Deconstructing Gaslighting™

What comes to mind for you when I say the words, “Self-Gaslighting”? For some of us, we automatically resonate, and know that we have, indeed, done this to ourselves. For others, the old definition of gaslighting we may know brings resistance, as we can’t help but hear some sort of victim blaming. In my practice, the MOST powerful transformations have happened when people have understood the way we “self-gaslight”, have broken the power those messages had over them, and rewrote the narrative. This topic of self-gaslighting is so important, I’m dedicating the whole month of May to it. I’m calling this living in the land of shoulds. In today’s episode, I’m going to explain just what self-gaslighting is, and the two main ways it happens. I’m Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and I’m so glad you’re here! If you’re new to the pod and want to know a bit more about me and the offerings I have to help people heal from the effects of chronic gaslighting, please check out my website. Story Time: Sarah talks about the main principles of self-gaslighting - giving examples of direct and indirect origins, and how (and why) those messages get internalized/become self-directed gaslighting messages. Top Take-Aways: I wanted to remind you of the different offering I have on my website that help you recognize gaslighting in ALL the areas of your life. Check them out or even schedule a free consultation with me to talk about what programs are the best fit for you in your situation or relationships. I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Did you experience gaslighting in your family of origin? While most of my clients find me to help heal from the gaslighting they’ve experienced in their intimate partnership, almost every single one eventually begins to see how the gaslighting they’ve endured goes all the way back to things that happened in their childhood. Today, I’ve brought on an old friend and colleague whose experiences in this realm will help you see the impact this type of gaslighting has on so many of us. Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. I’m your host, Sarah Morales. And if you’re new here, welcome. I’m so glad you’re here. I hope that the resources I have on my podcast and website help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing. My guest today is Christy Kane of Soul Work Counseling. Story Time: Sarah and Christy have a candid conversation around the GASLIGHTING Christy endured at the hands of her family of origin, and it's profound impact throughout her life. Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways GASLIGHTING has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my and Chrity’s websites. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold self-GASLIGHTING has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love. I also invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

When you stop and do the math, what consumes most of your time? When you think about the relationships that may involve GASLIGHTING, what makes the top of your list? Was work your first or second response? If not, it might need to be. So today I’m going to talk just a little bit about GASLIGHTING in the work environment. I’m Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and I wanted to let you know about a FREE summit that is happening right now. The 2024 Choose Connection Summit. It’s theme this year is: Strengthened by the Storm. This summit is the only one I am speaking at this year that is primarily focused on couples working on healing from the trauma of secret betrayal. If this is you, I encourage you to jump on this opportunity while it’s still FREE, and hear from not only me, but many other of the worlds’ leading experts in this field. Story Time: Sarah has fun sharing the lyrics from the song, "9 to 5" by Dolly Parton, while also sharing some things to be aware of when trying to notice GASLIGHTING in your work environments. GASLIGHTING in the workplace can be a very real, very disempowering, abusive experience. It causes confusion, depression, anxiety; it can take an intelligent, confident, super-qualified person and reduce them to a person who questions whether any decision they make it the right one or will be “good enough”. Top Take-Aways: As I wrap up today, I wanted to remind you of the different offering I have on my website that help you recognize GASLIGHTING in ALL the areas of your life. Check them out or even schedule a free consultation with me to talk about what programs are the best fit for you in your situation or relationships. I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. I’m your host, Sarah Morales. Today’s episode may be one of the most difficult I’ve ever done, and that’s because the topic is SO TRICKY. It’s also super, super important. So, I’m going to ask that you hang with us for a bit. If it feels like a sensitive topic to you, I invite you to give my guest and I just five to ten minutes to see our hearts and hear how we unpack today’s topic. That topic is about the ways GASLIGHTING and religion intersects, and the myriad of ways that’s playing out in both our individual and corporate lives. Bio: My guest today is no stranger to the pod... Ms. Jenni Rochelle! Story Time: Sarah and Jenni start by talking about the difference between faith (a belief) and religion (a system), in the hopes of setting the stage for a safe place to ask the questions and challenge any toxicity we may see in the religious systems we find ourselves in. They share some of the most common ways people experience religious GASLIGHTING/abuse. Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold religious GASLIGHTING has had over you and help you step into self-trust and Radical self-love. I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

This episode is going to be a tough one. Today my guest and I are going to talk about racial and cultural gaslighting. I say this is going to be a tough one, because as a white woman who, for the majority of her life, lived as a white, cis-gender, heterosexual, Christian woman, I was near the top of privilege – EVEN though I didn’t know it. And that’s kind of the point – when we are gaslit, we don’t realize we’ve taken on other people’s thoughts, beliefs, values, feelings, or perspectives as our own. So, we need to have this conversation to bring awareness to places we’ve either experienced or been an unintentional part of perpetuating the system that gaslights the Bipoc community. I want to get my message of clarity and hope around gaslighting in front of more people. If you know of a podcast or conference where my messages would benefit the listeners/attendees, will you email me here and let me know? My guest today is Tara Beall-Gomes. Check out her website here! Story Time: Sarah and Tara discuss a variety of ways gaslighting and racial discrimination intersect. It’s important to note that they are doing this as two white women who are trying to learn and be a part of the change. Their hearts are to help raise awareness on this important topic! Top Take-Aways: (For white people) To see color means,I see you More about the Deconstructing Gaslighting training and certification for therapists and life coaches. The aim is to create a standard of care for people who have been impacted by gaslighting experiences. If you want to heal from the effects of gaslighting, AND you already have a coach or therapist, I encourage you to advocate for yourself and tell them you’d love it if THEY could support you and guide you as you go through my programs. They can do this by going through the training. IF you are a coach or therapist, I encourage you to go check out the webpage that goes into detail about what you’ll get in the training. I’d love to interact with you! We can do that on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. If you’d like to follow Tara, she is on Facebook and Instagram. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast, and welcome to a new month, with a new theme. This month we’re going to be exploring different areas or relationships people experience gaslighting in, and we’re going to start with the one that people are typically MOST aware of – gaslighting in their intimate partnership. And I’m REALLY excited today, because I’m brining on a woman who gives representation to a demographic that is sorely under-represented – but whatever demographic you find yourself in, I’m sure you’re going to be able to relate to things she share about the gaslighting she experienced in her 43 year marriage. Thank you for being a part of this community. I’d love for you to follow me AND interact with me on your preferred social media platform where we can interact… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. Story Time: Sarah and her guest, Pat, talk about what is was like for Pat to experience GASLIGHTING in her over 40 years of marriage! Top Take-Aways: Things that I thought could be some take-aways from my and Pat’s conversation: Notice when you’re putting all your focus on the other person, and instead focus on yourself! And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast, I’m your host, Sarah Morales, and today’s episode it going to be a bit different. On Tuesday of last week, I put the final touches on my next speaking opportunity at a summit. The theme of the summit is post-traumatic growth, and my title, "I no longer fear the storm". Irony can be a bitch, because on Wednesday – the very next day – a bomb my ex built probably 15 years ago blew up. So today I wanted to talk a bit about what it’s been like for me the past few days, and the observations I have about how allllll the work that I’ve been doing for the past 13 years is serving me – big time! Side note, if you're interested, my talk with be at the Daring Ventures Summit. Top Take-Aways: I wanted to let any new listeners know about the many resources I have on my website. I also wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform, where we can connect and even interact! I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

How much did you talk about sex and human sexuality growing up? What were the messages you got about sex and sexuality religiously, culturally, or even racially? I imagine MANY of you were like me and didn’t necessarily have many direct conversations about sex and sexuality, but oh were the messages you received culturally and religious LOUD! So, today, my guest and I are going to talk about how gaslighting has impacted the way so many of us think and feel about sex and human sexuality. My hope for this episode is to raise awareness, help us step out of any shame or messages of “not enough” we may carry, and be freer to be in alignment with our authentic self when it comes to sex and our sexuality. Bio: My guest today is MJ Denis, a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Texas. She is also an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and an APSATS-Certified Partner Trauma Specialist. Story Time: Sarah and MJ talk about the way gaslighting and sexual issues intersect. From "Purity culture" to how many times a week you have sex with your intimate partner - they cover a lot of relevant topics with both candidness and education. Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out the programs I offer on my website. If you want to know more about ETT and the therapy MJ offers, go to her website. And here is my weekly invitation for you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. Those are the spaces where you can leave comments, and we can interact, and I would really enjoy having conversations with my podcast listeners! And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

"It is literally impossible to be a woman. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow, we're always doing it wrong. "You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean. You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas. You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to answer for men's bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you're accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So, find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful. You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! (Abridged quote from "Barbie") Greta Gerwig, in an interview with The Atlantic said: "I was just sobbing, and then I looked around, and I realized everybody’s crying on the set. The men are crying too, because they have their own speech, they feel they can’t ever give, you know? And they have their twin tightrope, which is also painful." So today my guest and I are going to dive into the topic of double standards, based on our genders. If you’re new here, I wanted to let you know about the FREE webinar I have on my website. It’s a video that teaches you about the necessary foundations and a format you can follow to give you the ability to stay connected to yourself while having to communicate with your gaslighter. You can find that on my website. Story Time: Sarah and Collen have a fun, sassy, and in-depth conversation connecting GASLIGHTING with the way double standards are perpetuated. Top Take-Aways: I wanted to invite you interact with me on your preferred social media platform… Facebook, Instagram or TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

There was this popular video from the Daily Show where Desi talks about how she’s trying to understand the male experience better by acting like a man: getting paid more for no reason, interrupting people more, mansplaining, and gaslighting via invalidating the other person’s feelings and telling them to calm down & don’t act crazy. And while it is funny, it’s taking on a serious topic – misogyny. In today’s episode, I have a special guest who is doing ground-breaking work on the topic of a VERY specific type of domestic abuse. She has named this Betrayal Violence. And we’re going to dig into not only what misogyny is, but unapologetically talk about internalized misogyny. If you’re new here, I wanted to encourage you to go to my website and sign up for my newsletter – that way you can be in the know about any conferences I’m speaking at, specials I’m running, or new programs I’m releasing. And whether you’re new here or been with me since the beginning, I’m so glad you’re here. Bio: My guest today is Hope Ray, of the Betrayal Violence Institute (website) Story Time: Sarah and Hope discuss the difference between misogyny, chauvinism and sexism, and get curious about how misogyny and internalize misogyny show up - and, most importantly, how we can unknowingly perpetuate it. beliefmemberssexintelligentableskilfulmemberssexespeciallyableInternalized misogyny is a subconscious way of degrading yourself and other womenbased on sexist ideas of how women should act, dress or speak.

I have yet to know a human who has not made concessions in at least one of their relationships – between the gaslighting that we experience in our families, religious establishments, society, friendships, and intimate partners, it’s near impossible to not internalize things that cause us to doubt the validity of our desires and needs, and when that has happened, what is and is not okay in a relationship becomes blurry… so we settle… and so, so many of us end up lowering our bar in our relationships. In fact, I’ve had many clients sadly say their bar ended up on the ground. Today, my guest and I are going to share stories and insights from our own lives, and in doing so, hope to inspire you to Raise your bar sis! In case you missed it last week, I have got a REALLY exciting offering for you today! I am about to partner with WORTH to do a special adaptation of my empowerment program. In this class, you get LIVE teaching & LIVE Q and A time with me, and you get to do this with other women whose questions and insights will add to your own journey. Can’t make the live class? You can watch the recordings, submit your questions via an online document, and I’ll answer your question in the next class! All this for about 1/3 the cost of what it would be to do a group cohort with me. If you’re interested, please go here. Class begins March 6th. Story Time: Sarah and Annie talk about times that they made concessions and settled for less than you wanted and/or needed, and ended up lowering their bar. From exes, to new people they were dating, to friendships and jobs - what happened, WHY it happened, and how they learned how to stop self-abandoning and making concessions! Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life and robbed you of being able to be free to be you (and make those concessions), check out my website. I have a number of offerings that will help you break the hold gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love. Also, please follow me on your preferred social media platform, and connect with me there! I’d love to hear your thoughts, questions, and feedback, and that is where we can do that! I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and Tiktok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

“I hate how often you are forced to define yourself by your marriage status… now I have to check the ‘divorced’ box on whatever form I’m filling out. But all they give you is a box. No place to clarify. No place to explain… only a label.” Suzanne Reeves. Only a label. Single. Married. Divorced. Or even, “It’s complicated” lol. All of us, at least at one point in our lives, was single. So, one would think it is a completely normal and valid way of living or phase of life. And yet – not only has being single been presented as being “less than”, it’s also a label that has been slapped on people and made them to feel “other”. So today my guest and I are going to talk about the mountains of gaslighting messages that intersect with being “single”. I have got a REALLY exciting offering for you today! If you have ever thought about or wanted to go through my empowerment program, but were on the fence about it, now is the time to sign up, and here’s why. Twice a year I do a special adaptation as I partner with WORTH. I take my 12-lesson program and condense it into an eight-week class for about 1/3 the cost of what it would normally be to do a group cohort with me. If you’re interested, please go to WORTH Education Series | WORTH to learn more and register. The class begins March 6th. My guest today is Heidi Monuteaux. Heidi is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and provides services for those who reside in Washington State, Idaho and Utah. Story Time: Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life and robbed you of being able to be free to be you, check out my and Heidi’s websites. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love. Follow me and Heidi on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok; Heidi is on

Love is an interesting thing. As both a word and a concept, it can be confusing, full of pressure, unrealistic expectations, and loss – AND, there are SO many ways we experience GASLIGHTING around what love is, how we should love, WHO we should love, where we find love, etc. And today, my guest and I will dive in to talk about the impact GASLIGHTING has had on this thing we call “LOVE”. If you want to be in the know about special deals on my programs, new things I’m launching, conferences I’ll be speaking at, and lots of other helpful information and tools, sign up for my newsletter by visiting my website. Bio: My guest today is Jenni Rochelle. Jenni is the creator of Love of Your Life Coaching - she is a life coach, mentor and spiritual director for women and couples healing from relational trauma BUT still want happy, healthy and intimate relationships with themselves and others. She is the host of the Beauty After Betrayal podcast with new episodes coming in 2024! Story Time: Sarah and Jenni talk about a number of ways GASLIGHTING has impacted this thing we call love - from the notion of "love of my life" to "Twin Flames" to misogynistic undertones. Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my and Jenni’s websites. I encourage you to follow me and Jenni on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok, and Jenni is on Instagram. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, You’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

The theme this month is: LOVE. This is going to be a month of unpacking a few of the top ways I see the topic of “LOVE” and Gaslighting intersecting. AND we’re going to start it off with an amazing colleague that put up a post on social media that read, “embracing your authentic self without fear of rejection can be accomplished when you stop rejecting yourself first.” Can you relate to that statement at all? I messaged her immediately and said, “This! This is what I want to talk about on the pod!”. If you want to be in the know about special deals on my programs, new things I’m launching, conferences I’ll be speaking at, and lots of other helpful information and tools, sign up for my newsletter here. Bio: My guest today is Amie Woolsey. Amie Woolsey is a certified betrayal trauma life coach and Brainspotting Practitioner. She has helped hundreds of people reclaim their lives after abuse, betrayal & or divorce, using her extensive experience and holistic approach to healing the heart, mind, and body. There are multiple resources available created by Amie, alongside opportunities for both group and private coaching. Amie is the co-host of The Choose to BE Podcast, creator and host of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, is affiliated with Safe Space, and creator of her signature program, Believing In You, Divorce 101 and Intimacy Within. Story Time: Sarah and Amie have a candid conversation about a variety of ways external gaslighting led to internalizing those messages, which resulted in a variety of ways they rejected themselves... AND about a few key things that helped them in their journey BACK to themselves. Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my and Amie’s websites. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love. I encourage you to follow me and Amie on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. Amie is also on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, You’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

This is a story about control, my control. Control of what I say, control of what I do. And this time I'm gonna do it my way. For those of you too young to recognize those opening phrases, that’s from Janet Jackson’s song, “Control”. Not only is being called “controlling”, or some version of that sentiment, one of the most used gaslighting phrases I’ve heard, most people who experience chronic gaslighting have very LITTLE control. In today’s episode, I’m going to unpack how the way I work with gaslighting helps my clients move into an energy of, “you’re damn right I’m controlling”. If you missed it, you have one more day to get 50% off my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video course by using the code: Season2Pod. The code expires February 1st. This week, I wanted to talk about how the focus I have around gaslighting enables us to step into a much more empowered place when we are dealing with someone who is doing gaslighting behaviors, or if we’ve left that relationship, how we can take back what we lost. Other definitions = main focus is intent and behaviors of the gaslighter. The gaslightee is secondary. My definition = focus is EQUAL. Old definition = things we can’t be certain of (intent and level of awareness of another person). My definition = focus on thigs WE can know (behaviors and impact on us). Car analogy – One scenario, two experiences. One where the person is gaslit and has no control; the other is an example of being in control. Control of ourselves, our safety, our awareness, and of what we do and do not allow in our relationships. Top Take-Aways: Don't forget about my DG Conversations webinar. Here I take you through my R2C2 process, which is Resolve, Connect, Release, and Confidence. If you resonated with a lot of what I spoke about today, then this is for you – and it’s FREE. I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Do you ever wonder if the behavior another person is doing is a gaslighting behavior or something else? Many of the old definitions of gaslighting are vague, and as a result, have generated a lot of confusion and mis-labeling. Sometimes, people ARE doing gaslighting behaviors. Sometimes, they’re just being an asshole. In this episode, I’ll give you some beginning tips to help you sort out what is what. If you missed it last week, I’m running a special until January 31, where you can get 50% off my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video course by using the code: Season2Pod. Last week I talked about my new definition, and how it helps us see that gaslighting CAN be gaslighting BOTH when someone is intentionally doing it AND when they don’t realize they’re doing it. This week let’s talk about what it takes for something to be gaslighting vs the person is just straight-up being an asshole. Top Take-Aways: (5-10 min) If you want to understand more about the things I’ve been talking about in my podcast this month, go purchase my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video series. It’s just $22.50 US, and you can get immediate access from my website. AND, through the month of January, you can get it at 50% off! Use promo code Season2Pod. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, or Tiktok. Remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, You’re a phoenix and you’re rising

A little over three months ago, a colleague sent me a link to a post where the author said, “Gaslighting is intentionally psychologically manipulating someone else into questioning their own sanity and/or reality. It is impossible for victims to gaslight themselves.” I deliberated as to whether or not I should jump into the conversation. I did. And I ended up being blacklisted. In today’s episode, I’ll share some of the misconceptions about gaslighting that fueled this poster’s views, and why my views are shaking up the gaslighting world (I think, for the best!). I’m Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and to go along with this month’s theme of “New”, and understanding the new ways my views of gaslighting can impact your life or the life of someone that you love, I’m running a special for the rest of January. From now until January 31, get 50% off my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video course by using the code: Season2Pod. Let’s break this down: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men,” said, “Abusive behavior and an abusive mindset are two different things. The former is a choice, while the latter is a deeply ingrained belief system.” 1 Top Take-Aways: If you want to understand more about the different reasons people do gaslighting behaviors and the different levels of awareness, sign up for my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video series. Through the month of January, you can get it at 50% off! Use promo code Season2Pod. Follow me on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. Thank you, and remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, You’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Welcome back to DG the podcast, and welcome TO season 2! I’m super excited to bring a different flavor to the way I talk about gaslighting and its connection to so many different aspects of our lives! The theme this month is: NEW – as in new ways to understand and talk about GASLIGHTING! And today, we’re starting off with a HUGE bang as I interview one of the men in recovery that I have been working with for the past five years! Think people who gaslight can’t change – this interview will help you see that MANY (though definitely not ALL) can! I’m Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and if you want to be in the know about special deals on my programs, new things I’m launching, conferences I’ll be speaking at, and lots of other helpful information and tools, sign up for my newsletter by visiting my website here. The guest today is Jeremy, a man in recovery, and has been sober for 10 years! Story Time: Sarah and Jeremy talk about things that were at the root of Jeremy’s gaslighting, things that helped him understand what he was doing and the impact, and some word of encouragement for both the gaslighter and gaslightee! Top Take-Aways: Action Steps: As I wrap up today, I wanted to let you know that if you want to understand more about the different reasons people may do gaslighting behaviors as well as the different levels of awareness, I go into great detail in my Deconstructing Gaslighting Awareness video series. It’s just $22.50 US. I encourage you to follow me on your preferred social media platform: Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.

Welcome back to Deconstructing Gaslighting, the podcast – SEASON TWO! In season 2, I’m going to change things up a bit – who I am, how I’m showing up in the world, and what I want to give to the world – has evolved – In large part due to the things I’ve been doing over the past year. And I think you’ll notice right away with the change in the theme song – titled, “Phoenix”! Let me read a few of the lyrics: 'Cuz I crashed and burned, and broke and hurt, and laid there for a while But now I don’t choke When I see smoke It only makes me smile You’ll find me in the furnace; You’ll find me in the flames 'Cuz baby I’m a phoenix - And I’m rising again You’ll find me in the darkness - Breaking my chains Cuz baby I’m a phoenix - And I’m rising again More than ever before, I’ve stepped into my power this past year, and I’m ready to step into the fire with you and help you rise again with the messages I’m bringing in 2024. Here’s what DG the podcast, season 2, is going to bring to you: each month, I’m going to highlight a different topic, and how that topic intersects with GASLIGHITNG. For example, January is all about the NEW/different ways we need to be talking about and understanding gaslighting. February is going to be about LOVE & GASLIGHITNG. September is going to be about PARENTING & GASLIGHITNG. Sometimes I’ll have guests, sometimes it will just be me flying solo. Whatever the case is, I’m excited to bring new information, tools, laughter, and sass. And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, you’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly. And now, Phoenix, by Katrina Stone…

Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting, where today, Sarah and her guest have an important conversation around systemic/collective gaslighting. THIS can be one of the hardest places to undo the effects of gaslighting. Join Sarah and her AMAZING guest as they laugh, share personal stories, geek out, and give some super-helpful tips to break free and effect change – personally AND systemically. Come follow Sarah on TikTok. She’s putting out some fun, but also very informative content, and believes it can only add to the things we’re learning together! Word of the day: In their conversation, Sarah’s guest today identifies four A’s to help us. Two of them are amends and atone. It’s important to describe the difference – both as something we must do, AND as something we get to require from those who have gaslit us and/or broken trust with us. According to wikidiff.com, As verbs, the difference between amend and atone is that amend is to make better while atone is to make reparation, compensation, or amends, for an offence or a crime or a sin one has committed. Make BETTER AND REPAIR. That make better part – that’s called raising the bar, siss, and the both/and here is that we get to ask for it as much as we do it. The guest today is Bella J Rockman. Bella is a social scientist, neuropsychotherapist, and mental health media correspondent. Check out her JRock Therapy Academy and follow her on Instagram today! Story Time: Listen in as Sarah and Bella cover multiple facets as they have a candid conversation on the topics of collective/systemic gaslighting – where they’ve seen it, experienced it, and what we can do to change it! Set Your Alarm: Bella shared “The Four A’s” “right off the divine dome”. When, how, where, how many of these do you need to step in to? Sarah stated, “We must ask, Is there more truth here than what I’ve been told?” And remember – it’s not about becoming who you want to be, it’s about awakening all that you already are!