Feminist Survival Project

Let’s talk about something pleasant. Emily and Amelia discuss the books, videos and what have you that are making them happy this year. It’s time to get ventral. Links: Libby app (borrow library books and audiobooks) Brandon Sanderson THE STORMLIGHT ARCHIVE Thursday Murder Club series Alexis Hall 10 Things That Never Happened Boyfriend Material Paris Daillencourt Is About To Crumble The Affair of the Mysterious Letter Nicholas Boulton (the world's best audiobook narrator) Come As You Are: Revised and Updated (audiobook) This is the one Nicholas Boulton is in Laura Kinsale Flowers from the Storm Audiobook narrated by Nicholas Boulton Alexis Hall A Lady for a Duke KJ Charles Will Darling Adventures The Charm of Magpies series Great audiobook narrators: Steven Crossley Julia Whelan (also an author!) Mary Jane Wells Abby Jiminez Yours Truly Kimberly Lemming That Time I Got Drunk and Yeeted a Love Potion at a Werewolf Misha Popp Pies Before Guys Mystery Series Helena Greer Seasons of Love Alyssa Cole Reluctant Royals series Courtney Milan The Turner Series The Duke Who Didn’t The Devil Comes Courting Cat Sebastian Non-romance books: Maggie O’Farrell I Am, I Am, I Am Rebecca Hardiman Good Eggs Emily St. James Woodworking Sarah Rees Brennan Long Live Evil Ali Wong Dear Girls Yahtzee Croshaw Things That Aren’t Books DrGluon (Youtube) Jessica Kellgren-Fozard The Dogs Were Good (Again) Podcast Dropout Game Changer Dimension 20 (A Starstruck Odyssey) Critical Role Campaign IV Dropout Dimension 20 (Escape From the Bloodkeep) Britbox Sister Boniface Mysteries And back to books for a moment: Alexis Hall Glitterland John Scalzi Ben Aaronovitch Rivers of London

The holidays are coming. What do you do if you have family whose politics you abhor? Turns out it depends. Stick around to the end for Amelia’s highly specific take on The Grinch. Knitting Cult Lady: Youtube Instagram Uncultured (book) The Culting of America (pre-order!) Thought-terminating cliché Green Dot program bystander interventions: • Direct • Delegate • Distract Lindsay Ellis: The Unforgivable Sin of Ms Rachel (Youtube) Kaelynn Partlow (Youtube) FSP S01 E08: The Monitor Podcast Youtube Charlemagne (Holy Roman Emperor)

Turns out Emily actually does have a Shadow. And she’s a half-orc wizard. Links: The Science of Saving Your Sex Life To Maximize Your Potential, Maximize Pleasure Sign up for Emily’s mailing list How AIDS Remained an Unspoken—But Deadly—Epidemic for Years Brennan Lee Mulligan Aabria Iyengar Emily & Amelia Nagoski, Burnout - XOXO Festival (2019) Vivian Gussin Paley This American Life - Dolls

Do you have a bubble of love? Do you know how to build one? Emily and Amelia discuss how they managed to do it, and how Frozen is more than just a kiddie movie. Links: Burnout FSP 2020 episode 11: The Bubble of Love The Burnout Workbook, by Amelia Do You Want to Build a Snowman? (Youtube) FSP 2020 S2 E27: Diving into the Shadow: An Introduction

The days are getting shorter. It’s going to be colder soon. It’s time to get cozy. It’s time to get… hygge. Candles and pumpkins and cheese, oh my! Links: Tricia Hersey Rest Is Resistance We Will Rest! Nothing Much Happens podcast Neuroma Vermont Creamery Cremont Tasting History on real eggnog (Youtube)

Amelia had a painfully costly month. Emily bought Crocs that look like Big Bird’s feet. But in the end, they find the true meaning of No Buy / Low Buy. Links: Danger zone (food safety) Innocence (Opera composed by Kaija Saariaho) Dyslexie Font The Big Short (film)

For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis. Links: Carl Jung Jungian archetypes Mapping Your Emotional Floor Plan: A comic by Erika Moen based on Come Together Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions⁠ (interview) Monica's Secret Closet | Friends FSP Season 2, Episode 22: The Magic Trick of Transcendence Locus of control Stepmomming Made Easy (preorder) No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz WeRateDogs Rebecca Dupas - HOW TO SLAY A DRAGON (youtube) (this is the poem at the end of the episode.)

Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and how to get through to a medical provider when you want them to notice a condition you’ve researched at home. (Much like the dizziness episode, we’d love to hear from you if learning about HS helps you understand something that is affecting you) Links: Hidradenitis suppurativa Mast cell activation syndrome Bringing HS (Hidradenitis Suppurativa) Out Of The Dark | Jackson Gillies | TEDxSantaBarbara FSP Season 2, Episode 14: Introduction to Food and Body Awareness FSP Season 2, Episode 18: Introduction to Food (and Body Acceptance) Season 2, Episode 20: Food Again. This Time, It’s Personal? Hidradenitis SuppuraDIVAS - Podcast (Apple Podcasts) FSP Season 1, Episode 18: The New Hotness Twins (1988 film) FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Piloerection

Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience some of the same issues as Emily, please drop us a line at feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Links: Dizziness Handicap Inventory (PDF) Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS) FSP 2025: The Car Accident Experience Intermittent claudication Lindy Hop Vestibular Migraine Orthostatic intolerance Minnie Van Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle FSP 2025 contact form

Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe. Links: Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended) Interoception Alexithymia The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Megan Anna Neff (Recommended) Extraordinary Attorney Woo Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview) A rad comic about emotional floor plans by Erika Moen (Based on Emily's book, Come Together.) A Black Lady Sketch Show: No Makeup (Youtube) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle (By Emily and Vestigial Toe) FSP Episode 34: The Madwoman

Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride. Image: What it looks like to nap during a parade. Links Non-binaryAgender (gender identity) Mercury Stardust: The Trans Handy Ma'am Sweet Honey in the Rock How To Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom by Johanna Hedva Unmasking for Life by Devon Price Woodworking by Emily St. James

This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life. tl; dr: Other people may have more than you, but they are not WORTH more than you. Drink Water & Mind Your Business: A Black Woman’s Guide to Unlearning the BS & Healing Self-Esteem by Dr. Donna Oriowo Buy Donna's book from: Amazon Barnes & Noble Sourcebooks Loyalty Bookstore Join Donna's In My Black Feelings group Follow @dr.donnaoriowo on: Instagram TikTok YouTube Links: "Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so." "Let It Burn" from Paradise Square the Musical featuring Tony Award Winner Joaquina Kalukango Sunrise on the Reaping by Suzanne Collins Extraordinary Attorney Woo Good Sex by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons (Amazing book!) My Pronouns are Dr. T-shirt by Dr. Lexx Brown-James (Dr. Lexx rules) RaQuel Hopkins, Capacity Expert (instagram) Centering (and Studying!) Black Women's Pleasure, a conversation with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe

Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss. Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic Trick Audiobook on Audible Signed paperbacks at Book Moon The Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. Siegel Entrainment “The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun via PubMed The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt Dead Poets Society Murmuration (swarm behavior) Aristotle’s Rhetorical Triangle “The Field” - see Come Together page 276 No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz Out Beyond Ideas by Rumi FSP Live: turning down your pain sensors (Amelia on Youtube) Transcendental Meditation Catching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity by David Lynch Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery. Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle. (Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? ⁠You can sign up here for free⁠.) Links: FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the Fire Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Youtube In an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. “Complete the stress response cycle” - See chapter 1 of Burnout Somatic experiencing Friendly’s No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz Emily’s newsletter post about neuroplastic pain The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv Explain Pain Supercharged by G. Lorimer Moseley & David S. Butler Curable app

Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast. tl;dr Green Dot Bystander Intervention Annie's Organic Dijon Mustard Polar Seltzer

⁠⁠⁠Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!⁠⁠⁠ (From now until the end of the Murderbot show.) It’s hard not to shop when the things you rely on are discontinued or out of stock. Hashtag Supply Chain. Let’s see how Amelia’s been managing. None of these are affiliate links: ⁠IKEA ARTBUSKE cactus watering can⁠ ⁠Derma E Tea Tree Vitamin E Antiseptic Cream⁠ (Discontinued, it looks like.) ⁠Thunderpants⁠ ⁠tomboyx⁠ ⁠George Howell Coffee⁠ - we love, love, love a real light roast coffee. ⁠Uncle Harry’s Natural Products⁠ ⁠Community Supported Agriculture (CSA)⁠ ⁠Dana K. White⁠ (A Slob Comes Clean) ⁠X-O Odor Neutralizer⁠ ⁠Bioklean Bac-Out⁠ ⁠Grove Collaborative⁠ (look for the recycled trash bags) ⁠Thrive Market

You need to pinky swear you listened to the previous episode before you listen to this one. We’re trusting you. Links: Season 2, Episode 2: We’re Stronger Than the Fire Lebanon Bologna (Sausagepedia) Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Good Calories, Bad Calories by Gary Taubes Every Time Brennan Has Talked About Loving Heavy Food [Compilation] (from Gastronauts on dropout.tv, this is on Youtube) Salt Sugar Fat by Michael Moss Ultra-Processed People by Chris van Tulleken

We're going to talk about food and nutrition next week. But first, we need to talk about beauty. Spoiler warning: You're beautiful. Links: Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern! (From now until the end of Murderbot.) Bob the Drag Queen ⭐️ Drink Water and Mind Your Business by Dr. Donna Oriowo ⭐️ (Emily loves this book and blurbed it!) Get it from: Sourcebooks Amazon Book Moon Books Dr. Yaba Blay The Whites of Our Eyes is a short documentary film that follows Dr. Yaba Blay as she returns to her familial homeland of Ghana to explore the relationships between beauty, bodies, and b/Blackness Rad Bod or Dad Bod (Youtube) The Northman Lindsay Ellis explains The Little Mermaid (Youtube) FD Signifier explains edgelords (Youtube) Jessica Kellgren-Fozard explains ugly laws (Youtube) Wreck-it Ralph villain support group (Youtube) Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by Da’Shaun Harrison Health at Every Size Good Calories, Bad Calories: Fats, Carbs, and the Controversial Science of Diet and Health Why Diets Make Us Fat by Sandra Aamodt FSP 2020 Episode 18: The New Hotness The Body Project Turia Pitt (it looks like Amelia’s episode with Turia isn’t up yet.) Ubuntu Reclaiming Ugly by Vanessa Rochelle Lewis

Amelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to help. tl;dr When it comes to helping, ask first. And listen to what they need. There’s a bit of Disney, too.

Your Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca. Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK. It all maps out to ventral spaces, Polyvagal Theory and accessibility, too. Content warning for a tragic but not graphic story of an accident at the resort from about 53 - 56 min. Links: Latchkey kid FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Insights from Disney’s 30-Foot Trash Can Rule Disney’s Polynesian Village resort music loop (Youtube) (If you can’t relax to this, I don’t know what to tell you.) Meeting Mary Poppins on Paige's Make A Wish Trip (Youtube) (You will cry. In a good way.) The Dapper Dans - If You're Happy and You Know It (Youtube) Go Away Green Happily Ever After fireworks show (Also, apologies to Emily but the original illumations show at epcot was better even though she had to trick me into sitting still for it -editor) Season 2, Episode 2: We're Stronger Than the Fire Emily’s pleasure book is Come Together WDW Chronicles: History of the Hoop-Dee-Doo Musical Revue Wintering: The power of rest and retreat in difficult times