The Anti People Pleasing Podcast

Jo answers your questions... "My ex and I want to stay friends, is that possible for a codependent person?" / "I've finally completely left a toxic relationship, and now my libido has tanked, and I'm repulsed by men. Has codependency recovery got anything to do with it?" / "I want to be single for a year but I keep flirting with people I know like me" / "I just ended a long term relationship and I feel immediate regret. Should I give it time or try to get them back? / "Can you press a button in my brain and make me leave him?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Resources mentioned in show: Article on 'The Art of Flirtation' from Mam Gena - https://mamagenas.com/art-of-flirtation/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions: "Why do narcissists move on so fast?" / "He said he’d be my boyfriend so we had unprotected sex but he took it back the next day" / "Is it ok to feel sad about not being in a relationship or is that unhealthy"? / "As an adult I often feel like I want someone to take over taking care of me, like I'm sick of taking care of myself" / "How to not treat yourself badly and let go of shame if you relapse in your recovery?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Episode 15 featuring an essay on narcissists: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-15-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000542869644 Sweet Relief from The Everyday Narcissist by Melissa Schenker and Tina Moody: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20549302-sweet-relief-from-the-everyday-narcissist Dr Ramani Durvasula: http://instagram.com/doctorramani Safe Slut on Instagram: http://instagram.com/safe.slut Dr. Ina Park on Instagram: http://instagram.com/inaparkmd The Savage Lovecast: https://savage.love/lovecast/ Burn Out by Emily and Amelia Nagoski: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42397849-burnout Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "Can you explain financial abuse and how it shows up for codependent people?" / "I got very sick with Covid and my large group of friends didn't believe me. They think I 'ghosted' and all left me" / "My mum is very codependent and controlling. I want to write a letter to her and tell her, should I? How can I bring my focus back to my own healing instead?" / "I’m doing the work, but feel like I doubt myself. Can I be a nice person or is it all just me being codependent?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "My partner needs to go to therapy but treats it like a joke, how do I get them to go without insinuating they are broken?" / "I've decided to separate from my husband and marry my true wild self. I’m in limbo, any advice? " / "Post narcissistic abuse, how do you trust people? I am frequently afraid everyone is a narcissist" / "Can you give some tip for recovering from self sabotage around making positive changes for my health?" / "How can I create boundaries around my time in a new relationship?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "How to deal with a family Christmas with my controlling mother who wants to parent my child and still treat me like one?" / "Is timing in a relationship really everything?" / "When should I open up about my anxiety and mental health in general? I do it on the first date" / "My kink is being a sub, but I'm codependent. Is that bad?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Episode 9 featuring a question about right person, wrong timing: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-9-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000537358595 Episode 7 featuring the three lists you need to write to get clarity in your dating life: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-7-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000535899720 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "When he tells me his hurtful words are 'not that bad' I gaslight myself. How do I trust my feelings?" / Essay Reading - Narcissists Feed Off All Your Emotions, Good Or Bad / "Is it normal to wonder if someone you love is a narcissist but not want to believe it?”" / "When is it too early to say I love you? I’ve been dating a guy for about 6 months but worry about taking it too fast and if my feelings are genuine?” • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Episode 1 - Featuring a question on emotionally abusive people going to therapy and changing their ways. Book recommendation - Sweet Relief From The Everyday Narcissist - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Relief-Everyday-Narcissist-Melissa-Schenker/dp/1936909413 Medium story - Narcissists Feed Off Of All Your Emotions, Good Or Bad Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "I struggle with the 12 step label of once a codependent, always a codependent. Is this just my own resistance and denial?" / "My partner of 3.5 years refuses to sleep at my house. Am I unreasonable for needing this?" / "Love the idea of love and heavily depend on others but also have commitment issues... How?" / "How to successfully heal from a codependent relationship when also co-parenting with them?" / "Can two codependents, aware of their people pleasing behaviours, be friends?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: List of global Co-Dependents Anonymous websites: https://coda.org/coda-area-contacts/coda-area-contacts-global/ External blog review of several co-parenting apps: https://separ8.co.uk/tips-advice/co-parenting-apps-which-one-to-choose/ Episode 3 featuring self worth building tips: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-3-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000532714169 Episode 11 featuring more on codependent/codependent relationships: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-11-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000539515980 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "My sister fell out with me over something petty. Should I try harder to make the relationship work?" / "How should I deal with a parent who is argumentative and holds grudges?" / "When I like a guy I start to fixate on them and start to act for them." • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: The Fawcett Society Report - 150 years of progress on women’s rights and gender equality 1866-2016: https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=45a5a7f5-ffbd-4078-b0b7-4bfcccab159d Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "Is my partner controlling me? I question myself constantly" / "Can you be love bombed by a friend?" / "The guy I'm dating has no boundaries with his mum. Should I end it?" / "Is food shaming a red flag?" / "I text constantly and he's not into his phone. Is it because he's well adjusted?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Domestic abuse services, UK: https://www.refuge.org.uk/ https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ Domestic abuse services for women and girls of African heritage, London based: https://www.sistahspace.org/ List of international domestic abuse hotlines: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_domestic_violence_hotlines Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "How can I be honest with my partner without feeling like they will reject me?" / "Would love to hear more about codependent - codependent relationships" / "A close friend is dating my ex. Am I wrong to want to distance from her?" / "How to stop diminishing my feelings as a woman?" / "I've had my heart broken and I'm scared to date again" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Article on Kyriarchy: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/04/kyriarchy-101/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "My boyfriend follows a lot of attractive women on Instagram and I feel jealous, help!" / "My baby's dad is a drug addict and I can't stop helping him" / "As I heal, I feel disenchanted with being a therapist. Is this linked to codependency?" / "Can I set boundaries about how someone else lives? Ie. You can't do drugs?" / "How can I tell if someone is being genuinely nice or lovebombing me?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. • Links to resources mentioned in show: Nar-Anon - For family and friends of narcotics addicts: https://www.nar-anon.co.uk/ Al-Anon - For family and friends of alcoholics: https://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/ CoDA - For codependent people: https://codauk.org/ Information on enabling and interventions: https://family-intervention.com/blog/enabling/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "I was in a casual relationship for 6 months and it ended. I feel like I shouldn't feel this bad! Help!" / "What are your thoughts on right person, wrong timing?" / "I've started a new job and find it hard not to overshare about my estranged family and disability" / "How can you tell when you're healing vs. just not that into somebody?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "Why when things are going well, do I feel like something bad is about to happen?" / "I went on 2 dates and got attached. I felt anxious waiting for a text, is this codependent?" / "I argued with the person I'm seeing and they told me they need time. It's been three days. When should I reach out?" / "Is it ok to call someone out for being codependent? Or should I just be supportive?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: The work of Dr. Elaine Aron on Highly Sensitive People: https://hsperson.com/ Brené Brown on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, discussing forboding joy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKV0BWSPfOw Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "My parents aren't emotionally supportive and it feels isolating" / "I've started dating again, and I don't know how to tell a stud from a dud" / "I'm dating a great guy, but it feels boring. I'm addicted to the drama of my toxic relationships" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "Is it bad if your partner resembles one of your parents?" / "He's perfect on paper, but I don't find him physically attractive. What should I do?" / "I'm in recovery and struggle to be authentic with my partner and old friends" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "I can't leave my married boyfriend. I'm scared to be alone" / "Can you be both codependent and narcissistic?" / "Why can't I stop telling everyone everything or keep a secret?" / "How do I tell the people I'm dating that I have boundaries?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "I'm a chronic people pleaser in a new job and I feel like my colleagues don't like me" / "How can I get over a breakup in lockdown, and what could I have done differently?" / "Can I heal from codependency in a long term relationship?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Essay by Elizabeth Gilbert, Learn to be Lonely: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/learn-to-be-lonely-dear-ones-a-friend-of-this-page-asked-me-today-if-i-wo/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "Is it possible to be both codependent and a commitment-phobe?" / "Do you have any practical self esteem building tips?" / "Why is it good for codependent people to date several people?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co • Links to resources mentioned in show: Information on social, sexual and emotional anorexia from SLAA UK: https://www.slaauk.org/is-slaa-for-me/anorexia-sexual-social-and-emotional/ Sexual Anorexia and the Challenge of Social Isolation by Noel Bell: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/sexual-anorexia-and-the-challenge-of-social-isolation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo answers your questions... "How can I tell if I need to change my reaction, or they need to change their behaviour?" / "How can I tell when I'm ready to date again, and how can I trust myself not to go too quickly when I do?" / "My friends have stopped talking to me because of my codependent behaviours. How do I move forward?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the first ever episode of The Anti People Pleasing Podcast Jo answers your questions... "I'm a straight woman and my codependency makes me feel like a bad feminist!" / "Can an abuser change if they say they want to?" / "Has lockdown resurfaced old traumas for people?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues. • Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your question in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood • Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.