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The Rewrite the Mother Code podcast empowers people who identify as women to love themselves holistically by rewriting their mother codes. We all have mother codes from our childhood and from culture’s definition that to be a mother means to have children. But this isn’t a conversation around having children or not—Rewrite the Mother Code is the podcast that enables its listeners to begin to embody the woman she always knew herself to be. In raw, insightful, challenging conversations, your host Dr. Gertrude Lyons takes us there. So be prepared to show up, hold space and be mothered in a way you’ve never been before, but have always needed. Together, we can Rewrite the Mother Code. Follow Dr. Gertrude Lyons on Instagram @drgertrudelyons Visit www.drgertrudelyons.com

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The Rewrite the Mother Code podcast empowers people who identify as women to love themselves holistically by rewriting their mother codes. We all have mother codes from our childhood and from culture’s definition that to be a mother means to have children. But this isn’t a conversation around having children or not—Rewrite the Mother Code is the podcast that enables its listeners to begin to embody the woman she always knew herself to be. In raw, insightful, challenging conversations, your host Dr. Gertrude Lyons takes us there. So be prepared to show up, hold space and be mothered in a way you’ve never been before, but have always needed. Together, we can Rewrite the Mother Code. Follow Dr. Gertrude Lyons on Instagram @drgertrudelyons Visit www.drgertrudelyons.com

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131: Working Moms Create Balance with Nelly Alba

12/26/2023
Dr. Gertrude talks with Working Mom Balanced Podcast Host Nelly Alba about creating the life you want as a mother. As an ambitious, career-oriented person, Nelly found the typical work-life balance advice ineffective and negative. After suffering a breakdown living according to what moms “should do,” she consciously decided to live differently than the blogs suggested. She began her business of blogging, podcasting, and mentoring other working moms while also raising two children and being the director of a non-profit organization. Nelly and Dr. Gertrude discuss the importance of self-awareness and self-discovery before making huge life changes. If we don’t know how we want change to look, it's easy to fall into old habits and do what we think other people want, ignoring ourselves. Nelly shares her experiences rewriting the mother codes, including establishing healthier family boundaries and supporting her partner, who is a stay-at-home father. Nelly details some of the softer tools she uses to prevent stress and dispel negativity in the long term. Episode Outline: (00:48) Dr. Gertrude's life update (07:08) Nelly Alba’s journey to Working Mom Balanced (15:24) Balance is not found its created (20:41) Biggest mother codes Nelly rewrote (27:28) Connecting to your vision (32:36) Deciding to be a stay-at-home dad (39:33) Tools for stress management (45:24) What does rewrite the mother code mean for Nelly (46:35) Dr. Gertrude’s wrap-up Connect with Nelly Alba: Listen to Working Mom Balanced Podcast Learn more on Nelly’s website Download Nelly’s free clarity journal Connect with Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:54:31

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130: Celebrating the Darkness of Winter Solstice

12/19/2023
This special solo episode with Dr. Gertrude welcomes the upcoming winter solstice. Instead of fearing or avoiding the darker months ahead, Dr. Gertrude shares ways to embrace, learn from, and even look forward to this darker part of the year. Dr. Gertrude examines the solstice's inherent feminine power. Just as the womb nurtures, so do the dark months. These metaphors add layers of meaning to the winter as a time of deep introspection and an understanding that the lyrical mystery of the darkness is simple to embrace. The wisdom of the dark goddess is present across cultures, such as Kali, Morrígan, Persephone, and Ereshkigal, each symbolizing states of life, death, rebirth, and magic. Their archetypal energies are available to tap into at all times. Though it is easy to become swept up in the busyness of the holiday season, Dr. Gertrude reminds us to balance rest with activity. The longest night of the year ushers in a time to consider the year’s harvest, what’s worked and what hasn’t, rest, pause, and take stock of all we have accomplished. From this rested state, we can more clearly locate our dreams and consider our metrics for success. Dr. Gertrude concludes by encouraging listeners to sit and be still with the darkness. Meditate, let your intentions include excavating the dreams of your unconscious, honor the solstice, journal, listen in, and most importantly, rest. Episode Outline: (03:07) The darkness of winter solstice (09:31) The Solstice’s Feminine power (13:49) Dark goddess: life, death, rebirth (17:09) Kali, Morrígan, Persephone, and Ereshkigal (22:12) Working with winter (28:37) What are my metrics for success? (32:33) Interplay of light and dark Resources Referenced: Waking Up To The Dark by Clark Strand Irish Pagan School Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:40:25

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129: Transitioning into the Fourth Trimester with Elizabeth Tuazon

12/15/2023
Dr. Gertrude welcomes back Elizabeth Tuazon for another coaching interview as Elizabeth reaches the three months of life milestone with her baby, Lyla Rose. As Lyla grows from newborn to infant, Elizabeth shares her process of marking this important transition with a ritual of her own making. The ritual ceremony unfolded organically one new moon weekend among family and included speeches, visualizations, intentions, a bonfire, and an impactful tarot reading. As her baby grows, Elizabeth realizes there are many transitions in her life unfolding at once. Now that she’s working again part time, she considers what going back to work full time will be like. Dr. Gertrude and Elizabeth then have a larger conversation about the American cultural need to be doing something and balancing one’s masculine and feminine sides in negotiating just how much one should be doing. They lastly discuss the difference between inviting a child into your life and making a child your whole life. The distinction is incredibly meaningful for a parent’s identity and how they behave around their friends when their children are with them, for example. This more expansive and adventurous perspective allows for more possibility and is exactly what Rewrite the Mother Code is all about! Episode Outline: (02:40) Three months of life milestone (04:56) New moon ritual to mark newborn to infant (17:28) Masculine and feminine feelings around returning to work (21:22) Becoming a person who likes babies (24:41) Inviting a child into your life (28:43) Projecting inner child stuff onto our kids (35:00) Learning through sharing (38:51) Dr. Gertrude’s conclusion: being with feelings Resources Referenced: The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnston Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:43:03

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128: The Reality of Human Trafficking with Alexandra Ford

12/12/2023
Dr. Gertrude speaks with Alexandra Ford, a former trafficking victim turned activist, who after 10 years of personal hardships, recognized her experiences were actually human trafficking. Alexandra tells Dr. Gertrude about the importance of understanding human trafficking whether or not you have children. Hollywood has muddled the public perception of what human trafficking actually is and most people think it is only some version of Taken. When it comes to teaching children about consent and trafficking, the work begins early but maybe not as you’d expect. Alexandra advises that a wider understanding and normalization of consent is crucial. Not only does no mean no, but yes also means yes and within very specific situations. Alexandra also advises closely monitoring a child’s phone usage and how they navigate the digital realm. Having strict rules around phones and actually teaching children phone safety are helpful practices for instilling lasting digital safety habits. These habits will form trust between you and them, which will better equip them to trust themselves in avoiding potentially dangerous online situations in the future. For Alexandra the early years of motherhood have been complex, more like surviving than thriving, which is something that she accepts and wishes other moms knew they are allowed to feel. Her past traumas returned in unexpected ways. Empowered by her own trafficking experience, legal education, and advocacy work, Alexandra brings awareness to the reality of trafficking and how to counter shame and stigma in victims. She co-founded the advocacy group, Uprising, in Wyoming and her personal brand, The Laughing Survivor, in British Columbia. She is passionate about educating mothers on the importance of safety for children. Episode Outline: (04:12) Human trafficking is important to understand whether or not you have children (06:52) Alexandra shares her addiction and trafficking story (18:30) Shame, victim blaming, coercion, and consent (26:08) #1 myth of how trafficking happens (27:63) Best way to protect yourself and community: talk about consent (29:01) Children’s online safety and building cell phone trust (40:19) 3 practical examples of teaching consent (48:25) What rewrite the mother code means for Alexandra (53:50) Conclusion Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter Connect with Alexandra Learn more about The Laughing Survivor Follow Alexandra on Instagram Sign up for updates on Alexandra’s memoir release Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:01:00:33

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127: Ann-Preston Bosher on Pediatric Physical Therapy & Trauma Care

12/5/2023
The work of Ann-Preston Bosher is three-fold: she’s a pediatric physical therapist, medical advocate, and an emergence coach. On top of her practice as a physical therapist, Ann-Preston is uniquely skilled in helping families identity and process trauma. She also strives to transform the medical profession from the inside by advocating for emotional intelligence in the profession and coaches individual clients in her business, Hyphenate Coaching. In this episode, Ann-Preston shares her journey from working as a pediatric physical therapist inside family’s homes to realizing that in order to gain a deeper ability to help her patients, she needed additional training in emotional responses to trauma. Her work aims to help patients recognize and identify trauma so they can engage with the healing process. Dr. Gertrude and Ann-Preston explore some of the unexpected places trauma can manifest in young families and how to address it. From these tender experiences, Ann-Preston shares the many ways she sees mothering and motherhood unfold and her own story of being a mother without children. The depth of Ann-Preston’s work reminds us how important it is to disrupt and expand the limiting narratives of mothering. Episode Outline: (05:13) From physical therapist to opening Hyphenate Coaching (15:33) Family systems and medical trauma (21:52) Shapes of motherhood and mothering (25:49) Coming out as a mother without children (39:36) There can be trauma in healing too (46:07) What rewriting the mother code means to Ann-Preston (47:15) Dr. Gertrude wraps up Resources Referenced: Women of Tomorrow podcast Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter Connect with Anne-Preston Bosher Learn more on Ann-Preston’s coaching website Follow Hyphenate Coaching on Instagram And on Facebook! Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:51:15

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126: Self-Care Revolution: Kelley Nemiro on Motherhood and Intuition

11/27/2023
𝐊𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐲 𝐍𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐨 is a highly trained and certified holistic health coach with a wealth of experience in empowering women to take control of their health and well-being. Her passion for helping clients transform their lives through personalized whole-person coaching has earned her a reputation as a sought-after expert in balancing hormones and addressing root causes of health issues. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:46:09

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125: Harmony in Creation: Insights from Mary Adkins on Balancing Motherhood and Creative Expression

11/20/2023
𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐀𝐝𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐬 is a writing coach and founder of The Book Incubator, a 12-month program to write, revise, and pitch your novel or memoir. She is the author of the novels When You Read This (Indie Next Pick, “Best Book of 2019” by Good Housekeeping and Real Simple), Privilege (Today.com “Best Summer Read,” New York Post “Best Book of the Week”), and Palm Beach (recently named one of the New York Post’s “Best Books of 2021”). Her books have been published in 13 countries, and her essays and reporting have appeared in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Slate, and more. A graduate of Yale Law School and Duke University, she helps aspiring authors finish their books with joy and clarity. You can apply for The Book Incubator by going to apply.maryadkinswriter.com. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:43:21

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124: Navigating Separation Pain & Family Dynamics with Elizabeth Turazon

11/15/2023
New motherhood brings countless first encounters, giving joy, as well as pain, new meaning. Dr. Gertrude talks with new mom, Elizabeth Turazon, about her experience of separation pain, traveling with a baby, and how to include extended family on the journey. Dr. Gertrude checks in with Elizabeth Turazon about what’s new in her motherhood journey as she celebrates the 10-week postpartum milestone. A new child brings many firsts to move through as parents and as individuals, and this conversation untangles some of these challenges while also highlighting the joys present along the way, and the importance of holding all parts of the adventure at once. Elizabeth vulnerably shares a painful experience of separation from her baby that caught her off guard and how she is planning for a long trip away from home among family with her newborn. As her baby begins to slowly do things more independently and away from her, Elizabeth questions the essence of her role as a mother, and also how she can be a good model in the face of adversity for her daughter. Episode Outline: (06:50) Preparing for baby’s first road trip (10:45) The micorealities of separation, finding purpose through joy and pain (18:01) Mom guilt: am I doing enough? Finding levity through the doubt (26:09) Modeling what to do during frustration and pain for our children (30:05) Steering the adventure ahead towards delight (40:58) Preparing for the grand experiment of a family system (45:52) Moving through unresolved conflict to deepen relationships (50:26) Dr. Gertrude’s takeaways Resources Referenced: Whole Brain Living by Jill Bolte Taylor Listen to the entire series with Elizabeth Tuazon: Episode 97: Conversations with Elizabeth Tuazon: Pregnancy and Embracing Discomfort Episode 112: Birth's Sacred Dance: The Power of Wisdom and Song with Elizabeth Tuazon ​​Episode 118: Co-Regulation and Authentic Expression in Early Motherhood with Elizabeth Tuazon Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website drgertrudelyons.com Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram: @drgertrudelyons Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter: drgertrudelyons.com/newsletter Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:55:34

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123: Motherhood & Creativity: A Conversation with Jennifer Louden

11/10/2023
Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first bestseller, The Woman’s Comfort Book, published in 1992. Since then, she’s written eight additional books on well-being and creative living, including The Woman’s Retreat Book and The Life Organizer, with close to a million copies of her books sold in nine languages. Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada, and Europe, and has written a national magazine column for Martha Stewart magazine. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:44:15

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122: Journeying into the Season: Finding Joy, Honoring Ancestors

11/6/2023
In this episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons reflects on the power of aligning with the seasons and cycles, particularly focusing on the midpoint of the fall season. She explores how different cultures celebrate this time as a way to honor their ancestors and connect with the spirit world. 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:27:19

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121: Unlocking the Mysteries of the Divine Feminine: Insights from Perdita Finn and Dr. Gertrude

10/30/2023
Perdita Finn is the co-founder, with her husband Clark Strand, of the non-denominational international fellowship The Way of the Rose, which inspired their book The Way of the Rose: The Radical Path of the Divine Feminine Hidden in the Rosary. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:54:38

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120: Empowering Working Parents: Navigating Challenges and Cultivating Success

10/23/2023
Michelle Yu, MPH, is Co-founder & CEO of Josie. Named after her daughter, Josie’s vision is to transform the working parent experience. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:46:14

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119: Breaking Free from Societal Norms: Lucy Handley's Child-Free Odyssey

10/17/2023
Lucy Handley is a freelance journalist and writer, covering topics from sustainability to the stock market. She also writes about her life via her newsletter, The Honesty Box https://thehonestybox.substack.com/ 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:49:17

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118: Co-Regulation and Authentic Expression in Early Motherhood with Elizabeth Tuazon

10/15/2023
Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. In this episode, we delve into the power of vulnerability as Elizabeth reflects on the emotional rollercoaster of early motherhood. Discover how embracing vulnerability allowed her to connect with her own feelings and the unspoken challenges many new mothers face. Learn how vulnerability becomes a source of strength and connection in the journey of nurturing a new life. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:44:41

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117: Exploring the Essence of Joy: A Journey Within

10/9/2023
As she began to contemplate her experience further, Dr. Lyons came to the realization that joy had been a relatively rare emotion in her life. This revelation prompted her to reflect on her family of origin and the scarcity of joy in her early years. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:26:53

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116: Rewrite the Mother Code with Yann Dang: Navigating Motherhood on Your Own Terms

10/2/2023
Yann Dang is an Executive & Life Coach, who leverages over 15 years of international corporate experience integrated with her deep knowledge of Social and Emotional Intelligence as an International Coaching Federation (ICF) Certified Coach to support executives and leaders reach their potential. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:51:46

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115: Embracing Your Whole Self: Rewriting the Mother Code with Nikki Oden

9/22/2023
Nikki Oden is a lawyer and mom mentor who helps working moms battle burnout by teaching them how to own their days and crush their goals—without the mom guilt. After walking away from a lucrative career as a commercial litigator for a prestigious, international law firm to become a stay-at-home mom. Nikki Oden kicks off our conversation by highlighting the significance of self-love in the context of Rewriting the Mother Code. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:54:52

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114: Part 1 - Nurturing Motherhood: Balancing Emotions, Discovery, and Self-Healing

9/21/2023
Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. She is also a professional life coach. She is a PCC-certified coach with the International Coaching Federation and has been on a deep journey of personal growth. She also directs, designs, and manages a curriculum specializing in social-emotional intelligence. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:28:55

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114: Part 2 - Nurturing Motherhood: Balancing Emotions, Discovery, and Self-Healing

9/21/2023
Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. She is also a professional life coach. She is a PCC-certified coach with the International Coaching Federation and has been on a deep journey of personal growth. She also directs, designs, and manages a curriculum specializing in social-emotional intelligence. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:24:28

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113: From Summits to Storytelling: Majka Burhardt's Journey as a Climbing Mother

9/18/2023
Majka Burhardt is a professional climber, conservation entrepreneur, author, and filmmaker. She is the Founder and Executive Director of Legado and the author of the 2023 book More: Life on the Edge of Adventure and Motherhood, a Next Big Idea Club must-read, as well as Vertical Ethiopia: Climbing Toward Possibility in the Horn of Africa, which was short-listed for the Banff Book Award. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Duration:00:48:43