There's No Place Like Home by Future Women

Ask any woman and she’ll tell you about a time when she was too something. At work, women are suffocated by stereotypes about who we should be and how we should behave. In FW’s new podcast, Too Much, join Helen McCabe as she speaks with high-achieving women who bucked trends, disrupted systems and refused to quit. Women who built careers by forging their own paths. Episodes drop weekly. Apple,SpotifySupport the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The discourse around intimate partner violence can feel dispiriting and, sometimes, it can be hard to stay hopeful. But we need to hold on to hope. Hope for a better way forward. Hope for a future where this country is safe for everyone. In the final episode of There’s No Place Like Home season two, we turn our focus squarely to what we can do. To the hope and possibility that comes from putting into action what we’ve learned from victim-survivors and experts. Spotify Apple website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future Women www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had a partner who made you feel like, no matter what, you couldn’t do anything right? In this episode we examine how criticising and blame shifting are weaponised to break down someone’s personhood and strip them of their dignity. Spotify Apple website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future Women www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s estimated that financial abuse happens in 90 percent of abusive relationships.* But despite its prevalence, many people don’t realise how serious it is, or what it actually looks like. Let’s find out. AppleSpotify website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future WomenIndependent Collective of Survivors (ICOS) www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. *Source: Women’s Information and Referral Exchange Inc (WIRE), 2014 Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tech-facilitated abuse can be overt. Think threatening phone calls or incessant messages. Or it can be covert, where an abuser monitors their partner’s online activity, hacks their emails or tracks their location through apps and ‘find my phone’ services, or even sends threatening messages via internet banking. In a rapidly evolving world, what does technologically-facilitated abuse look like? And where can you go for help? AppleSpotify website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future WomenSmallSteps4Hannah www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve all been jealous at some point in our lives. But there is a unique kind of jealousy specific to abusive partners. It’s the kind of jealousy that manifests in forms of abuse we’ve already discussed this season, like gaslighting and isolation. Experts dub it “sexual jealousy”, and they say it’s about entitlement, not love. So how do you tell the difference? Spotify Apple Google Play website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future WomenSmallSteps4Hannah www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gaslighting is the process of denying someone’s experience and what they believe to be true. In the last few years, it’s become part of our vernacular. In fact, in 2022, it was one of the most Googled words in the world. But what is it? How do you spot it, how do we understand its true impact? And what do you do if it's happening to you, or someone you care about? Spotify Apple Google Play website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Commbank Next Chapter Future Women www.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Isolation occurs when an abusive partner inserts themselves between a victim-survivor and the outside world - whether that’s psychologically, physically, spiritually, culturally, or financially. It can also look a lot like the "honeymoon phase" of a new romance, when a couple become so caught up in the thrill of one another that they shut themselves away from the outside world. So how do you identify it? Spotify Apple Google Play website Instagram Twitter Commbank Next Chapter Future Womenwww.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love bombing is a word you’ve probably heard before. It feels like someone coming on too fast - with extravagant gestures or over-the-top compliments before you've really gotten to know one another. But how does it actually play out? What are the red - or green - flags early in a relationship? What are the signs to tell if a friend’s new partner is just really keen, or if there’s something sinister happening? Spotify Apple Google PlaywebsiteInstagramFacebookLinkedInCommbank Next Chapter Future WomenSmallSteps4Hannahwww.1800respect.org.au There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A note before our series begins. While every person, relationship and experience of abuse is unique, there are also pervasive and sinister similarities. There are warning signs that a relationship could become abusive. There are patterns of power and control that perpetrators repeat. In this season of There’s No Place Like Home, we’re going to explore those similarities. In doing so, we’ll rely on some evidence-backed generalisations. We know this podcast won’t reflect the experience of every person listening, but that doesn’t make the information any less essential to share. Spotify Apple Google Play websiteInstagramTwitter Commbank Next Chapter Future Women There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to domestic and family violence, it’s easy to feel helpless. But did you know that more than half of family violence victim-survivors open up to family and friends for help first?* Whether you’re worried about your own relationship, or you’re a friend, family member or a colleague - knowing subtle signs and red flags can make a big difference. There’s No Place Like Home season two begins Tuesday July 11, 2023. Episodes drop weekly. Spotify Apple Google Play website Instagram Twitter Commbank Next Chapter Future Women There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. *Source: ANROWS. (2022). Transforming responses to intimate partner and sexual violence: Listening to the voices of victims, perpetrators, and services. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of us have been in, or witnessed a relationship where something felt off. But what's the difference between simply not liking someone's partner and suspecting something harmful is going on? What about when it’s your new partner? In season two of our award-winning podcast, the experts, victim-survivors and advocates doing this life-saving work generously share their expertise and experience. The result: a practical resource for anyone directly, or indirectly, affected by domestic and family violence. Statistically, that’s a lot of us. There’s No Place Like Home season two launches Tuesday July 11, 2023. Spotify Apple Google Play website Instagram Twitter Commbank Next Chapter Future Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. There’s No Place Like Home is a Future Women podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There’s No Place Like Home is returning. In season two, we will explore the invisible warning signs that - too often - go unnoticed and the patterns of power and control that define abusive relationships. From love bombing and gaslighting to isolation and financial control, this season will be a practical resource for you to lean on when something doesn’t feel quite right in your relationship - or the relationship of someone you love. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramFacebookLinkedInTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. This season is produced by Jamila Rizvi, Emily Brooks, Mel Fulton, Sally Spicer and Tarang Chawla. Editing by Bad Producer Productions. Artwork by Patti Andrews. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is an emotional journey that happens after abuse. It isn’t quick but rather long and winding. For a survivor of domestic and family violence, what does that thorny path to long-term recovery look like? How do you retrieve, revive and redefine your sense of self? In the final episode of There’s No Place Like Home, you’re going to meet Deborah. Deborah is an incredible advocate, an author and a mum. Nineteen years ago, she and her three young daughters escaped her abusive husband with just $100 and the clothes they were wearing. Today, Deborah has been out of her abusive relationship for a year longer than she was in it. She has a new life with a partner who is loving and kind. Her daughters have had counselling and are all grown up now. Deborah’s life is much bigger than the worst things that have happened to her. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home we ask what happens to victims of domestic and family violence who do survive. With the help of Deborah, as well as experts and advocates, we’ll learn what it takes to recover financially, physically and emotionally - and to reclaim one’s life. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterWhose Life is it Anyway?A Story of Domestic Violence and SurvivalWhose Life Is It Anyway? Leaving a Violent AbuserCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000 There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Amani was pregnant with her first baby, in 2015, when a cousin called her. Her cousin was panicking and through a jumble of mixed up sentences, told Amani to go to the hospital. It was there that Amani learned her father had murdered her mother, Salwa. He had killed his wife of 28 years in a violent attack. Both Amani and her sister Nour, have joined us for this episode of There’s No Place Like Home. Today we ask ‘what’s next’ for survivors of partner violence - and also the loved ones who are left behind. Amani is a remarkable woman. Not only has she been forced to comprehend her grief in a very public way, but she has been able to do so while creating some truly beautiful art. In this episode and through her acclaimed creative work, Amani gives us the chance to go inside her world - inside her mother’s world - and better understand the complex realities of domestic and family violence. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterThe Mother Wound InstagramCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000 There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home we introduce you to Carly. A proud Wiradjuri woman, Carly is the CEO and co-founder of Deadly Connections, a not-for-profit organisation that breaks the cycle of disadvantage and trauma for First Nations people through transformative justice. In her work, Carly taps into wisdom borne of her own lived experience as a domestic and family violence survivor. And she does that work alongside the man who once perpetrated violence against her, Keenan Mundine. Together, Carly and Keenan use their experience and expertise to help other First Nations people transform their lives for the better. This is a particularly complex and nuanced episode of There’s No Place Like Home. In it, we explore a restorative justice framework and how it might offer a more responsive and fulfilling outcome for some. It’s about giving victim-survivors back their autonomy and power, when a court process might leave them feeling frustrated and out of control. In this episode we’ve been led by Carly herself. She demonstrates both remarkable empathy and distance from her own situation. Carly thinks about the violence committed against her in the context of Keenan’s childhood and intergenerational trauma. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteDeadly ConnectionsInstagramTwitterInstagramTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Thanks to the advocacy and work of countless individuals, Australia is finally facing up to the scourge of domestic and family violence. However, the community and media attention has not been equally distributed. Many survivors still feel like their experiences are invisible. Members of the queer community may also be victims of domestic and family violence and some say that indifference to their stories can compound trauma. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home, we introduce you to Jex. Jex is a trans man, who presented as female when he first met his partner more than a decade ago. Jex was subjected to physical violence as well as coercive control. But there weren’t the support services available to him that there would have been if Jex were a straight woman. Systems are generally built to service the majority, with insufficient care for the minority. Those whose particular needs don’t fit into a neat little box, are left languishing… In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home, you’ll hear from experts, advocates and practitioners - as well as Jex himself. Together we’ll unpack how to make the queer community’s experience of domestic and family violence more visible and better supported. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eleanor* once owned an apartment in the United States, had a significant share portfolio and a very healthy savings account. She is now living paycheck to paycheck. The costs of a legal battle with her abusive former partner total more than a quarter of a million dollars. Eleanor* says her former partner has deliberately drawn out the court case in every way possible. It’s been three years since proceedings began. Beyond the financial burden, that’s three years spent trapped in the past, and being forced to recount the darkest time of her life as evidence. We’ve passed the halfway mark in There’s No Place Like Home and in this episode we explore systems abuse. With Eleanor*’s help, Future Women does a deep dive into how perpetrators manipulate the very laws designed to protect victims. Often, when a person leaves an abusive relationship, it doesn’t mark the end of that relationship’s story. Instead it is the beginning of a new chapter. One which can have a protracted and painful emotional and financial impact. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home, you’ll hear from experts, advocates and practitioners - as well as Eleanor* herself. Together we’ll explore some of the possible solutions including specialist domestic and family violence courts. The early research on which is very positive. SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. *We have used a pseudonym to protect Eleanor*’s identity. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nina* never knew if Joe* was telling the truth. Joe said he used to be a police officer, that he still had good mates who served on the force. Joe said he knew everything there was to know about the courts. Nina* still doesn’t know for sure if her former partner had the skills and expertise he boasted about. What she does know is that Joe used these pieces of information to scare her into submission and silence. To make Nina* think she was alone and powerless, and that Joe had the contacts to cover up whatever he did to her. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home, you’re going to meet Nina* and hear about her experience of reporting domestic and family violence to the police. You’re also going to hear from experts about the new models, new approaches and new training being undertaken in some police jurisdictions that are cause for genuine optimism about how these cases are handled. The odds of an arrest being made, when someone does make a complaint to police, often turn on the presence of physical injuries. If a victim has suffered visible injuries, police are up to four times more likely to arrest the perpetrator than if no injuries are apparent. But what happens if a victim doesn’t have physical evidence of injury? What if they’ve been subject to financial, psychological or emotional abuse? What if their physical assault left no mark? What options are available to them? In this episode we draw on the expertise of advocates and practitioners - as well as Nina* herself - to ask how police could be better equipped to respond to the particular needs of domestic and family violence victims? SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. *We have used pseudonyms to protect Nina*’s identity. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May* felt safer sleeping in her car, with a brand new baby girl, than she did in her home. With no money, no access to credit and no support service that would take her - the car was also her only option after escaping a violent relationship. Domestic and family violence is the main reason that women seek the support of homeless shelters and the primary cause of homelessness amongst kids. In Victoria, where May lives, there are nearly 50,000 people on public housing waiting lists. When someone leaves a violent relationship and needs somewhere to stay, they are faced with a sector that’s struggling to cope. In the latest episode of Future Women’s podcast There’s No Place Like Home, you’ll hear May describe her experience of leaving a violent relationship and ending up homeless. You’ll hear from experts who lament the lack of affordable housing. Having a safe home is a human right. It’s also a real foundation of the social order our society is built on. The home is where we entertain our friends, and where we spend time with our families and rest, yes. But you also need a home address to apply for a car loan, or to pay your phone bill, or to enrol your children in school or register for a Medicare card. Getting back on your feet once homeless, is much more difficult than you might imagine. With the help of experts, advocates, practitioners - and of course May* herself - in this episode we implore our audience: Stop asking why a victim doesn’t leave a violent relationship, and start asking ‘where would they go?’ SpotifyAppleGoogle PlaywebsiteInstagramTwitterCommbank’s Next ChapterFuture Women There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by Future Women, made in collaboration with CommBank which is supporting long-term financial independence for victim-survivors through CommBank Next Chapter. Content note: This podcast includes descriptions of domestic and family violence and may be upsetting to some listeners. If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. *We have used a pseudonym to protect May’s identity. Support the show: https://futurewomen.com/theresnoplacelikehome/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.