AuDHD Flourishing

Most people have one or two core self-care needs that, if they're met, everything else feels easier. This episode is about how to figure out yours... and what to look out for when you hear people preaching about their own! There's also acknowledgment that your neurodivergent body and brain may process things in different ways, so the following questions may not be that useful for you. Figuring out your core self-care need or needs (just a jumping-off point!): Resources mentioned: https://guzey.com/books/why-we-sleep/https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/2019/11/18/is-matthew-walkers-why-we-sleep-riddled-with-scientific-and-factual-errors/Transcript Doc And one more link someone sent taking down the book Why We Sleep (I haven’t listened to this episode but the links alone look great): https://open.spotify.com/episode/4r0Vawq8xAfnsnKbYVUNhc?si=n7t-koeuS2GXQ2QnA8j4dQ AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Repost of ep 11, originally published Aug 18 2023 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Martha Munroe, a neurodivergent personal trainer, was noticing patterns in the ways her clients talked about exercise and their bodies. They were often driven by external goals (aesthetics, performance, what others think) vs. the internal experience of movement. She reframes exercise as a way to explore and express through embodiment. Also, reclaiming exercise (not only movement) by offering gentle structure if desired. I loved her book, Attuned Exercise! Connect with Martha: Attuned Exercise@attunedexercisemarthamunroe.comAlso mentioned in episode (book I'm reading): Girl on Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity book links are affiliate links Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting as an AuDHDer is challenging and misunderstood. Many parents I speak to are near or in burnout at any given time, especially if they had kids before discovering their neurotype (which is common). This episode is based not on my experience as a parent, but my experience having spoken and heard from many AuDHD parents, and what I see working for them. This is in part a follow up to last week's interview with Julie M Green Mentioned in episode: Good InsideInstagram AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity *affiliate link Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Julie M. Green is the author of Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance. She shares about how difficult early parenthood was, how different her autism presents versus her kid's, and navigating school and regulation skills. The book is a vulnerable look at some of the challenging and lighthearted moments of raising an autistic kid. Connect with Julie: Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance juliemgreen.cahttps://www.instagram.com/juliem.greenhttps://theautisticmom.substack.com/ AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity *affiliate link Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You deserve to survive this. Please stay. And if staying out of spite helps you, it has gotten me through some tough times. My Medium article, "Please Stay, We Need You" Repost of ep. 75 Crisis Resources: USA-based anonymous crisis chatInternational crisis linesVarious types of crisis resources in about 10 countries Resources: Transcript DocEmail NewsletterLike Your Brain Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Flow is pleasant and often productive. It may also require some guardrails to be healthy for AuDHDers, especially those of us on the very monotropic side. It's often easy for us to get into flow and hyperfocus, and to stay in them until they stop feeling pleasant. Adding in more rest and recovery, including preparatory rest as needed, can really help! It's also okay to avoid flow states for a period of time, as I am right now for the most part. Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15, reach out by Jan 7) mattia@mattiamauree.comapplication answers AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Max Alexander is an artist and play worker who has mapped some common shapes of autistic play. He's passionate about neuro-affirming play for all ages. Play is both a healing tool, and can help prevent some of the effects of trauma (we touch on this lightly, a concept I learned from Linda Thai) One possible way to apply the play styles is noticing which ones speak to you, and which ones you're already engaging in, then leaning into those. The ebook is free, and it's a quick and excellent read! Apologies for the audio quality. Max was using a headset and didn't have an actual microphone, so I did the best I could to clean it up Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15, reach out by Jan 7) mattia@mattiamauree.comapplication answers Connect with Max: The Joys and Shapes of Autistic PlayPlay Radical AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

AuDHD leadership touches on last week's interview with Dr Megan Anna Neff. And it goes beyond the visible leadership of creating content, or being in the public eye. AuDHD leadership can include Mentioned in episode: - Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15, reach out by Jan 7) - Email mattia@mattiamauree.com with application answers, and/or any questions - Blog post with business episodes AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Megan Anna Neff is a neurodivergent therapist and thought leader, who became popular in 2022 with their "Misdiagnosis Monday" series. Their thoughtful content has helped many thousands of AuDHDers and other neurodivergent folks feel seen and understood. Today we talk about Connect with Megan Anna & Neurodivergent Insights: Help Me Stay Planneurodivergentinsights.comwww.divergentpod.comwww.instagram.com/neurodivergent_insights/https://www.youtube.com/@NeurodivergentInsightsTV Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15) AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Doing less of what's harming you opens up time and energy. You can enjoy that as rest, and if desired, eventually fill it in with what you do want. AuDHDers often need to move at a slower pace, in many ways. Sometimes we then have creative bursts that move fast... but the space comes FIRST! Mentioned in episode: Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15) book, Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison (affiliate link) AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pasha joins again to talk about what they've learned in the past two years since last being on the show! We talk about belonging, triggers in relationships, and much more. She also shares the ableism behind the scenes of an autism training from a large (unnamed) org. Mentioned in episode: Pasha's websiteLinkedInInstagram @neuroqueercoachTikTok @neuroqueercoachYouTube AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Decluttering, organizing, and cleaning my home in a more routine way is having some interesting effects on my perfectionist tendencies! (Plus, perfectionism comes up in the decision-making process; more on that in my interview on A Slob Comes Clean, which I'll link here when it's out.) Specifically, a cleaner space = less decision fatigue = lower cognitive load = more executive function resources for ME! If you want support with that: Decluttering Days free 5-day event (Nov 17-21 2025) Mentioned in episode (Dana K White resources): Free 5-Step Decluttering Processaslobcomesclean.comA Slob Comes CleanYouTubeOrganizing for the Rest of UsDecluttering at the Speed of LifeHow to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind (book links are affiliate links) AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dana K White, like me, couldn't find advice that worked for her. So she made it up! And it turns out, it was helpful for many other people to. After writing an anonymous blog about cleaning her overwhelmingly cluttered home, Dana "came out" and started helping others too. Also, many of those people let her know she seems to have ADHD ;) Her explanations have already helped me a lot, and given me hope about a clean home for the first time in ages. We talk about many of the overarching themes/tips in her books (which are linked below) Decluttering Days free 5-day event (Nov 17-21 2025) Connect/Learn more from Dana: Free 5-Step Decluttering Processaslobcomesclean.comA Slob Comes CleanYouTubeOrganizing for the Rest of UsDecluttering at the Speed of LifeHow to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind (book links are affiliate links) AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transitions are one of THE things that support the way that productivity shows up for AuDHDers! Transitions don't have to be all about work: play and rest can be transitions too. And sometimes we need transition time into and out of work, play, AND rest! Today I talk in more detail about how long transitions can take for me (routinely 30-60 minutes). If that's true for you, a 20-minute chunk of work (or getting interrupted) isn't going to feel that good compared to the transition time required. (That said, anything goes in burnout recovery!) Anecdotally: AuDHD folks may need more transition time than ADHD or Autistic folks (even though it's often talked about as an autism trait or need). If that's true, it's possible that it's monotropism that leads to higher transition time needs. Note: I misspoke when I said "dares and challenges." They're actually dares and commitments :) Decluttering Days free 5-day event (Nov 17-21 2025) AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

PDA is the Persistent Drive for Autonomy (community term), or pathological demand avoidance (clinical & pathologizing term). What happens when PDA, ADHD, and autism all overlap? Well... stress and relationship challenges! Thankfully, everything that helped me feel more safe has also made my PDA more manageable. There are many approaches to build that safety. This episode is a follow-up to the interview on PDA last week Mentioned in episode: BookLow-Demand Parentinginterview on PDAPDA: Resistance and Resiliencebday (or whenever) wish list AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Braincommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's been a running joke (that wasn't initially a joke) that I'm totally going to do a PDA episode very soon... since the very first episode of AuDHD Flourishing. Now we have one, thanks to Chris Wells and Marni Kammersell for interviewing me on PDA: Resistance and Resilience, and letting me cross-post the episode here! Mentioned in episode: Full show notesAuDHD Flourishing Episode 87:AuDHD Flourishing Episode 88AuDHD Flourishing Episode 108Empire of Normality Connect with Chris, Marni, PDA pod: Wandering BrightlyPositive Disintegrationcosmic cheer squadPDA: Resistance and ResilienceFollow us on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

About two years ago, I started ADHD stimulant medication as a regular (most days) thing. I've mentioned it here and there on the podcast. This is my most concentrated "review" of the main things I've noticed over the past two years. To be clear, when I mention a factor that might make stimulant meds more of a burnout risk, I'm not saying those folks shouldn't try it! Just to be very careful not to push through the body's capacity. Mentioned in episode: PDA: Resistance and Resilience. Ep 7: Creative Resistance AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One reason most advice doesn't work for us is that it's backwards. It's telling us to do/have the end result, rather than showing us how to get there. In the case of safety or shame, it's pretty clear that we can't just leap to the end of the process (if there even is one with a traumatized body). Mentioned in episode: Toxic Shame: What it is and How to Heal From it AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TQ (they/them) is a queer, trans, physically disabled, AuDHD Chinese-Singaporean artist, author/host of the upcoming book/podcast Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC!, and community facilitator for other queer neurodivergent BIPOC. In true ND fashion, we range over many topics, including the importance of community and hearing your own stories as a person with multiple intersecting identities. You can pre-order a copy of their upcoming book for behind-the-scenes/early access to the interviews and writing! TQ's links & mentioned in episode: Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book and podcastneurodivergent, Autistic, and AuDHD creators of colorhistory/use of the term "intersectionality"The Autastic Community AuDHD Flourishing resources: Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.