The Slumflower Hour

Are you easily swayed by a man's appearance? Do you find yourself being easily governed by the coochie flutters when you come across a cute man? Are you unknowingly giving away your power by putting emphasis on how attractive that man is, instead of how well he treats you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she takes good-looking men OFF the pedestal! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has that man become the sad cloud in your sky? Do you find yourself coasting along in this relationship out of guilt rather than choice? Do you feel responsible for this man's wellbeing? Baby...it's time to lift that burden and address the baggage you've taken on as your own! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So the switch-up has finally happened...he's stopped texting you the way he used to; he's not really making plans to take you out anymore; you've had your first argument and he's surprisingly chilled and NONCHALANT?! *blocks your hand from hitting the panic button* Time to stay calm and quietly examine everything you have tolerated so far! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was voted for by my patrons on Patreon! After what started out as a simple evening of sharing some anonymous insight from sex workers about the hidden reality of married men, the conversation snowballed into an Instagram stories-based discussion, where women across age groups, marital status, professions and lifestyles, were sending in their truths about the ways married men cheat, lie, and manipulate their way through marriage... In what's considered this podcast's most controversial episode so far, join The Slumflower as we tuck into this discourse and unveil the skeletons married women might be (unknowingly) helping their husbands hide! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is 'that's just how I am', your default response to being called out for certain behaviours that might be holding you back? Or is 'that's just how he is', your way of justifying that man's irresponsible behaviour towards you? Being a strict babe isn't for everyone but in this episode, we visit the various ways we can let go of the excuses and start observing our situations for what they really are... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the love you seek has already found you? Is self-love really the best love? Based on the awful reputation they have created for themselves, is there a limit to which we can involve men in our deepest dreams for the future? Much was covered in this episode! Join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'happily ever after' might already have happened for us and we haven't noticed... ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a 'one man' type of lover but you're curious? Has your boyfriend pissed you off beyond repair? Has the world convinced you that you're 'greedy' for dating more than one dude? If any of the above questions jump out at you, you're really going to dig this episode! Special shout-out to the girlies that already get it. ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a woman who struggles to forgive men? Do people make you feel like you hold grudges for too long? Are you a recovering pushover? If any of the above questions resonate with you, pay attention to this episode! In this discussion, join Chidera as she runs through all the reasons men don't deserve to be forgiven so easily, and the ways women sabotage themselves by handing out the benefit of doubt to every Tom, Dami and Harry... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are straight women so helplessly bound to their heterosexuality? How can straight women gain more from their attraction to men without losing themselves? What do straight women keep doing wrong to further reinforce their suffering? In this episode, Chidera visits the various ways straight women betray themselves in exchange for 'love' from men... Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do Black women benefit from 'race first' solidarity in their dating decisions? Is Black women's appreciation of Black men reciprocated? Are we moving towards a society where interracial relationships are becoming more popular as a form of Black women's resistance to intra-communal suffrage and misogynoir? Whilst this episode is deeply controversial, join The Slumflower as she discusses divesting from solely dating Black men, and what going where the love is looks like... Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In an age where we feel compelled to prove we are loved, is sharing pictures of your boyfriend on social media a risky move? Do we jinx it by claiming men in public too soon? Do men benefit from us posting them online as our partners? In this episode, Chidera discusses why she is averse to the idea of sharing pictures of your new boyfriend on social media - and why the relief of not posting him might be worth it if/when he pisses you off! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! In an age where women seem to not grasp that men are swindling them for sex, what can we do to raise our awareness of the ways men passively control women to get what they want from us? Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you easily swindled by a man's enthusiastic advances? Are you in a hurry to believe what a man says if it means you can have a relationship to claim? Do you need to mentally fortify yourself with the strength to dodge lovebombing? If any of the above questions resonate, this one's for you! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you emotionally stuck in your attachment to him? Does it feel like you are cutting off a limb by cutting him off? Do you need to be talked off the ledge of over-investment in this man? Gather round the fireplace, let's talk... In this episode, The Slumflower runs through a comprehensive thought stream on how to emotionally detach from men without losing your determination in the process - along with ways to cheat to your benefit (if you really have to!) Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this fun storytime, join The Slumflower as she spills the details of her encounter with a rather generous submissive man... ;) Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! Do you find yourself panicking on first dates? Does your overthinking breed overcompensation? Are you scared of awkward silences? If you resonate with any of the above questions, this episode is definitely for you! Dating should be fun and in this short and sweet episode, join The Slumflower as she talks you through fun ways to get through dating without getting yourself too involved. ;) Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you still on your digital quest for love? Is the dating app fatigue kicking in? Have you started checking the dating apps more than you check Instagram? It might be time for a breather... In this episode, Chidera speaks on why she thinks you should quit dating apps once and for all! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the highly anticipated first episode of SEASON 2, The Slumflower joins forces with the unstoppable comedian: Katherine Ryan! Is having a man's children the ultimate betrayal? Should women dominate their husbands? Are breadwinner wives doomed? It all goes down in this hilarious, truthful and vulnerable episode... Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the FINAL episode of The Slumflower Hour podcast's first ever season and of course, we had to wrap this up in style! It is with great honour to introduce to you, MISTRESS MARLEY: the professional dominatrix and sex educator, who took social media by storm with a viral video of her taking a leashed, kneeling, elderly, white male sub to her homecoming. Since the viral moment was documented in The New York Times, Mistress Marley has gone on to expand further into her dominance as a profession, taking on celebrity male clients and making six figures a year, centering reparations in her work and using her platform to teach other women how to become dominatrixes - all whilst throwing kink parties and fostering community for Black people in kink! In this conversation, join Chidera and Mistress Marley as they both muse on dating as dominatrixes, learning how to tell men what to do, common misconceptions about dominating men and the various ways being a dominatrix can provide useful transferrable skills for everyday life. You can find Mistress Marley at: @hausofmarley on Instagram @eyesxonfire on Twitter Mistress Marley's domination courses: https://www.patreon.com/sexcademy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are relationships your comfort zone? Are you scared of being alone? Have you spent more time being in relationships, than being single? You may really benefit from this episode if you resonate with any of the above questions! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses living a life you aren’t in a hurry to escape from, developing the confidence to walk away from men and choosing your life, not settling for it. Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices