Church upbringing encouraged him not to demonize others for their views even if they directly contradict his being How the path to acceptance is an attempt to change each other when we really should be striving to find what’s underneath that need for acceptanceThe power of giving up the need to be right (you’ll be surprised how much your relationships can shift after doing this!)Reminding ourselves that our power doesn’t live inside of someone else’s worthiness!Finding my natural state in femininity and my personal journey with my sexualityHow Sam practices being led by desire on dates and candidly asks for what he wants (e.g. sitting in silence with someone) How fluidity in relationships can teach us so much about love and ourselves Connect with Sam: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

After some long, deep and meaningful discussions, Matt and I have decided to commit to a new level of growth in our relationship by talking about getting engaged, getting married and having children. This week I wanted to bring Matt on the podcast to discuss the next phase in our relationship with all the bumps and triggers along the way. Of course we get into the fun, juicy details like the process of buying my engagement ring together and how our cats have literally changed our lives and but we also dive deep into how both of our perceptions of marriage and having kids have wildly changed since being together and the pressures of planning a wedding. What else we talk about: How I never thought I’d be the maternal mothering type but now I seem to be thinking about nothing else other than caring for my future childrenMatt’s previous views on marriage and how he’s come to really admire the commitment aspect of getting marriedHow men are extremely aware of when they aren’t able to support their partners or families and how this can lead to a lot of shameAvoiding a potentially very expensive mistake by agreeing that I pick out the ring!Juggling running a business and providing for a family simultaneously and our expectations for managing this togetherSharing the things we’re most excited about in starting this new chapter of our lives together My 2-week program Open to Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/open-to-love Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hiii everyone! It’s a new year and I am so excited to be back on the podcast, I missed you all so much. I thought it would be great to start off the new year with a Q+A about relationships, feminine energy, personal responsibility and all the juiciness in between. Your questions are so potent we tackle a lot in this one including how human connection is so intricate and necessary to our existence but how it’s still important to make sure you can be happy on your own; creating new relationships with men if you’re struggling with a past trauma wound (even letting the guy at the grocery store carry your bags is a start!) and asking men for what you need in a way that makes them actually hear you. And so so much more. What else I talk about: My experiences ring shopping with Matt!How to help a man with his masculine energy (clue: there’s no actual “helping” involved)How I created a healthy relationship with men after making some huge realizations about the men from my past including my dadMy reasons why I don't believe in “low-quality men” or casual relationships My physical health and long hair journey (all natural, all the time)How terrifying it can be to walk away from something that doesn’t align with you or give you joy anymore but how incredibly amazing it feels after confronting thatAsking for what you want in a feminine vs masculine way and the outcomes of bothSeeking out quality relationships with men and the attributes I appreciate in a man Apply to be coached on the podcast: https://form.typeform.com/to/hBTemuTz Apply to work together 1:1: https://form.typeform.com/to/LoReHh2i?typeform-source=www.kelleymbode.com Date Like a Goddess Workshop: https://www.kelleymbode.com/date-like-a-goddess Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

We all know that money is one of the most common reasons for conflict in relationships, but how can we get a handle on it from the first date? Today I’m diving into the male perspective so us ladies can get some REAL clarity on the age-old question, who should pay for the date? I’m joined by my guest Nathan Lang, a fitness trainer and coach who lays it all out on the table, feelings and all. Nathan describes his dating experiences and how he manages expectations when it comes to paying for his dates. We discuss how this small question can actually have huge impacts on the future of our relationships that can either lead to a better ability to have those harder conversations and more intimacy or a build-up of resentment and conflict. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: How men should also get to receive the gratification and enjoyment of letting the other person pay for a dateHow to navigate the often awkward moment of when the check hits the table!That the decisions you make in that moment of offering or not offering to pay can give you insight into how the rest of the relationship will play out and all of its dynamicsHow constantly fighting to hear our own perspectives can disrupt the flow of a connection Some insider knowledge on how men actually feel when women pay for the dateDo the dance! Offering then accepting makes men want to do it even more and show up for you as a manThe damage the “Independent Woman” stereotype can often cause early on in dating and relationshipsHow being willing to lean into the discomfort can lead to satisfying rewards like being truly seen, attracting the right person and a much deeper relationship Connect with Nathan: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebalibootyguy/ The Wanderlust Gym: http://wanderlustfitnessvillage.com/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Elaina’s on the podcast!! I absolutely loved speaking with Elaina today about her insanely successful business, how she managed to draw in the perfect man and a whole lot about business strategy, visualizing your desires and reaching for the very top. This one is definitely for my business ladies looking for love out there! Elaina Ray is a dear friend of mine, a multiple-figure strategy mentor and business coach who is absolutely killing it in the game right now. In under just 5 years, Elaina has managed to grow her business to 7 figures and is not planning on stopping any time soon. Before the major success though, Elaina opens up to me and shares her difficult situation with money growing up, which hugely impacted her relationship with money. She also tells me how she was single for 9 years before taking on a major shift in doing deeper work on her self-worth, changing her beliefs around her self-image and realizing her orgasmic potential which eventually led her to her wonderfully turned-on relationship with her partner today who, in her words, checks every single box. Our chat is filled with lessons on self-worth and believing that you can reach the very top by telling yourself the story that you can and WILL get there, whether it’s money or love. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: How easy it can be to fall into the trap of otherizing when we can flip the script instead of sticking by the sidelines and saying we’ll never get thereHow Elaina grew her business by making decisions faster and trusting her destiny quickerHow your core energy vibration will let others know how much they should rise to your standardsTelling yourself the story you want to hear that aligns with your desires instead of your fearsHow much money is tied to our worthiness and not allowing it to rule our lives foreverHow Elaina visualized and wrote down all aspects of the type of partner she wanted and is enjoying that very man today!Trusting in your destiny and acting in spite of your circumstancesHow powerful women’s desire is and how we can use that to inspire men to step up and lead the mission from within Connect with Elaina: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyelainaray/ Website: https://elainaray.com/ Elaina’s book ‘Becoming Self-Made’: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1989716717 Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

I’m so excited to have one of my former Dating for Love students here on the podcast this week, Allison Landry! Allison and I talk about what drew her to my course, her beautiful transformation all the way to, you guessed it, the juicy love stories that came afterwards. Allisons shares her struggles with me including how much fear she had around relationships especially dealing with sexual trauma on top of that. We discuss how her lack of trust started to infiltrate all of her relationships and how it stopped her from being vulnerable around people and feeling really closed off from the world. But when you hear her today, you won’t even think she’s the same person. She’s made a complete 180! After completing Dating For Love, Allison has found herself in a polyamorous relationship where she feels safe and loved, goes out on regular dates, and even visits the occasional play party. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: Allison’s biggest takeaways from Dating For Love and how much it’s changed her lifeThat learning how to be compassionate towards men lets us understand their own struggles better and how to be a compassionate partnerHow the incredible self-discovery journey Allison went on allowed her to recognise her unhealthy patterns in relationshipsHow she lets relationships unfold instead of turning away from a lack of instant attractionHow play and kink can unleash bounds of suppression society has latched onto usThat you can receive so much clarity, openness and connection from playing with your partner (or partners!)Her next pursuit of forming deeper platonic relationships and how she plans on forming those connections Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Everything doesn’t become sunshine and roses the minute you heal, it just prepares you for the next level, and if there’s someone who knows all about this it’s my guest and former student of mine Kassi Horn! After our journey of working together, Kassi found that her relationship had run its course and decided to end things. She’s brave enough to share her story with us today and tell us all about her experiences with dipping her toes into the pool of self-discovery before becoming completely encompassed by it all including relishing in sisterhoods and being confronted by her edge over and over again. We also discuss being open to wanting help and support, making space for people in our lives (not just men!), calling attention to our wounds around desire and being receptive to our sisters, even when they tell you things you don’t always want to hear! We also touch on anger and rage and being comfortable using those spaces to access more information about ourselves instead of writing them off completely. Kassi and I wrap up our beautiful conversation with religion and how we can practice being spiritual without feeling stifled by others’ perceptions. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: Recognizing when things aren’t in alignment and seeing them as positive realities instead of opportunities to put ourselves downCalling attention to our wounds, especially the ones around desireThat sometimes separation is good and we need it to get back to ourselvesBeing part of a sisterhood is such an eye-opening experience that lets your wounds and the parts of yourself that need attention show up a LOT more clearlyThe outcomes of taking the step to show up for yourself (they’re really good!)The idea of letting go of the independent protective amour and softening the hard shell of independence Connect with Kassi: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/call.me.kass/ Sanctuary Retreat: https://sanctuaryretreat.my.canva.site/ Desire on Fire Experience: https://kelleybode220.krtra.com/t/IRwhQ7U1Mla4 Use code ‘FRIEND’ for $195 off at checkout Join The Goddess Within: https://www.kelleymbode.com/the-goddess-within Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Ladies! You’re gonna need a notebook for this one. We’re holding up a magnifying glass to every question you’ve ever had about birth control and your menstrual cycle from why you feel fine one day and crying over something someone said 5 years ago the next to how much damage birth control really does to us. We’re talking hormones, biology, menstrual phases, chocolate cravings, all of it. My wonderful guest this week, Pauline Gisele is a hormone cycle researcher and educator who after her own year-long battle with depression as a result of coming off birth control after 10 years felt called to help other women all over the world get rid of PMS, optimize their fertility, and regulate their cycles. We talk about all the different ways birth control suppresses our bodies, creates a disconnect from our brain to our ovaries all the way down to it having a HUGE impact on how we choose our partners. It even changes our sense of smell. Did you know that? I didn’t! In the same ways that sometimes trauma can choose our partners for us, our cycle does almost the exact same thing, so we’re covering every single phase so you’re clued up on why the couch and a good bit of chocolate become irresistible at least once a month. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: How we attract different types of men depending on which phase of our cycle we’re inThat symptoms of PMS and PMDD are actually abnormal and a sign from our bodies that something is wrongHow hormones affect every single thing in our lives from our thoughts and emotions to the decisions and partners we chooseThe behaviors associated with each menstrual phase (there’s a reason you want to organize your entire life every month!)How having a better understanding of our cycle can help us better understand ourselves and encourage more self-love and self-compassion Two essential things we need to control to balance our hormones especially after coming off of birth controlHow low moods and feelings of depression during our cycles is really just a drop in estrogen. It’s all biology, we’re totally normal!How we as women are so predictable and there is nothing shameful about that Connect with Pauline: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulinegisele/ Website: https://balanceyourcycle.com/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

You may want to gear up for this episode because this week we’re tackling alllll the triggers. My incredible guest Lorin Krenn and I are uncovering feminine and masculine wounds, generational trauma and everything wrong with saying ‘All men are trash’. A tough pill to swallow, I know. Lorin is a Masculine and Feminine Polarity Teacher who’s worked all over the world helping people experience deep intimacy with his provocative style and down-to-earth approach. We have such a beautiful conversation about how Lorin found his calling in coaching through meditations and reflections, we discuss the countless nuances of polarity in relationships and how they come into play during almost every interaction and Lorin shares his profound perspectives on what he calls the ‘embodiment of universal intelligence’ stored within each of us as women. We also tackle a little biology and discuss the chaos (the good kind) of feminine energy and how generational trauma can affect each of us even if we had relatively good relationships with our parents. Where does it come from? How do trauma and conditioning show up in our relationships? How can we release our pain and fears towards the opposite sex in the healthiest ways possible? It’s all asked and answered. WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: What the feminine oracle is and how to connect to it to deepen our connections to ourselves and our partnersWhy men showing up with integrity makes us trust them moreExploring your true hunger for growthThe differences between the awakened man and the awakened woman and why knowing these differences is integral to your growth as a coupleThrowing away the idea of fitting into a box and ensuring we are being our true authentic selvesHow we shouldn’t be afraid to explore our dark feminine selves and trust that our partners will know how to handle itWhere the playboy/womanizer archetype comes from (it’s all gonna click into place once you hear this one) Connect with Lorin: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorinkrenn/ Website: https://www.lorinkrenn.com/ Healing the Father Wound Workshop: https://www.lorinkrenn.com/trainings/healing-the-father-wound/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

https://www.kelleymbode.com/offers/cANQWuAL/checkout We’re diving into motherhood, womanhood and all things personal growth this week as I chat with a former Dating for Love student of mine, Caitlin Lili! Caitlin since taking my course and completely transforming her life is now a coach who helps other moms like herself embody their radiance and trust their inner knowing, something she used to really struggle with. Caitlin shares what she learned from the program and how much it has impacted her relationships with men, all the way down to accepting help and compliments on the street and recognizing that all men really want to do is love us and shower us with affection. Who wouldn’t want to get in on a piece of that! She also tells me how her life took a major perspective shift by looking at her requirements for men and dating by turning them into feelings instead and dating outside of her usual preferences. She learned sooo much from just this and I can’t wait for you to hear all about it! Caitlin and I also discuss the relationship between motherhood and womanhood and how we should never be ashamed to claim our sexual needs and wants as a woman just because we’re mothers. In the wise words of Caitlin “being a mom doesn't mean you don't wanna be f*cked!”. We reclaiming sexuality, freedom and trusting your inner knowing all while being the best mother you can be in this one, so moms, this one’s for you! WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT: All of the incredible knowledge and tools Caitlin gained from my Dating for Love course!Unloading her fear of men and learning to accept and receive their attentionRecognizing that love doesn’t always have to be an instant passionate attraction but that love can grow over time into something really beautiful and long-lastingThat regardless of pushback, you should never feel stifled or put down for talking about YOUR truth. It’s yours, you can do whatever you want with itHow Caitlin claimed her desires by recognizing that her persona as a mother and as a woman were completely separateThat putting your needs first doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom and will actually improve your relationship with your kidsThrowing away the idea that men are annoying to ask for sex and intimacy. Isn’t that what we all want as women anyway?How since Caitlin started trusting her inner knowing more her capacity to hold sensations in her body became so much biggerLife doesn’t stop after having children! Connect with Caitlin: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinlili/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Feeling safe is one of the most important foundations of a healthy loving relationship so this week I’m sharing with you some tips and frameworks so you can feel comfortable sharing your deep feelings with your partner in a loving space. I get a ton of comments and messages from people expressing their fear about opening up and sharing deeply or being completely shocked by the idea of sharing their resentments with their partner because they’re so afraid of how it will end. So don’t worry, I got you covered this week. I talk about the power of writing down our feelings to make us have an objective perspective on a situation, removing shame from being open about our feelings and I touch on one of my BIGGEST philosophies in relationships which is all about holding that mirror up to yourself. WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT: A step-by-step framework to help you feel your feelings and express your thoughts calmly and thoughtfullyRecognizing your blindspots, where you took part in a situation and being able to take personal responsibilityHow safety is more than a foundation and needs to be present in ALL of our relationshipsHow these frameworks can be used for anyone in our lives not just our romantic partners How we must do some internal growth and perspective work and can’t look to others to make us feel safe in our relationshipsThe importance of outside support from coaches, friends or family after you’ve done some introspective work Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi everyone! I’m dropping in this week with a quick chat on something you’ve all been really wanting a deeper discussion about and that is being vulnerable with your partner. What does it really take to be vulnerable with your partner? What are some of the warning signs that you may be struggling with vulnerability in your relationship and may not even know it? And a big one, what does personal responsibility have to do with all this? Hint: A LOT! I’m tackling it all and so much more including the mirror effect that’s present in all relationships, working with vulnerability alongside staying true to your feminine energy and why so many of us struggle with feeling unseen in our relationships. WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT: What it means when you feel resentment over your partner not being vulnerable with youThe importance of personal responsibility and how you could be projecting your own fears into the relationshipHow taking ownership of your power and impact is a really fundamental and sexy attribute to haveThat struggling with vulnerability in your relationship may be a sign that something needs addressing within youThe illusion that lying and keeping our needs and wants to ourselves cultivates a peaceful relationshipThat initiating conversation and being vulnerable about your needs is still a way of being in your feminine energy and is actually a beautiful way to express your femininity Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Relationship Check-in Workshop: https://www.kelleymbode.com/relationship-check-In-masterclass Foundations of Love Course: https://www.mattcama.com/foundations-of-love I’m so excited to have my wonderful boyfriend on the podcast this week to indulge with me on all things relationships, love languages, being grateful, intimacy and lots more. Matt tells me about his recent trip to Australia to visit family, which sparks a discussion on what it really means if you’re the person who always feels the urge to help and save people, and how sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is letting them figure it out their dark paths on their own. We also have an open and touching talk on all the things we’ve been grateful for and loved in our relationship recently including our sex and intimacy levels, the fun things we have in store and super excited about for our future, LOTS of adorable kitten talk and give space for both our lowlights and highlights of the past month. WHAT ELSE WE TALK ABOUT: Practicing gratefulness and appreciation for one another and the love we have when someone practices our love language even without knowing it Lots of cats and kitten talk including predicting when our cat will give birth and how the entire experience is a great opportunity to sense what having children will be likeHow hypervigilance can stem from a lack of trust in a relationship or a result of childhood experiencesWhat it means when we try to control each other and the story we tell ourselves that causes these outburstsHow sometimes you have to sit in darker spots and be depressed in order to learn valuable lessonsHow scheduling intimacy and date nights remind us to prioritize our relationship and doesn’t always mean sex but sometimes just physical touch or spending intentional time togetherDebunking the myth that a relationship can’t be hot and spontaneous if intimacy and sex are scheduled Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

In today’s episode, I’m going solo to answer a popular question I get on Instagram and give you full insight into how confronting conflict can offer you ultimate freedom in every area of your life. I’m uncovering all the layers in this one including where your fear of conflict may have stemmed from, how you responded to conflict as a child and the impacts that has now, the reasons why you may fear or totally avoid conflict and sooo much more. I unravel my own conflicts from the past starting with the very first with a high school boyfriend and all the ways in which my unstable upbringing and approach to conflict at home had a major impact on how I dealt with it and many more situations following until I found a framework that encouraged me to face my fears and be my true authentic self. I also discuss the major blocks that form from avoiding issues with conflict and how ignoring these blocks can stop you from reaching your full potential and achieving your biggest dreams in life. What truly is the best way to deal with conflict? Tune in to hear the answer once and for all! WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT: How being afraid of conflict is a natural and evolutionary feeling that you shouldn’t be ashamed ofThe REAL reason behind why you don’t feel seen in your relationship (hint: personal responsibility is a must-have quality!)The hard-to-hear truth on what happens when you DON’T heal your issues with conflictMy personal journey with conflict as a child and how I deal with it now as an adultThe two ways to deal with conflict (I’m a big fan of no.2!)How we explain conflict to ourselves as children and take those stories with us into adulthoodHow freeing and fulfilling it is to confront your own inauthenticity with others and working through a framework and support system to break down those barriers to become a better version of yourselfHow being in conflict with your partner is a deeply intimate act and how witnessing each other's anger and hurt can bring you closer togetherThe nuances of boundaries and how to keep our emotional center in balance no matter what is happening around us Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode (Mentioned in ep:) Relationship Check-in: https://www.kelleymbode.com/relationship-check-In-masterclass Foundations of Love: https://www.mattcama.com/foundations-of-love

For today’s episode, I’m joined by Lois McKenzie, founder of marketing agency, Up Club and actually someone who works on my team, as we dive head first into a really important and personal topic for both of us; abortion. In light of the recent news on Roe v Wade, it’s beyond important to start conversations about women’s right to abortion and what the ruling means for millions of women in America. We both open up about our own experiences with abortion while comparing the similarities in dealing with unnecessary guilt, and shame and discuss the differences between getting an abortion in the UK and the US. We tackle the nuances in the pro-life and pro-choice movements and the challenges that those labels can bring, how different our lives would be now and the situations we could have ended up in if we didn’t have access to abortions, and how we believe at the core, that most people are in favor of giving women the right to autonomy over their bodies. WHAT ELSE WE TALK ABOUT: The lack of support for women deciding to have an abortion and wanting more information from real people and real stories How every story is riddled with guilt and shame and ways to counteract and welcome those feelings insteadAcknowledging the privileges and access opportunities that we have that so many other women may not have and how that affects their experiencesHow not leaving space for conversations on abortion can lead to even more separation creating a dangerous Us vs Them dynamic The lack of education among young women on sex, understanding our cycles, protection, pregnancy, relationships, when to recognize abuse and so much moreHow much of an impact it can have on your mental health and how the lack of choice and support can only intensify these strugglesHow Kelley’s first pregnancy ignited her self-growth journey and essentially made her who she is todayLois’ experience with sharing her story on social media and the responses she received (we all have such similar experiences!) Connect with Lois: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loismckenzieee/ Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode