Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future? Here are some things we discuss in this weeks episode that will hopefully help you in understanding this pattern of struggling to trust after abuse:

Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of. What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣 Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. * The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships. * How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY! * Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2! This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned. Resources: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior. Resources: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDOn ChildrenCodependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support? This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel Resources: CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDHealing the Mother Wound Masterclass Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. Resources: CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today. Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love. Resources: Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life experience of what conflicts can look like when you're stepping into earned secure attachment. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love. Want to hear Part 2: The Breakup? Let me know in the poll or the comments! 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Oprah's Super Soul Conversations with Michael Bernard Beckwith: Participate in Your UnfoldingWhy People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode. What are 10 things you are ready to forgive yourself for? 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast! Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment:How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)“Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth”AmazonBarnes & NobleBookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe