Teaching With The Body In Mind

Mike leads us into a discussion about the importance of connection. Social connection is how children get through the hard things...Connections build resilience...Children are always looking for connection...All play is social and all learning is social...We're wired to learn from the group so why is assessment still tied to individual achievements...Shout outs to: Vygotsky, Gilligan and Usain Bolt...The most important job of teachers is to be there.

Joey wants to talk about the idea of emotional strength. How do we support children in building inner strength without making assumptions about what they can handle? Mike reminds us that stress--in the right amount--supports growth. Tom shares the experiences of listening to children and being an advocate for their feelings. We need to watch out for accidentally giving the message that being "strong" means you don't feel sadness. Ross advocates for expanding children's (and everyone's) emotional vocabulary. Perhaps we would do better to use the term capable instead of strong?

What is lost when adults let children win at all the games? Ross worries that it gives children the false sense that they can never lose. How do you keep games fun when the skill set is mismatched?... Do kids know what is happening when adults let them win?... Letting children win can be a form of power reversal play... It can be disrespectful when adults check out of the play and let children win... There is a level of challenge needed to make a game fun, motiviating, and to increase your skill level... Handicapping requires adults to tune in to children's skills... What are the other "wins" a child can feel in their life?... We aren't the best at everything, but how do I belong here?

Monkey piles, piggy piles, "pile on"--Tom has noticed that children often pile up together. This physical play provides close contact and a little unpredictability. What other needs are met in piling up?

The conversation about environment wasn't quite finished. Joey, Mike and Tom continue to work their way through the jargon in search of more practical and meaningful language.

Mike invites us to unpack the term environment as it is used in the field of early childhood. Does emphasis on "creating the environment" overlook the fact that you are in a specific place that already exists? Does it take into account the children and people who inhabit the space? How can we avoid fighting against the place we are in?

How can we give children chances to explore space (and the feeling of having a lot of it)? Spending time outdoors is one of the best ways. Inside, perhaps children can experience a feeling of being in a separate space under a table. Spending time alone in an empty classroom can also tap into an expansive feeling. As Tom sums it up, it is an awesome experience "exist in the expanse."

Competition has been ramping up in Ross's class. Children compete over who gets to the door first and even who can complete a puzzle the fastest! The introduction of cooperative games has helped to change the tone. The group gets thinking about some of their favorite large motor cooperative play activities--freeze ball, bridge jumps, building with two-person planks--and breaks down some of the key components to include when inventing new cooperative games.

Joey shares an experience with children "just playing on a swing" that was really so much more. Mike recalls a similar play episode with children playing on a flexible bridge. In both instances, children embodied high-level social skills: empathy, cooperation and collaboration. Tom reminds us that generosity flows naturally from the joy of play. Let's never forget that!

Tom's been observing how children forge social connections through large motor play. Whether filling buckets with sand, negotiating space in big empty boxes or taking on roles in pretend play, children learn social skills by using their bodies.

On location at his new program, Mike points out design features that create the path of least resistance to support teachers' engagement with the children. The group discusses strategies to find paths of least resistance for other recurring challenges: material storage, reducing line leader fights, signing in for the day, reducing wait time and bottlenecks, and clean up after messy play (clean up "dump trucks").

Ross is feeling unresolved about the portraytal of problems in children's media. It's always a happy ending and "hooray we did it!" Does this have an impact on their ability to tolerate frustrations in the real world?

Joey's classroom climate has been transformed by the introduction of a useful tool. This raises questions about our perceptions of who "deserves" help. Taking a close look at the skill of taking off boots reveals the ways in which we make judgements about children's character traits based off of their physical capabilities.

Tom is thinking about who defines play and the impact of those definitions. In the classroom, and in our community, the implications of adults' judgements about play can have serious consequences. We need to stay vigilant for bias in our perceptions and in our definitions of "proper" ways to play.

Turns out that there was more to be said about limit setting with materials. Tom stirs the pot with the suggestion that we could just get rid of the paint...

Where is the line? If children can carry a block to the dramatic play area, can they bring the paint to the blocks? What about pom pom balls in the kitchen? Are children showing creativity or destroying materials? Mike works to help us process what to do when you get that "uh oh" feeling with children's unexpected uses of classroom materials. (Within this conversation, Tom refers to Episode 250: Accoutrements. Find it here.)

Tom warns against being a "definer" of children. Teacher definitions can limit how children view their own capabilities and how others view them--sometimes for years to come. Mike points out that basing our interactions on predetermined labels takes us out of attunement. Joey suggests using "I wonder" phrasing to hold more possibilities open.

IF we reflect on our rules and why we have them, what do we discover? Are some rules outdated? Do we know where they came from? Mike and Tom share skepticism about the practice of having children co-create the rules. Long lists of specific rules can lead to tattling and power struggles. Joey points out that rules have their place in helping children understand social expectations. Everyone agrees that following a set of guidelines meets the need for flexibility and allows for success along a spectrum of developmental levels.

Mike has a front row seat to observe teachers (and children) taking their first steps to create an environment that allows for all kinds of learning and play--even running after bears in the classroom. No matter how many days--or years--of experience we have, taking baby steps and reflection are the keys to success. Tom recalls children successfully navigating a full classroom at high speeds and Mike thinks back to a big bad wolf who never toppled anyone's art projects.

What does it mean to be in control when teaching and caring for children? We often think it means we can control children's actions when in reality we can only control ourselves.