Wanting It More: The Truth about Low Sex Drive in Women

How and why do men separate the effects of their pornography use from their marriage? Andreas and Janna extensively discuss the rapid development of his addictive use of adult entertainment throughout his life, the reasons why he used it, his hundreds of failed attempts to quit, and what finally worked to become sober and save his marriage. Andreas also shares what he’s learned about emotional dysregulation, the importance of boundaries and personal connections in sobriety, the role of his faith, and truth-telling. If you would like to reach out to Andreas, you can email him at mentalk919@gmail.com. Michelle Mays Episode 46 Reference: https://wantingitmorepodcast.com/46-healing-from-betrayal-trauma-with-michelle-mays/ Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Colin grew up with two therapist parents, one of whom was a sex therapist. He learned a lot about emotions, sex, safety, consent, and talking openly from them. These things were really important to him and shaped his core values as he became a man. His wife also thought he was very caring, gentle, and understanding. But despite this, their sex life got worse over the 20 years they were married, and neither of them knew why. Colin talks with Janna about the big things he painfully realized that were missing from his sexual education. It was hard for him to accept these truths, but now he sees hope for a better relationship with his wife and more fulfilling intimacy in the future. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Kelly loved her husband of 20 years, but she noticed a change in her feelings toward intimacy over time, and she couldn't understand why. After some of their friends surprised them with divorce news, her husband worried about their own relationship, even though Kelly felt secure. He thought the solution was for him to become more attractive, so he started working out, buying new clothes, and even got a tattoo. However, Kelly felt his efforts had the opposite effect, making her feel “like a fly trapped in a spider's web.” The more he tried to be appealing, the less interested she became. But why was that? Thankfully, Janna shared her insights with Kelly and she finally discovered the missing pieces of the puzzle, understanding the real reasons behind her low desire. Now, she and her husband are finding positive and healthy ways to reignite their intimacy. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Nancy unfolds her 71-year journey, delving into three significant relationships and the tumultuous experiences within each. Enduring emotional abandonment, financial instability, and a constant sense of being invisible and invalidated, she shares the poignant struggle of feeling like a solitary voice crying out, yet unheard. However, amidst this turmoil, her narrative takes a turn when she encounters Janna. With her, Nancy discovers the language to articulate her life's journey and, notably, finds solace in connecting with other women who echo similar stories, offering her the support she longed for. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Why are women conditioned to endure pain? Natalie reveals the multitude of reasons she persisted through painful sexual experiences with her husband for 27 years of their marriage. It wasn’t until she discovered Wanting It More that she realized the detrimental extent of what she was subjecting her body and mind to in order to fulfill societal expectations of being a good wife and meeting her husband's needs. Due to inadequate sexual education and a lack of support, she remained unaware that experiencing pain wasn’t normal until recently. Janna and Natalie delve into the various factors contributing to why women tolerate pain, why they hesitate to seek assistance, and the toll it takes on their relationships. Natalie also shares what she’s learned about genuine intimacy and connection, highlighting significant improvements in her relationship with her husband. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

David’s wife spent years expressing her dissatisfaction with their sex life, repeatedly sharing her feelings, but David remained skeptical. Despite her efforts, he couldn't accept her perspective. Influenced by adult entertainment and misinformation, he believed he was doing everything right, yet she didn't respond as expected, leading him to conclude there was something wrong with her. Throughout their 22 years together, he doubted her words. Then he stumbled upon Janna’s podcast. Hearing women articulate the same sentiments as his wife and men voicing feelings of shame and unworthiness resonated deeply with him. Finally, he acknowledged the truth of his wife's concerns. He became open to listening and learning. David reflects on how the misinformation ingrained in his childhood seemed more credible than his wife's expressions. Learning from Janna, he's finally found a pathway to genuine connection and pleasure in his marriage at the age of 65. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Michele bravely opens up about her tumultuous journey through relationships as a woman in her late 50s. She recounts the harrowing experiences of enduring compulsive lying, cheating, porn and sex addiction, abuse, and a pervasive lack of consent. Amidst the darkness, she discovered a beacon of hope in Janna, whose guidance led Michele on a transformative path towards healing and empowerment. Michele sheds light on her arduous quest for safety and fulfillment in her current relationship. With Janna's support, she embarks on a profound journey of self-discovery, reclaiming agency over her own desires and experiences. This episode sheds light on the complexities of navigating trauma and rebuilding trust in the pursuit of authentic intimacy and self-empowerment. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

We delve into Raina's journey of rediscovering her desire for sex within her marriage. Despite a healthy upbringing with decent sexual education, positive body image, and safe and secure sexual experiences, Raina found herself losing interest in intimacy with her husband after getting married. After starting a personal journey which she affectionately calls ‘Raina’s Religious Rebellion’ she began exploring how some of the concepts taught by her church around sex in marriage were harmful. This knowledge allowed her to get mad but didn’t offer real solutions. She started therapy to confront her sexual misgivings, which gave her the why but didn’t fully explain her feelings of low desire. She also had an unexpected hysterectomy, which made her body feel foreign and strange. It wasn’t until Janna’s program that she was able to put all the pieces of her sexual history together and have it make sense, providing her with a comprehensive understanding of her feelings. Raina shares her ongoing efforts to reconnect with her husband through curious, playful, and meaningful steps, allowing her desire to gradually return. She also talks about her recent hysterectomy, the intricacies of recovery, and her ongoing healing to this day. REFERENCES: Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers: Sex, God & the Conservative Church Sheila Gregoire: The Great Sex Rescue Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

When Lisa took the Wanting It More program a couple of years ago, she never imagined the valuable lessons she learned to improve her low libido would also come in handy when confronting a medical issue. Lisa talks in detail about her struggles with body image anxiety and gynecological exams that accompanied her journey to the diagnosis of Lichen Sclerosus, a rare skin disease that causes itchy and painful patches on the vulva. She shares her insights on coping with the diagnosis, navigating the intricacies of the medical system as a woman, and finding solace from the education she received in WIM. She speaks candidly about how this journey has impacted her body confidence and her intimate relationship with her husband, offering hope and inspiration to those facing similar challenges. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Kyle’s career in law enforcement defined him as a safe person, dedicating his life to keeping his community and those who live in it safe from harm. Imagine his surprise when he learned the root cause behind his dwindling sex life was because his wife felt unsafe around him. It took him several weeks of coaching with Janna to really understand the meaning of the word unsafe in the context of Wanting It More - his wife felt unsafe to share her true feelings without negative consequences like guilt, shame, or blame. It wasn’t about her physical safety that was causing her low sexual desire; it was the lack of emotional safety. Through guidance from Janna and reflection on his upbringing, Kyle recognized the impact of societal norms on his behavior. Embracing accountability and growth through the Wanting It More program, Kyle transformed his approach, prioritizing emotional connection and mutual respect. His commitment revitalized their communication and reignited passion, underscoring the transformative power of fostering emotional safety within relationships and highlighting that change, rooted in empathy and dedication, can lead to profound intimacy and fulfillment in marriage. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

We delve into Laura's journey as a 40-year-old mother of three, navigating the intersection of her strong Christian faith and her sexuality. Growing up with little education about sex, Laura found herself prioritizing her partner's desires in the bedroom while neglecting her own. Struggling to balance her intuition with the teachings of her faith community, she grappled with conflicting messages about love, forgiveness, and sexual morality. However, a turning point came when Janna encouraged her to trust her intuition in the bedroom, mirroring how she had relied on it in her spiritual practice. Through this newfound perspective, Laura learned to challenge societal norms, embracing her worthiness and agency in her sexual experiences and breaking free from societal expectations to embrace her authentic self. This episode show’s how trusting one's inner voice can lead to greater fulfillment and empowerment in all aspects of life. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

In this podcast episode we meet Nate, a devout Christian and father whose misconceptions about intimacy led to strain in his marriage of 15 years. Raised on media for his sexual education, Nate found himself bewildered by the disparity between his expectations and reality in the bedroom. It wasn't until he and his wife took the Wanting It More program that they uncovered years of unspoken discomfort and miscommunication, prompting Nate to reevaluate the absence of crucial teachings on sexual safety and consent within his Christian upbringing. Nate's journey underscores the vital role of open communication and understanding in relationships. Through introspection and dialogue, he learned to prioritize his wife's comfort and safety, reshaping his Christian beliefs to embrace a more inclusive and empathetic approach to love and intimacy. Join us as we explore Nate's inspiring story, shedding light on the transformative power of honest conversations and the intersection of spirituality and personal growth. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Thilla shares her journey as a first-generation Canadian, shaped by her Sri Lankan heritage and North American upbringing. Raised in a family where discussions about sex were taboo and dating was reserved for an arranged marriage, she faced immense pressure and conflicting messages from both cultures. These challenges left her grappling with feelings of shame and guilt surrounding anything sexual. The pressure intensified after marriage, with cultural expectations focused on starting a family. Struggling with fertility issues, Thilla's desire for sex waned, prompting her to find Janna and the Wanting It More program. Through this journey, she learned to untangle the complex narratives surrounding sex from both cultures, recognizing their negative impact on her sexual desires. WIM provided Thilla with invaluable insights, enabling her to reshape her approach to sex. By delving into specific details, she reflects on her transformative journey and how she now embraces a healthier perspective on sexuality, liberated from the weight of cultural expectations. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Join Janna in this conversation filled with healing and hope as we delve into a topic often brushed aside: pornography addiction. She sits down with Justin, who bravely shares his 25-year struggle with excessive porn use and the profound impact it had on his relationships and self-esteem. Despite being told it's 'normal,' Justin's story sheds light on the dark realities of porn addiction and its detrimental effects on intimacy. He shares his journey from secrecy and shame to vulnerability and healing alongside his wife. Justin shares: Tune in for a compassionate and validating conversation that reminds us that healing is possible, and no one is alone in their struggles. Let's break the stigma and embrace hope together. Resources Mentioned: Porn Addicts AnonymousGary Wilson - Your Brain on PornDr. Omar Minwalla - Education in Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma TreatmentRobert Augustus Masters - To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

In response to countless requests, we're diving into a topic close to many hearts: how to talk to kids about sex. Meet Christina, a recent graduate of the Wanting It More program, who felt compelled to provide her children with the sexual education she never received. Her journey is all about empowering her kids to navigate their body and intimacy with confidence, steering clear of the challenges she faced herself. Join us as Christina shares her strategies for teaching life-changing concepts to her four children, aged 4 to 12. From using age-appropriate language to discuss bodies to navigating intimacy with her husband while the kids are around, Christina covers it all. She delves into the nuances of consent, encourages her children to trust their instincts, and tackles head-on the impact of media and pornography. This conversation is a beacon of empowerment for any parent navigating these vital discussions with their children. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

James had no reason to believe the ways he showed his wife affection, both sexual and non, was at all off-base. Afterall, he’d faithfully followed the rulebook he’d been taught in locker rooms and adult magazines throughout his 70 years and had success. He loved to look at and touch his wife to express his love and desire and happily assumed that his wife loved every ounce of his affection in return. He assumed any lack of sexual desire on her part was an issue for her to solve. Once he met Janna, he quickly learned he’d been living his life happily misinformed. James shares in detail his initial struggle learning and accepting the concept of safety, his eyes being opened to his wifes struggle to identify her true wants, and their new ability as a couple to honestly communicate with each other in and out of the bedroom. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Join Janna and her special guest, Melissa, the WIM Community Coordinator, in this heart-to-heart conversation about the transformative Wanting It More program. Discover who this incredible program is tailor-made for, as they share their personal journeys of dealing with low libido in marriage. Explore the diverse issues the program can address, and be inspired by stories of past participants who have found success. Janna and Melissa delve into the program's unique features and important dates. Plus, they address common questions that often arise. By the end of this episode, you'll have all the insights needed to make an informed decision on whether Wanting It More is the perfect fit for you and your partner. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

William had it in his head that he wasn’t the problem when it came to his wife’s low sexual desire. Afterall, he was doing everything he had been taught to do to satisfy his wife…the only problem was his teachers were other men, our toxic culture, and pornography. William talks to Janna in detail about his experiences growing up as a person of colour, and the lessons he absorbed from media and culture on how to treat women and act like a man. It wasn’t until he started learning from Janna and talking to other men inside the safe space of the Wanting It More program that he realized how off-base his misguided education had been. He talks in detail about how drastically but beautifully different his intimate experiences are now, and why the path he and his wife are on is where they needed to be all along. Sign up for Janna's FREE class on Jan. 16 at 5 pm Pacific, Wanting It More 101 - Increase Interest & Enjoyment Without Pressure or Guilt. Register here. The next round of Wanting It More is running Feb. 1 - Mar. 31, 2024. ​Join Now.​ Is WIM right for you?: If you are curious, you can ​book a 15-minute Zoom call with Janna​. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

William had it in his head that he wasn’t the problem when it came to his wife’s low sexual desire. Afterall, he was doing everything he had been taught to do to satisfy his wife…the only problem was his teachers were other men, our toxic culture, and pornography. William talks to Janna in detail about his experiences growing up as a person of colour, and the lessons he absorbed from media and culture on how to treat women and act like a man. It wasn’t until he started learning from Janna and talking to other men inside the safe space of the Wanting It More program that he realized how off-base his misguided education had been. He talks in detail about how drastically but beautifully different his intimate experiences are now, and why the path he and his wife are on is where they needed to be all along. AVR Resource Mentioned: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/resources/f/empathy-breeds-connection Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Renee opens up to Janna about her six-year marriage to her white husband, exploring the intricacies of their age and ethnicity differences that created a soupy mix of misunderstandings around sexual desire, and her feelings of low libido. Renee, a biracial woman, brings a compassionate and curious lens to her experiences and exploration of black culture, shedding light on the pervasive hypersexualized messages that saturate the music and language, contributing to a perfect storm of toxic masculinity. As a strong, confident, and well-educated entrepreneur and feminist, she reflects on her adept ability to navigate societal pressures, but her inability to speak up in the bedroom. It is through the lens of Wanting It More that Renee discovers a profound realization—she had unknowingly been following cultural scripts throughout her entire sexual life, ignoring her own needs in order to fulfill the needs of others. This revelation sparks a hopeful journey of self-discovery, as Renee bravely shares her quest to unearth genuine pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom beyond societal expectations and cultural norms. Tune in for a conversation that navigates the intersection of culture, race, love, and personal fulfillment, leaving listeners inspired and hopeful for their own paths of exploration and understanding. Join the Waitlist for the next round of Wanting It More. ​Join Now.​ Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.