Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally! It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining. Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation better Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give! Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with. Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION. I’m highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you’re doing with things you can directly control TODAY. References: Obesity data: https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html https://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/obesity-and-african-americans#:~:text=How%20Does%20Obesity%20Affect%20African,women%20are%20overweight%20or%20obese. Infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/infertility/conditioninfo/common#:~:text=About%209%25%20of%20men%20and,States%20have%20experienced%20fertility%20problems.&text=In%20one%2Dthird%20of%20infertile,problem%20is%20with%20the%20man. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It What is DARVO? DENY ATTACK REVERSE Effects of DARVO Resist DARVO References: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/ https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics! -There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference. -Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you’re looking for. -Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and provide. However, this leaves him drained and unavailable for the woman he really wants. Listen in on what he can do about that. -While you’re single, how can you spend time most effectively? -In order to have space for a new person, you’ve got to get rid of the old. Let’s talk about letting go, forgiveness, and those tricky ‘soul ties’ that may be holding you back. Let’s work together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents. You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father. It’s common to have conflicted feelings. You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their experiences and feeling the pain of how their experiences have negatively affected the way they related to you. Or you may be less conflicted and more enraged. You want them to feel what you feel. Or you might be less enraged and more disconnected. The anger became too exhausting. Regardless of where you are now, I hope this episode gives language and validity to the anger associated with having parents who did not parent you in a way that gave you that you needed emotionally. **At around minute 15:00 I should have included the BOOMERS with Gen X'ers 1-on-1 Interest Form - CLICK HERE Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them. For example - You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering. A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter. A spouse who treats you like a stranger. _ One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distinction between Role and Relationship so that you are better able to locate where your negative emotions are likely coming from. I will also give you l ideas about how to resolve this problem! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics: Including - Serious Dating What does it meant to be “Exclusive” Passport bros How to soften your communication “What do you bring to the table?” Toxic friends Effort in dating Defensiveness Vetting Why people lie Relationship goals Casual physical intimacy *Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment. I’m going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds. If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but especially romantic) and negatively effect your chances of having a healthy, happy connection. KEY WORDS: emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, rejection, abandonment, relationship trauma, projection, insecure attachment, secure attachment, emotional needs Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5! In this video I’m going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development 1. Attachment Bases 2. Concepts of Self and Other 3. Programming 4. Intervention 01:06 Overview 06:23 Self-Concept 8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration 12:54 Survival 18:29 Programming 22:05 Intervention Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She’s done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program. She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing. I’m grateful for her time and I know you’re going to get a lot of out of this conversation! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change. Reattach Fast Track Beginning August 28th 1-on-1 Interest Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Season 9 Finale! Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it! See you in season 10 :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program! One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we're referring to romantic partners. Listen to her talk about the "DREAD" she felt in this relationship and how she learned a framework for letting go that she is able to use in day-to-day life. Ashley has embraced the warm parts of her but has put boundaries in place to protect those same parts. She can be herself while not being taking advantage of or feeling resentful towards others. Success! I hope you enjoy the episode. If you want to do what she did, join us in Reattach! Reattach Coaching Program Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

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10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes! You’re going to want your notepad out for this one. The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on the regular… if you’re regularly getting better because of it! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on: Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her services out! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust. Patreon - Live Q&A re: Emotional Safety on Sunday 3/26 at 6 PM EST Boundary Playbook Reattach Coaching Program Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat! This is what Healing sounds like :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here. -What is an Emotionally Safe person? -What happens when Attachment Wounds aren’t attended to? -Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies -The link between the Past and Present -How you can start breaking Barriers to Vulnerability down The Video Replays are available on Patreon for 30 days, so if you join late, you can still get access to the videos. Reattach is back! Read more about it here and join the Waitlist. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

The final part in the series! -The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people -The role of anxiety -What your parent has to do with it 2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25) Replay available for attendees Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler