The Less Stressed Lawyer

Mixed models are models where you’ve jumbled up positive and negative components together. This is where you might have a negative thought and feeling but a positive action and result (or vice versa), and while you might have multiple models running at one time, they should never be combined, and I’m showing you why. Listen in this week to learn why mixed models are a problem and the power of separating your models. I’m showing you how operating from mixed models keep you stuck in unnecessary emotional suffering, and how to address your mixed models so it’s easier for you to achieve the things you most want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/102

Want to know how to get unstuck? Whatever you're stuck with, whether it's your time, money, making an investment, or anything else, I've got you covered in today's episode because I recently recorded a masterclass on exactly how to get unstuck. Discover 10 obstacles that are stopping you from making progress on your goals, and the 10 specific solutions to help you get unstuck. Wherever you're stuck, whether it's in your career, your business, or in your relationships, I'm giving you behind-the-scenes access to a masterclass that will be pivotal in getting you unstuck. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/101

In honor of the 100th episode of The Less Stressed Lawyer podcast, I’m walking you through my backstory of why I decided to make the shift from attorney to coach, the impact coaching has had on my life, and something exciting that I’ve had in the works since 2017. Join me this week as we celebrate the huge milestone of reaching 100 podcast episodes! You’ll learn how I always knew I wanted to be a criminal defense attorney, why I struggled to perform in Big Law, how my life is unrecognizable now compared to just a few years ago, and the invitation of a lifetime that I’m offering you right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/100

There are many reasons we suffer emotionally, but one of the most common sources of emotional suffering comes from the expectations that we have. So, what is the easiest and most effective way of reducing our suffering? We change our expectations. Tune in this week to discover how changing your expectations will help you feel better in your life. You’ll learn how great expectations are disrupting your happiness, and I share how to reduce your emotional suffering by better aligning your expectations in a more helpful way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/99

Mirror judgments have come up on the podcast before, but I’m diving deeper in today’s episode. A mirror judgment is a judgment that you have about another person that you also have of yourself. So, you judge a person for something and then subconsciously, you’re judging yourself for it at the same time. Tune in this week as I break down what a mirror judgment is, teach why it’s important to identify them, and show you what to do with your mirror judgments. You’ll learn how to spot mirror judgments when they come up for you, and most importantly, you’ll discover how to get out of this place of judging both yourself and other people. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/98

Something I’ve noticed about humans is that, oftentimes, they aren’t willing to help themselves first. It’s great that we live in a world where you can ask for help when you’re having a problem, but have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re helping yourself first? Tune in this week to start committing to helping yourself first. You have to be the person most willing to solve your problems, and you’ll learn today why other people don’t have the long-term solution to your problems, and I show you what you need to do to help yourself first and create meaningful change in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/97

Committing to the finish makes a massive difference in how you approach your goals and pursue the life you want to live. I watch too many people make lavish plans and deeply commit to getting started on them, feeling excited and motivated to take consistent action, until things don’t go exactly as they’d expected. Tune in this week to discover how to start committing to the finish. I discuss the problem with telling yourself you’re ‘trying’, share why you’re struggling to fully commit yourself until the finish, and you’ll learn how to pursue your goals from a place of being fully committed to the finish. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/96

When you’re making a decision, you’re confronted with the options available to you. You make a choice, and as time unfolds, you see the consequences of your decisions. However, what I often see people doing is picking apart their decisions before they make them, looking for all the potential issues that could arise from their choice. In doing this, they create an alternate reality where the option that they didn’t choose would have led to better outcomes. This is the Sliding Doors Fallacy at work. This week, you’ll learn how to stop punishing yourself by wondering how different things in your life could look. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/95

Of all the lies I notice my clients telling themselves, one stands out to me. They look at other people and think that whatever they’re dealing with, they’re uniquely situated, and it’s easier for them. This came up recently when I was coaching on time management and my client said, “Isn’t it just easy for some people?” Tune in this week to discover the problem with thinking, “It’s easier for them…” and how to see why this isn’t actually true. I’m showing you the real difference between you and those who are more successful than you or better in a specific area, and you’ll learn how to see what you can do moving forward to level the playing field. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/94

When you’re in a situation you don’t like, it’s normal to look for the faults and focus on all the negativity. But you have two other options available here: get out of it, or get into it. Getting into it may take more effort than just going with the flow, but it truly changes everything and allows you to create a life you truly love. If you’re in a romantic relationship that doesn’t feel like it’s working right now, you’re in a challenging friendship, or you are having difficulty at work and you don’t want to just quit, tune in this week to learn how to get into it and make a concerted effort to have a positive influence over the world around you. You’ll be amazed at what you can create for yourself when you get into it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/93

The idea of being deserving is a topic that comes up often in my coaching calls. From what I’ve observed, using the thought framework of whether or not we’re deserving of what we want is completely unhelpful and overcomplicated, so I’m offering you a new way to approach whatever it is you desire most. Join me on this episode to hear the two different ways most people struggle with the idea of being deserving, and how to start auditing your relationship with deserving energy. I’m sharing examples of how both entitlement and unworthiness manifest in your life, and my top tips for creating an empowering experience for yourself as you go after what you want. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/92

The thoughts we think really do matter, and they have the power to transform our experience of anything in our lives. Whatever you’re going through right now, you have the ability to think to yourself, “This is happening for me…” and when you do, you can approach your problems with a whole new perspective. Discover how this one thought can totally transform your experience of what you perceive to be a negative situation. I’m showing you how to spot where you need to think more thoughts like this, and giving you everything you need to get positive results out of any situation you’re dealing with. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/91

Nobody is going to give you permission to set big goals, to chase big dreams, and to live an over-the-top life. Nobody is going to tell you it’s OK for you to want and have more for your life; you have to give that permission to yourself. You don’t have to need something to go after it, you can chase a dream simply because you want to, and I’m showing you how this week. If you know you want more for your life, but you are hesitating to go after it, this episode is for you. This week, I show you why you need to give yourself permission to want and have more and what needs to change in order for you to pursue a life you truly love. Discover why up-leveling is available to you right now and how to stop tolerating parts of your life you don’t love and start truly loving your life. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/90

Most people think of business development as a massive challenge. However, that’s just because they never learned how to create clients and money on demand. So, if you want to develop a stronger, more profitable business, this is a must-listen episode. Tune in this week to dive deep into business development. I’m sharing exactly what you need to do to create a thriving business, a blueprint for developing your business effectively, and you’ll learn tons of practical tips and strategies that you can go implement in your own business right now! Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/89

You might think it’s too late to set your intentions and figure out a plan for 2024, however, now is the perfect time to kick your year into action. It’s a New Year, we’re back at it after a break, and today, I’m walking you through an evaluation of 2023 and setting you up for achieving your goals in 2024. Tune in this week to review, reset, and focus your attention for the year ahead. You’ll learn how to perform a comprehensive evaluation of 2023, and I’m showing you how to decide what you want to leave behind, what you want to take with you, and how you want to do things differently in the coming year. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/88

The holidays are a time of hope, but there are some hard truths about hope that we need to discuss. Contrary to what you might believe, hope is not a helpful emotion. If you’re spending this season hoping and wishing for something different in your life, this is not a strategy, it isn’t serving you, and it’s time to try something else. Tune in this week to discover why hope is not a strategy, how it has you relinquishing responsibility, and why operating from hope isn’t going to bring what you want into your life. Discover why hope doesn’t create results, how to see where you’re stuck in the emotion of hope, and how to start operating from more empowering emotions that will help you actually create your desired results. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/87

Frustration is an emotion we all experience, but you have more power and influence over it than you realize. When you can see how you’re creating your own experience of frustration through the thoughts you’re consciously deciding to think, then you can begin taking the steps required to move past frustration and start getting things done. Tune in this week to discover what you can do to ease your frustration about anything in your life. I show you how to separate your thoughts and feelings of frustration from the facts of your situation, and how to start easing your feelings of frustration while creating the emotional experience you actually want, without needing to change anything external in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/86

Is creating processes in your life something you struggle with? If so, you’re not alone. When I experience confusion, I tend to shut down and stop taking action. If you find it impossible to get started, or you feel overwhelmed by the idea that you might end up doing things wrong and you just want someone to tell you exactly what to do, this episode is exactly what you need. Tune in this week to discover why you are feeling overwhelmed and confused when it comes to taking action in your life and how having a process in place can help. I'm showing you my process for creating a process, so you can move forward, figure things out on your own, and break free from the confusion that’s keeping you stuck. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/85

Would you say you struggle to focus? Do you find yourself chasing the kind of laser focus that has you devoting all your attention to one thing? There are two different types of focusing that we engage in, but a lack of either one isn't the huge problem you may think it is. Join me this week to learn the difference between perfect and imperfect focus and how to see which one you engage in. I’m showing you what each type of focus looks like in action, why imperfect focus isn’t a problem, and how to course correct when you notice yourself getting distracted. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/84

Last week, you learned how much it’s costing you when you’re stuck in caring about what other people think. Now you understand the negative impact of worrying about the opinions of others, we’re diving into how to stop caring about what they think, whether that’s their thoughts about you, or their thoughts about anything else. Tune in this week to learn a framework for letting go of your worries about what other people think. I show you why you care about other people’s opinions in the first place, two truths you need to start accepting right now, and how to start reframing the way you think about other people’s thoughts and opinions. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/83