Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson

In this episode we discuss how to discover the transformative power of the present moment to heal your relationship with yourself and how being present can help heal your nervous system. Whether you struggle with being present, feel overwhelmed by life's demands, or seek escape through distractions, this episode is tailored to guide you towards profound self-healing and acceptance. What You'll Learn: The Importance of Presence:Why we avoid being present:The Benefits of Being Present:Acceptance TechniquesMindfulness Practices:I know how transformational the practice of being present has been for me. I hope you find the same benefit in practicing being present as a part of your healing journey. 0:00 - Introduction to the Healing Power of Presence 1:31 - The Impact of Being Present on Self-Healing 5:17 - Why We Avoid Being Present and Its Consequences 6:01 - The Three Primary Reasons We Avoid Ourselves 6:40 - The Negative Effects of Avoiding Presence 7:29 - What Does Being Present Mean? 8:28 - The Present Moment as the Only True Moment 9:29 - The Immediate Benefits of Practicing Presence 10:16 - Techniques for Becoming Present in Daily Life 11:32 - How Being Present Transforms Our Emotional Health 12:09 - The Role of Observation in Healing 12:35 - Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk 13:39 - Calming the Nervous System Through Presence 14:05 - Overcoming the Initial Challenges of Being Present 15:07 - The Question That Can Bring You to the Present 15:54 - Recognizing Safety in the Present Moment 16:38 - The Healing Break Provided by Presence 17:41 - Disconnecting from Past and Future to Embrace Now 18:44 - Teaching the Nervous System to Recognize Current Safety 19:40 - Gaining Perspective and Making Rational Choices Through Presence 21:04 - How Presence Clarifies Feelings and Decisions 22:15 - Investigating the Root C You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

There is a place where you can fully accept yourself and have your self-development/self-improvement come from the place of self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is a much more healthy and powerful energy to come from as we work to improve ourselves. Have you ever struggled with being on a never ending treadmill of self-development. Would you like to learn how to accept yourself while you are also practicing self-development? If so then this episode can be a great resource for you. In this episode, we explore the dynamic between self-acceptance and self-development. We discuss how embracing our current selves does not preclude growth and improvement. This episode contains helpful insights, personal reflections, and practical advice aimed at helping you cultivate a healthy balance between accepting who you are and striving for personal growth. What you will learn: 0:00 - Introduction to Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Development 0:06 - Are You Chasing a "Better" Version of Yourself? 3:11 - The Never-Ending Treadmill of Self-Improvement 4:36 - Understanding the Value of Self-Development 5:59 - Balancing Self-Acceptance with the Desire to Improve 6:51 - Exploring Radical Self-Acceptance 9:06 - Why Accepting Current Realities is Crucial 10:30 - The Role of Self-Acceptance in Personal Growth 13:05 - The Continuous Journey of Self-Acceptance 14:48 - Signs that Self-Development Might Be Going Awry 17:38 - The Trap of External Validation in Self-Improvement 20:02 - The Importance of Being Present and Self-Acceptant 22:12 - Why There is No Final Destination in Growth 24:28 - How Future Self-Perception Influences Current Self-Acceptance 25:35 - Practical Tips for Healthy Self-Improvement 29:45 - Setting Realistic Goals in Self-Development 31:17 - Free Resources You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Do you always feel like you need to fix yourself? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you, and if you just keep working on yourself, then you will finally feel "normal" and be able to accept yourself? The feeling that we need to fix ourselves is often a response to trauma and something we developed as a way to stay safe. In response to the painful things we were experiencing, we began to believe that if we could find something about ourselves to "fix," we could then prevent the abuse or pain. The challenge is that this feeling that we need to fix ourselves got wired into our systems, and now we struggle to let go of it. In this episode, I share how you can finally get FREE from the feeling that you need to fix yourself. As you listen to this episode, you will discover: 1. Why you always feel like you need to fix yourself. 2. Trauma and its impact on feeling like there is something wrong with us that needs to be fixed. 3. Why trying to fix yourself for others never works. 4. Why trying to fix yourself is an illusion. 5. How to let go of trying to fix yourself. 6. How to see the beautiful person you are right now. 7. A simple mindfulness exercise to let go of the belief you need to be fixed. I hope this episode helps you in your healing journey and opens your eyes to see how you have never been a problem that needs to be fixed. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Have you ever felt like you are chasing after trying to be normal? Do you carry a nagging feeling that there is something wrong with you? Are you always looking for something in your life that needs to be fixed? I carried that feeling for over 40 years, and in this episode, I share how I got rid of those thoughts and feelings. This episode is the first of three episodes on the topic of "chasing normal." In this first episode, I start the series by helping you understand that nothing is wrong with you. I know you often feel like there is, but the truth is that there has never been anything wrong with you. In this episode, we will look at the following: 1. How trauma is the origin of that feeling 2. How that feeling has tried to keep us safe. 3. How you can let go of that feeling 4. An exercise to practice for ongoing healing I hope by the end of this episode; you will see that there has never been anything wrong with you and can begin to see the beautiful person that you are right now! You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you have. Why? Because your relationship with yourself is determines everything else in your life. When was the last time you asked yourself how your relationship with yourself was going? How long has it been since you took an honest look at how you are treating yourself? This episode and the companion self-reflection tool is designed to help you do exactly that. I invite you to take time over the next 30 days to reflect on the five key indicators of a healthy self-relationship. This episode and the self-reflection tool is designed to help you become aware of how you are treating yourself in each of the five areas and then begin healing that part of your relationship with yourself. At the end of each week, you will have the opportunity to reflect on lessons learned, areas that need improvement, and adjustments you might need to make to your “one thing” goals. By the end of the 30 days, you will have gained new insights into your relationship with yourself and clarity on what you need to do to have a healthier relationship with yourself. You can have the life you want, and it starts with healing your relationship with yourself. I am excited for you and cheering you on as you go on this journey. I am grateful you are here, You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Anger is often one of the first emotions we feel as we begin to heal. It can also be a sign that we are healing. Giving ourselves permission to be angry and to feel anger is an important part of the healing process. In this episode, we discuss the following: I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Feel free to reach out to me at jerry@jerryhenderson.org or on Instagram @jerryahenderson. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Do you struggle with feelings of shame as a person of faith? Do you feel like you are always trying to please God and that God sees you as sinful and shameful? Has the focus of your faith journey been on how much you are falling short? If you do, you are not alone. I carried those feelings for over four decades. I was confused about why my faith in God wasn't "fixing" me. I found my answers and healing in the last place I would have thought to look: learning to love myself. In this episode, you will discover the following: I hope this episode helps you to see that you have never been seen as anything other than who you truly are: love. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Do you wonder why you seem to keep choosing toxic relationships? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you make promises to yourself about how you will “never” allow someone to treat you "that way" again, only to find yourself right back in the same situation again and again? If any of the above resonates, this episode is for you. In this episode, we will examine how loving yourself is the key to having healthy relationships. As you heal your relationship with yourself through self-love then four things will begin to happen: 1.Your “chooser” will begin to heal 2.Your “tolerator” will begin to heal 3.Your “attractor” will begin to heal 4.Your “needer” will begin to heal I hope that by the end of this episode, you will see that the greatest gift you can give yourself and others in relationships is to first love yourself. “I can do nothing for you but work on myself...you can do nothing for me but work on yourself!” – Ram Daas You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Asking the question "what if" can either spiral us into fear and hopelessness or catapult us into the life we want. One of the ways we heal is by using our imagination. When we dream of what we can be, we will begin to move ourselves in that direction. In this episode, we look at the following: I hope by the end of this episode, you start asking yourself, "What if I deeply healed," "What if my life was full of love," "What if you gave yourself permission to love yourself." You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Do you feel like your own worst enemy? Are you constantly avoiding yourself? Are you uncomfortable being in your own presence? In this episode, I discuss the following: 1. What is self-avoidance 2. Why we avoid ourselves 3. What happens when we avoid ourselves 4. How we can stop avoiding ourselves 5. What happens when we return to ourselves 6. Why you are not your own worst enemy. 7. How solitude can help with self-connection 8. The benefits of meditation in healing self-avoidance 9. Living a mindful and self-connected life This episode can really be a great tool in learning how to stop avoiding yourself and learn how to connect with your healer: YOU. You are worthy of loving yourself, Jerry You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Shame is one of the most devious emotions. It tricks us into thinking we are the shame. Shame has to be addressed as a part of our healing process. We will stay stuck as long as we think we are the shame. Stuck believing that something is wrong with us and that we can’t heal. The wonderful news is that we can heal and get free from shame, and one of the first places to start is to disidentify from it. In this episode, we look at the following: This is such an important episode, and understanding these principles was a milestone in my healing process. I am so grateful you are here and investing in your healing journey. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Asking for help can be really hard, and it is a significant and brave step in our healing. When we are serious about our healing, we will start to ask for help when we need it. But why is it so hard to ask for help? What keeps us from asking for help when we need it? This episode is a continuation of the "How We Heal" series. In this episode, we take a look at the following: I hope this episode helps you in taking the steps towards getting the help you need. Permission to Love Facebook Group: Join the Group You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Over the next several months, I will be sharing step-by-step the process I went through to learn how to heal the childhood trauma I experienced, my life, and my relationships by healing my relationship with myself. In this episode, I share the first step, the choice to heal, and how to make that choice stick. We often choose to heal, but shortly afterward, we feel the backward pull that ultimately causes us to give up on our healing journey. Part of making the choice stick is understanding that change is possible, that change is possible for us, and that we are worthy of healing. As a part of this series, I would love to have you share topics and questions with me that you would find helpful for your journey. You can heal, and it starts with the choice to start healing. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Does our past really matter? Why does every therapist want to go digging around in our past? What is the connection between our past and our current struggles? In this episode, I am joined once again by my therapist, Lisa Kemppainen, as we discuss these questions and more. You can heal, and an important part of the healing process is returning to the parts of us that were wounded and learning to love them and to get them unstuck. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Have you ever wondered how yoga and meditation can help with healing from trauma? I'm so grateful to have my wife, Agatha, join me for this episode. Agatha spent six years studying yoga and meditation in India. She is a certified yoga and meditation instructor with thousands of hours of training and teaching. In this episode, we discuss: - How yoga and meditation were such important parts of Agatha's healing from childhood trauma and other painful life experiences. - How can yoga help calm our nervous systems? - How can our breath help us reconnect with ourselves? - How to live "off the mat" - A guided meditation led by Agatha. We both hope this episode can be helpful in your healing journey, Jerry Contact Information for Agatha: Email: namaste@akshayoga.com Website: https://www.akshayoga.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aagathaah Podcast: Mindful Souls 101 Resources: For yoga and meditation: https://www.akshayoga.com https://yogananda.org https://www.headspace.com https://insighttimer.com https://theyogainstitute.org Agatha's Recommended Reading List: If you have a loved one who struggles with alcoholism: https://al-anon.org You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

In the final part of our conversation, Lisa and I discussed how to connect with our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. As well as how to connect with our inner child for emotional healing. When was the last time you truly listened to what your anxiety or depression was trying to tell you? As I sit down with my therapist, Lisa, we peel back the layers of emotion to reveal the hidden messages within. This episode offers an enlightening perspective that invites you to shift the way you view these feelings, seeing them not as adversaries but as allies, signaling the need for self-care. Together, we navigate the uncomfortable but necessary process of completing emotional cycles that trauma may have interrupted, charting a course toward genuine healing and personal growth. Growing up, we crafted survival strategies and carried self-blame into adulthood, often without realizing their origins in our childhood experiences. At the heart of our discussion lies the impact of these early traumas and their ongoing influence on how we perceive the world. Lisa guides us through understanding the crucial link between our adult selves and our inner child, shedding light on negative beliefs that may be holding us back. Embracing the practice of nurturing our inner child, we embark on a path to authenticity, self-awareness, and freedom from the shackles of the past. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Curiosity can completely change the energy on how we approach our healing process. Come join Lisa and I as we discuss how curiosity can be a key factor in opening our hearts and helping us heal. This is part two of a conversation with my therapist about trauma, shame, and healing. In this episode, we discuss: - When Lisa and I first connected - Addressing the problem not just the symptom - Challenges with finding a good therapist - Curiosity in the healing process - Sitting with uncomfortable feelings. - Allowing discomfort as a part of healing. - A special offer for listeners/viewers When I first connected with my therapist, Lisa, I had no idea just how transformative her unique approach to trauma would prove to be for me. In this series we reflect on our own paths through pain and the empowering role therapy has played in rediscovering our worth, a conversation that promises to resonate deeply with anyone who's ever felt lost in their own story. Our candid discussion serves as an invitation to listeners to embark on their own healing process, one gentle step at a time. If you would like to work with Lisa as a therapist or coach, you can contact her by email at greenlisa5164@me.com We hope this episode serves you on your journey of returning to yourself! You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

When I first connected with my therapist, Lisa, I had no idea just how transformative her unique approach to trauma would prove to be for me. This episode marks the beginning of a series where Lisa and I have conversations about trauma, shame, and healing! Lisa and I discuss the disconnection from self and the survival instincts that often come from trauma. We reflect on our own paths through pain and the empowering role therapy has played in rediscovering our worth, a conversation that promises to resonate deeply with anyone who's ever felt lost in their own story. In this episode, we discuss: Our candid discussion serves as an invitation to listeners to embark on their own healing process, one gentle step at a time. If you would like to work with Lisa as a therapist or coach, you can contact her by email at greenlisa5164@me.com We hope this episode serves you on your journey of returning to yourself! You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Do you feel like you are constantly apologizing? Do you say you're sorry for saying you're sorry? Does always feeling like you need to apologize cause you to feel bad about yourself, and do you wish you could break the pattern? Maybe you are an auto apologizer? Someone who says they are sorry automatically, almost as a reflex for anything and to everyone. Maybe you apologize to keep the peace? Or maybe you apologize as a defense mechanism to get ahead of others' criticism of you? If any of this describes you, then this episode is for you. In this episode, you will learn: I am grateful you are here, and thank you for being a part of this community. You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...

Learning to have fun is a big part of the healing process. ESPECIALLY when nothing feels, sounds, or seems fun! In this episode, we take a look at the following: If you don’t know how to play, you’re in good company. I didn’t either. I’m still learning. Yes, you might feel awkward and even phony in the beginning. That’s okay. You will get there. Be patient and kind to yourself. I hope this episode helps you in learning to have fun again or for the first time! You are worthy of your own love, Jerry My New Book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Transformational Coaching: Learn More Here! Support the Show: My Patreon Page How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Support the Show: My Patreon Page Trouble Sleeping? Sleep Reset Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Free Guided Self-Love Meditation: Get it Here! Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Instagram: ...