Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon

🎉 Learn about Expanded Orgasm with this free guide! 👉 Expand Her Orgasm Tonight (2.0) Ready to unlock the secrets to more and better orgasms? 🎉 This week on "Ask a Sex Therapist," we're tackling one of your favorite topics—orgasms! Whether you're chasing your very first climax or looking to make those peaks a more common part of your bedroom repertoire, this episode has something for you. Join Heather Shannon as she explores everything from breaking mental barriers to practical tips for heightened pleasure, all with her signature blend of humor and expertise. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights! What you’ll learn in this episode: - 🧠 The mental blocks that might be killing your vibe and how to overcome them. - ✨ How different sensations could dramatically change your sexual experiences. - 🔄 The importance of security and attachment in improving your orgasm frequency. - 🔍 Masturbation tips and why knowing your body is crucial. - 🚀 Techniques to boost orgasm probability if you already enjoy them but want more. Tap in to discover the secrets to a sensational sex life. Grab your headphones and listen today! 🎧👉 GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION COACHING PROGRAM https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page HEATHER’S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel to weigh in on future topics!) HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach EPISODE LINKS Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 005 The Clitoris on Apple Podcasts‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 022 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie Mintz on Apple Podcasts‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure on Apple PodcastsAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 056: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton on Apple Podcasts This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

🌟 Feeling stuck in your love life or overwhelmed by stress? Tune in to this game-changing episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," where we sit down with emotional healing coach Allison Jayne to uncover transformative techniques for personal growth and better relationships! Allison shares her expertise on EFT tapping, a simple yet potent method to rewire your brain for more positive outcomes. Whether you're battling feelings of unworthiness in dating or just trying to navigate the waves of modern love, this is the episode that might just turn your world around! 🌈👫 🎧 In this episode, you'll discover: - How EFT tapping can help you overcome trauma and reduce stress. - The role of your subconscious self-concept in your romantic relationships. - Strategies to combat the scarcity mindset in online dating. - Practical tips for using EFT tapping to enhance your dating experience. - Allison's inspirational journey from tapping novice to emotional healing maestro. Don't miss out on these remarkable insights! Tune in now to transform your approach to love and personal wellness! 🎶💖 GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page HEATHER’S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!) HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!) SHOW NOTES FOR WEBSITE —-(Update Heather’s website with slightly modified show notes for SEO) Sample: https://heathershannon.co/e4/ This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

🤗 Are you ready to expand your understanding of intimacy beyond the bedroom? In this cozy episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather shares her personal journey of attending her very first cuddle party! Wrap yourself up in the knowledge that not all closeness needs to be about sex, discover how platonic touch can open doors to greater intimacy, and learn about the fascinating dynamics of cuddle parties. Whether you're flying solo or navigating relationships, there's something in this episode to warm everyone's heart. Tune in and embrace a world where consent is king and connection is queen. 🛋️ Listen now to embrace the warmth of non-sexual intimacy and learn how cuddle parties are creating a new space for consent and connection! What you'll learn in this episode: - The underestimated power of platonic intimacy - Defining cuddle parties and how they differ from play parties - Tips on negotiating personal boundaries and practicing consent - The draw of cuddle parties for a diverse crowd, including those interested in non-monogamy - How cuddle parties can serve as a space for personal growth and self-discovery Timestamps: - [00:03:24] Explaining what a cuddle party is and how it functions - [00:04:47] Distinction between cuddle parties and play parties - [00:06:10] The attractiveness of cuddle parties to those seeking connection - [00:07:18] The personal growth element of attending such events - [00:09:13] Building the safe container of a cuddle party - [00:21:08] How asking for consent can transform interactions Listen to this heartwarming exploration of non-sexual intimacy and learn how to add a touch of consensual coziness to your life! 🎧 This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

🎙️ Hot flashes, mood swings, and... sexy times? Menopause isn't just your mother's concern, folks – it's a rollercoaster that can start as early as *38* and it affects everything from your emotions to your intimacy. 😳💥 Fear not, because this episode of *Ask A Sex Therapist* is here to light up the path through the mist of menopause. We've got the radiant Dr. Kelly Casperson from "You Are Not Broken" dropping truth bombs on everything hormone-related. Plus, we spill the tea on the good, the bad, and the not-so-slick truths behind the lubes and creams that promise to keep things smooth sailing south of the border. 🚀💦 Tune in and turn your perimenopause frowns upside down! Here's what you'll learn from this episode: - The real deal on "bioidentical" hormones and what's just slick marketing 🎩📈 - Why your birth control pills aren't on the same level as menopause treatments 🚫💊 - Tips for talking to your doc about hormones like you've got an MD of your own 🗣️💪 - The lifesaving importance of lube, and why silicone is your new BFF 🙌✨ - How vaginal estrogen could be the $20 game-changer for your love life ❤️💡 Timestamps: - [02:15] Understanding menopause and its surprising age range - [05:30] Demystifying perimenopause symptoms - [11:45] Why "bioidentical" hormones are causing a buzz - [17:20] The significant risks of misinformation on vaginal estrogen - [23:45] How healthy habits can support hormonal balance - [31:00] Navigating the options for hormone replacement therapy - [38:30] The big misconceptions of hormones and sexual health - [43:10] The affordable secret weapon against dryness - [49:50] Why GSM should be on your radar sooner rather than later - [55:25] Vaginal estrogen myths busted for breast cancer survivors Ready to rise above the confusion and start living your best life? Listen now and transform your approach to perimenopause and beyond! 🎧🌟 Don't miss out; visit heathershannon.com for more insights and to snag your free dirty talk guide! 📚💬 RESOURCES GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page HEATHER’S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!) HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach KELLY CASPERSON WEBSITE: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/ This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Hey there, lovely listeners! 🌸 In this episode, we're getting real and addressing the tricky topic of self-consciousness during sex. Whether you're worried about your body, technique, or just feeling like a complete beginner, we've got you covered. Join me as we unpack what self-consciousness really looks like in the bedroom and uncover actionable steps to boost your confidence and fully enjoy your intimate moments. Let's kick those insecurities to the curb and embrace owning our authentic selves! 💪 In this episode, you'll learn: - How to recognize signs of self-consciousness during sex - The impact of cultural ideals on body image and sexual confidence - Practical steps for finding inspiration and building confidence - Unpacking limiting beliefs and exploring their impact on sexual experiences - Understanding the importance of addressing emotional blocks for a fulfilling sex life Ready to take charge and transform your sexual experiences? Tune in now to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧 00:00 Late night episode discussing self-consciousness during sex. 04:00 Overanalyzing can emphasize insecurities and self-consciousness. 06:44 Finding and appreciating your favorite flavors and partners. 12:25 Acceptance and compassion for body image struggles. 15:25 Challenge thoughts, change experience, unpack stories, notice. 17:27 Heather’s story of overcoming fear of public speaking in college. 19:51 Podcast email available, upcoming episodes with guests. GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page HEATHER’S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!) HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Got feedback or an idea for the show? Email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com! In the latest episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather engages in a powerful conversation with guest and professional Surrogate Partner, Katherine Yeagel. Together they explore the nuanced and often misunderstood practice of Surrogate Partner Therapy. Katherine, a surrogate partner, somatic sex educator, and queer sex and relationship coach, shares her insightful perspective on the therapeutic journey, emphasizing the stepping stones of starting from a place of safety and gradually moving toward deeper connection. They highlight the importance of nervous system regulation, the impact of societal norms on personal relationships, and the need for authenticity in sexual encounters. Katherine's personal transformation and professional insights shed light on the intricate relationship between self-discovery and healing within the context of surrogate partner therapy. This episode offers listeners a thought-provoking examination of intimate growth, client experiences, and deliberately pacing yourself in intimate relationships to build trust and establish healthy boundaries. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🧑‍🤝‍🧑What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? (3:41) 📑How does someone get started working in this field? 🙋 What types of people make a good client for Surrogate Partner Therapy? 🚷What are some myths about Surrogate Partner Therapy? 🚦Creating and noticing safety and green lights in your body when it comes to intimacy TIMESTAMPS 03:41 Surrogate partners help clients practice relationship skills. 10:06 Learning to provide whole authentic relationship with clients. 13:14 Teamwork with therapists fulfills and enriches Katherine. 20:31 Creating a green zone space for yourself. 27:41 Surrogate partners navigate authenticity and attraction challenges. 37:46 Reflecting on experiences, avoiding regrets after sex. 42:00 Authentic expression leads to genuine confidence. 44:44 Deconstructing traditional views on sex and sexuality. RESOURCES GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page HEATHER’S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!) HEATHER’S INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!) https://pod.fo/e/213792https://pod.fo/e/217d0a KATHERINE YEAGEL...

Don’t forget to “Follow” the show 👉https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist. We have awesome episodes coming up on sexual fantasies, surrogate partner therapy and what it’s like being a porn star and you won’t want to miss them! In this week's solo episode, Heather breaks down the top 5 reasons your sex life might be feeling stagnant. Once you know what these are, you can get past them and get back to the steamy stuff! 🔥 No more sexless marriage. No more sex feeling like a chore. And no more lesbian bed death. Let’s turn the heat back up in your bedroom (just metaphorically though because it’s best to sleep in cool temperatures LOL)! If you’ve been feeling more like roommates than lovers, this episode is for you. Sex shouldn’t be something you have to cross off your to do list. In this episode, you will learn: 🍆 How neglecting what worked in the beginning can cockblock you! 🦺 The importance of creating emotional safety for open communication 😋 Ways to actively nurture and prioritize your sex life 🧠 Understanding your turn-ons and creating the right conditions for an intimate connection 🫠 The impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal on your sex life Hit PLAY to find out how to remove these major sex blockers and start building a sex life that actually turns you on. Here are a few highlights: - [00:00:32] Introduction to the topic and upcoming episodes - [00:02:21] Reason #1: Neglecting what worked in the beginning - [00:05:41] Reason #2: Not feeling emotionally safe - [00:08:50] Reason #3: Failing to nurture your sex life specifically - [00:12:53] Reason #4: Not getting the type of sex that really does it for you - [00:18:17] Reason #5: Impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!) https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM Start by requesting your Intimacy Breakthrough Call (Limit 3 per week, so book now!) LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES https://HeatherShannon.co ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!) HEATHER’S INDIVIDUAL INSTAGRAM (new!) https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!) 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera046: Body Count, Slut-Shaming & Good Girl Syndrome

Have feedback on the show or want to ask a sex question for our next listener Q & A? Email Heather at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com. ⚡️ Sparks flying and magic in the air? Or just the sound of yet another dating myth fizzling out? 🐸💔 Join Heather and this week's guest expert, Damona Hoffman, as they smash the old fairy tale narratives and help you construct a love story that's truly your own. Our amazing guest, Damona Hoffman, is the official love expert for The Drew Barrymore Show and the #1 Best-Selling author of "F The Fairy Tale." She and Heather get pretty deep in this episode and you're in for some suprises! This episode isn't about finding your soulmate, but finding real connections in a world full of ghosting, breadcrumbing, lazy daters and more dating pitfalls. 🧚 Whether you're a hopeless romantic or a hopeful realist, you won't want to miss the truths unpacked here. 🌟 Listeners will discover: 🔮 The myth of instant chemistry and the importance of personal growth in relationships. 🎙️ How to inspire authentic connections beyond text messages (hint: try audio messages!) 💑 The four pillars essential for a relationship and how to apply them practically. 😱 Turning the 'ick' of dating disasters into a path of personal growth and self-discovery. 🔐 Embracing realism over romance for a meaningful and fulfilling partnership. Get insightful timestamps: - The allure of Valentine's Day and everyday love [00:01:16] - Demystifying the 'perfect' partner and unrealistic expectations [00:02:44] - Is romance lost when we say 'F the fairy tale'? [00:04:19] - The importance of staying in the moment [00:06:30] - Damona's refreshing approach to 'the list' [00:08:40] - The love/hate relationship with dating height requirements [00:09:57] And much more, all within the transformative heart-to-heart between Heather and Damona Hoffman! Ready for a love revolution? Listen now, and let's rewrite the dating rules together. DAMONA HOFFMAN'S WEBSITE: https://damonahoffman.com/ BUY DAMON'AS BOOK "F THE FAIRY TALE"" https://damonahoffman.com/f-the-fairy-tale/ GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH? https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ FOLLOW THE SHOW https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist HEATHER'S WEBSITE https://HeatherShannon.co YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach/podcasts This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Don’t forget to follow the show. We have some amazing guests you won’t want to miss including Damona Hoffman from The Drew Barrymore show, Kelly Casperson from the You Are Not Broken podcast and surrogate partner Katherine Yeagel. Reminder to you that the show notes are choc-ful of helpful links. You can submit your anonymous sex questions via our anonymous Ask A Sex Therapist link. I would love to hear from more of you about what you’re struggling with when it comes to sex or what you really want that you haven’t been able to figure out how to get yet. This will factor into which topics I cover on the show. In other words, not only will I answer all the questions, but you may even get your own episode! 🔥 Get ready to learn all about the art of initiating sex in this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon! Heather discusses the importance of clear communication, the different approaches to initiating, and the nuances of understanding your partner's desires. From playful seduction to setting the mood for intimacy, this episode is packed with tips and insights on how to get things going in the bedroom. If you're looking to add some excitement and connection to your sex life, you won't want to miss this candid discussion with Heather! In this episode, you'll learn: - The importance of clear communication when initiating sex - Different approaches to initiating and seducing your partner - Understanding your partner's preferences for getting in the mood - Navigating the complexities of foreplay and arousal - Tips for fostering intimacy and connection through initiating sex 🎧 Tune in to the episode for expert tips on how to initiate sex and bring passion back into your relationship! Time Stamps: - 00:54 - Heather introduces the topic of initiating sex and previews upcoming guests - 03:25 - Heather shares a personal cringe-worthy story about a unique approach to initiating sex - 08:08 - Identifying the different types of approaches to initiating and understanding your partner's preferences - 12:29 - Overcoming the discomfort and challenges of initiating sex through open communication - 16:43 - Exploring the nuances of foreplay, arousal, and navigating intimacy - 19:54 - Heather discusses a free tool to help diagnose patterns in your sex life and offers a call to action for listeners GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH? Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!) FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!) https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES https://HeatherShannon.co YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES https://HeatherShannon.co SIMILAR EPISODES 067: Get Vulnerable & Get Laid! - https://pod.fo/e/221294 063: How to Communicate About

Submit your anonymous sex questions here! For our next Listener Q & A episode → https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/ 🚀 Ready to liberate your inner WILD and explore the transformative power of sexuality? This episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist' features the fierce and fabulous GG Sauvage, who shares her journey from trauma to triumph and how sex work has shaped her life and identity. It's a candid conversation filled with raw insights and helpful advice whether you're navigating your own self-discovery or simply curious about the nuances of relationships and sex work. Get ready to be inspired and empowered! 🌟🎙️💜 Listeners will learn about: - Reclaiming one's identity post-trauma - Exploring sexual identity after a conservative religious upbringing - How sex work can lead to empowerment and financial stability - The healing aspects of creating erotic content and art - Navigating bisexuality and non-monogamous relationships Time stamps for spicy bits & giggles: [00:01:29] The significance behind the name Sauvage [00:03:18] The wildness that comes from breaking free [00:09:12] Exploration of the desire to engage in sex work [00:19:36] Sharing what it's like to work in a Nevada brothel [00:23:09] The broad and positive impact of legal sex work [00:27:22] Advocating for pleasure education and understanding one's body [00:34:52] Femme on femme energy and advice on non-monogamous relationships [00:39:43] Reclamation in the context of romantic and working relationships [00:43:17] The benefits and satisfaction in relationships between two women Don't miss this episode – tune in now and unearth the wisdom hiding beneath the surface of your desires. And if you're vibing with us, don't forget to share the experience! 🎧💬 GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH? Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!) FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!) https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES https://HeatherShannon.co YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! FIND AND FOLLOW OUR AMAZING GUEST GG SAUVAGE: GG’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ggsauvage/ GG’s Website & Writing - https://www.sexandthesynchronicity.com/ SIMILAR EPISODES https://pod.fo/e/21a9f3https://pod.fo/e/211467https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa

🎙️ Get ready to embrace your vulnerability and emotional bravery in this week's episode of Ask A Sex Therapist! In this candid discussion, we explore the importance of being emotionally brave for intimacy, whether it's emotional closeness, authenticity, or passionate, connected sex. Host Heather encourages listeners to break free from self-censorship and explore the impact of holding back thoughts and feelings. Offering insights from her work with clients, she uncovers how self-censorship impacts sexual intimacy and shares actionable advice for overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and fear of rejection to foster deeper connections. ❤️🔥 In this episode, you'll learn: - What is self censorship? - We all suck at this. I am bad at this too even though I’m not shy and don’t have social anxiety and often couldn’t care less what people think of me. - Belonging is a core need from an evolutionary standpoint and we’re petrified of not belonging. Plus there’s the emotional roller coaster. - But we are blocking ourselves from connection, happiness, pleasure and joy!!! And we’re blocking the other person too!!! Imagine how much more love there would be in the world if we were all better at this!!! - So this part is a protector part according to IFS. It’s likely protecting an exiled part that feels not good enough, unworthy, shameful, broken, etc. - - - This part prevents us from getting hurt by reminding us not to stick our neck out. It learned to do this from past hurts. It has nothing but the best intentions, but may not know about our Self Energy which is confident and infinitely able to hold space for our emotions - The solution? Access your Self Energy. Introduce this protector part to Self. Do things that help you access Self Energy. Time Stamps: 00:57 - The significance of emotional bravery for intimacy 04:14 - Overcoming shyness and societal norms in expressing attraction 09:44 - Understanding the evolutionary need for belonging and connection 13:43 - Framing self-censorship through an internal family systems perspective 19:07 - Accessing your self energy for emotional bravery GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH? Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!) FOLLOW THE SHOW (this helps more people find it!) https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES https://HeatherShannon.co YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! SIMILAR EPISODES Ep 2 - The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex! - https://pod.fo/e/15b8df Ep 11 - Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d Ep 25 - Sex and The Single Life: Dating, Vulnerability & Freedom - https://pod.fo/e/17c237 Ep 33 - BDSM, Play Parties and Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom - https://pod.fo/e/181b5d This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Ever wondered how self-judgment and outdated stereotypes can throw a wrench in our love lives? Tune in to this fascinating episode with Rachel Burch, one of Heather’s besties, as we get real about cougaring, age differences, and what it takes to forge genuine connections at any stage of life. No “age is just a number” cliches—we promise—just raw, hilarious insights from two women who aren't afraid to challenge norms. 🎙️💘🐾 Also check out Rachel’s award-winning podcast Love Before 100 where she chronicles her dating life as a 40-something divorced Mom. It’s like reality tv you can listen to on your commute! Rachel’s Instagram Love Before 100 Rachel’s YouTube In this episode, you'll learn: - How to navigate the dating world when interested in younger men. - Insights into attachment styles and their impact on your love life. - Rachel's refreshing take on self-worth and attraction beyond age-related stigmas. - The exhilarating freedom of 'Vacation Heather' and what it could mean for your dating adventures. - Strategies for personal growth and allowing vulnerability into your love life. Time Stamps: [00:02:40] Rachel discusses her views on cougaring [00:07:45] The surprising ways younger men have shown up in dating [00:14:17] The public's response to age gap dating [00:17:00] Rachel's lack of attachment to a future with Wes, a younger suitor [00:23:12] Impact of first heartbreaks on future dating [00:30:24] Rachel contemplates what new experiences to allow herself [00:33:31] Three-date rule with 'younger men' experiments [00:37:22] Working through defense mechanisms for genuine intimacy [00:41:18] Rachel's personal experience with self-judgment and attraction [00:43:29] Higher love and the decision to stay open to finding love Ready for an earful of uncensored truths? Listen now and embrace the possibility of love in unexpected places - wherever you find your podcast joy. WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Ep 54 Curious Girl Diaries with Layla London https://pod.fo/e/205f80 Ep 39 Being a boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable -

In this episode, our host–Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon–tackles listener responses to the question “What Do You Wish Was Better About Your Sex Life?” We had both a college student and a 70-something say their sex-life was non-existent. See what Heather has to say could be going on in that case. Then we have a partner who is having a hard time not taking her boyfriend’s ED personally. Learn what really goes on with ED. We continue the ED thread with someone who hasn’t been able to have penetrative sex with her partner for 11 years due to diabetes–how can she adjust to still feel connected with her husband? And lastly, what do you do when your partner isn’t interested in your kinks? What you'll learn from this episode: - How to stop blocking romantic possibilities and start inviting passion into your life. - Traditional and modern ways to meet new flames that can rekindle your fire. 🔥 - How spending more time understanding your sexual style can help you work through sexual incompatibility - Dealing with medical conditions impacting intimacy, and the role of sex toys in keeping the flame alive. 🎲 - How to navigate differences with your partner when it comes to kinks and fantasies Time Stamps for YouTube Chapters: - 0:00 Introduction and Host Update - 5:00 Discussing Listener Submissions - 10:00 Exploring Non-Existent Sex Lives - 15:00 Breaking Down Barriers to Pleasure - 20:00 Traditional Matchmaking and Group Outings - 25:00 Tools for Communicating Sexual Preferences WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Ep. 21 - All About Erections - https://pod.fo/e/174c70 Ep. 57 - Kink 101 - https://pod.fo/e/20c494 Ep 10 - The Sexual Placebo Effect - https://pod.fo/e/16176b RESOURCES MENTIONED Erotic Blueprint Quiz RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Join us for a fearless convo with kink-positive and shame-free content creator Alice Lovegood! She’s here to chat about the saucy side of cartoons (i.e. Princess Jasmine from Aladdin!), spill the tea on being neurodiverse and navigating love, and why those “oops!” moments in the sheets can actually be kinda hot. 💅🛌 Slide into a judgment free zone with Alice and host Heather Shannon where body confidence and exploring desires take the spotlight. Here's the scoop on what's in this episode: - Embracing the skin you're in, whether it's after a weight change or just owning your story 😌📖 - Why a little bedroom awkwardness isn't just normal—it's actually important for growth 🌺🤭 - Ditching shame like last season's fashion and why getting kinky might be just the self-care you need 🥀➡️🌹 - Finding the courage to let your freak flag fly, body confidence and all, with Alice's no-filter chat 💬 🚩 Hot timestamps you don't want to miss: - [00:16:08] Alice gets real about body image post-weight loss - [00:16:59] Heather and Alice talk about why that number on a scale shouldn't define you - [00:17:42] Alice on people's surprise at her bold body confidence - [00:18:09] Body appreciation vs. societal standards chat - [00:19:10] A convo on loving your body against all odds - [00:20:11] Alice and Heather tackle the S-word... Shame! - [00:20:50] Unpacking unconventional kinks with zero shame - [00:22:14] Finding enjoyment in what turns you on - [00:23:11] Embracing the feels, the good, the bad, and the sexy - [00:24:04] How societal norms can stir up those inner emotions 🎙💜 Catch the full vibe by checking out the episode now! CURIOS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session here- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Ep. 11 Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d Ep. 62 - Wild Nights with Dustin Rybka from Sex Party - https://pod.fo/e/2156e7 Ep. 47 - “Bottom Shame” and being a “Side” with Dr. Joe Kort - https://pod.fo/e/1f60c0 RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

*Don’t forget to hit “Follow” if you love the show! That helps us get seen by more people and appeal to amazing guests! Have you ever felt STUCK when it came to talking to your partner about sex? 🤔 Well, you’re not alone–Heather’s felt that way too! In this episode, she shares her own mishaps with sexual communication and how to make sure you look forward to discussing your sex life with your partner. Listen in if you want to be able to speak freely about your mental turn-ons, preferred techniques and sexual desires! 🎧💞 Here's a sneak peek of what you're about to learn: - How to navigate the all-too-common scenario of a partner agreeing but not following through with sexual requests. 🔄 - Tips for bringing up sex without making your partner get defensive or avoidant. - How to bring sex up when you haven’t had it in a long time and it’s become the elephant in the room. - Unpacking the need for advanced communication skills in non-monogamous relationships. - The importance of taking charge of your sexual needs and learning to articulate them clearly. 📣 Time Stamps (cause who doesn't love a good spoiler?): - [00:00:52] Why communication is the hottest topic in town, according to your Instagram polls! - [00:01:57] Heather's personal story of communication breakdown and lessons learned. - [00:08:41] Creating space for your partner and the importance of emotional mastery in sexual communication. - [00:15:29] The need for bravery in initiating the long-avoided sex convo. - [00:21:49] Making a sex manual? Heather thinks it's a fabulous idea to explore and communicate your desires! 😏 - [00:28:08] Discussing fears and setting ground rules for sharing fantasies with your partner. Ready to level up your bedroom banter? Hit play and let's go! 🎤🥰 WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Ep. 2 The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex https://pod.fo/e/15b8df Ep. 3 The Emotions of Sex https://pod.fo/e/15c61a RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Get ready to unwrap the forbidden in this episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! 🎁🚫 Join host Heather and the unapologetically candid guest Dustin Rybka as they tackle the titillating topic of censorship and its bedfellows: sex negativity and social media blocking. From algorithms policing pleasure to the clubbing stories, Dustin spills the tea (and maybe some other things) about the wild ride that's led him here. 😏 Tune in for tales that'll make you laugh, cringe, and maybe learn a thing or two about sex positivity in this must-listen episode. In this episode, you'll unpack: - The consequences of a culture where sex negativity reigns supreme.⚖️ - The escapades that come from life as a club promoter - all the uncensored details included! 🎉 - A glimpse into the journey from acting to advocacy, how Dustin uses drama in his sex-positive mission. 🎭 - The power and freedom found in podcasting that other platforms can't seem to match. ✊ - Dustin's rules of engagement, party management, and how happy he is in his current relationship. ❤️🎙️ Timestamps of interest: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:52] Introduction to Sex Party Podcast [00:02:36] Dustin's Acting Ambitions [00:03:48] Dustin's Transition to Hosting [00:10:22] The Making of a Sex Podcaster [00:15:04]Censorship and Podcasting Freedoms [00:23:50] The Power of Hosting and Connecting [00:29:34] Dustin's Nightlife Sagas [00:36:12] Relationships, Rules, and Realizations [00:50:49] Love, Relationships, and Podcasting [00:53:00] Finding Love in the Podcast Era [00:58:31] Wrap-Up and Where to Find Dustin You won't want to miss this episode, so be sure to tune in, only on 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! And remember, while advice might be free, the experience is priceless! 🔥 EPISODE LINKS WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach Dustin's Podcast Dustin's YouTube Channel Dustin's Instagram SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Ep 56 with Susan Bratton Ep 58 with Magda Kay RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here.

Tune in to the latest episode of "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" where we're getting down and dirty with a fun and spicy topic—sexting! Host Heather brings the raw truth and tackles the underrated world of sexting, exploring its potential to spice up long-distance relationships, try out new fantasies, and even dip your toes into non-monogamous experiences. With the rise of apps like Pure, the possibilities of virtual exploration are endless, but what does it all mean for our sexual wellbeing? 📱💋 In this episode, you'll learn: 🌈 How sexting can be a gateway to exploring non-monogamy virtually 🎭Ways to use sexting to try out new fantasies and kinks without the physical commitment 💑 The potential benefits of sexting in maintaining long-distance relationships 🔒 Tips for keeping the sexting fun and spicy while setting clear boundaries 🤔 The value of exploring sexual expression in a safe, low-stakes environment Tune in for a tantalizing conversation about the wild world of sexting with Heather on "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" and unlock the secrets of virtual sexual exploration! 🎧✨ - [00:04:21] Discovering the Pure app and how it has features similar to Grindr - [00:06:47] Sexting can be a way to explore non-monogamy within a relationship - [00:10:48] The importance of sexting in maintaining sexual connection in long-distance relationships. - [00:13:58] Sexting can be a fun and relatively safe way to explore sexual fantasies with a partner before trying them in person. - [00:15:49] Setting boundaries and reflecting on personal desires - [00:21:38] Effective communication and practicing giving feedback during sexting to ensure a positive and consensual experience. WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: EP 13: Is Monogomy Realistic? Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0enFi7I9rAccyOUwnjdeXT?si=4e8ea46d3efc4214 RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist Tune in and join the conversation by checking out our latest episode on https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist Liked the show? Join the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook community for behind the scenes, listener polls and chances to ask Heather your questions directly! CLICK HERE TO JOIN: This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

🌟 Are the stars aligning in your bedroom? Get ready for an illuminating journey through astrology and healing on this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist. Join us as we sit down with Jackie Tempera, the wordsmith renowned for her celestial insights on sexual health and more, and uncover the cosmic connections to intimacy. But there's more beneath the constellations – Speaker A courageously shares their potent story of trauma and triumph. Together, they explore the raw and real impact of sexual assault and the transformative path to reclaiming pleasure and safety. 🌌 📌 What to expect: - Jackie Tempera’s insights on how astrology can influence our sex lives, plus tools for checking out your own birth chart. - Strategies for coping with trauma and finding solace after assault, including Speaker A's personal healing practices. - The power of acknowledging and normalizing challenging sexual topics to foster recovery and connection. - Understanding consent and its fundamental role in creating a safe and enjoyable sexual experience. - A candid exploration of setting boundaries and communicating with partners for a mutually fulfilling sex life. TIMESTAMPS: [04:19] Sun sign is least interesting. Planetary placements matter. [13:11] Exploring sex love lifestyle brought unexpected transformation. [23:21] Full circle moment turns into painful realization. [27:58] Group experience affirmed universality of rape trauma. [32:52] Realizing and accepting past sexual assault experience. [34:38] Unpleasant experience at police station, JFK talk. [38:42] Understanding consent and past experiences with sex. [40:57] Slowly building comfort with intimacy and triggers. [43:22] Fear of losing faith in humanity's goodness. [47:33] Understanding partner's needs and creating safe space. Connect with Jackie Tempera : Check out her Website - www.jackietempera.com Follow her on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jackietemp/ X - https://twitter.com/jacktemp Follow her on tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jackietemp Connect with her on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-tempera-94895142/ WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram -...

Request an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected. - 🎙️ Ready to find out how to spice things up in your love life? In this listener Q and A episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of intriguing questions from her audience. From exploring non-conventional sexual fantasies to navigating boundaries in relationships, Heather provides valuable insights and advice for enhancing intimacy and understanding your own desires. Discover how to protect yourself from STIs when you don't have a specific partner and gain confidence in approaching potential romantic interests. Join Heather as she offers candid, non-judgmental, and candid solutions to these real-life scenarios. In this episode, you’ll learn: - How to navigate defining boundaries in a relationship and addressing uncomfortable situations. - Understanding the complexity of intrusive sexual thoughts and strategies for managing them. - Tips for opening up about sexual fantasies with your partner in a respectful and non-pressuring manner. - Practical advice on protecting yourself from sexually transmitted infections when not in a specific partnership. - Techniques for building confidence in approaching potential romantic interests in a respectful and mindful way. Timestamps: [04:29] Discuss agreements, boundaries, and flexibility in relationships. [09:00] Complexity of human sexuality and self-acceptance. [13:05] Let go of defining, expanding, observing thoughts. [16:48] Share fantasy, express vulnerability, pick supportive partner. [17:46] Expect kindness, not instant fulfillment of desires. [23:36] Express more compliments, be respectful, no agenda. [24:43] Approach dating with a broader, positive mindset. WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Episode 27 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/17fd37 Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671 Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Ready to light the spark in your intimate life? Listen to our special guest Magda Kay as she uncovers the mysteries of Tantra and tackles the hot topic of mismatched libidos in relationships. Feeling like your bedroom dynamics could use a tune-up? Whether you're solo or partnered up, this episode has a lot of insights on sexual energy flow and practical takeaways for keeping that fire alive. 🛏️💕 In this episode, you'll gain insight into: - The transformative power of Tantra and how it's more than just what happens in the bedroom. - Strategies for couples navigating libido differences and the secrets to maintaining a sizzling connection. - Actionable advice for parents and new couples facing the all-too-common shift from passion to roommates. - Understanding the fluidity of sexual roles and energies in both heterosexual and queer relationships. - Tips for effectively communicating desires and how to reintroduce romance and anticipation into your relationship. Timestamps: 00:00 Challenging gender stereotypes in sex, finding solutions. 05:18 Men learning to embrace emotions and sexuality. 08:04 Curiosity led to discovery of sexual healing. 13:47 Female-focused workshops offer a safer environment. 15:50 Helping men with confidence and intimacy issues. 18:08 Gender dynamics affecting romance and passion in relationships. 22:38 Prioritize important things, accept consequences, be adaptable. 26:06 Men struggle with emotions and societal expectations. 31:13 Show dynamic, respect, and attraction in interactions. 33:34 Addressing emotional barriers to improve sexual intimacy. 37:42 Planning sex is important, especially for parents. 39:28 Curious about energy and gender fluidity. CONNECT WITH MAGDA KAY: Website - magdakay.com Instagram - instagram.com/magdakayofficial Facebook - facebook.com/MagdaKayOfficial Book - magdakay.com/book Speaking - magdakay.com/speaking The School of Intimacy - magdakay.com/school WORK WITH HEATHER: Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07 LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️: Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES: Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy: Episode 5 - The Clitoris - https://pod.fo/e/15ce78 Episode 15 - Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6 RATE & REVIEW US! Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp