Brown Girl Guilt

Okay, so the episode title is a bit click-baity. But if that's what it takes for you to listen, then so be it! In this episode, host Harpo talks about how our first relationship with a man, in most cases our father, replicates and becomes the blueprint for our relationship with other men. She speaks on her relationship with her father and reflects on how it's shaped her own romantic experiences. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

CONTENT WARNING: sexual violence. In this episode, host Harpo shares her experiences with sexual violence. She speaks about the subsequent disconnection from her body, how she continues to move through the trauma, and how the experiences have impacted her relationships with men. She ends by sharing how she’s working on reconciling her relationship with her body, her mind, and the men in her life. She leaves us all with the hopes that she has as she navigates familial, platonic, and romantic relationships with men as an adult woman. If you would like to ask support with a mental health care professional, please check out the BGG Therapy Database. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Embody your body with this guided body scan meditation in host Harpo's voice. Come back to it as often as you need. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Manifestation is a practice, one that starts and ends within yourself. In this episode, host Harpo talks about the number one thing most of us skip over when manifesting what we want: our relationship with ourselves. In her words, manifesting is easy, but the hard part is believing that you deserve what you want. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

We all have haters. Some of us more than others. In this episode, host Harpo talks about how she's dealt with criticism, negativity, and unsolicited feedback. She walks us through her approach to negativity, leaving us all with an empowering message on how to curb the haters in our life. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Many of us go through life thinking that once we achieve a certain level of success, hit a milestone, or enter into a relationship, we'll become worthy. But what if you changed your mindset and considered that you don't have to do anything to become worthy and valuable? What if you considered that your value is innate and not earned? In this episode, host Harpo reminds us all that we are worthy and valuable, regardless of what the world outside of ourselves looks like. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

"Hey, do you have Snapchat?"-- the way to a woman's heart in 2022. JK NOT. In this episode, host Harpo tells us why she doesn't give a guy her Snapchat during their first encounter, no matter how interesting the conversation was, no matter how cute the guy was. She breaks it down and shows us how it's reflective of an incredibly casual culture of dating-- one that she is over upholding. In the end, Harpo reveals the answer she really wants to give a mans when he asks for her Snapchat. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. Ghosting is also the theme of host Harpo's love life. And probably for all the other millennials out there, because everyone loves to ghost. But ghosting? At our big age? Not cool. Harpo has been majorly ghosted often and each time, it sparked a ton of hurt and insecurity, yes, but it also deepened her self-love practice. Listen now to hear all about it. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Raise your hand if you have a secret list somewhere in your room of the kind of partner you want to attract. Well, it shouldn't be a secret. It should be an embodied list that you check often and check consistently. Host Harpo does that and she's working on not just calling in a partner that matches that list, but becoming the kind of person that reflects that list. In this episode, she openly shares her list and inspires us all to not only make a list but check it twice. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Oh boy. Emotional unavailability. Defined widely as not being able to respond to emotional needs or cues. But for host Harpo, emotionally unavailable is her type. Or so it was. In this episode, Harpo shares the story of the first time she realized she was attracting emotionally unavailable men. Spoiler alert: she realized it had everything to do with her own emotional unavailability. Tune in and see how she's navigating relationships with this newfound intel and ensuring that she shows up differently in relationships. The key ingredients? Authenticity, self-respect, and a whole lot of honesty. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

The universe is always speaking to us, whether we're listening or not. In this episode, host Harpo shares the story of a time the universe spoke to her loud and clear. What she realized when she finally tuned in and listened to the universe is that she was in the middle of a great, profound transition. Harpo's White Butterfly Story is one that reminds us that we're deserving of the love that we want and that what we are seeking is also seeking us. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

"I saw a quote on Instagram once and it read something like, a man will unconsciously do something once and it will have you moving differently for the rest of your life, and this episode really showcases that", says host Harpo. In this episode, she unpacks the ways in which men have unconsciously touched her and how it has forced her to move differently in life. Whether it's a friend touching her back on a night out or a stranger holding her waist as they move past her, Harpo has just about had it with non-consensual touch. Have a listen-- can you relate? Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Despite all the trials and tribulations that her love life has brought her, host Harpo has experienced a lot of growth in her journey through romantic relationships. One of them is a situationship that Harpo fondly remembers as her best situationship. bell hooks has taught us that relationships require more than just love. There's a long list of ingredients that a relationship must have in order to be considered a healthy, loving one. Tune in to listen to how Harpo's best situationship had all the right ingredients to make it one of the best. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Harpo's worst date-- plot twist there's two! In this episode, host Harpo shares two of her most ridiculous first dates. In reflecting back on both of them, she realized many things: she had a hunch and didn't follow it, should've been bold enough to leave, and that she wishes she never goes on a bad date again. Tune in to hear how hilariously ridiculous the dates were and what Harpo is doing differently now as she continues to date. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Raise your hand if you've ever told someone, "I think we should just be friends" instead of just ending the relationship. We've all been there. Instead of just telling someone it's over, we chicken out and pivot towards friendship. But what happens when you constantly sign up to be friends with people you still have feelings for? We know-- resentment, hurt feelings, and a whole lot of pain. In this episode, host Harpo shares why she's no longer being "just friends" with people it didn't work out with. What you'll find is that it's all part of her masterplan in practicing radical honesty and the art of detachment. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale All the ways you can support your beloved BGG: 1. Subscribe to the podcast (you can also leave a review!) 2. Subscribe to the weekly newsletter 3. Buy merch and ROCK it (browse our online shop on our website) 4. Follow us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt and Twitter @browngirlguilt 5. Become a sponsor for season 6!

Most of us received a subpar sex education-- both at school and at home. There's tons that we didn't learn about sex and what a disservice! In this episode, host Harpo cites 10 things that she didn't learn about sex. The episode is real, raw, and does not use a pseudo word for sex, which is a big moment in the history of brown girls. How many things out of Harpo's 10 did you also not learn?! Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com

The infamous question: when are you getting married? Host Harpo has just about had it with being asked that question. No matter the age you're asked that question, it's inappropriate, invasive, and incredibly loaded. The reason being? The pipeline from not being allowed to even look at boys to being asked when you're going to marry one is a wild one. Tune in to hear how Harpo's journey with that pipeline has been. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com

What would life be like if your teenage self knew better boundaries? Probably a lot different than right now. In this episode, host Harpo chats about the radical act of asking her loved ones for space. She reveals that asking for space felt foreign and alien as a brown girl, as so much of her life was spent giving people too much access to herself. Tune in to see how Harpo is asking for space, setting them boundaries, and granting herself grace as she grows into a more straight up version of herself. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com

If you thought mean girls, you guessed right! In this episode, host Harpo talks about her experience with mean girls-- but in high school and now as an adult. We're going to meet many mean girls in our lives. Sometimes, we might even be the mean girls. How can we start cutting out the crusty energy of mean girls in our lives? You'll have to listen to find out. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com

Raise your hand if you weren't allowed to cut your hair, shave your legs, or use a tampon growing up. Brown girlies everywhere unite! In this episode, host Harpo talks about all the things she and the brown girls in her life weren't allowed to do growing up. What she realizes in all of that is that seeking permission to modify your body creates a very disembodied life. It means the ownership of your body is actually in the hands of another's, which is not how we're trying to move forward. In the end, Harpo leaves us all with an affirmation to reclaim the ownership of our bodies and anchor into the into that it's not their bodies or lives, it's literally your body and life. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com