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Dating Unsettled

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Welcome to the Dating Unsettled Show where we dare to date differently hosted by Joy Ofodu, a Creative Executive who has reached millions of people with my original comedy content, voiceover and original stories. I am unsettled by my Nigerian culture’s expectations of dating. I’m unsettled by American dating norms and traumas. I harnessed my inner romantic and childhood dreams of a healthy BLACK relationship to author a new set of dating rules, ones that work for me, rules that made Black love not only possible but PROBABLE. I was going to fall in love, and I knew I would find it online. I refused to settle. I swiped on over 2,000 profiles, matched with over 150 fine young gentlemen and went on about 20 first dates with some amazing guys. You already got 50 apps in your phone baby, what’s one more? Dating Unsettled, where we dare to date differently. Make sure you’re subscribed anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Follow me @joyofodu and follow the show @datingunsettled. It would help me tremendously if you would rate and review the show FIVE STARS. Thank you for your undying love and support

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Welcome to the Dating Unsettled Show where we dare to date differently hosted by Joy Ofodu, a Creative Executive who has reached millions of people with my original comedy content, voiceover and original stories. I am unsettled by my Nigerian culture’s expectations of dating. I’m unsettled by American dating norms and traumas. I harnessed my inner romantic and childhood dreams of a healthy BLACK relationship to author a new set of dating rules, ones that work for me, rules that made Black love not only possible but PROBABLE. I was going to fall in love, and I knew I would find it online. I refused to settle. I swiped on over 2,000 profiles, matched with over 150 fine young gentlemen and went on about 20 first dates with some amazing guys. You already got 50 apps in your phone baby, what’s one more? Dating Unsettled, where we dare to date differently. Make sure you’re subscribed anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Follow me @joyofodu and follow the show @datingunsettled. It would help me tremendously if you would rate and review the show FIVE STARS. Thank you for your undying love and support

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English


Episodes
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Say It Out Loud and Brown Girl Problems ft. Vasavi Kumar

4/10/2024
Joy interviews Vasavi Kumar (@mynameisvasavi) about her experiences as a Brown girl, divorcee, dater in her 40s and voice actor/author! The two really get into what it's like to grow up as immigrant kids in the U.S. with a media landscape that makes them feel Othered, with blonde white girls as the mold and parental criticism as the fire under their feet. They react to Joy's video about her voices in her head and self-talk, and chat about how you can re-frame dating woes. Say It Out Loud Using the Power of Your Voice to Listen to Your Deepest Thoughts and Courageously Pursue Your Dreams https://vasavikumar.com/orderthebook Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:39:38

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Dating as a Hot Funny Girl with a Dynamic Disability ft. Danielle Connolly

3/21/2024
Joy interviews Danielle Connolly (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a hotgirllll who just takes a lil bit more time getting out of chairs on dates! The two talk infantilization, common misconceptions, whether or not she discloses her disability and MORE! Yes, more. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:36:01

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Love Is Blind Season 6: Thoughts and Patterns to Watch For

3/11/2024
Fun this week: DU has been featured by Apple Podcasts on TikTok and in curation with a new series! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4RXAGjPDM5/ Ride through the latest Love Is Blind Season 6 drama with your favorite dating podcast host, Joy! In this episode, Joy spills the tea on all the jaw-dropping moments that have left us questioning both the concept of love and the sanity of the contestants. But hold on to your heartstrings, because Joy takes a deep dive into the not-so-romantic side of the show, character by character. She discusses the abusive behaviors she's witnessed, too. For reference - https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ Don't worry, it's not all gloom and doom! Joy also highlights the sweet, heartwarming moments that make us believe in the power of love. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:36:14

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An Unsettled V-Day and Lessons from "Players" on Netflix

2/14/2024
Join Joy in this episode as she delves into her thoughts after the film "Players" on Netflix, exploring the complex themes it unravels about love, relationships, and the challenges that come with being an adult looking for grown folks love. First, Joy reflects on the societal pressure of feeling like time is running out. As she watches the characters grapple with their own timelines, she shares personal insights and experiences, discussing the expectations placed on individuals in their 30s and the quest for fulfillment. Internet stalking takes center stage as Joy explores the impact of online presence on modern dating. From oversharing on social media to finding out everything about someone before the first date, she discusses the fine line between curiosity and crossing boundaries in the digital age. The conversation then shifts to the art of manipulating people when dating—putting on a persona or feigning interests to create a favorable impression. Joy explores the ethical implications of such behavior and shares her thoughts on authenticity in relationships. Dating your best friend or coworkers can be a tricky endeavor, and Joy unpacks the dynamics at play. Drawing from personal experiences and the film's narrative, she examines the blurred lines between friendship and romance, shedding light on the potential rewards and risks involved. Players: https://www.netflix.com/title/81034895 Finally, Joy explores the desire for the "finished product" guy—a partner who meets all the criteria on the checklist. She discusses the pitfalls of setting unrealistic standards and the importance of embracing imperfections in the pursuit of genuine connections. Recommended read: The Skin Deep 12 Questions for Love Challenge. They believe in the transformative power of human connection: "We’ve been creating the space for couples around the globe to explore their connection and deepen their relationships. You might have seen the magic unfold on {THE AND} videos, or played our card games before." I hope you get the chance to ask these Qs of your partner or date to go deeper. FREE: https://shop.theskindeep.com/products/12-questions-for-love-challenge-free-download Follow the pod/the host! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:27:28

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Listen to the Segment: Dating Unsettled is on Good Morning America

2/8/2024
Good Morning America recently recognized me as a Dating Expert and featured my advice from this beloved pod! Here’s my full appearance on GMA and dating tips to help you build a real relationships from the apps this year Seeing myself Good Morning America was a surreal experience, one that I never imagined would happen so soon in my podcasting journey or journey as an entertainer! As host of my own original dating podcast called “Dating Unsettled”, the opportunity to share my tips for 2024 on the most watched morning show in the nation was a dream come true. The theme of the segment, “Give your dating life a fresh start in 2024,” was perfect for ya girl! I was super pumped talking about ways to shake up your love life, bounce back from heartbreaks which are GOOD, and make room for those dreamy relationships some of us are chasing. The vibe in the virtual interview was go great, and knowing that millions of folks were tuning in, including past colleagues, fellow creator, friends, neighbors, parishioners — i just couldn’t contain my heart this AM!! In the clip you’ll see from the interview, I shared some human to human advice on how I want to feel in a relationship, how possible it is to find love online (I did after 3,00 swipes), and getting into the right mindset for finding your ideal partner in 2024. More than just soaking up the spotlight for my little pod and for me, it was a chance to light a fire under people to explore new things and grow in their love lives. I understand that when I speak, other daters are motivated to action. With the whole country awake & watching, I felt privielged to help everyone dive into 2024 with a fresh take on love. It’s out there. It’s possible. It’s YOURS! But you gotta get up and go get it. Thank you everyone and thank you GMA. No better way to start the year! Joy 💖 💡tldr: I found and built a healthy relationship with a complete stranger who is now my bf of over 2 years after 1.5y of swiping, hilarity, more than 20 first dates, 3,000 or more profiles and over 160 matches. Credit: GMA / ABC https://youtu.be/jqmMpNGZFt8 #datingapps #datingexpert #datingcreator #comedycreator #datingcomedy #datinghumor #datingappsuccess #goodmorningamerica

Duration:00:02:55

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Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features!

2/8/2024
Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features! Thanks for listening to this podcast, and entering a space that proves dating can be a comedy goldmine, full of love and mistakes and healing and not just the he-said-she-said the Internet is making it out to be. Also - stay tuned or visit the @datingunsettled IG for the podcast's features on Good Morning America and Apple Podcasts this Jan and Feb! We made it y'all! New episodes coming this weekend and next week. GMA https://youtu.be/jqmMpNGZFt8 Apple Podcasts Valentine's Day https://apple.co/whensparksfly Website/Contact https://datingunsettled.com/ In this episode -- Get ready for a hilarious dive into the world of dating as your favorite podcast host, Joy, takes on "The Skin Deep Dating Edition" in this candid and puke worthy lovey dover episodes. Join us as Joy spills the beans on her datingpreferences, and the unexpected moments that make dating an unpredictable rollercoaster. In this unfiltered and unscripted episode, Joy plays the dating game, baring it all for our entertainment. www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:34:31

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Swiping With Atlanta Peach Destiny Jackson

1/12/2024
Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:40:51

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Unsettler Requests: Is It His Condition or Is It Me? Dumped and Dubious

12/22/2023
In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about a man who dumped her and blamed it on his medical condition..Should she believe what he shared, or is he using it as an excuse? I go off with loving affirmation and evaluation! Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:26:52

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Unsettler Requests: Date Him or Drop Him? ft. Joy's Holiday Love Update

12/22/2023
In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about the Ghost of Bumble's past -- a man who insists on being a recurring character. Should she date him or drop him? I also spill tea on where my own relationship with self/Ivan/podcast is this holiday season. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:24:58

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Why Is He Single and "Not Looking?" ft. Alex Clewis

12/6/2023
"I'm single but tbh I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm really working on myself right now." UGH! We've all heard it. But have we interrogated it? What can we do when we meet someone we really want to be there for who isn't really into dating? Meet local man Alex Clewis, and goalie for Napa Valley 1839 FC. He's my boyfriend's teammate and a stand up salesman who is recovering from serial monogamy! Our convo opens up a lot of topics men/women don't voice aloud. Enjoy! Follow the show on all podcast platforms: https://www.datingunsettled.com/ IG: https://instagram.com/datingunsettled TikTok: tiktok.com/@datingunsettled Twitter: https://twitter.com/datingunsettled Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can join my mailing list at https://joyofodu.komi.io/

Duration:00:47:32

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Cosmic, A New Dating App from Friend and Founder Mike Sayman

12/1/2023
Is Michael's new app, Cosmic, gon' save the dating scene? We're about to find out... it'll at the very least save people who don't like to write bios about themselves..themselves. Listen and learn more -- or read about it in TechCrunch! Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:19:57

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EP. 27: Meet My Man - Our Online Love Story

10/3/2023
A legendary moment. The reason for my season and to my rhyme. What every dating podcast needs: I get to introduce you to my maaaan, Ivan! We discuss his surprising first impressions of me, why he asked me to be his girlfriend and what it’s been like since. RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles - in partnership with The Skin Deep, The Song Remedy and Fever Tree. Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:24:51

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Love is Blind and Unsettling S5 (Episodes 1-4)

9/28/2023
Joy gives her thoughts on the Unsettling world of Netflix's hit series, "Love is Blind." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and Joy's personal icks that Season 5 Episodes 1-4 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for the footage aired in Episodes 1-4, including season preview (what may happen beyond the pods). Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:40:38

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EP. 26: Visionboarding Black Love

9/26/2023
This week, I talk about literally visionboarding the love I wanted for myself and how you can do the same! Here's a link to my actual visionboard (Click the VZN BRD highlight) RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:31:44

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Announcing Dating Unsettled Experience: LA (Oct 10)

9/25/2023
RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA on October 10th - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-unsettled-experience-los-angeles-tickets-725615003007?aff=oddtdtcreator We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles! Join us for an evening of group meditation as we manifest on local love, strengthen connections and enjoy a few rounds of "speed dating" the LA way. We're creating one action-packed, hyper-real night of celebrating and receiving the love you've always dreamed of. www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu

Duration:00:01:27

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Free and Free-Ish Date Ideas

9/20/2023
Money is tight, a recession is near, but that doesn’t mean you should stop dating! With that being said, I took it upon myself to come up with a fantastic list of free/affordable dates for those that are looking for love while on a budget! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu

Duration:00:30:32

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Which Dating Apps Are Worth Paying For?

9/12/2023
I break down the Dating Apps I used and which, in my opinion, are worth paying for. I talk features, subscriptions, memberships, swipes and everything I truly believe/invested hundreds of dollars in! Thinking about paying for an app? Listen in! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu Fanbase: joyofodu IG: datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: joyofodu

Duration:00:36:19

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Apps That Aren't Dating Apps But Should Be

9/5/2023
Get those download fingers ready for this side-splitting episode of Dating Unsettled 🤣 Join Joy as she starts exploring apps that should be dating apps, but aren't actually. Because she's sick like that. Get her help actually Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu Fanbase: joyofodu IG: datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: joyofodu

Duration:00:20:13

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Unsettled by The Ultimatum Season 2 (Episodes 9-10)

9/1/2023
It's finally over! Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments that Season 2 Episodes 9-10 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for Episodes 1-10. Aww :( VANESSA AND NICK I LOVE YOU! Camp. TW: Relationship abuse is responsibly discussed. Episode is not explicit but contains mature topics. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:48:08

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Unsettled by The Ultimatum Season 2 (Episodes 1-8)

8/25/2023
Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments that Season 2 Episodes 1-8 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for Episodes 1-8. TW: Relationship abuse, addiction and self harm are responsibly discussed. Episode is still OK for kids-in-car listeners. With only three days of the experiment left, the couples consult friends and family; romantic gestures and deep talks may ease lingering doubts. S2 Episode 9 and 10 drop Aug 30, 2023 Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Duration:00:52:33