The Uncover YOU podcast

Send a text I’m joined by my friend Pontus for an honest conversation about the pattern many people label “avoidant”—the push–pull between longing for connection and needing space. If you’re the one pulling away, or if you’re on the receiving end of someone creating distance, this episode offers a rare, compassionate look behind the curtain. Pontus shares what it’s like when the body says no and the mind rushes in to build a case: “They’re not right,” “I’m broken,” “This will never work.” Together, we slow it down and uncover what’s underneath: the fear of an inner emotional experience—and the survival strategy of pulling away so you don’t have to feel it. Related episodes: EP 192: 5 Signs of Insecure Attachment (And How to Use Them to Heal) EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? Last spots for the 2026 power journeys: Spain April 12-18 (women) The online programs: Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550) The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

Send us a text Want tangible ways to move from an insecure to a secure attachment? Follow along in my new series! In this first episode, I lay out five signs of insecure attachment and show how each one points toward your power when met with presence. Along the way, I offer a compassionate reframe that builds self-esteem rather than diagnoses it away. We practice separating sensations from narratives, listening to protective parts without letting them run the show, and aligning your inner will so choices feel coherent. This is the groundwork for secure attachment: not a theory, but a felt sense of safety that makes love, play, and honesty possible. If you’re ready to turn insight into embodied change, press play and join this series. Share what lands, send your questions, and help shape the next episodes. Subscribe, leave a review, and pass this along to someone who’s ready to feel safe in love. Mentioned episodes: EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment EP 186: From self-fixing to self-cultivation - a mindset revolution Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? Last spots for the 2026 power journeys: Spain April 12-18 (women) The online programs: Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550) The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

Send us a text An unprocessed wound shows up as control, people-pleasing, blaming or shut-down in relationship situations. It's the spiralling in hurt when you think you don't matter to them. The doubting yourself and your worth. Or what keeps you from letting someone in. The key to healing relationship wounds at the root is to feel what you're most afraid of feeling. But the how is important. Most of us drown in the stories (feeling through our head) or have protection layers that stop us from getting to the bottom layer. In this episode, we look at: Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? 👉 Join the Feel To Heal waitlist — my brand new 21-day training with daily, embodied practices to meet hurt with love, and transform it into secure connection. Last spots for the 2026 power journeys: Mexico January 4-11 (everyone) Spain April 12-18 (women) The online programs: Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550) The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

Send us a text There’s a lot of dating advice out there saying the “right” love should feel calm, steady, and like home. No butterflies. No activation. No intensity. Just safety. But love is not meant to keep you comfortable. Love is disruptive. It opens the rooms inside of you that haven’t been met yet. It asks you to expand, to feel more, to grow. Nervous system regulation isn’t the end goal. It’s the ground you stand on, so you have the capacity to actually live, feel, and love fully. In this episode, we look at attraction as a guide rather than a problem. We debunk the idea that if you feel activated, you must be trauma-bonding or doing something wrong. There is wisdom in what draws you toward someone. The invitation is to learn how to work with it. Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? Subscribe to my 5 free training sessions - listen on any podcast platform Last spots for the 2026 power journeys: Mexico January 4-11 (everyone) Spain April 12-18 (women) The online programs: Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550) The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

Send us a text What happens when you ask your partner for reassurance, comfort, or safety — and instead of bringing you closer, it pushes them away? In this episode, I take you deeper into the classic question from Ep 130, “Is It Me or Them?” We’ll explore why our nervous system reverts to child–parent dynamics in moments of fear, how to recognize when a younger wounded part is activated, and what it looks like to hold yourself instead of making your partner responsible for your sense of safety. Without abandoning your values or settling for crumbs. You’ll walk away with practical insights for discerning between wounds and values, communicating from a mature place, and staying in the relational dojo long enough to turn conflict into intimacy. Check out these related episodes: Ep 130: Is It Me Or Them Ep 187: Jealousy As Wisdom Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in Relationships Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550) The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

Send us a text Have you felt frustrated that certain essential life skills—like feeling your emotions, regulating your nervous system and create connection—weren't taught to you as a child? I've heard this countless times from clients, and I've felt it myself. But what if this perspective is making things heavier than they have to be? In this episode, I invite you into a revolutionary way of viewing your relational growth journey. The evolution of human consciousness isn't something that happened long ago—it's unfolding right now, with you at the cutting edge. There's no "behind" in this journey, only the perfect place you're meant to be right now. Let's put down the heavy burden of feeling inadequate or thinking you should have mastered these skills already. Instead, see yourself as the pioneer in the dojo of life, practicing at the boundaries of what humans have previously known. Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? Registration is open for The Relationship Revolution. My free online dojo starting July 10th. Followed by the Embodied Relationship Academy starting in August. Let's grow together into the relationship leaders we're capable of becoming.

Send us a text What if you could transform jealousy from a shameful reaction into a powerful tool for relationship growth and self mastery? This episode dives into a listener question about navigating jealousy after infidelity and feeling shame about emotional outbursts. Rather than viewing jealousy as problematic, we explore a revolutionary perspective: jealousy as a protective mechanism for your relationship's sacred agreements. Like a dashboard warning light, it signals when energy that belongs in your relationship container is leaking elsewhere. When working with intense jealousy, it helps to separate it into two components. Your personal half involves tending to wounded parts carrying unprocessed emotions, often connecting to childhood experiences of feeling unchosen or unseen. The relationship half requires communicating your experience without blame, taking responsibility for your emotions while maintaining boundaries about what you need. Ready to revolutionize your approach to relationships? Save the date for the Relationship Revolution free training beginning July 10th, followed by the Embodied Relationship Academy where you'll practice these skills in a supportive community. Let's grow together into the relationship leaders we're capable of becoming.

Send us a text This episode guides you into a mindset shift that changes everything. The journey toward secure relationships begins with us becoming loving with ourselves. When we operate from the belief that we're fundamentally broken and need fixing, we erode our self-esteem. Each setback becomes evidence of our failure rather than an opportunity for learning and growth. Imagine approaching your personal growth not as a desperate attempt to fix what's broken, but as tending to a beautiful inner garden. Gardens take time to flourish. Some areas bloom quickly while others need extra attention. The soil might require healing before new seeds can take root. This patient cultivation builds self-trust because you witness positive change gradually over time. As your inner landscape becomes more fertile with self-compassion and patience, your connections with others naturally transform too. You're no longer approaching relationships from fear or lack, but from a centered sense of your own worth and genuine desire for connection. Ready to cultivate your inner garden? Join my upcoming Relationship Revolution training in July or explore the Embodied Relationship Academy launching in August. Let's grow together. Ready to revolutionize your approach to relationships? Save the date for the Relationship Revolution free training beginning July 10th, followed by the Embodied Relationship Academy where you'll practice these skills in a supportive community. Let's grow together into the relationship leaders we're capable of becoming.

Send us a text This episode dives deep into transforming how we relate to ourselves and others by flipping destructive narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of self-improvement. True self-esteem doesn't come from eliminating uncomfortable feelings but from growing your capacity to be with them while believing you deserve happiness. I share my journey meeting with two touchy experiences in my own relationship dojo: 👉 Daring to express genuine feelings to someone I care about 👉 Tolerating separation without panic Realizing that my nervous system capacity for those two was in all honesty quite crappy, got me to meet with patterns that came from past trauma and unsafety. What once served as shields were now limiting authentic connection. Listen to understand how you can move through similar friction points in your own dojo - whether you're dating, in a committed partnership or simply growing. This isn't about waiting for someone else to change—it's about changing how you relate to what's happening inside you. Go first in love, starting with how you show up for yourself, and watch as that ripples outward into all your relationships. Are you ready to become the loving leader you were always meant to be? Ready to revolutionize your approach to relationships? Save the date for the Relationship Revolution free training beginning July 10th, followed by the Embodied Relationship Academy where you'll practice these skills in a supportive community. Let's grow together into the relationship leaders we're capable of becoming.

Send us a text We've all been there wondering: "Am I growing and healing, or just reinforcing old patterns?" Whether you're questioning if you should stay or leave, set boundaries or be understanding, there IS a compass to guide you. And I tell you all about it in this episode. So that you can practice what truly builds better relationships (to yourself and others). The path to healthier relationships isn't about following all the social media relationship advice. It's about transforming how you view your challenges. Instead of seeing your attachment insecurities as evidence you've pulled the shortest straw in life, what if they're actually your training ground for becoming exceptional at relationships? COMING SOON: The Relationship Revolution 3-day free event (July) Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in Relationships Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Ready to transform your relationship triggers into pathways for healing? Join me in this episode to discover how your "crazy" moments are your greatest teachers on the journey to secure connection. Welcome to the Relationship Revolution, where we're flipping the script on emotional triggers in relationships. Your nervous system activation isn't a failure—it's a pathway leading to your core wounds and deepest desires when you learn to follow it down rather than manage it away. In this episode, I walk you through my own triggering moment and how I transformed into gold. You get to meet my three parts: By meeting these needs myself rather than demanding someone else fulfill them, I build self-esteem instead of diminishing it. The difference between emotionally mature and immature relationships isn't the absence of conflict—it's how you move through it together. Conflict either becomes a doorway to deeper intimacy or a cycle of pain, depending on your capacity to hold yourself through it. Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in Relationships Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Ready to reimagine everything you thought you knew about relationships? Season 3 of the Uncover You podcast turns conventional self-development upside down. For too long, you've told yourself that you need to "fix" yourself to deserve love. You've internalized the belief that success means you've "healed enough" to have a good relationship. This mindset creates endless cycles of shame and self-judgment when relationships don't go as planned. What if your attachment wounds, your sensitivity, and your relationship challenges aren't obstacles to overcome but specialized training for deeper connection? What if people who have consciously worked through attachment trauma actually make better relationship leaders than naturally secure attachers who haven't developed these emotional muscles? This season, I'm sharing my own messy, beautiful journey through relationships. I'm not speaking from some imaginary mountaintop of perfect healing—I'm right in the trenches with you, learning to love my nervous system responses, finding gold in my "crazy episodes," and showing you that relationship growth isn't about reaching some mythical destination of perfection. The Relationship Revolution is about tending to three intertwined gardens: your inner landscape, your partner's inner world, and the relationship itself. It's about rejecting one-size-fits-all dating advice that creates more shame when it fails. It's about recognizing that your unique path to love might look nothing like someone else's—and that's exactly how it should be. Are you ready to rebel against outdated relationship paradigms and discover the leader you're meant to be? Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in Relationships Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Have you ever experienced that you want to do things differently in relationships with yourself or others - but the old programming is strong? Stopping you from doing that new thing. To break old patterns and start doing something new, you need a strong why, a motivation. “I should be doing that” just isn’t strong enough to overcome old survival strategies. In this episode, I share how you can tap into rebellion against old conditioning. And stand for love for yourself and your relationships. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related episodes: Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationships Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you want Ep180: From anxious and obsessing to enjoying her relationship, with Kate — Open once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Two years ago, after starting the most secure relationship Kate had ever had, she noticed anxiety about being enough or too much. Her system wasn’t used to consistency, kindness and support, and her body wasn’t sure it could trust it. Kate was often worried Ben would leave for someone “more attractive”. And when her fear and hurt would show up, she feared she was ruining everything. After doing Being Me a second time everything shifted. No more stuck in reactive loops, endless “solving” conversations, and bracing for being let down. Instead, she feels safe in herself, playful and fully enjoying her relationship. In this episode, Kate shares how her relationship and life went from anxiety and obsessing to feeling safe and enjoying. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related episodes: Ep97: Releasing shame - live coaching #3 with Kate Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactions Ep96: “I’ve done so much work, why am I not healed yet??” Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactions Open once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text We often have this idea that healing means we’re NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow. If you’re avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has kept you safe) - you need to learn how conflict can open doors to more intimacy and connection. In this episode, I invite you to discover the gift of friction and how to feel safe moving through it. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related episodes: Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactions Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactions Ep154: Understanding and practicing honesty Join my free coaching call on Sunday Feb 2 Open once a year: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start February 9th. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text I want to get to the bottom of our reactive relationship patterns and what’s driving them. Because when we do we can heal and shift things at the core. One thing that I found hiding behind other emotions or protective patterns - on my own journey and working with a lot of clients - is shame. Shame is not just an emotion, but a full body-mind-emotion, and even soul, experience. In this episode, I uncover shame so you can move that linchpin and have a whole house of cards of protection patterns fall apart. Let’s get to the mother of all lies and stop believing it. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related episodes: Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this year Ep 136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactions Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you want Ep 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment Watch the full Leading From Love masterclass Open once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Since I’m all about embodied, turned-on living and relating, I keep exploring what else can support my body in more aliveness. When I find things that have a big enough impact, I bring them into my programs. In the past year, I’ve focused on hormonal health and cyclical living and experienced HUGE benefits. Dr Maria Tedim is a female hormonal health specialist who has guided me in having unexpected levels of energy, creativity, and general gusto. (Italian for enthusiasm and vigor.) In this episode, dr Maria shares how women can work with their body’s cyclical rhythm instead of against it. So you can unlock confidence, radiance and vigor. And why every man should know this for better relationships with their wives, girlfriends, and daughters. — You find show notes in this post on my website Learn more about Dr Maria Tedim on Instagram and her website Check out these related episodes: Ep114: What is turn-on? Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this year Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you long for Ep117: The turn-on between your feminine and masculine archetypes Watch the full Leading From Love masterclass Open once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text Guiding others to real embodied shifts makes me really excited. Because I’m passionate about what works, I also get to see what doesn’t work. In this episode, I share where I see us get stuck when working on our relationship patterns, and how those places are opportunities to get the shifts you long for. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related episodes: Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this year Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationships Ep118: From heaviness and despair to love, with Shannon and Irene Ep139: 3 common obstacles when shifting reactive patterns (and how to get past them) Watch the full Leading From Love masterclass Open once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February. Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text If relationships have been the source of conflicts, reactive patterns, pain, and confusion for most of your life you might be wondering - how do you know if you’re healing and what does that feel like? In this episode, I share a perspective on healing in relationships that will give you laser focus on why you’re doing all your inner work. Plus what will get you there in 2025. — You find show notes in this post on my website Open once a year: Join Being Me with an early-bird discount in December - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a text The last tale of our Yuletide saga, about falling in love with something you rejected. A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..? Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it. — 👉 Get my free gift for clearing relationship energy here A song to listen to: Culture of Love, by Mayestra and Power of Love, by Frankie Goes to Hollywood You find show notes in this post on my website Related episodes: Ep173: Yuletide Tales: Thank You To The Man Who’s Making Me Feel Again Ep172: Yuletide Tales: Legolas and Gimli Ep171: Yuletide Tales: The Jigsaw Maker’s Daughter Ep170: Yuletide Tales: This Year’s Love Better Last Open once a year: Join Being Me with an early-bird discount in December - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns