They Talk Sex

Our last episode of this season and O what fun - let’s talk cuckolding! Join Mistress Elle for a chat with her favorite cuckold and hear how he discovered his kinky lifestyle, how he interacts most ethically with the women he worships, and please enjoy some of our funny stories, too. 3:00 how he finds women to worship 5:00 a catholic priest client - Lady Vi 8:00 legal and artistic aid for a friend 10:00 scrotal piercings for a leash 11:00 Mickey Mod and Mistress Gia DeMarco 13:00 first anal cream pie 14:00 Mistress Sandi in Montreal 16:00 his first ever cucking appointment - Mistress January Seraph 21:00 there’s a lot of cum soon 25:00 moral of the story is be yourself 29:00 what’s the best part? 33:00 beneath a woman and helping her 36:00 how to protect yourself from scammers? 39:00 losing friends over it? 43:00 am I gay or less of a man? 47:00 economic impacts? 52:00 Americans are more taboo about sharing 55:00 Shoutout to his Doms 59:00 honored to be the first Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Promo code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl Condoms Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening 20TALKSWIRL2 for 20% off our suite of Swirl products on Amazon now until November 30th. See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

We catch up with our fave herpes educator Courtney Brame for some updates and additional facts about a common virus that many of us live with, and Elle had new experience with. Let’s talk herpes again! 1:00 he gets more topless-views 3:00 a big herpes survey 7:00 clinically massive outbreak 11:00 sex workers + herpes 14:00 consented to not using barriers 17:00 sexual infidelity is a possibility 21:00 herpes location vs Type 1 or 2 23:00 why do lab tests during outbreak? 26:00 20TALKSWIRL2 29:00 sex toy snafu, unrelated 32:00 what is a “normal length” outbreak 36:00 May 2024 results survey + St Louis MO 40:00 how might one get herpes? 43:00 can you get tested without an outbreak? 47:00 sex as a polyam person 51:00 Courtney got a sex toy too small 54:00 jolihamilton.com 58:00 a Feeld app match gone awry 1:03:00 saying no to sex 1:06:00 $2.45Million lawsuit about herpes transmission 1:15:00 elle0ellepdx on TT Find your guest on SPFPP.ORG Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Promo code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl Condoms Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening 20TALKSWIRL2 for 20% off our suite of Swirl products on Amazon now until November 30th. See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

A traumatic attack caused our guest to reframe how she was living her one life. She’s now chosen to work as an erotica writer, a legal courtesan in a nevada brothel, and she’s here to talk about making positive connections between mind-body healing and sex work. 2:00 gang bang playwriting 4:00 a traumatic event showed a bird’s eye view of life 7:00 surviving the home invasion assault 10:00 find her at the brothel 14:00 be a nun or get married at 16, literally 20:00 how to screen for clients 23:00 sexting advice 27:00 learn to see the strange as familiar 32:00 on being called “old” now 40:00 a sexy oracle reading 43:00 feel it to heal it 46:00 catholic guilt in the inbox 53:00 empowerment is the underlying theme 55:00 how AI writing scares us 58:00 more sex advice Find our guest on OnlyFans.com/GoodassGoddess Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Promo code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl Condoms Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

She’s been a top lesbian content creator on Youtube for a decade, now learn what’s next for Bria Kam after years of growing with her audience, and being part of the first successful UK revenge porn lawsuit. We talk love, strapons, and web work! 1:00 how we met 4:00 on making our own porn 7:00 on being “Mommy” 10:00 how did you start filming? 14:00 they won the first ever UK revenge porn lawsuit 17:00 Pamela anderson was done dirty 22:00 only one of us likes sucking D 25:00 advice for people who make X media? 29:00 dating polyam and monogs 34:00 direct porn sales? 38:00 web searching “lesbian porn” 41:00 what kind of porn does Elle watch? 44:00 yes I can orgasm from penetration oooo 49:00 what is your top kink? 53:00 a new hope for love after a breakup Find our guest on OnlyFans.com/BriaKam Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Have you ever seen healthcare providers who have no idea what you are experiencing personally? Lucie Fielding is a therapist, sex educator and writer who saw the gaps in healthcare and the biases against trans people by their providers, and works to share info and insight about better clinical approaches to trans sexuality. 2:00 a clarifying anger 6:00 I want clients/people to feel lovable 9:00 psychoanalysis was designed to be intensive 13:00 what does Yes and No feel like in the body? 17:00 “these poor people” 20:00 what is anti-trans sensationalism 23:00 how people are misled to believe transphobia 28:00 what is muffing? 31:00 balls and labia are homologous tissue 35:00 https://fuckingtranswomen.org/ 37:00 what are puberty blockers? 40:00 kids choosing their own identity prevents self harm 44:00 “ambivalence is essential to the change process” 47:00 top surgery and boob jobs 52:00 I need help with asking how to name their parts! 55:00 how do we name our parts? 59:00 what is Project 2025? 1:05:00 what’s next for Lucie? Find our guest LucieFielding.com Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s explore Oregon and and particularly Old Town Portland, which has its roots in racism, beer, gambling and sex work, and predatory policing. This city truly was built by alcoholics and hustlers: Let’s talk ghosts of old-timey Oregon with Weird History Podcast Host and author, Joe Streckert. 3:00 why weird history is important 8:00 tour guide in Portland 11:00 a brief history of Vanport, Oregon 14:00 early Portland history demographics 17:00 beer and gambling and sw 19:00 why is Oregon so white and covertly racist? 23:00 Oro Fino Saloon and enforcement against sex work 26:00 why factory-working women also did SW 29:00 policing and sex work 32:00 Nita Belles is a modern day Lola Baldwin 35:00 psychics, bowling, shooting galleries were targeted by cops too 38:00 Chinese business owners and respectability politics 41:00 Marie Equi and birth control and lesbianism 44:00 a note on eugenics and early birth control 47:00 prostitution and “green” attitudes 51:00 why are Oregon clubs so different from neighboring states? 55:00 all old downtown buildings may have been used as brothels or rooms 58:00 the myth(?) of Nancy Boggs and the floating brothel 1:06:00 QAnon is like early century white saviorism Find your guest on JoeStreckert.com and WeirdHistoryPodcast.com Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Use promo code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon through October 31st for Kimono Swirl Condoms. Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Bella Cummins has owned her Nevada brothel for thirty-seven years and talks about venue management, what the regulations are like, and how to create a safer and more fun environment for everyone.. 1:00 beginning the day at the brothel 3:00 administrative and staff training 5:00 only cis women working here at this time 7:00 decrim vs legalization discussion 10:00 clarification on decriminalization in NZ 14:00 safer working in brothels than outcall 17:00 discounts to Utah residents! 21:00 laundry is important at the brothel 25:00 is this a calling for you? 28:00 how staff can be proactive 33:00 process for business approval by police and city 36:00 law enforcement regulation 41:00 condoms used to be way thicker 46:00 deadname and origin story 49:00 more legal distinctions 54:00 why discounted rates for Utah? 58:00 more on regulated work 1:00:00 sex advice Find our guest on Bellas.Us Find your host Ellestanger.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Do you have sex questions? She’s a Black sex educator who advocates for HIV prevention, sex toy exploration and straightforward communication: Ashley Cobb from Atlanta, Georgia offers straightforward and candid input on common questions about anal sex, penis size, and more. 1:00 began teaching sex ed in 2015 5:00 she thinks redheads are cute 9:00 38 vs early 20’s 11:00 pRep for Black women 14:00 raw sex equals pregnancy or STIs 17:00 syphilis and COVID going up why? 21:00 why to have sex before you get married 24:00 why insecure men might prefer sexually inexperienced women 27:00 how often should I get screened? 31:00 when one of you wants to have sex more often 34:00 ways to be intimate without PIV 37:00 ethical porn discussion 42:00 more anal tips for newbies 45:00 small penis tips and use your hands 48:00 on “sex-negative feminism” 53:00 Somaya Critchlow art discussion 56:00 what’s next for her? Find out guest on IG @sexwithashley Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

She’s a self-taught therapeutic dominatrix and touch provider, who specializes in helping people play and explore boundaries and kinks. Meet Lara the Divine Theratrix and learn about what it’s like to explore feeling big, small, and primal. 3:00 therapeutic approaches to hands-on work 6:00 autism and body language learning 9:00 Dr Stewart Brown - on play and communication 14:00 protection from obsession 19:00 humans are animals 22:00 being fluid and changing 26:00 creative Safewords 30:00 special interests are so important 36:00 JoyClub, Beducated, Fetlife 41:00 discrimination against dominatrix by doordash 44:00 sex workers rights and SWUnionUK 47:00 examples of worker controls or protections 52:00 examples of types of play 54:00 play makes life worth living Find our guest on DivineTheratrix.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk about male bisexuality, biphobia, role-modeling mental health and have a raunchy, fun time with Zachary Zane. He’s an advice writer and the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. 1:00 a book about bisexuality and shame 3:00 having OCD as a child and now 6:00 mental health and spirituality 10:00 bisexuality and stigma 13:00 not enjoying sex due to stress 16:00 a darn good therapist session 20:00 how do you role model healthy male sexuality? 25:00 tips on coming out to family members 28:00 more discussion on this ^ 31:00 how to address my gf’s biphobia 34:00 Bi-Men, By Women book 38:00 if they aren’t 100% enthusiastic, maybe avoid them 42:00 real non-fiction erotica stories 46:00 theragun in the butt story 49:00 Boyslut things and projects 52:00 cancel culture vs call-ins 55:00 any sex tips for our audience? Find our guest on ZacharyZane.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

What are your personal ethics around sex work and matrimony? Why do some people share their interactions with spouses and other people hide them? How to support your partner in sex work? Is it cheating to pay for services? Let’s discuss this with a happily married sex worker, Jessie Sage. 1:00 a spicy viral twitter post 4:00 cancer, and caregiver roles 7:00 what work she’s done in sex 10:00 feedback from her clients 14:00 a public-facing nonbinary spouse 18:00 on blaming the sex worker 22:00 oral sex or we aren’t getting married 26:00 helping sex lives of other spouses 29:00 disclosing to your family that you’re dating a sex worker 34:00 keep it simple and name what is happening 39:00 besties who get weird around SW 44:00 outsiders and misunderstanding 48:00 addressing their shame 51:00 how to be a supportive partner article 56:00 @thotscholar, Lorelei Lee writing recommendation Find our guest on JessieSage.com and Cybelerain.com Twitter.com/Saptiotextual Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Who else has ADHD? Our guest noticed a lack of sexuality-related info for people with attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder. For two decades he has served people who need help with dating, sex, self-care and relating. Let’s learn and laugh with therapist and author Ari Tuckman. 3:00 he wrote the books because there was a lack of help for ADHD-ers 5:00 a lot of mental health and medical pros have little or no sex education 7:00 he gravitates to people with ADHD 10:00 how does ADHD make dating hard for you? 14:00 more examples 19:00 people-pleasing behaviors 25:00 maintaining interest after novelty wanes 30:00 ADHD and staying in the mood 34:00 moving on after oopsies 37:00 other tips for re-directing your attention 41:00 more ways that ADHD can show up during sex 44:00 one study about ADHD people and sex 49:00 quirky can be charming or annoying, truly 55:00 medication and sleep question Find our guest on AdultADHDbook.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Why do some people pay others to teach them how to be sexual and intimate? Surrogate partners work with clients to learn their bodies and how to have consensual, boundaried, erotic contact with others. Brandon of AmpersandIntimacy expands on our previous episode about surrogate partner therapy, and the benefits and barriers to these treatments. 3:00 gaming and play, kink and sex 6:00 previously he was a clinician 9:00 on people who aren’t listening to my boundaries 13:00 who his clients typically are 16:00 on why people pay for sexual touch 22:00 not being distracted or disturbed 24:00 hygiene requests 27:00 scheduled sex for couples 29:00 on over-regulation 33:00 client-rejection 37:00 being mean to push me away 41:00 sex therapy is historically for white hetero men 46:00 what is Upnegotiating and how to avoid it? 48:00 some people test things 52:00 tell me your boundaries PLZ 58:00 sex tips View our guest at ampersandintimacy.com Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk with Leilah of A Stripper’s Guide about privacy issues and safety, queerness at the stripclub, and listen as she gives tips on setting boundaries and maintaining a healthier relationship with partners and self. 3:00 she works night shifts for a few reasons 7:00 curious but condescending 10:00 plz don’t ask her about her sex life 12:00 “gold star lesbian” discussion 15:00 on the asexuality spectrum: demisexual 18:00 artificial intelligence 24:00 feeling shame vs seeking privacy 28:00 I identify with the slutty-looking girl 33:00 private about her sex life 37:00 on sounding polite while setting boundaries 42:00 image impacting income 45:00 on seeming available 47:00 non-sexual methods of partner bonding 53:00 on feeling touched-out 1:00:00 book recommendations Find our guest at astrippersguide.com and IG @asg.headquarters Listen on Podurama! Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

How does spirituality and sexuality relate? It depends on who you are and what you believe. For this episode we talk sex and spells with guest Serena the Blessed who is a Black, Indigenous, Jewish trans-femme tarot reader and magic-maker in Portland, Oregon. 3:00 how magic works 6:00 OYE ancestors and priesthood family 10:00 “Black” magic and Hoodoo and Voodoo, Santeria 13:00 Yoruba origins of “queen” 16:00 gay culture can be different than queer culture 21:00 all oppression is connected 23:00 more genders than two were common 29:00 Hoodoo and Voodoo work 33:00 her offerings 40:00 in what ways can I practice spiritual sexuality 45:00 on masking identity 50:00 seduction vs shining brightly 57:00 counseling and spirituality for Black Americans 1:04:00 white people can be poisonous 1:11:00 Third Eye Books and Cally’s Hot Wigs Find our guest on IG @serenatheblessed Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk about aging and sexuality with an elder provider and playwright. Charla Hathaway became “a whore at fifty-four”, and she shares some things she’s learned. 3:00 starting her life over at fifty-four 6:00 anal play table-turning 9:00 Joseph Kramer on body healing 11:00 on the term “prostitute” 16:00 expert level hustling mastery 20:00 how to lead an erotic session 25:00 backlash 29:00 body changes and adapting sexual practices 34:00 older guys want intimacy too 37:00 breathing reminders 42:00 how to lead an erotic session 2 46:00 men being taught to receive 51:00 she has a September show coming up 54:00 things to reflect on? 57:00 the body is a temple Find our guest at charlahathaway.com Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Don’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COM Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

How does social standing relate to sexuality and dating? Have you ever been ostracized for reasons unclear, or been targeted in a smear campaign? Licensed counselor Halle Thomas joins me to discuss the complex issues and impacts of cancel-bullying. 2:00 former Catholic, queer and Creole 4:00 writing about shame 6:00 grief, racial and sexual identity and relational problems 9:00 originated in Black queer spaces 12:00 elle hates it when people lie about abuse 18:00 cancel-bullying is a suicide risk 21:00 obsessive behavior and unhealthy impacts 25:00 RSD - rejection sensitivity dysphoria 29:00 Elle hits pregnant strippers, pass it on 31:00 making people houseless for “justice” 38:00 how to recognize people that aim to be destructive 42:00 stalking and violence and victim’s gender 45:00 when you’re being targeted 54:00 definition of fighting 57:00 identifying friends who exaggerate claims against them 1:01:00 impact vs intent 1:06:00 Bebe Montoya, Africa Brooke, Juniper Cameryn, Clementine Morrigan, Jay Lesoleil - cancellation resources 1:10:00 life after cancellation Find your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcast Find your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @chicorycounseling and chicorycounseling.com Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by Aqua Lube– 20AQUALUBE takes 20% off your lube purchase through June 27th. Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

She came, she saw, she conquered pornmaking and media: meet Joanna Angel and learn what her work and married life is like as a longtime porn icon of our generation. We have jokes and marketing advice! 1:00 on feature-dancing and stripclub work 4:00 she works in marketing 8:00 started stripping to pay for her porn site 11:00 a golden era of stripping 14:00 the hottest people don’t make the most 17:00 monogamy and porn work 21:00 jealousy and business and work 24:00 what do the fans say? 29:00 the heyday of gonzo porn 32:00 creating a niche kink 36:00 self care and interests 39:00 how to deal with haters and negativity 43:00 younger people innovating porn now 45:00 sex work is not for everyone 49:00 what’s next for Joanna? 52:00 save your money and live your life 55:00 sex tip from a porn queen Find your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcast Find your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @ joannaangel Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by Aqua Lube– 20AQUALUBE takes 20% off your lube purchase through June 27th. Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

What’s it like for Stoney Faye to be an autistic stripper and parent? Let’s talk about the intersections of disability and sex work, and swap some ridiculous hustle tales. 2:00 disability acceptance 5:00 heightened sensitivities 8:00 on being canceled 10:00 on being a sugar baby 13:00 echolalia and decriminalization of sex work 16:00 not naturally feeling close to people 21:00 sensory stuff and sex 24:00 our libidos are very different but orientations are not 29:00 our fave customer in common 33:00 nerve endings and genitals 36:00 I hate kissing most people 41:00 people who don’t yet know they are autistic 45:00 on hidden queerness 49:00 exploring identity as an adult 51:00 stimming and self-hitting 57:00 detaching from social norms 1:00:00 men dating women (or others) who out-earn them 1:03:00 an autistic friend for the end of the world Find your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcast Find your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @ fairyst0ned_ Subscribe to our guest at Allmylinks.com/stoneyfaye Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by Kimono MicroThin XL – use code 20MICROXL on Amazon for 20% off your Kimono purchase through June 27th. Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s speak to Aja Corynn who made the documentary film “Pleasers”. Our guest applies her anthropological background and creative lenses to her experiences as a stripper; Let’s talk stripclubs, relationships, retirement and media. 1:00 anthropologist and former stripper 2:00 why she quit 6:00 California Girls in Anaheim, Deja Vu in Hollywood 10:00 “Black and kinky” NY dominatrixes 14:00 I’m inside looking around 17:00 on survival sex work vs empowerment 22:00 mandatory tipout 27:00 don’t write about strippers if you aren’t one 31:00 racism and in Vegas 36:00 on the good things 40:00 technology replacing strippers? 46:00 bad managerial practices 51:00 on AB5 in CA and employee status 54:00 camaraderie 58:00 don’t settle Find our guest on IG @AjaCorynn & @pleasersseries Find your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcast Find your host on Twitter @ellestanger Write to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.com Sponsored by Kimono Microthin Plus Condoms - use code 20MICROAQUA on Amazon for 20% off your Kimono purchase through June 27th Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellows Please rate and review this podcast :)