crying in my jacuzzi

message of support from dana in these complex times: "this is a simple guided meditation/visualization that i've used for years in my own energetic practices, with clients to support their presence, and i'm honored to share this with you. use when you're feeling scattered, overwhelmed, spread-thin, depleted, uncertain, dissociated, or any other time of day you need a dose of slowdown medicine to ground, realign, and reenergize. this one small practice that will support each of us in embracing AND SHAPING our changing world." ceasefire now ♡ end the occupation /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock // Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

in this last episode of season 1, meet the love of dana's life. no, not her husband (sorry, ray ray). and not baby honey biscuits the cat (like she cares). but slowdown medicine, the entity that chose her so many years ago and continues to radically guide her (and now you) through our world saturated with urgency, pathologizing, and unhinged hustling. gather 'round! and hear the tale of how a UTI transformed our dear dana's life, slowed her the eff down, and introduced a more resonant, compassionate, and awe-filled existence. and you can have this, too. can the entirety of slowdown medicine be contained in one episode? ABSOLUTELY NOT. could another 100 episodes be dedicated to this? FRIGGIN YES. is crying in my jacuzzi steeped in slowdown medicine, so we'll always be diving in deeper? 1000% **warning: this episode is a spell. you may experience a desire to slow down, reclaim your attention, and get a little (or a lot) weirder.** ~shownotes~ a slower urgencyattention and willhuman personalitygrounding meditation/// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock // Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

in this episode, infused with the sweetness of desire, abundance, and huzzah!, we're going to dig into CELEBRATION AS THE SERIOUS FRIGGIN' BUSINESS THAT IT IS. in our dominant (westernized) culture, CELEBRATION gets a bad/twisty wrap. it's the thing that you have to hold out for, only do on very special occasions, only do at the end of a journey, and only have if you've won or achieved the intended goal. this model is full of withholding, scarcity, and longing. it's also not encouraging of true, deep, and sustained joy. so let's look at why we gotta honor our journeys along the way, how a whole social justice movement really lost the plot, and what we can do to infuse our lives with more appreciation and joy along the way. context warning: dana does not believe that joy is at the highest end of the emotional spectrum and should be prioritized above other feelings...this is just an episode on CELEBRATION, and joy is a key part of that. ~shownotes~ /// podcast art excellence ~ natalee miller, theme song brilliance ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design genius ~ rose blakelock /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

humans have never been very good at uncertainty — the impermanence of existence is uncomfortable for us. so while we can't actually do anything about the groundless nature of reality we've learned to do some things about the discomfort. namely avoid, conflate comfort with safety and a bevy of other ineffectual approaches to living in the world! there are costs too — creativity, vision, curiosity, acceptance, and DESIRE. so climb into bed with dana (her makeshift recording studio) and get cozy and uncomfortable as you dive into how she upended her marriage, questioned her reality and identity, and then found her way closer and closer to her deep desires...which is how CRYING IN MY JACUZZI was born! ~ show notes ~ tema okun’s essay taking the leapepisode on discomfortepisode 7 /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

welcome back, brave souls — to the cave we go! with ADVICE DOM leading the way! in today's journey we explore the complexity of embarking on bold, new ventures, while tending to heavy, old patterns. where's the real growth happening? what do you do when you inevitably fall back into the old patterns? who are you becoming as you emerge through the uncertainty? we talk about the super power of softness, the life lube™ of compassion, care bear stares, being a bad btch, and more. c'mon down to the cave for some spanky, slappy advice-giving. BECAUSE SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST LIKE TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO. shownotes ~ /// sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock, theme song ~ kat ottosen, podcast art ~ natalee miller /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

as a rebellious girl-child of the '80s, dana had zero dreams of marriage. and yet, a surprise(ish) marriage proposal from her long-time no-marriage sweetheart became a portal of profound transformation in her relationship with herself, to change — oh, and him too. we live in a relational world, we change each other all the time! in this ep we explore discomfort, clinging to identities, getting in our own way of change, and how to be PRESENT with the ever-changing nature of reality. so WDYD when change sits on your face and proposes marriage? let's go find out! ++ we wrap our time together with some big guiding questions to help you relate to change, as well as a quickie guided meditation to let it land in your body. ~shownotes~ summer coaching special with danawomancode, bookon harm reduction, essay by dr. gabor mate my intergalactic mermaid ringorigins of the bechdel test /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

buckle up, buttercup! join dana on another trip to the magical library, where we engage in the ancient wisdom of bibliomancy -- using texts as tools for divination. the library (and THE LIBRARIAN OMGGGG) serves up a well-worn copy of Rebecca Solnit's, "a field guide to getting lost," a reflection on curiosity, mystery, desire, and exploring all our relationship to the unknown. so, get ready for a field trip like no other! Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

this episode is part 2 on self-centeredness. and it's a coaching exercise! in these 30 minutes, we'll look at your relationship to your relationships, your patterns of stretching yourself too thin in efforts to maintain connections at your own expense, and how to come back to (or visit for the first time!) your healthy middle and cultivate relationships without sacrificing your own well-being. ta-dah! let's explore the complexities of your relationships with curiosity and compassion! listening to episode 6 isn't critical to understanding this exercise (but also, it's great, so why not have a listen if you haven't already?) the cherry on top - a very summer-friendly coaching offer, uniquely curated to help you cultivate radical clarity and courage for your own needs/wants/desires in your life, love, leadership, and work. ~ shownotes ~ julia frodahlfierce conversations,healthy-middle FANCY diagram/// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound-editing/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

let's dive into the unexpected power of self-centeredness. seeing it not as a negative trait — dominant culture narrative be damned! — but as a liberatory tool that can help dissolve (and uphold! oh, the brilliant paradox!) personal boundaries and cultivate deeper connections. introspection as a catalyst for personal and collective transformation. dana shares her story as a burned-out activist, full up with punk damage, and how she found a healing portal through the self...and ultimately others, and trees, too. we talk about deepening your relationships, living systems ontologies, animism, burnout and brain drain, the power of agency, dissolving the self while honoring the self, releasing the cultural binary of 'right' and 'wrong', and how you can connect with the desires of trees! living systems"sustainable activism"we got issuescentering practice/// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, soundediting/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

in ep #5, we (dana, with help from the lesson minions) dig into the weird world of therapeutic service that can pressure us to transform every life experience into a marketable service offering. health & wellness or wealth & hellness? let's play with mindfulness, gender socialization, perfectionism, the specter of neoliberalism, self-trust vs self-sacrifice, boundary-setting, cultural programming around "helpfulness," and more. AND ARE YOU READY TO GO TO THE ADVICE DOM CAVE?? perhaps a little more pinchy and bossy than the magical library, but a worthy trip to the liminal realms indeed. sometimes people just want to be told what to do! ** wanna leave a question for advice dom (or a message for dana)? >> drop a VM at ‪(760) 820-9070‬ ** /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, soundediting/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

like a magic schoolbus for grownups ~ ~ join dana on a little adventure from your daily hustle & flow into the wonder & mystery of living! we've got oracular books, divination, sea creatures, slowdown medicine, the art of knowing your heart, and more. /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound editing/design ~ rose blakelock, podcast support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

not your typical "how-to" in easy peasy steps... more of a how-to-feel-and-trust-your-desires-in-order-to-create-a-life-of-resonance. here's a guide to making your biggest life decisions through the story of dana and ryan's move from nyc to the mojave desert (almost 9 years ago, eeep!). we'll discuss owning your desires, connecting with your intuition, and the realities of wanting in late-stage capitalism. there's also #PLANTFONDLING (a whole guided fondle at the end of the episode!) and of course, cohost robot alex & producer robot janet make appearances. so yes, there are steps. and missteps. ebbs and flows. as per yooj. let's go. transcript /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound editing/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

in episode #2, dana explores a universal experience — your oldest, most painful pattern shows up...so what the heck do you do? you'll get an insight into dana's recent dance with one of her oldest and stickiest core patterns and how she worked her way through it. dana shares step-by-step practices that she teaches all of her clients, along with compassion practices that you can use with any of your "go eat worms" moments! plus, robot cohost alex & robot producer janet really mix it up. transcript /// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, soundediting/design ~ rose blakelock, production support ~ softer sounds studio /// Support the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️

welcome, welcome, to crying in my jacuzzi: the ebbs and flows of living an examined life! in this first episode, you'll: magic-schoolbus-for-adults (no hotdog eating is actually necessary! no hotdogs were harmed in the recording of this episode!) /// podcast art by the brilliant natalee miller, theme song by the ever-talented kat ottosen, soundediting/design by the effervescent rose blakelock, and production support from softer sounds studio /// ~ SHOWNOTES ~ eating the transcendent hotdogrha goddessgail straub & david gershonjulia frodahlthe natural history museumaloktranscriptSupport the show 😭 thank you for listening, crybabies! ♨️