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In this hilarious and heartfelt podcast, award-winning comedian Nelly Thomas and guest co-hosts offer sex, relationship and dating advice from the other side of 40. Like many people, Nelly got “Covid Divorced” after a long relationship and not only was it not a disaster, it was best for everyone involved. Turning 40 is something faced with dread by some but Nelly has a different take - this is when you really come into your own. Nelly and her guest co-hosts will help you navigate the highs and lows of break-ups, dating, relationships, sex and everything else in-between. Guest co-hosts so far include Cal Wilson, Harley Breen, Mel Buttle, Scott Brennan and Geraldine Hickey. For info, episodes and to send Nelly a message go to the Dear Nelly website HERE "Thought provoking and brilliant." Sammy J, Comedian "An hilarious combination of humour, wisdom and compassion." Listener "I feel seen." Listener Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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United States

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Comedy

Description:

In this hilarious and heartfelt podcast, award-winning comedian Nelly Thomas and guest co-hosts offer sex, relationship and dating advice from the other side of 40. Like many people, Nelly got “Covid Divorced” after a long relationship and not only was it not a disaster, it was best for everyone involved. Turning 40 is something faced with dread by some but Nelly has a different take - this is when you really come into your own. Nelly and her guest co-hosts will help you navigate the highs and lows of break-ups, dating, relationships, sex and everything else in-between. Guest co-hosts so far include Cal Wilson, Harley Breen, Mel Buttle, Scott Brennan and Geraldine Hickey. For info, episodes and to send Nelly a message go to the Dear Nelly website HERE "Thought provoking and brilliant." Sammy J, Comedian "An hilarious combination of humour, wisdom and compassion." Listener "I feel seen." Listener Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Language:

English


Episodes
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Justin Hamilton: (Un)confirmed bachelor

1/25/2026
Justin Hamilton: (un)Confirmed Bachelor Justin Hamilton is one of Australia's most beloved comedians. He also happens to be a straight, middle-aged dude in the wild. We talk about dating, ethics, comedy and a whole lot more. Justin's Website HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:15:05

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Solo Nelly: Raw Dogging it through the end of the year

12/17/2025
Final Episode of the Year: Raw Dogging it through the festive season This episode you get an update on Nelly's dating journey and, she spends the entire rest of the episode taking fabulous listener calls. Enjoy! DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:55:49

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Should I date my neighbour?

11/18/2025
Adam Richard and Nelly dedicate an episode to some juicy listener questions DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:07:41

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Harley Breen and Wade Duffin: Dudes, Dads and Fewls!

10/15/2025
HARLEY BREEN AND WADE DUFFIN: DUDES, DADS AND FEWLS The best mates are back to talk mental health, parenting, healthy relationships and other stuff. A glorious episode with two of my faves. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:58:35

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Alicia Sometimes: neurospicy dating, marriage and car bonnets.

9/17/2025
Alicia Sometimes: poet, broadcaster, scientist, introvert and neurospicy queen joins us this month to talk marriage, dating and car bonnets. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:59:02

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August FREE episode

8/20/2025
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Duration:01:02:19

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Jacinta Parsons: I'd been to paradise but I'd never been to me!

7/16/2025
Jacinta Parsons: I'd been to paradise but I'd never been to me! Author and ABC personality Jacinta Parsons came out of a very long-term relationship a few years ago and swore off dating. Then she met a bloke in an airport lounge and now they're loving each other sick, mate! Jacinta's dating story is like a rom-com that wrote itself. We talk about this, her INCREDIBLE NEW BOOK and, we take a brilliant listener call about being taken advantage of (to put it mildly) in an awful se*ual liason. Some if it is hard stuff, but so moving and relevant. I know you will love this episode - it has lots of laughs and tears. Just like we like it around here. JACINTA'S WEBSITE HERE A WISDOM OF AGE, BY JACINTA PARSONS HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:12:37

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Adam Richard: age is just a number ... until it's not

6/16/2025
Adam Richard: age is just a number, until it's not The Fabulous Adam Richard is back to talk about something very special - his thesis on DEAR NELLY! Nelly and Adam also talk about aging, we get an update on Adam's new adventures in Ethical Non-Monogamy, life admin and some other stuff. Nelly and Adam take a raw and real listener call about se*ual boundaries and how they are NOT NEGOTIABLE. A wonderful episode with an old friend and Dear Nelly favourite. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:11:14

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More Poh Ling Yeow: Freebie Teaser for yas

5/25/2025
Poh Ling Yeow: BONUS episode BONUS for MAY 2025! DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:29:13

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Poh Ling Yeow: I just can't face the bloody apps babe!

5/17/2025
Poh Ling Yeow: I just can't face the bloody apps babe! Poh joins us this month to talk about being friends with your ex, being long term single and why she can't face all the messaging and shenanigans of the apps. Nelly also takes some great listener calls. A fabulous episode with a national treasure. MasterChef Australia: Back to Win continues Sunday at 7pm, and Monday to Wednesday at 7:30pm on 10 and 10 Play DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:30:13

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A Dyke on a Bike and Sex and The City

4/16/2025
APRIL 2025 EPISODE This month we are joined by T-Rex - the President of the Melbourne chapter of the iconic Dykes on Bikes. T-Rex and I chart her journey from dirt-bike farm-girl to two marriages, some difficult relationships and ultimately, to finding herself and her person. T-Rex's journey is that of so many of us - a long and winding road to self-discovery and happiness with some pot-holes and fox burrows in between. You'll be inspired to find your own patch. TICKETS TO OUR NEXT LIVE SHOW ON MAY 15TH (MELBOURNE) HERE Dykes on Bikes Melbourne HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:59:04

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It's All About You!

3/16/2025
IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU: NELLY COMING AT YOU SOLO WITH LISTENER CALLS AND LETTERS This month Nelly is going commando - no co-host - to tackle your listener calls and letters. We have everything from how to get hope back, to coercive control, to dating dilemmas. A solo ep with Captain Thomas at the helm. Enjoy! TICKETS AND INFO FOR KIRSTY WEBECK'S TOUR HERE Interview with Rebecca Solnit, “Hope in the Dark” https://youtu.be/htstajrxUIc?si=04pnJ-nlsqz3kVwB Coercive control: https://www.healthline.com/health/coercive-control#restricting-autonomy Non-physical abuse: https://www.cnv.org.au/help/what-is-family-violence/#:~:text=Family%20violence%20isn't%20always,t%20do%20what%20they%20want. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:04:17

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Don't date while horny!

2/19/2025
DO NOT DATE WHILst ON THE HORN: THE BAR will be TOO LOW! THE FABULOUS ADAM RICHARD is back with Nelly to tackle some listener letters and questions that they didn't get to last time. These range from how to set up your profile, to dating while s*x-starved to community to parenting whilst living with a mental illness. As always, they are hilarious and highly inappropriate. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:17:34

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Should I hook up with someone at work?

1/20/2025
DEAR NELLY FAVOURITE SCOTT BRENNAN IS BACK TO HELP NELLY FIGURE SH*T OUT One of our favouite homosexuals is back to help Nelly answer some straight lady questions from listeners. Why? Because, why not. Scott has been sitting in the sh*t and we get into that. We take questions on hooking up with a work friend, sex toy etiquette and, how to enjoy big events on your won. We also take an inspiring call about dating in a regional area, later in life. A beautiful episode with a dear friend of both Nelly and the Dear Nelly Community. You'll love this one - a ripper start to 2025. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:10:31

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The Fabulous Adam Richard: how do we set up an open relationship?

1/9/2025
The Fabulous Adam Richard: how do we set up an open relationship? In addition to your guaranteed monthly episodes, Nelly will now drop in solo and/or with a guest to talk sh*t and take listener letters when she has time. We start today with a very long episode with Nelly's old mate The Fabulous Adam Richard. Adam and his long-term partner have just opened up their relationship and Adam is loving some aspects and finding others challenging. They GET INTO IT. Nelly and Adam also take some wonderful listener letters. It's a long one - listen in two parts or go on a really long walk. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:43:55

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Nelly SOLO life update!

12/20/2024
This month Nelly is solo - not by her own choice, she had a fresh episode ready to go, but sadly due to technical issues here we are! An overall update on what's been going on with Nelly over the last little while - a real honest and raw update. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:26:01

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Dating Stories from Youse Molls: She went to her first Sex Party!

11/13/2024
NOVEMBER 2024 EPISODE: DATING STORIES, MOLLS! This month Nelly has had a rough time and so she's decided to embrace the joy, mess and debauchery of life by making an entire episode out of dating stories. You'll hear the good, the bad and the ugly and if you don't cry/laugh multiple times, go get your pulse checked. An absolutely glorious episode. DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:01:35

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Serena Walker & Nelly: Have Two-weeks of Sex!

10/16/2024
SERENA WALKER: COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGIST IS BACK TO GET INTO IT Serena Walker is back to talk about all the things! We get into humour, hope and intentionality and how important they are to connection. We talk about a 30-day texting challenge, a 2-week sex challenge and how to honour grief and change. We get into Tina the Musical and a couple of memes. We take a beautiful listener call about recovering from an abusive relationship, finding a new romance and how to deal with that ending. We end on Serena's BIG MISTAKE. SERENA'S WEBSITE: HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:14:32

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Rusty Berther: Starting Again at 50

9/18/2024
Rusty Berther: Starting Again at 50 as a Straight Man in the Wild! Rusty Bertha's marriage of 27 years ended when he was 49 and he was shitting in the shit. Flash forward 7 years and he is happily remarried after doing a shitload of therapy and then meeting a wonderful woman on the apps. YES, IT DOES HAPPEN. Nelly and Rusty talk about all of that plus what sort of flirt he is and do's and don'ts of dating. They take a great listener call about boundaries and Rusty's BIG MISTAKE in dating and relationships. RUSTY BERTHA: HERE and HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:01:07:25

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Toxic People Thrive in Silence

9/11/2024
TOXIC PEOPLE THRIVE IN SILENCE In this ep, Nelly drops in to ponder how toxic people rely on silence and how liberating it is when you find your voice. She also muses on how egocentric we are when it comes to divorce, dating and all the things. She invites you to WWRPD - what would Ru Paul do - and ask yourself how important your current situation is in the Grander Scheme of Things. So you got divorced - sure it's huge, it's also nothing in the Big Picture view of human history and even, of your life. You can put the shame, worry and fear down. She also take wonderful call from a woman who was sitting right in the shit and is out the other side with a full bush and a new lease on her (sex)life. Bravo! Sherapy Sessions Podcast HERE Character Outs Podcast HEREThe Ru Paul interview Nelly references HERE NELLY'S NEW EVENT: OVER THE RAINBOW DATING FOR LGBTIQA+ VICTORIANS HERE DEARNELLYPODCAST.COM: HERE SUBSCRIBE TO DEAR NELLY PLUS VIA PATREON HERE SEND NELLY A MESSAGE: HERE 1800RESPECT is A Confidential information, counselling and support service that is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence: CLICK HERE 13YARN 24-hour national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 13 92 76 or visit www.13yarn.org.au Nelly's website HERE Fahey's website HERE Love yas, Nelly xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Duration:00:43:42