The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

Today I am answering a few questions to make up for the missed live Q&A this month! Question #1: What if the good, is too good to be true? Question #2: When will the EXHAUSTION end? Join me as I answer both these questions, and with question number 2- I take a turn towards talking about how we as women are CYCLICAL beings! and how it's so important to honor this about ourselves. We can use our cycle phases to manage our healing and be more gentle with ourselves. Want to join me the FIRST THURSDAY of every month? Register HERE _______________________________________________ ⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Surviving emotionally immature relationships require you to show up, or not show up, in certain ways to preserve the relationship and the attachment. Part of healing and especially if you are considering getting into another relationship, means you need to be able to take a look at how YOU showed up in your previous relationship. This is a shift from looking at how your partner may have showed up right?! You certainly did not CHOOSE your trauma or abuse, and, if you stayed in it- you want to see why WITHOUT SELF -JUDGEMENT, GUILT OR SHAME, so that you don't repeat it! I know ya'll don't want that! So hang with me today as I walk through a few things that you can consider and self reflect on this week. Here are the main talking points from the podcast episode about emotional maturity, particularly focusing on self-awareness and coping strategies developed from past relationships: Emotional Maturity Education: The host emphasizes that emotional maturity is a relatively new area of focus and not widely discussed, even though it's crucial for people who have experienced destructive relationships. Patterns of Emotional Immaturity: The podcast highlights that behaviors perceived as emotionally immature are often adaptive responses developed to survive in challenging environments, not personal flaws. People Pleasing: Discussed as a common trait among those who grew up in emotionally immature environments, often used as a strategy to feel safe and avoid rejection. The host plans to dedicate a full episode to this topic. Boundaries: The difficulty in setting, holding, and communicating boundaries is tied to childhood environments where boundaries were neither respected nor modeled. Avoidance of Conflict: Many listeners might relate to avoiding conflict as a survival strategy in abusive relationships or with difficult personalities like narcissists. Dependency on External Validation: This is connected to the lack of emotional support in early years, leading to a reliance on others for validation. Black and White Thinking: Described as a survival mechanism in unpredictable or chaotic environments, leading to overly simplistic thinking about people and situations. __________________________________________ DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Book you Brainspotting session with...

Join me today as I share a few key ways to assess emotional maturity in other, AND in yourself. Many of my clients want to know what healthy looks like, especially when they have experience abusive behaviors and communication in their relationships. Many fear repeating the patterns and "choosing wrong again" in future relationships. With the help of on of my fav's, Lindsay Gibson and her work around emotional maturity, I will walk you through these key points and how to assess them in others, and in yourself. Self-Awareness Responsibility for Actions: Empathy: Regulation of Emotions: Resilience: Respect for Boundaries: Consistency: Communication: Flexibility: Shared Humor and Enjoyment _______________________________________ DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠HERE⁠ Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Today, we're diving deep into the concept of energy levels and how they manifest in our bodies, particularly through catabolic and anabolic energy. This framework is especially valuable if you're still learning to comfortably feel and identify your emotions. Here's what we'll cover today: The Seven Levels of EnergyLevel 1 (Survival Mode)Level 2 (Conflict Mode)Level 3 (Responsibility Mode)Level 4 (Concern for Self)Level 5 (Reconciliation of Self)Level 6 (Connectedness)Level 7 (Creation ) Each level reflects a different way of experiencing and responding to the world. Understanding these can empower you to choose how you show up in various situations, whether it's a routine morning or confronting new challenges post-divorce. Join me as we delve into each energy level, understand their implications, and discover how to harness them to lead a more empowered and intentional life. ________________________________________________ ⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠HERE⁠ Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Today, we're diving deep into the transformative concept of catabolic and anabolic energy and its profound impact on our emotional and physical well-being. By understanding our emotions as energy in motion, we unlock the potential to be more present in our bodies, neutralize the intensity of our emotions, and foster healing and growth. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Catabolic and Anabolic EnergyEmotions as Energy in MotionThe Somatic ConnectionNeutralizing Intense EmotionsThe Role of Brain Spotting and Somatic Experiencing_________________________________ ⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠HERE⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠HERE Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

In this episode, we explored essential strategies for managing stress during challenging life situations, such as divorce, co-parenting, and re-entering the dating scene. Here are the key takeaways: *Ready for ⁠NEXT LEVEL HEALING?⁠ Join me in the ⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠ *⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

Is it driving you absolutely crazy when those whom you'd expect to support you, believe you or at least acknowledge that you didn't want this divorce, but can see why it's a life saving divorce- ARE ACTING LIKE SWITZERLAND!!!?? Staying neutral, on the sidelines and invalidating your experience of betrayal and abuse is.... well, no words. Ok, maybe some 4 letter words. Today I want to validate this experience as well as offer a few things you can do in these situations to help you have an EMPOWERED divorce, despite the invalidation of others. _______________________________ RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation HERE Learn More About Assessment HERE ______________________________ DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠HERE⁠ ⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠HERE⁠

Good, bad? Right, wrong? Feeling negative emotions doesn't mean anything about your worth, value, or enoughness. In fact, YOU are not your emotions! So how do you FEEL them rather than react, avoid or resist? When we believe that our emotions mean something about who we are or how we are healing it actually creates a lot of unnecessary suffering. Join me today as I talk about how to stop moralizing your emotions and learn to FEEL them in a way that supports healthy emotional maturity. ___________________________________ DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE

You have experienced the complexities of grief, and you are perhaps looking for ways to get over it, get through it, and just stop the hurting. I get it. There are many ways in which we cope with grief. The emotions based coping, reactive coping, situational coping and even maladaptive coping. I want to offer you another way to approach your grief post divorce. Proactive Grief. This is where you are practicing to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for anticipated stressors, like legal proceedings or handling parenting arrangements. knowing what situations will trigger you and making a safety plan and a restorative plan. Grief is not a problem to be solved but a process to be experienced. When accepted it allows us the gift to slow down, re-evaluate, and ultimately, grow. While it may be hard to see initially, grief can bring several unexpected gifts. It can deepen compassion for oneself and others, foster resilience, clarify what truly matters in life, and spur personal growth and transformation. Grief can teach us the value of living authentically and appreciating the present moment. Join me today as I talk more about grief, healing in it and preparing for it. _____________________________________ ⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ _____________________________________ Follow me on social Media: Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

Corrective emotional experiences are powerful moments that can change you forever. They can open up new pathways in your life, free you from painful beliefs about yourself that always held you back, and help you discover parts of yourself that you might not have even known were there Learning how to have healthy, positive relational experiences when you have had unhealthy and abusive experiences is critical to your healing. It's also necessary if you are wanting to ensure you don't repeat the unhealthy patterns in future relationships. Join me today as I talk about how to cultivate thee corrective emotional experiences with yourself first, and when your ready, what this looks like when you start dating. ___________________________________________ DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠HERE⁠ ⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠HERE⁠ _____________________________________ Follow me on social Media: Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ _____________________________________ Follow me on social Media: Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach _________________________________________________ It's the buzz word- Parallel parenting over Co-Parenting. When you are parenting with a narcissist or someone who just is no longer on the same page as you with how to raise children, then you won't be able to co-parent in a way I'm sure you were hoping for. Whether you can be amicable or not, the real focus is on parenting and how we can actually limit our potential and ability when we are more focused on the other parent and what they are or are NOT doing. My hope in this episode is you can better accept the reality of your situation and determine what works best for your children, as well as feel EMPOWERED in your own ability to parent n o matter what the other parent is doing on their side of the street! Highlights: Self-Reflection and Awareness: Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting: Challenges of Parenting with a Narcissist: Focusing on Self and Children: Empowerment and Choice: Grieving and Validation: Creating Stability and Support: Self-Compassion and Growth:

Ready for⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ____________________ Today's episode I delve into the complexities of Parellel-parenting with a narcissist, emphasizing the importance of acceptance, boundary-setting, and maintaining faith in your parenting abilities. Understanding the narcissist's game and recognizing different types of narcissistic behavior are crucial steps in navigating these challenging dynamics. I will go over these different types today based on Dr. Romani Durvasula, PH.D By prioritizing your well-being and focusing on being a steady presence for your children, you can weather the storm and guide them back to you, even in the face of adversity. Highlights From Episode: Acceptance as a Crucial Step: Acceptance of the narcissistic behaviors and tendencies of the co-parent is essential. It's common to struggle with accepting these behaviors and their impact, but it's a necessary step in reclaiming your power and choosing your own path in parenting despite the challenges. Understanding the Narcissist's Game: Recognizing that co-parenting with a narcissist involves navigating a game where there are ups and downs is crucial. They may use emotional manipulation and control tactics, especially when they're unhappy in their own lives. Understanding their game allows you to set clear boundaries and protect yourself and your children. Types of Narcissistic Behavior: There are various types of narcissistic behavior that can manifest in co-parenting dynamics. From grandiose displays to covert manipulation and neglectful behaviors, understanding these patterns can help you prepare and respond appropriately. Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Your Well-being: Establishing clear and consistent boundaries is essential when co-parenting with a narcissist. Limiting contact to essential matters and avoiding emotional engagement in their games helps protect your well-being and maintain focus on your children's best interests. Maintaining Faith in Your Parenting: Despite the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist, have faith in your abilities as a parent. Being a secure and consistent presence in your children's lives is enough to guide them back to you, even if they temporarily get swayed by the other parent's tactics. FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

It's confusing, overwhelming, and gut wrenching that you are even considering having these kids of conversations. What to tell your kids about divorce, about your story and about their father. I've got you. Today I am sharing 4 things to consider and you answer this question for yourself. Separating Your Story from Your Children's Story: Recognizing that your experience is different from your children's experience and refraining from making your story theirs or vice versa. Asking More Questions Before Answering: When children ask questions, asking them more questions to understand what they are truly seeking to know before providing answers. Validating Feelings Without Trashing the Father: Validating children's feelings and experiences without adding personal bias or negative commentary about the other parent. Trusting Your Intuition as a Mother: Recognizing that as a mother, you know your children best and trusting your instincts in how to navigate difficult situations and conversations with them. *Ready for⁠⁠⁠⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

In today's episode, I'm excited to dive deeper into the topic of secure attachment and its crucial role in fostering healthy relationships with our children. As parents, our goal is to provide a secure base from which our children can explore the world confidently. Join me as we explore how to cultivate secure attachment, especially in the context of divorce and parenting dynamics. Main Points: Understanding Secure Attachment Letting Go and Setting Boundaries Empowering Children through Choice Navigating Parenting Challenges Post-Divorce Balancing Boundaries: Finding the Goldilocks Zone Parenting as a Journey of Growth *Ready for⁠⁠⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

In today's episode, I delve into the intricate world of parenting post-divorce, and where do bundaries come in to play here? I explore the dynamics around attachment theory with children through and post divorce, when you are triggered by children and their behaviors which remind you of your ex, how to seperate your emotions from your children's, and what being their secure parent looks like. Key Points: Empowerment Through Boundaries: Learn how setting clear boundaries can empower single parents and create a safe and stable environment for both parent and child. Validating Emotions: Explore the significance of validating one's emotions and allowing oneself to feel the full range of feelings associated with parenting alone and witnessing children's experiences. Respecting Children's Autonomy: Highlight the importance of recognizing children's autonomy and allowing them to navigate their own experiences and emotions, fostering healthier parent-child relationships and independence. Maintaining a Steady Parenting Role: Emphasize the essential role of remaining a steady, secure figure for children, providing guidance and support while respecting their autonomy and boundaries. Highlights from the Episode: Acknowledge and embrace the vulnerability that comes with parenting alone and witnessing single parent dynamics post-divorce. Understand how setting boundaries can lead to empowerment, freedom, and peace in parenting post-divorce. Validate your own emotions and allow space for the full range of feelings associated with parenting alone. Recognize children's autonomy and allow them to navigate their own experiences, promoting healthier parent-child relationships and independence. Remain a steady, secure figure for children, providing guidance and support while respecting their autonomy and boundaries. Want more? *Ready for⁠⁠⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

In todays continuing episodes on boundaries, I will walk you through the EMPOWER acronym that will help you create and master boundaries through your divorce and post divorce. Giving you the healthy space you need to to heal from betrayal trauma, abuse and divorce. Using the acronym below, I will go into detail and give examples of how this will help you to be a master of setting boundaries. Acronym: EMPOWER E - Evaluate:M - Method of Communication:P - Pause and Reconnect:O - Own Your Agency:W - Watch for Manipulation:E - Emotional Regulation:R - Reinforce Self-Care: It can be challenging to practice boundaries when you have not had healthy emulated in past relationships, but it doesnt mean you are 'bad' at setting boundaries! Whether it's believing you can set boundaries, believing you can TRUST yourself, or believing that you are LOVABLE, I'd love to help you believe NEW things about yourself. Join my Coaching Membership and start being the CHOOSER in your life! *Ready for⁠⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach Mention: Sarah Morales' Deconstructing Gaslighting Empowerment Course

What is The Window Of Tolerance, and why is it important to understand how it relates to your healing? That's what I am talking about today in this quick episode. This is an important concept that will help you with your boundaries as well! Sometimes when we understand more of the psychoeducation around healing and why are brain and bodies are doing what they do, we aren't as resistant, judgemental and confused about what's going on. Highlights: Foundational Importance of the Window of Tolerance: The window of tolerance is a crucial concept in understanding how the brain and body react to stress and trauma. It represents a balanced state where individuals can process emotions and experiences without becoming overwhelmed. Hyperarousal vs. Hypoarousal: The content details the differences between hyperarousal (characterized by anxiety, panic, and over-alertness) and hypoarousal (marked by disconnection, numbing, and lack of energy), emphasizing the importance of staying within the window of tolerance to avoid these extreme states. Somatic and Physiological Aspects of Healing: It emphasizes the somatic and physiological aspects of healing trauma, underscoring that trauma is stored in the body and must be processed through physical means, not just psychological understanding. Autonomic Nervous System Regulation: The significance of regulating the autonomic nervous system (ANS) is highlighted, explaining how it plays a pivotal role in responding to stress and trauma and maintaining the balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems. Techniques to Access the Window of Tolerance: The episode discusses various methods to help individuals access and extend their time within the window of tolerance, including somatic experiencing, EMDR, brain spotting, yoga, breath work, and grounding techniques. The Role of Safety in Emotional Processing: Safety is identified as a fundamental requirement for allowing oneself to feel and process emotions. The discussion includes the challenges people face in feeling safe to experience their emotions and how establishing safety is the first step towards healing. *Ready for⁠ HEALING?⁠⁠ Join me in the ⁠⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠⁠ *⁠⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

Join the continues conversation around boundaries through and post divorce. Because divorcing from betrayal and abuse is NOT the same as other divorces. Today I am walking you through 3 first steps to take with boundaries and how these will lay the foundation to further boundary setting steps. Here are some highlights from the episode: *Ready for HEALING?⁠ Join me in the ⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠ *⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

In this special bonus episode, I share some profound insights I gained after watching the movie Wonka. While I won't be giving a movie review, I want to impart valuable lessons that left me inspired, and thinking of each of YOU! Two central characters, Noodle and Willy Wonka, will guide us through these lessons. So, stay tuned and get ready to rekindle your belief in yourself, your potential, and the magic of life. Main Takeaways: *Ready for ⁠NEXT LEVEL HEALING?⁠ Join me in the ⁠Believing In You Membership ⁠where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the ⁠Dating From Within Workshop⁠? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ *⁠Intimacy Within Self Paced Course ⁠ *⁠Divorce 101 Guide⁠ *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach

Yes, Betrayal trauma and abuse impact how you do or DON'T have boundaries Yes, Boundaries are different through and after divorce. Yes, It's hard to let go of control when betrayal trauma took your choice away. No, you don't have to stay stuck in the unhealthy patterns. No, You don't have to feel happy about it all. AND.... Having and EMPOWERED DIVORCE means you are going to now be in charge of healing and growing and thriving in your 'garden' and boundaries are going to create the safety to do so. Come join me today as I share why letting go of control is the first step, and what a boundary really is and is NOT through and post divorce. Perhaps we are really stating demands, ultimatums or have unrealistic expectations given this new dynamic called divorce. Don't worry, we are going to be talking about this ALL MONTH because boundaries are the ultimate act of SELF LOVE. *Click HERE for you free downloadable mini workbook; MASTERING BOUNDARIES THROUGH AND POST DIVORCE *Ready for NEXT LEVEL HEALING? Join me in the Believing In You Membership where coaching you through the stuck, the yuck and out the otherside where you will meet the most amazing version of YOU. Believing it's possible, Believing you can and Believing in YOU. Evening and Afternoon Weekly Sessions available NOW *Did you miss the Dating From Within Workshop? It's OK- Get Your Spot For March 28th-30th ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ *Intimacy Within Self Paced Course *Divorce 101 Guide *⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠-⁠⁠ Free Monthly Zoom Calls Want to work with Amie? For a consult click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA to stay up to date on all the happenings! Instagram- @amiewoolsey Facebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoach TikTok- @amielifecoach