Date Better

Hey, bestie! It's getting hot, so we are taking off all our clothes and getting outside- LOL. But, speaking of outside - I wanted to give you some safety tips when it comes to dating, specifically around outdoor dates. I'll also share a few life updates about: Botox, being a hermit, and reading! Grab The Housemaid book mentioned HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! Today, I want to discuss the ONE thing that can be determinantal in dating (or relationships)...comparison. In this episode, I'll share a dirty little phrase that is a MAJOR turn -off and could be a block or even ending of a potential or current relationship. ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, bestie! I'm back - this episode is a bit of a life update about my recent miscarriage. Today, I'll share a bit about unintentionally getting pregnant, my chemical pregnancy, whether or not I'm still childfree, and what I'm learning as a woman. ILYSM. Here are the links to the story on IG: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 Part 7 ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! We are back with another epic guest interview! Today, I sit down with Tricia Wise, who you may know as Safe Slut on social media. Tricia is a NYC-based writer, Reiki Master, Herbalist, Esthetician, content creator, sex positivity goddess, witch, and queen of the best memes. In this episode, 5 years post-diagnosis, Tricia shares why she created Safe Slut and all things Herpes, STIs, and being sexually liberated. We dive deep into destigmatizing Herpes and just how common Herpes is. Grab your AirPods and listen to this on your next commute or while you're on your hot girl walk. Don't forget to give Tricia a follow (on IG) and share this episode with your besties! This link will take you to all things Safe Slut! Time Stamps: 1:00: Introduction 2:21: Where to find Tricia 2:56: The birth and mission of Safe Slut 5:08: How Tricia contracted Herpes - this story is juicy AF 7:18: Getting tested post exposure 8:00: Getting diagnosed with Herpes 8:34: The difference in transmission between HSV1 and HSV2 9:50: The low down on cold sores 11:06: Confronting the person that transmitted Herpes 11:16: Using the right language to share and disclose STI results 11:46: Tricia's outbreaks and evolution with time 12:20: Tricia's symptoms during her first outbreak 12:50: Medical management of Herpes 14:06: The emotional toll of Tricia's diagnosis and finding empowerment 15:00: Disclosing and communicating Herpes status for the first time (and now 5 years later) 17:51: Why knowing and disclosing your status is sexy AF 19:55: Why you have to ask for a Herpes test 21:48: Managing and recognizing Herpes triggers 22:29: Tricia's homemade tinctures and potions for Herpes 23:13: How Herpes 'moves around' in your nerves 24:00: What sex is safer with Herpes? Anal, oral, or vaginal sex? 24:55: How to have sex with an outbreak 25:55: Tricia's parents and her social media and OF 26:57: The 'STI' kink and monetizing Herpes 28:09: Can you get Herpes from drinking after people? 29:40: The stigma and understanding what Herpes really is 30:04: Why doctors don't automatically test for Herpes 31:23: Affording Herpes medications 32:05: The importance of being tested regularly and communication when having casual sex 34:25: Getting rejected because of Herpes 35:12: The most common type of HSV and oral sex 37:58: Herpes vaccine 38:37: How Herpes can lead to sex positivity 39:16: Tips to help you feel confident in your Herpes diagnosis 40:15: Tricia's Herpes offerings and resources Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey Bestie, you are in for a treat! The first man to grace the Date Better Podcast, my great friend and twin, James Manley. James is one of my favorite humans and I've personally watched his evolution into a more conscious, and healthy masculine every day. In this episode, we dive into all things dating, sex, and relationships from a man's perspective. Nothing was off limits, so grab your AirPods and come hang with James and me today. Time Stamps: 1:15: Introducing James 1:49: Why I asked James to come on the podcast 2:15: Where to find James online 3:00: What led James on a personal development journey 4:46: James' professional, entrepreneurial, personal, and fitness background 6:58: Breaking down men being 'busy' and finding time to date 11:00: Why men ghost 16:35: Texting in relationships 20:11: How men show their interest in women 22:09: Sliding in DMs 24:04: Who asks who out on a first date 24:45: Who pays on the first date 27:32: Coffee dates 30:07: The worst first date 30:23: Red flags you look for in women 32:22: Green flags you look for in women 35:02: PDA 36:30: Thoughts on one night stands 38:23: Openly asking for sexual consent and elevating intimacy 42:10: The power of platonic friends of the opposite sex 49:14: Dating and attraction outside of your race 55:22: Being fetishized/objectified for your race 56:14: Dating with children/having children young 1:03:14: What inspires you to be a better man 1:07:10: Accepting your partner for where they are 1:08:00: Should you give up on the idea of finding a man if they're 40 and never married 1:10:20: How to break up with a long-term boyfriend 1:11:32: Breaking things off with your situationship 1:13:50: Partners being mirrors About James: James Manley is a Men’s Lifestyle/Fitness Coach who helps guide men through their evolution of improving their quality of life through the lens of the “healthy masculine”. When James isn’t coaching you can find him spending quality time with his twin teenage boys, jumping out of planes, DJ’n his favorite genre of house music, or listening to an insightful podcast. He’s also a former collegiate D1 athlete which he credits to helping shape his leadership style. Connect with James here! ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! This is a special episode on a topic about something that I have been so passionate about, being a childfree woman. In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Vasvi Kumar, Mindset Coach, Licensed Therapist, Podcaster, and Author of SAY IT OUT LOUD. Vasavi's book is the book of the month that we'll be reading together inside of Date Better Book Club. Grab your AirPods as Vasavi openly shares her decision to be childfree, overcoming addiction, and the struggles of being an Indian woman choosing a different path. Vasvai also shares being divorced and single as a woman in her 40's. More from Vasavi: Follow Vasavi on IG Download Vasavi's FREE Confidence Building Guide ---- New for 2024: The Date Better Book Club. This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, bestie! I recently shared some of the best dating advice I got after my long-term relationship ended. There were questions on Facebook, so I've got answers. Join me in this live recording as I answer these two questions: Question 1: How do I date after divorce in my 40's after a 21 year marriage? Question 2: How do I keep my heart open after being cheated on in my situationship? You know I have A LOT to say about this one. HAHA. Anyway, go put your AiPords Don't forget, Date Better Book Club starts Feb. 14th, I'd love to have you! This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, bestie! Today's episode is for the successful, single, and lonely AF women that have achieved great success in their careers and/or businesses but have love lives that are dumpster fires. In this episode, I'll look at the 'work' that this woman may be missing in her life as she is chasing success and climbing ladders. This episode may be a bit triggering and if it is, I suggest you ask yourself the question - why? What nerve may I be striking as you listen to this episode today? This is all out of love - because you don't fix the inside by adjusting the outside. ILYSM. ---- New for 2024: The Date Better Book Club. This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Bestie, I'm calling you OUT and UP in this episode. Let's get yourself together and dive into why you're available for Mr. WYD and not Mr. Pick You Up at 8. Today, we'll break d own WHY you keep responding to WYD...bestie, some of it is science. This episode is all out of love and stupid stuff I used to do in my single girl era, so no judgment just here to help you date better. ---- Mark your calendar: The Date Better Book Club kicks off this Valentine's Day! This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! We're going viral on IG again, plus I'm vibing off of a girl's night sleepover with 6 of my local besties! A lot of the world still believes that after 35 you're an old hag and you can't get a man. I call BS - which has inspired today's episode - lessons I'd give to my 20-something self. Warning - I cry a little bit on this one. (1:11): Leave a review (1:55): Join DDBC --> LINK (2:55): Going viral and men being so triggered by women over 35 (4:46): Crossing paths with your person My top 10 lessons: Amazon link I hope you enjoy this one, ILYSM. ---- New for 2024: The Date Better Book Club. This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! Allie Hall (@_thedebtfreenurse) is back! She was a guest on the show when it was The Unfiltered Nurse, back in 2020. A lot has changed in Allie's life over the last three years - including getting divorced from her partner of 6 years. In this episode, we chat about people pleasing in relationships, love bombing, healing post breakup, finding an aligned partner, and the importance never settling in creating the life that you desire. Allie is 35 years old from California and living in NC. She currently work as a pediatric nurse, and specializes in guilt free money management, teaching women their core values and how to change their mindset and relationship around money. Allie's mission is to help women own the hell out of their finances so they can say YES to things they love and no to the things they don’t. Allie and her Mom who is also a nurse are launching the Nice Girls Wear Scrubs Podcast soon - if you are a nurse, you'll definitely want to add it to your list of binge worthy podcasts. More from Allie: Allie's IG Allie's TT http://www.savingwithoutsacrifice.com/ ---- New for 2024: The Date Better Book Club. This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, Bestie! Happy New Year! Today we are hopping on the 'in and out' trend of 2024. Let's dive into this episode (originally recorded live on IG) and get your life together this year. I'm also super excited to share The Date Better Book Club. This is a 3-month book club to help you tap into your feminine energy and help you manifest the love and life you crave. This isn't your Mom's book club - we will be building a community, sharing experiences, and growing together. LEARN MORE & JOIN HERE ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love, Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Bestie, it's the last episode of 2023. Today, let's chat about setting your dating goals in the new year using SMART goals. I'll see you in 2024, it's your year to date better and find your man! ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Bestie, short, sweet (like me), but this may be the very episode that helps you get the man you want. ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Bestie! We are a few days late-- but, we are here! This may be my most vulnerable episode to date...I may be a little wine drunk, but I've got a huge life update that I never saw coming...and maybe you didn't either. HOWEVER...my freaking WITCH, knew within a MONTH of my boyfriend and I dating. WILD - this is a true bestie chat - I hope you find inspiration in this and understand when you detach and trust, The Universe will move mountains for you! ILYSM! ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey Bestie, we are back for part 2. I'm answering your anonymous questions about dating and relationships. 1:15-5:30: How to not overshare and keep things a mystery when dating? 5:40-9:24: How to tell if he's being faithful and not cheating? 9:25-13:59: How do you know he's the one? 14:00-21:04: How do you heal and stay open after a heartbreak? 21:07-28:26: How do you combat dating app fatigue and keep dating? 28:27-34:00: How do you set and maintain boundaries when a man is inconsistent? 34:07-38:29: What's a good body count? (BTW, I really do not love this phrase) 38:33-44:35: What are your thoughts on casual sex? ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey bestie! Let's talk some do's and don'ts when you are ready to get your shit together and have an actual relationship. ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey Bestie! Today, I'm answering your anonymous questions about dating and relationships. Time Stamps: 1:25-4:28: Is dating a man that makes less than you a problem long-term? 4:29-6:24: When should you tell a man you love him? Should the man say I love you first? 6:25-7:08: Swinging? 7:08-9:04: Open relationships? 9:05-13:03: Dating an older man, he pays for everything, how do I keep things balanced? 13:04-14:55: When should you discuss where the relationship is going? 14:56-16:04:When should we share our past relationships? 16:05-19:41: I found a catch--how do I get him to continue to chase me without it affecting the relationship? 19:42-22:31: Dating a short king, but I don't feel feminine? 22:32-25:39: How do I break up with a long-term boyfriend? I'm ready to be single. 25:40-27:45: How to end a 10 year friend-with-benefit situation? 27:46-33:51: Do you think that emotional and physical cheating are the same and do they require different reactions? 33:52: Come back for part 2 on Thursday! ILYSM ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Bestie, here's part 3 of the Human Design series with Liz Jensen. Today we break down how to understand yourself and your partner. Be sure you've listened to the first two parts to determine your Human Design Type & understanding your unique energy centers. About Liz: Liz Jensen is a California born homeschooled church kid turned spiritual gypsy. She has a degree in Interpersonal and Organizational Communication. Liz has been a nanny, missionary, Bible teacher, personal trainer, bodybuilder, PE teacher, restaurant server, retail worker, Amazon delivery driver, and currently teaches as a Special Education teacher as well as do Human Design readings and coaching. Her big three are Taurus Sun, Taurus moon, Scorpio rising, she is a 3/5 Self Projector. Liz became passionate about Human Design after looking into it on her own and started reading charts for her friends. Every single person she read for, resonated with their design and was able to use it for personal and relational growth. Liz loves helping people gain a better understanding of themselves and the people around them. Follow Liz on IG Book a reading with Liz Find your Human Design chart here ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com

Hey, bestie! Liz is back for Part 2 of 3 in the Human Design series. Today, we are going to get into the 'shapes,' aka Energy Centers. Human Design is complex, so be sure you've listened to Part 1 and how to figure out your own. As promised in this episode, I'm putting my Human Design chart here for you to follow along with if you don't have your own. Remember, your chart is specific and unique to you! ---- About Liz: Liz Jensen is a California born homeschooled church kid turned spiritual gypsy. She has a degree in Interpersonal and Organizational Communication. Liz has been a nanny, missionary, Bible teacher, personal trainer, bodybuilder, PE teacher, restaurant server, retail worker, Amazon delivery driver, and currently teaches as a Special Education teacher as well as do Human Design readings and coaching. Her big three are Taurus Sun, Taurus moon, Scorpio rising, she is a 3/5 Self Projector. Liz became passionate about Human Design after looking into it on her own and started reading charts for her friends. Every single person she read for, resonated with their design and was able to use it for personal and relational growth. Liz loves helping people gain a better understanding of themselves and the people around them. Follow Liz on IG Book a reading with Liz Find your Human Design chart here ---- ---- Get 100+ of my best dating tips, advice, and a little tough love delivered to you for free! Download The Dating Playbook now! ---- Are you ready to become empowered AF and create the life and relationships you want in your life? BOOK HERE Hang with me on Instagram! https://www.theyolandarussell.com