Secondhand Therapy

We had a bit of an unforeseen and unprecedented recording this week...

Join Michael and Lou in a transformative episode where they dive deep into personal growth journeys. Michael shares his breakthrough experience with ADHD medication, unveiling profound life changes. Delving further, they explore the struggle of finding intrinsic value in accomplishments. Lou sheds light on his quest to cherish the process rather than fixate on outcomes, resonating with Michael's journey. Additionally, Lou confronts the impact of his pursuit of perfection on his relationships, offering valuable insights for listeners. Tune in for an enriching conversation on embracing change, valuing the journey, and overcoming perfectionism.

Michael opens up about a recent emotional setback and his journey back to a place he's avoided for some time. Delve into Michael's struggles with self-forgiveness contrasted with his ease in forgiving others. Lou and Michael engage in a candid discussion on accountability and the importance of seeking and granting apologies. In a poignant moment, Lou reflects on a significant breakthrough in therapy, particularly regarding communication challenges. Together, Lou and Michael also share heartfelt experiences and dreams involving their deceased loved ones, offering a glimpse into the complexities of grief and healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights into navigating the intricacies of mental health, fostering forgiveness, and embracing breakthroughs in therapy. Don't miss out on this raw and authentic conversation.

Join Lou and Michael for a deep dive into relationships, anxiety, and personal growth on this episode. From questioning the duration of people's roles in our lives to navigating anxiety and ADHD, they share their candid experiences. Tune in as they explore the challenges of therapy and the liberating journey of shedding self-identities.

Lou is sick but still talks about his frustration doing parts work in therapy. Lou still struggles feeling silly, especially in therapy. Michael feels left out, even when he isn’t left out. Michael has started to lean into life more while he is also learning to dodge energy that isn’t for him. Michael hates kids, except one.

Lou looks different in glasses. Lou had a nice day outside enjoying the trees. Michael likes posting about his daily activities online while Lou hates it. Michael talks about accepting himself and not liking kids before Lou reveals his RAADS-R results. The boys debate how the majority should affect your behaviors.

Lou fills Michael in on some secrets he’s been keeping. Lou wants to start wearing glasses so he looks less scary. Michael reflects on seeing himself in others while he was on the road before unpacking how he has made grief his identity. Michael saw a psychic and learned some things. Michael is struggling with how he looks these days… or rather, who he looks like.

Michael thinks Lou is autistic. The boys unpack the surprisingly controversial Episode 030. Disclaimer: We do not mean any offense to anyone on the spectrum. This is a real conversation not intended to be insulting in any way. We have had this conversation in private and in therapy and thought it was important to share as adult diagnoses of autism are becoming more common as people navigate their mental health.

Lou had a really rough therapy session this week unpacking how his last relationship is affecting his current relationship. Lou talks about how his nervous system is taking over before diving in to his approach to being the best partner he can be. Michael talks about his growing loneliness before coming clean with the bear cubs about his recent breakup and the toll it's taking on him.

Guest host Madison Bellissimo sits in with Papa Bear as Michael is out of town to talk all things love and struggle.

Lou talks about his first EMDR session before Michael voices his concern for not having a good memory. Lou challenges Michael on his approach and desire for healing. Michael and Lou debate what “normal” means. Michael quickly begins to feel his back against the wall and confronts Lou about it. Michael is trying to re-program himself.

Michael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR.

Michael is still people pleasing and discusses getting “in trouble” as a grown man. Lou and Michael debate the difference between disrespect and not giving a fuck before getting into talking to their younger selves and comparing their different views on validation. Michael needs a Mom again… right?

Papa Bear has a life update that he has been hiding from the Bear Cubs for a few weeks; he comes clean before opening up about some new struggles. Michael discusses his fear of not being enough for potential partners before getting into his realization that he needs a hobby. Michael has an epiphany about his anxiety.

We welcome comedian Lara Beitz to the sleuth to talk all things mental health.

Lou still can’t cry and may be getting closer to knowing why before talking about getting closer with his therapist and how he feels defeated in therapy lately. Michael is still a people pleaser and talks about how outside opinions help him make progress. Michael and Lou discuss goal-setting in personal and professional aspects.

Lou is kinda grumpy; Michael has no interest in learning how to be alone. Michael talks about sacrificing all of his needs in order to please those around him before detailing how he gets into the hole of isolation. Lou talks about being in touch with his body and how that affects one’s nervous system. The boys discuss their different approaches to swag. Lou wants to cry but still hasn’t. Yet.

Lou and Michael discuss their very different relationships with their fathers and their ideologies regarding families and forgiveness.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault. We welcome Hanorah to the sleuth to discuss all things anxiety, PTSD, self-love and more! Hanorah is multidisciplinary artist based out of a small studio filled with cats, canvases, and glittered tape recorders in Montreal’s west end. With years of touring under her belt (including several television appearances and supporting the likes of Mavis Staples and Lee Fields), she recently took time to plunge back into song writing and forge a new musical direction. What emerged was a collection of songs highlighting the overlap between maturity and the enduring charm of playfulness. Music that journeys through emotions of the past and present, as she blurs the lines between the recurring cycles of time, choice, and circumstance. In short, her first full length album ‘Perennial’. A work packed with soulful ballads and RnB grooves as it digs deeper into Hanorah’s musical roots to explore the lush tones and textures of her voice. Influenced by the likes of Etta James and Joni Mitchell, the combination of Hanorah’s powerful voice and the vulnerability of her messaging naturally drew her to soul music. Following an early record deal, she released her debut EP ‘For The Good Guys And The Bad Guys’ in 2019. The record amassed over a million streams, won her several awards, and helped her tour extensively through Canada and the U.S. In 2022, Hanorah released her debut album Perennial through Ensoul records. In its initial month, the first singles amassed over 50,000 streams on Spotify and 60,000 views on YouTube. The release was met with wide anticipation. It was featured on over 20 radio stations across Canada and multiple spots on editorial playlists through Spotify. Exclaim! Magazine listed the album as a ‘staff pick’ for 2022 and she performed several tracks on the hit Quebec TV show Belle et Bum. The band is currently on tour supporting the album, with stops at Liverpool Sound City and Focus Wales in the UK, as well as Los Angeles, CA (Pop Montreal) and Austin, TX (SXSW).

Lou and Michael discuss their different experiences from a recent party they attended before getting into their strong opinions regarding people asking you to remove your shoes at their house. Michael has a theory on Lou’s opposition to small talk. Michael reveals his surprise feelings of loneliness recently before getting into his struggle with codependency. Lou and Michael discuss the idea of choosing happiness before Michael gets into his difficulties processing emotions.