The Demetra Gray Show

A quick update to tell you I'm taking a little break from episodes! I will likely be back in some amount of weeks :) xo

Jordan and I talk about many things under the sun, such as going to bed and waking up with the sun, the comment our appliance installer made about our handiness and what we are doing now, Jordan chopping wood and Demetra planting the garden, Jordan’s new program, Jordan’s dreams, the cute things about our island, what we had to let go of in getting married, and much much more

In this episode I go on a rant about the claims companies and people make about studies without ever having read them, I talk all about my garden and what I'm growing and creating things with our hands, my sourdough adventures, what my screentime boundaries are, and how gardening is helping me heal website: demetragray.com

In this episode Jess and I talk about our past experiences with men following us home, cat-calling, and being predatory, and what to do in these situations. We discuss verbal boundary setting, how to tell someone you’re not interested in communicating with them, what signs to look for when someone might be dangerous, and the various ways a situation can escalate. We also talk about our own experiences with self-defense training as women, different types of martial arts, and how important it can be to have the knowing that you can physically protect yourself. We also both love men and share the perspective that having had negative experiences with some men does not extrapolate to men in general, and we talk about shifting this story, our appreciation for men, and the protectiveness of men around us. Jess's linktree: ways to work with her, free offerings, etc Jess's Facebook (where she writes most of her content) Jess Mather, Cpt, Lpta, Sfg, FRCms, Fms, is a strength and rehab professional who helps others relieve symptoms and build a strong, healthy body with sustainable, safe, and proven strategies. With over 13 years of experience supporting thousands of individuals from 9 to over 99, she has repeatedly witnessed the body's ability to strengthen and heal regardless of circumstance. Jess has spent the last 8+ years online helping clients in over a dozen countries through private coaching, courses and group programs. Jess is also a board-accredited educational provider in multiple states through both the Physical and Occupational Therapy Boards and the founder of the Chronic Pain & Trauma Curriculum to teach other health providers how to work with chronic pain through a trauma-informed lens. She blends her background in physical therapy, trauma healing, and strength training to create a unique experience for each one of her clients and students. Other links: Demetra's Instagram Who Demetra did the ASST training through: Raw Power Self Defense (LA based)

Going away so much over the past few months has shown us a lot, and in this episode I talk about what I've been learning and the need to simplify my life and get out of stress mode. Highlights include the pros & cons of healing on the internet, commentary on trad wife/fake IG accounts, why are you following people you don't like?, creating things with our hands, and how intuitively we tend to know what we need in order to heal.

In this episode (and about 2 years into our marriage), Jordan and I discuss what it was like for us to get engaged. Jordan talks about having anxiety and questioning everything, I talk about how I handled him feeling that way, and we both talk about the many different things our minds did to try to protect us. We especially focus on the societal narrative for how you "should" be feeling during this time, versus the reality of how most people actually feel! Engagement anxiety is a very real thing, and it's not a "condition" as much as it is just very normal. If we don't work through these feelings during our engagement, it's likely they'll surface in the first year of marriage. These life events are a big deal, and we're here to talk you through it! Jordan's article: Engagement Anxiety: Why am I more afraid than happy? Direct, live support from Jordan Gray: The Circle

In this episode I cover a huge range of topics about the menstrual cycle. I struggled for over a decade with intense painful 10 day periods and endometriosis (including bowel endometriosis), plus at one point I bled for 16 months straight. I had to fix these things on my own, and this is how I did. This episode is kind of split into two parts - the basics/foundations (things like eating enough food, eating frequently, pro-metabolic style eating, focusing on saturated fats, getting enough carbs, minerals and vitamins, raw carrot salad/estrogen detox, etc. The second part goes more into the story of how I bled for over a year straight and what stopped it - in this part I talk about lab work and supplements, homeopathy, german new medicine, & emotions. I also talk about progesterone and my current experimentation with bioidentical progesterone. Sound quality is a little un-ideal in the beginning but around 30 mins in the background sound eases! I note in the episode and I'll also note here that although I'm using the word "healed" for search purposes (so you find this if you need it) I don't really think there is a final ending of "healed," our bodies are always an ongoing journey. However, I now rarely have endometriosis symptoms and have a pretty easy, light and regular 5 day cycle with very minimal, if any, pain - which is a world of difference from before, and I expect it to keep getting better. I am not a doctor & none of this is medical advice. Further resources I recommend: The work of Ray Peat Sarah and Ashley Armstrong's Rooted in Resilience online course (they also have a podcast by the same name, season 1 goes into these topics I've touched on more in depth). They are @strong.sistas on IG The book How to Heal Your Metabolism by Kate Deering is an easy to understand, more in depth overview of what I've talked about in this episode as well You can also search for "pro-metabolic" and "bioenergetic nutrition," that is the lens that most of what I share here is based through. This is a lens that encompasses the work of Dr. Ray Peat, Dr. Broda Barnes, & many others

In this episode it's my turn to ask Jordan questions that he wasn't told ahead of time! Topics range from what made him want to marry me, to his suicide attempt at 15 and becoming a father in the future, & more. This is a companion episode to the previous one, where Jordan asks me questions.

In this episode Jordan interviews me, asking me 5 deep questions about life that he did not tell me ahead of time. This is a very intimate episode full of tears & laughter :) topics include what I miss about the beginning of us dating, the biggest thing I've learned about sexual energy, what I want our future children to know, & more. Stay tuned for next episode where we do the reverse, with different secret questions!

Join me for a walk outside as I talk through many different things lol such as - being a 1/3 in human design, all about sugar and the metabolism and things I’ve been learning about health, how I realized I need to be eating way more carbs, thinking about being a parent, experiencing myself differently in different places, arriving back in South Carolina, and many other things! Resources/people to look up: Ray Peat, Broda Barnes, Albert Szent-Györgyi, Sarah & Ashley Armstrong (have a nutrition course), @fundamental.nutrition on IG, Kate Deering's "How to heal the metabolism," etc

I am reading 100 books this year and my first 10 are complete! In this episode I discuss pros and cons of this challenge so far, and talk about each book and what I thought about it (no spoilers). The first 10 books were, in order: The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue - VE Schwab Mrs. Dalloway - Virginia Woolf A Tale for the Time Being - Ruth Ozeki The Peculiar Life of a Lonely Postman - Denis Theriault The Glass Hotel - Emily St John Mandel Burning Sage - Meghan Fandrich Sprawl - Danielle Dutton Loomered - Laura Loomer On Writing - Stephen King Modern Whore - Andrea Werhun Contact me: demetra@demetragray.com

Jordan & I talk about our choice to live on a little island in a 120-year-old house, what we love about it and what we dislike, the many factors that go into choosing where to live, the underbelly of fantasies of ways of living, & how there are always going to be parts you don’t like of things you want in life.

I talk about how our trip to Mexico was, having our home deep cleaned while we were away, my lab results and a general health discussion/update, how I get on schedule when coming back from a trip (food, routines, and everything else), the food I'm making this week, how I schedule cooking and meal plan. My books: Click here for my books!

Jordan and Demetra answer some of your questions more in depth about our sex life and about how we feel about drugs & alcohol. We talk about our past experiences with psychedelics and other drugs, how we feel about them now (spoiler alert: we don't do any), how we relate to alcohol, the different seasons of sex in our 5 years of relationship, why one of our intentions for the year is to have more sex, the longest we've gone without having sex, our different tastes in music, why Led Zeppelin is a shared love, how much we love music, & how we sometimes play and sing together. Improv movie mentioned: "Trust Us, This is All Made Up" with David Pasquesi and T.J. Jagodowski IG: @demetragray__ demetragray.com

Jordan and I talk about the difference in our types of goals, having structure in the day, writing more & walking more, reading 100 books, comedy, enjoying where we are, cinnamon challenge, chuck roast stew, stories, who is more stubborn, home vs hot relationships, & more

I share all about the difficulties that come with being an enneagram 7, the challenges of trying to be a minimalist when you are a maximalist, why my intention of the year is to focus, how I end up knowing so much about so many different things, being curious and Facebook groups, why I care about poetry, changing my last name, a story/rant about Airbnb (which by the way, an update - I won the dispute!!), integrating anger, and having a sense of justice *sorry the audio got a tiny bit weird in the middle, hope it's not too bad!

In this episode Demetra talks about: **this is Demetra sharing her own experience and what she's learning. It is not medical advice!

Jordan & Demetra hang out and talk about many different things including: Jordan’s list of his favorite funny things Demetra has ever said, how we’re sick of the polarity world and how fragile people’s polarity seems to be, changing with your partner, beauty culture and hair, botox, nails, & makeup, and our journeys with coffee.

Jordan & Demetra talk about their adventures getting a Christmas tree together, how they have been massively re-evaluating everything the last couple months, how Jordan overcame his fear of flying, Demetra’s diagnosis of an autoimmune disorder and the feeling of needing to be strong for everyone, how much Demetra loves Taylor Swift, both of our experiences with homeopathy, our different high school experiences, how Demetra got ISS, & Jordan being a peer counselor.

In this episode I tell you about why I deleted most of my past stuff from the podcast/my website, talk about the transition from coach>cult>myself, tell stories about my maximalist design group drama and free speech, and how I am letting myself have all my feelings now and letting go of dumb new age beliefs. Weekly episodes are back - stay tuned!