How to Advocate with Heather Hansen

In today’s episode, I will share the enlightening difference between control and power and how you can harness power to enhance your energy and influence. You’ll learn how power can invigorate your energy, and the exponential impact you can have when you choose power over control. In this episode, I referenced The Perfectionists’s Guide to Control by Katherine Morgan Shafler. If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

Tara Stiles is the co-founder of Strala Yoga, a best-selling author, and a well-being expert. Tara revolutionized yoga for millions, transforming a practice so often seen as dogmatic and guru-based into an everyday movement that supports ease and well-being. Strala Yoga is practiced in more than 100 countries, thousands of Guides lead Strala classes around the globe, and Tara shares yoga with thousands of people on the Strala Yoga app. She has been profiled by The New York Times, Times of India, and The Times (UK), and featured in most major national and international magazines. In this conversation we talked about being your own authority, writing books and incorporating tai chi into your yoga practice. Her book recommendation is The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra Her song is the Eye of the Tiger by Survivor If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

Do you know the difference between saying “no” and setting a boundary? Saying no is often much harder but also much more powerful. Setting boundaries delays the inevitable, while saying “no” opens the door to many more “yeses.” In this valuable episode, Heather shares the difference between saying “no” and setting boundaries. Take a listen and start saying “no” with delight today! Sign up for the waitlist for the Mastering Difficult Conversations here.: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist Check out Heather’s necklace at graycglass here: https://graycglass.com/ If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

Amy Kemp is the CEO of Amy Kemp, Inc. She uses over 20 years of experience growing her own successful business in sales to guide her work and to connect with leaders and businesses within her growing company. She helps leaders and business professionals understand how deeply habits of thinking affect every part of their work and lives. Her new book is I See You-A Guide for Women to Make More, Have More, and Be More-Without More Work. In this conversation, Amy shares what the Giving Tree can teach us about ourselves (it’s not what you think!), how money is a mirror, how your self-worth impacts your income, and what it’s like to live “on the edge of completely bananas!” I loved this conversation so much, and so will you. Her book recommendation is Secrets of Six Figure Women Her song is All I Know So Far by Pink If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

Do you know how to ask a question that actually gets you the answer you need? If anyone does, it’s Shanin Specter. Shanin is a preeminent American trial lawyer. He is a founding partner of Kline & Specter, one of the leading catastrophic injury firms in the United States. He has obtained more than 200 jury verdicts and settlements over $1 million and more than 50 case resolutions greater than $10 million. In this conversation, Shanin shares the secrets to asking productive and helpful questions. While he’s a brilliant legal mind, you can apply this conversation to any time you want to ask an effective question. Shanin’s book recommendation is The Years of Lyndon Johnson Series by Robert Caro. His song is As Time Goes By–Dooley Wilson If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to master difficult conversations. Do you struggle with giving or getting feedback, negotiating, asking for what you want, saying no, or setting boundaries? You’re not alone. And now that many of us have returned to the office and we’re bumping into more people every day, we’re having more of these conversations. So it’s time to master them. In this episode, Heather shares how to change the story we tell ourselves about these conversations so that we can master them and start to get what we want out of them. If you want to sign up for the wait list for the Difficult Conversation course, here’s the link: https://bit.ly/difficultconversationswaitlist If you want to talk to Heather about speaking to your organization, here’s the link to have a meeting with Heather. And if you want to talk to Heather about coaching with her 1:1, here’s the link for that! You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

What does advocating have to do with health, wellness and achieving a body you feel comfortable in and about? A LOT! In today’s episode I chat with one of my soul sisters, Courtney Gray. We talk about advocating for ourselves, our health and our bodies. We talk about advocating TO ourselves about our bodies. And we talk about pinning and winning…. Courtney’s book choice was The Last Word on Power by Tracy Goss. Her theme song is River Flows In You by Yurima If you want to talk to Heather about 1:1 coaching or having her speak to your team, here’s a link to her calendar! Learn more about Courtney: Website: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/modern-body-modern-life/id1720478442 You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

What story do you tell yourself about money? If you’re like me, you tell yourself that you’re “bad at it”, that it’s confusing, and that you’re doing it wrong. But it’s time to tell a different story. In this conversation, Anne Lester tells us about how to have Your Best Financial Life. And she wrote the book on it. Anne spent 20 years as the Head of Retirement Solutions at JP Morgan. She co-founded The Aspen Leadership Forum on Retirement Savings. And now she’s sharing with us how we can think of money differently. If you’re ready to think about money differently, this is the podcast for you. Anne’s book recommendation is Money Doesn’t Grow on Trees by Neal S Godfrey Her song is Barbie Dreams You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

“Take a deep breath.” I feel like I’ve heard this advice for as long as I can remember. I am a crier and always have been. Often when someone can see I’m about to cry, this is their advice. It’s not the greatest advice. Taking a deep breath may actually make you MORE anxious and upset. But don’t worry, Stacy Fritz will explain which breath will help you. Stacy is one of my very good friends and she’s the founder and inventor of vidaBALL–a tool that will help you to use your breath and trust it. And in the process you’ll trust yourself. In this wide ranging conversation we talk about breathing, self-advocacy, advocating for your ideas and riding the waves of grief. Here’s the link to vidaBALL–it’s an amazing tool! Here are the links to the breathing exercises that Stacy described. Water–good for anytime Wine/Whiskey-to relax Coffee–for energy You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

You need to hear this episode. Danielle and I are both “recovering trial attorneys”, but we arrived at different times and ways. Have you ever felt like you were doing the wrong thing, but didn’t know how to make a change? When your work/family/role is your identity, changing it can be a huge challenge. And no matter who you are or where you are in that process, this conversation will help. You’ll learn the power of feeling your feelings and seeing different perspectives on every situation. And, as always, we’ll dive into the power of beliefs and how they guide everything we do. You can learn more about Danielle here: Website: https://daniellesunberg.com/ Book: Atlas of Being: https://daniellesunberg.com/book/ You can listen to the Elegant Warrior playlist here. Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

In this episode of the podcast, Heather welcomes Urs Koenig, a former United Nations peacekeeper and NATO military peacekeeping commander, who is also the author of "Radical Humility: Be a Badass Leader and a Good Human." Urs discusses the importance of humility in leadership, proposing a shift from traditional heroic leadership to what he calls "now leadership," which is centered on radical humility. This leadership approach is anchored in three pillars: accurate self-knowledge, self-awareness, and relational leadership. He emphasizes that feedback is crucial for growth and development as a leader and that vulnerability is key to building trust. Heather and Urs also explore how his endurance athletic background has shaped his views on leadership and the skill of learning to lose. They talk about effective communication and the various ways of conveying messages to reach different audiences. Urs shares insights into his upcoming book "Leadership Now," which aims to be personal, research-based and includes practical exercises for readers to apply its concepts. In this episode you will learn: (00:00:02) Introducing Urs Koenig on Radical Humility (00:01:00) Katie Shipman's New Book on Leading with Radical Humility (00:07:26) The Importance of Feedback for Leadership Growth (00:09:59) Building Trust through Vulnerability (00:12:04) Earning Vulnerability in Relationships by Brene Brown (00:18:43) Radical Humility and Endurance Athletics (00:22:04) Highlight from Page 147 of Radical Humility (00:25:33) Leadership Prompts for Immediate Application (00:27:43) Book Recommendations from Urs Koenig Learn more about Urs Koenig: Book: Radical Humility: Be a Badass Leader and a Good Human Website: https://www.urskoenig.com/ Join The Self Advocacy School: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

In today’s episode of How to Advocate, we’re talking about complacency. Whether you’re an individual leading yourself or a leader within an organization, complacency is a problem. When people are complacent they don’t engage and they certainly don’t invest. They don’t collaborate and they don’t grow. But how do you overcome complacency? The answer is BELIEF. In this episode, Heather shares the CURE for Complacency. The CURE is belief that is Contagious, Unapologetic, Reasoned (not reasonable), and Empathetic. (and if you need help with the Empathy piece this exercise will definitely help!) https://bit.ly/ThreeExercisesforGreaterPerspective And if you want to dive deeper into this work, The Self Advocacy School is the easiest place to start. It’s a place where you can practice building belief (first your own, then others’) and become an extraordinary advocate. Here’s the link to join. Finally, if you want Heather to help your team CURE complacency and gain exponential growth, here’s the link to chat! Whether you’re leading yourself, a team or an organization, you’re always going to face complacency. You need the CURE! In this episode, you’ll hear 2:00-The dangers of complacency in personal and professional growth 2:22 The cure for complacency through belief 7:04 Contagious belief and unapologetic leadership 12:09 Motivating and leading others through empathetic belief 14:21 Overcoming complacency in personal and professional life 19:57 Belief and its impact on growth Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/https://advocatetowin.com/

This week Heather shares the 3 Es of an Advocate–Energy, Empathy, and Evidence. She shares how you can use these three Es to build belief. There are examples of how to use these 3 Es in corporate life and family life. Enjoy! Register here for the Feb 16th masterclass on How to Be the Strongest Energy In the Room. Join the Belief Builder’s Academy here. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

Advocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it’s the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it. 1-Know what you want. 2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight. 3-Master the art of the ask. In this episode, you’ll learn the specifics of all three steps. And you’ll walk away with the ability to ask for what you want–and get it. If you want help with these 3 steps, you can get free access to the exercises that will help you to see other perspectives. The ability to do so will help you with all 3 steps. You can access those exercises here. And if you want to own the magic of these three steps, you could join The Self Advocacy School. The opportunity to be a Founding Member will be over at the end of February, so this is your chance to get what you want, over and over again. Find out more here. And now, in this episode you’ll learn more about: Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

There are many tools you can use to advocate for anything you want, and today we’re focusing on one of the most important tools-Evidence. Whether you’re a leader advocating for change, a salesperson advocating for your product/service, an individual advocating for more resources or a partner advocating for more support, you can use evidence to build beliefs and win. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/ Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

In this episode, Heather shares why we must all think of ourselves as advocates. She explains that leading, selling and serving are really advocating. Advocating is building belief, and when you learn to do it well-you win. You’ll hear about: 0:02 4:47 9:42 13:17 17:02 22:01 Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

This is a new season of The Elegant Warrior, and it’s called How to Advocate. No matter what you want this year–better health, more money, better relationships–you will have to advocate to get it. You’ll need to advocate for more time, more resources, more money, better boundaries, and more help. In this episode, you’ll learn the tools to begin. But before we begin, it’s important to remember that one of the biggest tools of an advocate is perspective. When you communicate, you share perspectives. When you advocate, you change them. So I created 3 exercises to help you get better at seeing other perspectives. You can access that here https://bit.ly/ThreeExercisesforGreaterPerspective Whether you’re a leader, in sales or just starting your career, you need to learn to advocate. In this episode, Heather Hansen teaches you 0:02 1:47 5:48 7:51 11:32 Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: https://advocatetowin.com/self-advocacy-school/ Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: https://advocatetowin.com/contact/Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/Website: https://advocatetowin.com/

In today’s episode, you’ll learn what it means to advocate, and why you must master the skill if you want to win. Heather will share: -the formal definition of “advocate” -her definition and how it all relies upon building belief. -the 3 steps to advocating for yourself and what you want. -why you must believe in order to do steps 1 and 2. -how evidence plays a role in advocating -the role that “elegance” plays in mastering this skill. If you want to join the Advocate With Elegance (AWE) membership, the link to join is here. If you join before midnight on Sept 5th, 2023, you will receive a free thirty minute 1:1 call with Heather and a free ADVOCATE bracelet. Stay Connected with Heather: To schedule a call with Heather, click here To follow Heather on Instagram, click here To subscribe to Heather’s newsletter, click here To request a transcript of this episode, email: operations@heatherhansenpresents.com ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals.

I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Gladys McGarey today. Dr. Gladys McGarey is a 102-year-old doctor and author of The Well Lived Life: Six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age. In this episode, she shares how to be truly alive, the importance of your true nature and how to spend your energy wisely. Dr. Gladys McGarey is no ordinary centenarian. A true trailblazer, she is recognized as a founding diplomat of the American Board of Holistic Medicine. Her influence has been felt across the medical landscape as the co-founder and past president of the American Holistic Medical Association. Her commitment to bridging the gap between conventional and holistic approaches is truly inspiring. In this incredibly insightful episode, we're reminded that age is truly just a number when it comes to a passionate pursuit of knowledge and healing. Dr. Gladys McGarey's legacy continues to remind us of the immense potential that lies within the field of holistic medicine. To learn more about our guest, visit these links: Book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Well-Lived-Life/Gladys-McGarey/9781668014486 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/begladmd/?hl=en Resources Mentioned: Sign up for the Webinar here: August 21st, 4PM Eastern: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_Yg17bBbCQEeBIz_Y8x4Z3Q August 29th, 12PM Eastern: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_sUrUAn_0SNyNivUFOg9I5w Join the Advocate with Elegance membership! Stay Connected with Heather: To schedule a call with Heather, click here To follow Heather on Instagram, click here To subscribe to Heather’s newsletter, click here To request a transcript of this episode, email: operations@heatherhansenpresents.com ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals.

In this episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, we're diving into the importance of standing up for yourself and unlocking your fullest potential. I've learned from my experience as a trial attorney that standing up for yourself goes beyond just avoiding being taken advantage of - it's about asking for what you want in a way that gets results. I share a story from my early career where I stood up for someone in a tense mediation situation. This experience taught me the power of taking up space in a room and advocating for my own wants and needs. Standing up for ourselves doesn't mean we are disconnected from others, in fact, it allows us to share our boundaries, our dreams, and our potential. It helps us to navigate challenging conversations more effectively and move forward in our journeys, towards the path of fulfilling our dreams and accessing our limitless potential. Key Takeaways: · Discover the profound impact that standing up for oneself has on personal and career trajectory. · Gain insightful methods on eloquently expressing your needs and desires for more productive interactions. · Understand the potential drawbacks of avoiding difficult discussions and how they can impede progress. · Delve deep into the transformative power of self-assertion in reaching peak performance. · Learn the secrets of successful negotiation for better outcomes in challenging conversations. Resources Mentioned: Sign up for the Webinar here: August 21st, 4PM Eastern: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_Yg17bBbCQEeBIz_Y8x4Z3Q August 29th, 12PM Eastern: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_sUrUAn_0SNyNivUFOg9I5w Join the Advocate with Elegance membership! Stay Connected with Heather: To schedule a call with Heather, click here To follow Heather on Instagram, click here To subscribe to Heather’s newsletter, click here To request a transcript of this episode, email: operations@heatherhansenpresents.com ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals.