Sexy Sunday with Bonnie Weeks

Today my friend Marcus Stanback makes his third visit to the pod. We explore how he and his life have evolved in the four years since divorcing his high school sweetheart; how sexual exploration, yoga, and cultivating self-love have helped Marcus find his way to more authentic living; the practice of transparent communication and how it has allowed him to experience more of the love and relationships he desires; and so much more! Check out our previous conversations in episode 6 and episode 33.

Today we're joined by Tiffany Chambers Goldberg, a sensuality coach who helps women tap into their sensuality to improve their range of motion, ease pain, and empower themselves. This is a big, juicy conversation exploring: - the disconnect many women feel from their femininity and the impact it has on their lives - the journey of embracing sensuality and the continual growth and learning that comes with it - physical pain and its connection to emotional states - aging, impermanence, and the fear of death - healing sister wounds - how sensuality and pleasure can nourish and feed all aspects of life - navigating a long-term relationship, marriage, and social judgment when on a path of transformation - the practice of howling and its connection to permission, shame, and pleasure and much more! Connect with Tiffany on Instagram or through her website

My sister Anna joins us today, for her third visit to the podcast. Anna's marriage ended two years ago. Together we explore the complexities of love and relationship post-divorce: fear of loss, capacity to love again, self-love, jealousy, communication, sexuality, and finding grace through the many iterations of self and relationship. If you'd like to listen to other conversations with Anna, find them here: episode 30 and episode 34.

Choosing divorce was one of the biggest things I have done for my life--and HARD. And there have been many unexpected gifts in navigating it, along with the dynamic of co-parenting afterward. Choosing divorce has allowed me to prioritize my happiness and joy while still being present for and growing with my kids. If you're considering or navigating divorce, perhaps my story may support you to embrace the grieving process and see divorce as an opportunity for growth and expansion. Chapters 02:24 Officially Divorced 03:17 Sharing the News of Divorce with the Kids 09:44 The Hardest Part: Telling the Kids 10:36 Choosing Separation and Co-Parenting 19:11 Transitioning and Adjusting to New Living Arrangements 25:00 Missing the Kids and Unexpected Challenges 30:07 Feeling Selfish and Choosing Happiness 32:44 Financial Considerations and Receiving Support 38:06 Allowing Grief and Embracing Expansion

Today, my lover Jason (aka Jazzy) returns to the pod. Together we reflect on Naked 40, the nude portrait project and gallery show that we co-created as a way to celebrate my 40th birthday. We talk about the inspiration behind the four-month-long project, what it was like to hold space for and create with dozens of friends, and how this experience changed us. We also share news about some upcoming opportunities to make nude art with us! Find Jazzy on Instagram here.

We're back, y'alls! Back for more real talk, because that's what Sexy Sunday is all about. Today I'm here for a solo session, about a recent night out dancing by myself. I consciously chose to let myself be seen. To be big and take up space and to embrace the eyes watching me. This is about how I found dance in me, how I gave myself permission to move like the sexiest person in the room. And where the night took me.

Shame comes from stories we tell ourselves. We can change those stories. Taylor and I talk about our early childhood sex conversations, performance, productivity, libido, masturbation and squirting, and more. Instagram account referenced: Dr. Uchenna "UC" Ossai @youseelogic Brené Brown quote: "Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grown. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare." Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Connect with Taylor-leigh HERE Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

This convo in the "Let's Talk About Sex" series with my friend Taylor-leigh begins with some listener stories, then dives into the anatomy of what's actually being stimulated during "squirting." We share stories about anal play and orgasm and noise. A reminder: we hope these podcasts are a conversation starter between you and us as well as between you and the other people in your lives. We love hearing your stories. Feel free to message us. Check out the She Bop's online education events HERE Check out the She Bop's njoy Pure Wand HERE Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

We begin this one talking about the song WAP. Yep. This is a full on party! Taylor and I speak directly from our female-identifying experiences. What do women want to give to their partners? How does surrender come to play? What about the word honor? What do we want? Do we get turned on by the end again?? Do you?? This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same. We believe it will create stronger and more enjoyable relationships with ourselves and partners if more people are talking about sex. Find Taylor on the gram Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

Communication is so much more than just words. It's meaning what you say AND saying what you mean. Selfish honesty asks us to look INSIDE rather than responding the way we "think" someone wants us to. It's observing. It's reflection. It's important for all genders to be acknowledged for their brains and emotions to feel well f---ked in our bodies. Teaser word: toes. You're invited to practice paying attention to what you really want and owning it. This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same. We believe it will create stronger and more enjoyable relationships with ourselves and partners if more people are talking about sex. Podcast mentioned: Authentic Sex with Juliet Allen Connect with Taylor-leigh on IG Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

If there's anything worth getting up EARLY for, it's to podcast about masturbation! We talk praying to the pussy, share toys we like, and give deets about our own journeys with masturbation. M&M's! This episode is part of an ongoing series called "Let's Talk about Sex" with my friend Taylor. Our goal is to normalize conversations like this to encourage others to do the same to create stronger relationships with ourselves and partners. If more people are talking about it, more people can enjoy it. Things mentioned: Juliet Allen and her pleasure wand Vush clit vibrator (mentioned by Taylor) Shibari vibrator (mentioned by Bonnie - affiliate link) Female body casting artist Lydia Reeves The Vulva Witch photography We're looking forward to this being a conversation WITH listeners. Reach out and share your stories, ask questions, correct us when we need it...we want it all. Email hello@bonnieweeks.com. Sign up for Bonnie’s poetry prompts HERE Find Taylor on the gram Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website

Love and pleasure are not meant to be split into small portions, they are meant to be feasted upon. Allie Monday held back on the feast of joy, sensuality, pleasure, and love for so long, but now it’s her goal to eat as much of it as she can. Many of us spend our formative years being afraid of being seen and held, ashamed of our sexuality, and unable to express our desires as we fight through deep wounds of shame and trauma. As we free ourselves of the things that bind us, life becomes so much more beautiful. Now, Allie chooses herself. For as much love from others as she consumes at the feast, Allie always comes first. Let’s all feast together, as long as we put our own pleasure at the front. Connect with Allie: Instagram, Website Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

What you’re about to hear is from a series originally hosted on Yoga Strong, called "Let’s Talk About Sex." I always wanted to have conversations around sex, and thus, this series was born. I had so much fun with it that it became it’s on show. I figured it was time to bring all of that over here. So, if you’re listening to it for the first, second, or third time… Let’s talk about sex. Taylor Rynicki will join me for these convos where we share our personal ideas, experiences, growth, parenting, and navigation of all things sex, pleasure, nudity, sensuality, and joy. We are not claiming to be trained sex therapists or sexologists, but two women-identifying individuals interested in normalizing conversations around sexuality. We believe if more people are talking about it, more people can enjoy it. We're looking forward to this being a conversation WITH listeners. Reach out and share your stories, ask questions, correct us when we need it...we want it all. Email hello@bonnieweeks.com. Find Taylor on the gram Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

(Please note: Adult Content included in this episode, listener discretion is advised) What you are about to hear is an experiment. Because who makes the rules of what is and isn’t allowed, what is and isn’t acceptable? This episode is a Sequel to Episode 13 of this podcast, where I attempted to read a story while my lover went down on me, and what follows. This time, we’re flipping the script, and he’ll be reading some bell hooks, while I give him pleasure. My hope is that you listen with a brave and curious heart. When we talk about sex, we have more and better sex. And the more we are open and honest about our experiences in life, the more we walk around the world feeling more like ourselves, and then we can meet each other with more authenticity. Who doesn’t want more of that? Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

Dim the lights and cozy up on the couch for the kind of conversation that just makes you giggle. This episode is the sexy, sultry, sweet kind of pillow talk I had with my own Lover. We spoke about buttholes, balls, the various lengths of hair (pubic, leg, and facial) and the best part of each kind of hair—especially the pussy-scent-absorbing qualities of beards. Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

It’s my favorite day of the week and I’m talking with my one of favorite people, my sister, Anna. It’s been so much fun to be able to have this relationship with my sister, to celebrate each other, and have the types of conversations about sex that we were never able to have growing up. It’s been a process of redefining ourselves and claiming our pleasure without judgement or shame. In this week’s Sisters, Sisters conversation, Anna and I talk about the fact that sex shouldn’t feel like work, my kids overhearing the sounds of sex, the pressure to perform, and a story about a pounding that lead to a discovery of a new need. Sex shouldn’t feel like work [6:38] Kids overhearing the sounds of sex [13:15] Having conversations about joy and pleasure without judgement [19:00] How to express what doesn’t feel good (without dying) [25:54] The origins of our shame [29:24] In need of a good pounding [36:29] Play without orgasm, and pleasure in openness [46:27] Landing in trust [53:05] The ebbs and flows of pleasure [59:13] Connect with Anna: @strangeladytravels Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

In order to get what you want, you first have to own it, and then you have to communicate it. And if you don’t have a deep, sensual relationship with yourself, how will you ever know what you want? When you know yourself deeply and intimately, you drip with a magnetic and sensual energy, and you begin to crave pleasure enough to communicate it to others. Marcus Stanback has never been afraid to own his hoe phases, and it’s brought him to some of the best sexual experiences of life; he’s having real orgasms, and yes, it’s different than the usual ejaculation. Do we place too much value on sex? [4:43] Honesty in a hoe-phase [6:51] How to tell when someone is hitting on you [10:02] The power to say what you want [15:48] Ejaculation is not orgasm [19:27] Giving without reciprocity [28:47] Taking care of typical caretakers [33:31] Dripping sensual energy [38:20] Building a relationship with yourself [46:52] The vulnerability of asking for what you need [53:51] A lack of clarity is not compassionate [1:02:35] Connect with Marcus: Instagram, Website Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

I’ve been experiencing some pain lately, and it’s been a humbling experience for my in a lot of ways. I had a moment the other day, alone with my vibrator, where I was overcome with rage and sorrow. I stood there and yelled because I do not want to feel this pain, but it does not get to control my life. My pain does not get to control my joy and my pleasure, because I own that. I get to own my orgasm. So if you’re feeling defined by the circumstances of your life, reclaim that story. Tell it as your own. Fill out the Sexy Sunday Ideas and Proposals form HERE Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

Happy New Year, Sexies! Today I want to tell you a little story about dough, and the sweetness and sexiness of sticky buns. There are a lot of ways in our lives we have to be firm and rigid, and take charge. But what would happen if, even just for a moment, we were soft and pliable just like dough? There’s a sensuality to dough, the way it’s kneaded, its suppleness and the way it stretches… Mmmmm… I think we should all be a little more like dough. Embracing softness, like dough … 1:15 A poem about “making bread” … 3:47 Candid conversations on what it means to be human … 5:03 Our stories are worth listening to … 9:04 Finding both strength and softness in our sexiness … 12:53 Fill out the Sexy Sunday form HERE Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE

There is so much shame and stigma surrounding sexual health and STI’s. If sex is a part of life that we want to talk about openly, then we need to be discussing our health as well. That’s one reason I’m so damn excited for you to hear this episode, but that’s not all—today I had the pleasure and the privilege of talking to my sister, Anna Strange. Anna and I talk about our sexual health journeys, how having these conversations can begin to destigmatize this very real part of being a sexually active human, finding permission in self-exploration, armpit-f*cking, and a virus that sounds a little bit like a spell from Harry Potter. You should be able to feel free in your body, to discuss what it means to be human without shame, fear, and judgement. It’s all yours to explore. Appreciating our bodies as siblings … 3:01 Taking care of your sexual health … 10:17 Learning about molluscum contagiosum … 16:28 Feelings of dirtiness … 23:33 Holding shame and emotional pain around your genitals … 26:15 Finding new ways to feel sexy … 35:35 Conversations to help destigmatize … 41:58 How to f*ck an armpit … 46:56 Something can be learned from every experience … 50:18 Sex gives us permission to fully know ourselves … 59:33 Give yourself permission to make a change 1:11:05 If you want something different, do something different … 1:18:44 Taking up space and inviting others to do the same … 1:20:24 Playful hypotheticals … 1:24:03 Empowering others to feel free in their bodies … 1:31:28 Connect with Anna: @strangeladytravels Buy the Molluscum Contagiosum treatment I used HERE Sign up for Sexy Sunday poetry prompts HERE Connect with Bonnie: Instagram, Email (hello@bonnieweeks.com), Website Check out the Yoga Strong Podcast HERE