This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist How pelvic floor health directly connects to pleasure How modern life and high heels create tightness in your pelvic floor What you can start doing now to improve your pelvic floor health Lauren's advice to women who feel numbness during sex Bonus pelvic floor practice with Layla Bio Lauren Ohayon is the creator of "Restore Your Core®" (RYC®), a comprehensive and sustainable fitness program that empowers women who aim to be strong, long, mobile, and functional. With more than two decades' of experience as an internationally renowned pelvic floor movement specialist, Lauren focuses on resolving core and pelvic floor issues minus the "burn and shred" mentality. Her signature program has helped over 10,000 women regain confidence in their bodies and a life no longer limited by pain and pelvic floor symptoms. RYC® also boasts over 500 highly trained movement professionals around the world. She is also the co-founder of Body Ready Method® which is rooted in the RYC® Method and offers evidence-based online pregnancy, birth, and recovery programs and has trained over 1,800 professionals globally. Lauren and the RYC® teachers help women across the globe gain core strength, achieve ideal pelvic floor function, and learn to move efficiently and exercise optimally. Learn more about Lauren's work on her website and follow her on YouTube and Instagram. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelaurenohayon/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoreyourcoremethod Website: Normal UTM (if you are hyperlinking text): https://restoreyourcore.com/?utm_source=tantric_life&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=homepage&utm_campaign=promotion Tiny URL (if the link shows): https://link.restoreyourcore.com/4d4b9uxv Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Guest introduction 00:02:58 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:04:26 - How pelvic floor health connects to pleasure and sexual experiences 00:09:24 - How modern life and high heels create tightness in your pelvic floor 00:12:51 - One of the best things you can do for your pelvic floor 00:19:07 - How the Tantric and Daoist traditions view the pelvic floor 00:22:54 - Why tighter isn't better for your pelvic floor 00:26:24 - Pelvic floor work should train the pelvic floor to be responsive 00:30:53 - MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks 00:35:10 - Loving your pelvic floor allows it to do what it needs to do to heal 00:37:34 - Why the most important part of a jade egg practice is your relationship to it 00:46:17 - What you can start doing now to improve your pelvic floor health 00:51:12 - Blood flow is the core biological basis of sensitivity in your body 00:56:11 - Lauren's advice to women who feel numbness during sex 00:59:57 - A powerful moment Lauren fell in love with the capacity of the pelvic floor 01:03:18 - What would happen if the whole world was in touch with their pelvic floor 01:06:13 - Conclusion 01:06:43 - Bonus pelvic floor practice with Layla

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship Why it's important to process challenges somatically using your bodies The #1 question Layla asks herself when conflict arises How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection How a couple in their 70s went from roommates to intimacy, safety, and turn-on Bio Fabienne Annick is a Sex, Love & Spirit Coach who sees sexuality and partnership as profound mirrors for self-awareness and gateways to healing, growth, and magic. Her work is deeply inspired by her own exploration of conscious relationship with her beloved husband, Jef. Explore Fabienne's programs and coaching on her website and follow her on Instagram. Jef weaves together integrative psychology and cognitive restructuring as an improvisational art form. He has served as a consultant, coach, speaker, healer, teacher, and high performance mentor for more than a decade. A master level Shadow EFT practitioner who has innovated his own methodology, Jef's highest ideal is to model and help people influence energetic/emotional mastery with patterns of thought that create internal harmonization. His vision is one of stabilization and healing which continuously disperses itself throughout the collective psyche, while recognizing, honoring, and learning from the template of Union, alongside with his wife Fabienne, as their most sacred and valuable endeavor. Discover Jef's powerful work on his website and follow him on Instagram. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:57 - Guest introduction 00:02:59 - Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship 00:04:33 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:06:06 - Fabi and Jef share their epic engagement story 00:14:53 - How sovereignty and self-responsibility show up in conflict 00:19:16 - Why your relationship with yourself impacts your partner's ability to relate to you 00:23:03 - The value of processing things individually before coming together as a couple 00:24:15 - Keys to processing challenges in connection somatically with your bodies 00:26:14 - Second ad: MOOD Sex Magic (clean, scientifically-backed aphrodisiac supplement) 00:28:07 - Layla's top question for herself when conflict arises 00:35:47 - How to practice self-responsibility during relational challenges 00:47:04 - Fabi shares how she uses parts work to process high emotional intensity 00:55:03 - We all still think we're the only one who is broken and flawed 00:57:37 - Layla share the 5 core emotions that feel the most vulnerable for her in conflict 01:03:11 - 95% of humanity's problems come from the unwillingness to feel pain 01:07:00 - How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection 01:13:24 - What it looks like to walk through life as a perpetual student 01:17:06 - Fabi shares an experience of conflict with Jef that put her in full denial 01:24:55 - A vulnerable moment that made Jef fall more in love with Fabi 01:31:44 - Jef shares how a couple in their 70s went from roommates to safety and turn-on 01:39:08 - Conclusion

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Exactly what the "witch wound" is and where it lives in your body The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings Why spiritual lies live inside our bodies as self-hatred How spirituality impacts our ability to be a sexual being What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene Bio Meggan Watterson is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Mary Magdalene Revealed. She is a feminist theologian with a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. Meggan is the founder of The House of Mary Magdalene, a spiritual community that studies the sacred texts left out of the traditional canon and practices the soul-voice meditation. Her work has appeared in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, HuffPost, TEDxWomen, and Marie Claire. Meggan's most recent book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself, was recommended by Glennon Doyle in ELLE as "the book that kept me up way too late." You can follow Meggan's work on Instagram and find her books, meditations, and offerings on her website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:02:36 - The moment the gospel of Mary Magdalene began transforming Meggan's life 00:05:40 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:06:20 - Layla explains the messaging that Catholic scripture sends to women 00:12:32 - The shift in Christianity from fighting the unjust to enforcing it 00:19:41 - How distorted teachings contribute to loneliness and alienation 00:24:43 - A sovereign power exists within every person 00:26:36 - The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings 00:33:00 - How experiencing rage helped Meggan finally return to her body 00:36:21 - The original definition of salvation 00:42:46 - We are only ever as far from our power as we are from our own embodiment 00:49:32 - Spiritual lies live inside our bodies as negative self talk and self-rejection 00:58:53 - Meggan shares her experience with self-doubt and a desire for external validation 01:05:18 - Layla shares the hallmarks of the Tantric tradition 01:17:37 - How spirituality impacts our ability to be a fully expressed sexual being 01:23:59 - It's easier to control men who don't have a power center outside of religion 01:30:15 - What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene 01:32:15 - A simple practice you can do right now to reconnect with the voice of love within you 01:43:09 - Conclusion

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Ian's definition of great sex and how you can bring it into practice Why basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences The number one key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together A daily practice for men and one for women to enhance presence and pleasure Bio Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. He's regularly featured as an expert in various media, such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR, as well as contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. Ian lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021, and is the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). He's the co-founder and co-director of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of the oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities in New York City. You can learn more about Ian's work on his website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:46 - Guest introduction 00:02:36 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist: FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:05:21 - Ian shares how his personal experience inspired him bring his work to the world 00:10:28 - The science behind how pleasure is created in the vagina through intercourse 00:15:53 - How sensual touch above the waist and communication impact sex and pleasure 00:16:59 - How to get a woman's desire going and enhance it throughout sex 00:24:25 - Ian shares his definition of great sex 00:31:18 - Layla explains what a recap after a sexual experience is and how it helps 00:33:00 - Ian and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:37:17 - How basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together 00:39:45 - Can you create sexual desire if it was never there in the first place? 00:43:39 - Chemistry comes in all different forms 00:47:33 - Why porn is easier than partnered sex 00:55:54 - Ian shares what he sees as the biggest contributors to sexual issues 01:00:11 - How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences 01:06:37 - The role willingness plays when it comes to sex in a long-term partnership 01:09:55 - The 3 different ways sex gets started 01:13:10 - The big key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together 01:13:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them A simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds Bio Lee Holden is a Qi Gong Master who has brought ancient tradition to the mainstream. He's the author of the bestselling book Ready, Set, SLOW and a PBS favorite with shows such as Less Stress, More Energy and Your Fountain of Youth. Lee is the founder of Holden Qi Gong, an online education center for Eastern Wisdom. You can learn more about Lee's work on his website and find him on Instagram: @holdenqigongofficial Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:00:51 - Guest introduction 00:02:11 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:05:30 - Sexual energy as the source of vitality 00:13:26 - When you can celebrate your power, you no longer have to hate yourself 00:14:41 - Transforming sexual energy into life force energy into spiritual energy 00:17:50 - Sexual energy is universal energy 00:22:24 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir using code PODCAST 00:24:20 - Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life 00:27:45 - Layla's shares her favorite question to take inventory of your stress 00:32:52 - When you're inspired about the future, you have more energy in the present 00:40:36 - Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy 00:44:19 - How sexuality used to be part of prescribed medicine 00:49:54 - How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure 00:52:42 - What multi-orgasmic means for men 00:58:34 - How Lee learned to become multi-orgasmic 01:02:03 - Layla's shares her story of how she learned to be multi-orgasmic 01:04:06 - What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them 01:06:34 - Why becoming multi-orgasmic is important for both the man and his lover 01:09:12 - Energy work can build a bridge so both partners feel in the mood 01:10:51 - How slowing down during sex heightens and amplifies sexual energy 01:11:59 - Lee shares a simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds 01:15:08 - Conclusion

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist How the American approach to pleasure compares to other cultures Layla shares one of her favorite cemetery sex stories The #1 way to get back into a sexual headspace How to approach shame around your sexuality Dr. Kate shares a take home practice you can use to connect with your body sexually Bio Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in California, Florida, New York, and Illinois. She's a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples' therapist. As the Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational, and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving holistically in their lives. Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast. You can learn more about Dr. Balestrieri's work on her website and find Dr. Balestrieri on Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri Timestamps 00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:00:55 - Guest introduction 00:01:54 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:04:39 - Dr. Kate's 2025 mid-year sex in review 00:05:20 - The top ways Dr. Kate sees people lose desire 00:08:40 - How the American approach to pleasure compares to other cultures 00:11:15 - Layla shares one of her favorite cemetery sex stories 00:13:54 - Layla and Dr. Kate drink MOOD SEX MAGIC Elixir 00:16:19 - Dr. Kate shares a deep dive into her work with sex and addiction 00:18:22 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir using code PODCAST 00:20:27 - What it's like working with sex offenders in prison settings 00:25:04 - How better prevention can stop sexual violence 00:28:02 - The #1 way to get back into a sexual headspace 00:30:50 - How sexuality has changed from a cultural perspective over the last 20 years 00:32:11 - Dr. Kate's personal favorite thing about sex 00:32:54 - Dr. Kate shares her current sexual growth edges both personally and professionally 00:35:14 - How to approach shame around your sexuality 00:36:28 - Layla explains what it means to "eat shame for breakfast" 00:37:33 - Dr. Kate shares a take home practice you can use to connect with your body sexually 00:39:17 - Pleasure comes from within and you can access it anytime you desire 00:42:35 - Conclusion

Show Notes Take your business to the next level with my ⁠VITA™ Coaching Checklist⁠ The difference between objective truth vs. your truth (a.k.a. how to stop arguing with your own assumptions) A practical script for conflict that doesn't melt into blame soup The Five A's of Requests (Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements) How to repair trust and build integrity like it's a daily gym routine Why "Do you want to be heard, helped, or held?" is the relationship cheat code Men's work, shame alchemy, and the real work of becoming who you say you are Bio Andrew Horn is an entrepreneur, writer, and relational leadership coach whom Forbes calls "Dale Carnegie for the digital age." He grew his last company, Tribute, to eight figures in revenue and millions of users, landing on the Inc. 500, before stepping away to focus on coaching and transformation. He also co-founded Junto, a community for leaders to explore men's work and personal growth. Andrew has shared his insights on global stages including Conscious Capitalism, Summit Series, and Google Talks, and coaches founders and executives from some of today's most innovative companies, including Hinge, Casper, and Everyday Dose. Learn more about Andrew's work ⁠on his website⁠, at ⁠Junto⁠, and follow him on Instagram @itsandrewhorn 00:00 Truth hits like electricity: authenticity, curiosity, presence 01:01 Meet Andrew Horn and why "being right" is overrated 03:03 The Burning Man suitcase origin story 04:00 Take your business to the next level with my ⁠VITA™ Coaching Checklist ⁠ 05:31 "I love the sh*t out of you" - friendship, on record 08:07 Bad communication = hyperbolic criticism (why "never/always" backfires) 09:41 Learning to meet fire with skill (Non Violent Communication, ownership, objectivity) 10:56 Gestalt wake-up: three pillars to speak from your spine 13:40 The eye-contact exercise that turned truth into lightning 15:02 Coffee-machine confession: when honesty cracks reality open 16:09 Matrix moment: you don't meet people, you meet your story about them 19:16 Layla's jungle-cult nights and the psychedelic power of saying the uncomfortable thing 25:02 Choosing aliveness over being liked 27:49 Objective > subjective: the foundation of clean communication 31:16 Feelings at work and the "clear ask" example 32:12 Get 2 FREE sticks packs of ⁠MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir⁠ using code PODCAST at checkout 34:02 Curiosity as the antidote to mind-reading 39:46 Byron Katie and "everyone makes sense to themselves" 43:49 Boundaried vs. boundaryless and the sacred pause 47:45 "Violent" (charged) communication vs. objective language 51:10 Needs-based consciousness (OFNER) - a map out of reactivity 52:26 The Five A's of requests: Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements 58:24 Why agreements beat "good intentions" every time 1:00:55 Rituals that keep love alive: weekly check-ins & love dates 1:01:12 "Therapy speak" complaints - the pragmatic reframe 1:02:40 Integrity = knowing yourself, speaking the truth, and keeping agreements 1:06:37 Rebuilding integrity after breaches: deconditioning and working with shame

Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my ⁠FREE VITA Coaching Checklist⁠ How Shay's childhood taught her the impact trauma has on adult relationships Why we have a tendency to draw in partners who are a perfect match for our wound How to know if you're in a dead end dynamic in your relationship The one question Shay asks herself when her inner saboteur comes up The importance of loving your parts so they don't hijack you in destructive ways Bio Shay Aiyana is the best-selling author of Becoming the One and the founder of Rising Woman, a global community dedicated to self-healing, relational transformation, and spiritual embodiment. Her work blends somatic awareness, inner child healing, and grounded spiritual insight to guide millions through the landscapes of heartbreak, love, and personal rebirth. With a writing style that is both poetic and piercingly clear, Shay weaves personal storytelling with practical tools to offer readers a deeply human, emotionally resonant experience. Her words are a balm for those who have been lost in self-abandonment, teaching them how to come home to themselves with compassion and truth. Having grown up in foster care and overcome cycles of abuse, addiction, and heartbreak, Shay's teachings are not theoretical – they are lived. Through Rising Woman, she has helped millions remember that healing is not about becoming someone else, but about reclaiming the love, power, and wholeness that was always theirs. Learn more about Shay's work on the ⁠Rising Woman website⁠ and follow her on Instagram ⁠@sheleanaaiyana⁠ Timestamps 00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my ⁠FREE VITA Coaching Checklist ⁠ 00:00:59 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification ⁠ 00:02:29 - Guest introduction 00:04:39 - How Shay's childhood taught her the impact trauma has on adult relationships 00:07:30 - Why we have a tendency to draw in partners who are a perfect match for our wound 00:09:26 - How raising a child has helped Shay recognize adult attachment behaviors 00:13:01 - There are different levels of the expression of your wounds 00:17:04 - Why attachment and trauma wounds need to heal through relationships 00:21:24 - What is a healthy amount of healing that can be done in a relationship? 00:23:14 - How to know if you're in a dead end dynamic in your relationship 00:27:01 - A conversation that taught Shay she wasn't the partner she thought she was 00:29:31 - What it looks like to let your partner off the hook but still be self-responsible 00:32:14 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of ⁠MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir⁠ using code PODCAST at checkout 00:36:03 - How changing your self-approach to "I've got you little one" shifts everything 00:40:52 - How being honest about your hurt in the moment improves your relationship 00:46:30 - How bringing "death energy" to her husband deepened Shay's marriage 00:49:49 - The one question Shay asks herself when her inner saboteur comes up 00:52:31 - A breakdown of Shay's first book, Becoming the One 00:56:52 - Layla's biggest takeaway from this powerful conversation 01:01:43 - True mastery is loving your parts so they don't hijack you in destructive ways 01:04:40 - 4 pieces of wisdom Shay used to create a better life than she was born into 01:06:38 - Conclusion

Shownotes What Sarah's awakening and transition into feminine magic looked like What sacred feminine ceremony actually is How Sarah's marriage was impacted by her awakening Why women's true happiness lies in their connection to themselves The hardest parts about learning the Priestess path The process Sarah went through to overcome her witch wound Bio Sarah thought she was destined to have an "in the box" life after going to a top college, working in advertising and then creating a successful emotional eating company. All of that changed when Sarah was introduced to Ceremony. After hearing "you're not who you think you are" while sitting in Ceremony and feeling the nudge from the Goddess to become a Priestess – she dove headfirst into training and ultimately became an Ordained Priestess. Sarah has a way of making spiritual work incredibly approachable and reaches over 100,000 people all over the world. She works with doctors, lawyers, CEOs, stay at home moms, teachers, life coaches and healers. You can join Ceremony by joining the Living Temple, which Sarah co-founded with Kelly Taveras, to experience this work for yourself. Learn more about Sarah's work on her website and Instagram @sarahjenks Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:04:01 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:06:25 - Sarah shares what her awakening and transition into feminine magic looked like 00:11:02 - What is a sacred feminine ceremony? 00:13:43 - How Sarah discovered that her experience with the sacred feminine was real 00:14:32 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:15:57 - Sarah reveals how her transition into the sacred feminine impacted her marriage 00:19:53 - Layla and Sarah drink MOOD Sex Magic 00:20:44 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:22:56 - Women's happiness lies in their connection to themselves 00:25:04 - The rise of patriarchy correlates with the destruction of the sacred feminine 00:34:07 - The moment Sarah knew she was ready to commit to the sacred path 00:37:04 - What the High Priestess path actually looks like 00:40:31 - Sarah shares the hardest parts about learning the Priestess path 00:45:45 - The most important functions of a Temple in a community 00:48:17 - Discover your sexual potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 00:51:46 - Humans have an entire brain center that only lights up in spiritual practice 00:57:45 - Sarah shares her favorite item on her altar 00:58:22 - Layla shares her favorite item on her altar 01:02:02 - The process Sarah went through to overcome her witch wound 01:06:50 - Conclusion

Shownotes Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships The difference between individual empowerment and relational empowerment Which quadrant of the grid Layla is on and how she got there Why Terry calls our relationships our “biosphere” Terry’s best advice for shifting out of anger and into connection A powerful guided boundary practice to follow along with Bio Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author committed to helping you build the lasting, loving relationships you deserve. The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment. His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), underpins all of his books, courses and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections – to themselves, each other and the planet as a whole. A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of “the turnaround guy,” and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed. To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice and their own relationships. Terry is passionately committed to empowering us all with the essential relational skills for meaningful relationships. Learn more about Terry’s work on his website and take his FREE quiz. Timestamps 00:00:56 - Guest introduction 00:01:12 - What Terry’s book Fierce Intimacy taught Layla 00:05:03 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:05:43 - Terry shares the work that inspired his grid 00:07:00 - Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships 00:09:47 - Why we have a hard time centering our own self-esteem 00:11:21 - Terry gives a real life example of self-esteem 00:15:33 - How to get out of one down or one up on the grid 00:21:10 - Say whatever you have to say, but do it from the heart 00:23:55 - Individual empowerment vs relational empowerment 00:26:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:28:41 - Why Terry believes that our relationships are our biosphere 00:37:54 - Unlock your deepest pleasure with MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:38:42 - Layla reveals which quadrant she is in on the grid 00:46:36 - What allowed Layla’s pain and desperation to finally dissolve 00:48:52 - Terry guides Layla through an inner child exercise 00:57:45 - Discover your sexual potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 01:01:38 - The mysticism of marriage 01:07:55 - How Layla chose to be happy no matter what her partner is doing 01:10:50 - Guidance on how to shift out of anger 01:15:44 - Terry guides Layla and listeners through a boundary exercise 01:20:53 - Take Terry’s quiz to find out where you are on the grid 01:22:08 - Conclusion

Shownotes Why the cervix alters your state of consciousness How to move through a violation with your cervix What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship The phases of dearmoring safely Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms Bio Olivia Bryant is the founder of Self:Cervix and creator of the Cervical Awakening Pathway – a profound journey into the body, love and creative power through activating the cervix. For over a decade, Olivia has explored the cervix as a portal to expanded sensation, deep emotional release, universal love and the integration of sexuality and consciousness. With a background in sexology and somatic practice, she’s guided thousands of women through transformative experiences that awaken intimacy, pleasure and the multidimensional intelligence of their bodies. Learn more about Olivia’s work on her website. Timestamps 00:00:46 - Guest introduction 00:02:07 - How Olivia experienced her first cervical orgasm 00:07:25 - The cervix alters your state of consciousness 00:10:08 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:39 - How Olivia vetted potential partners as a single woman 00:15:20 - You get to be responsible for exactly the kind of touch you desire 00:19:43 - How you move through a violation with your cervix 00:23:33 - How to dearmor the cervix to release pain 00:27:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:30:22 - When we surrender, our primal impulse flows through us 00:34:13 - What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body 00:37:10 - The shadow of yin is a heavy energy 00:41:24 - Cervical orgasm influences the frequency you walk through the world with 00:41:58 - Olivia and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:48:41 - The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship 00:52:45 - No matter where you start, you can reach the deepest self-love 00:53:19 - Discover your sexual and relational potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 00:55:56 - The phases of dearmoring safely 01:02:22 - Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms 01:05:39 - Conclusion Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelaylamartin/ 🌐 Website: www.laylamartin.com 💌 Weekly Email: https://laylamartin.com/join-list/ 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-tantric-life-with-layla-martin/id1685418994 🎶 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72iBpAwMSsTl9zLk8fHMp1?si=9f465574aa114d63 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements: https://shopmood.com/ 🔥 For Men: Men’s Sexual Mastery - https://hubs.ly/Q01c_Wgx0 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women - https://hubs.ly/Q01c0SWh0 Disclaimer TRUTH AND LOVE COACHING INTERNATIONAL, LLC – VIDEO DISCLAIMER The information contained within this video is for informational purposes only. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. © 2024 Truth and Love Coaching, LLC - All Rights Reserved.

Shownotes What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma How to never get ghosted again What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important Why repair is an ongoing practice Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully Bio Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster. She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together. Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection. Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce. Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair 00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership 00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples 00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections 00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma 00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship 00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges 00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship 00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization 00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are 00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again 00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship 01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important 01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective 01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice 01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair 01:28:49 - Conclusion

Shownotes How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it Bio Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment. With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices. Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton. Timestamps 00:00:48 - Guest introduction 00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history 00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it 00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society 00:09:56 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences 00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture 00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure 00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access 00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life 00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure 00:42:30 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her 00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston 00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything 00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her 00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure 00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life 01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics 01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching 01:08:05 - Conclusion

Shownotes The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head The most effective way to teach attunement to men Why lack of attunement feels like apathy The difference between suppression and containment What it feels like to be present inside of yourself Bio Steven Jaggers is a somatic educator, practitioner and the founder of SOMA+IQ™ Breathwork, a powerful modality for nervous system healing and embodied transformation. He has trained over 2,000 practitioners in a unique method that rewires the body’s response to stress, trauma and connection through potent tools like breath, co-regulation and somatic self-inquiry. Steven’s approach bridges ancient healing traditions with modern neuroscience, offering experiential tools for emotional integration, authentic relating and whole-body aliveness. His work has been featured in university-accredited programs, major podcasts and global events. Learn more about Steven and his work on his website. Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:04:54 - Steven explains what meta skills are and their importance 00:08:25 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:34 - The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing 00:13:14 - How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head 00:17:20 - Steven shares Eckhart Tolle’s definition of stress 00:21:05 - Others can feel your alignment in their nervous systems 00:23:24 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:24:35 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:25:36 - Steven’s definition of eros 00:25:47 - Layla shares her definition of eros 00:32:13 - The most effective way to teach attunement to men 00:42:53 - Why lack of attunement feels like apathy 00:47:26 - The difference between suppression and containment 00:51:52 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:53:19 - Steven explains the 4 modes of communication 00:55:01 - Steven guides Layla through a powerful breathwork practice 01:06:42 - What it feels like to be present inside of yourself 01:07:05 - What it feels like to not be present inside of yourself 01:12:08 - The 3 potentials that can happen for a client during coaching or facilitating 01:16:57 - Conclusion

Shownotes Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after A guided cervical micropractice you can follow along with How to create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day Why your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system Bio Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a feminine embodiment teacher and the founder of Awakened Woman, a global community and course platform devoted to helping women reclaim their pleasure as holy and cultivate the intimacy they most deeply desire in relationships. Blending her 17 years of training in Somatic Psycho-Spiritual practices, erotic alchemy, and sacred sexuality, Jamie guides women to transform their relationship with their bodies and pleasure. She specializes in cervical de-armoring and awakening—activating the cervix as a divine erotic portal and a key to unlocking orgasmic aliveness and everyday bliss. Learn more about Jamie and her work on her website https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/ and download your FREE guide to cervical touching HERE: https://14530506.fs1.hubspotusercontent-na1.net/hubfs/14530506/CERVICAL%20TOUCHING%20GUIDE.pdf Free Cervical Awakening Practice: https://awakenedwoman.life/paths/pussyportal/ Timestamps 00:00:44 - Guest introduction 00:03:10 - How Jamie discovered the magic of her cervix 00:04:25 - Jamie describes the moment her whole life opened up during a cervical orgasm 00:08:36 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:04 - The ingredients that led Jamie to be able to have a cervical orgasm 00:11:10 - Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms 00:13:37 - The difference between a clitoral orgasm and a cervical orgasm 00:19:04 - Layla shares the story of her most powerful cervical orgasm 00:21:09 - This is one of the greatest gifts of a cervical orgasm 00:21:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:22:45 - Layla and Jamie drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:24:02 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:25:14 - What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after 00:29:24 - The cervix is a gateway into full erotic expression 00:29:55 - The most important things to know about opening and activating your cervix 00:31:48 - A regulated nervous system opens up the pathway for a cervical orgasm 00:34:09 - Jamie shares the #1 pitfall women experience when activating their cervix 00:39:41 - Jamie guides a cervical micropractice you can follow along with 00:52:51 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:53:46 - Jamie and Layla share what they experienced during the practice 00:59:25 - How touching your cervix automatically puts you in a feminine state 01:00:24 - Can you create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed? 01:03:13 - 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day 01:06:18 - Your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system 01:12:12 - Conclusion

Shownotes How to use pain to carve out space for more joy The key to re-establishing beautiful orgasmic experiences Layla’s experience training terror into safety in her nervous system The tools that allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma Why some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy How to heal trauma from a resource perspective so it becomes a gift Bio Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and has taught over 50,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Vogue and ABC. She’s been named one of the top 100 women in wellness to watch and has taught at Apple, Google and Harvard Business School. A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. Her transformation was so dramatic that she felt inspired to share it with others. It’s Emily’s mission to help as many people as possible achieve extraordinary benefits – like dramatically reduced stress, anxiety relief and deep, restful sleep. Learn more about Emily and her work on her website. Timestamps 00:01:00 - Guest introduction 00:02:00 - Emily shares her experience inside VITA Coaching 00:02:43 - What surprised Emily about VITA Coaching 00:04:24 - Emily shares about the death portal she’s been experiencing 00:06:26- The pain carves out space for more joy 00:07:05 - What inspired Layla to create VITA Coaching 00:10:39 - How to re-establish beautiful orgasmic experiences 00:13:33 - The answer to women being fractured in their power 00:13:48 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:18:49 - VITA Coaching is an understanding of women’s evolution of power 00:19:55 - The reactivation and reunion of sex, heart and spirit 00:21:45 - What has helped Emily remember her own divinity 00:25:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:27:52 - Layla shares her experience training terror into safety in her nervous system 00:30:09 - How the VITA tools allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma 00:32:10 - We have organic pleasure chemicals already in our body 00:33:31 - One of the things Layla is most proud of 00:35:59 - Some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy 00:39:31 - You heal your trauma at the level of consciousness it occurred 00:39:39 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:42:08 - If you love who you are, you can love what shaped you into it 00:45:43 - When you heal trauma from a resource perspective, it becomes a gift 00:46:22 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:47:26 - Layla shares the most touching thing VITA Coaching grads share with her 00:49:51 - Where to find the most outrageous amount of healing and self-practice 00:53:00 - Save your seat for Your Future is Erotic LIVE Event 00:54:12 - You don’t need to be perfect to be a powerful coach 00:57:02 - Why Layla considers it her responsibility to support your success as a coach 00:57:32 - VITA Coaching niche specializations to scale your impact and income 00:58:54 - Join the VITA Coaching Waitlist and unlock the maximum number of bonuses 00:59:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important The internal narrative Layla used to carry around leadership How to be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman Why we are exhausted from hypervigilance Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary Why the world represses mothers from their eroticism Bio Nisha Moodley is a Devotional Leadership guide, founder of Global Sisterhood Day, host of Devotion Podcast and a mother. As a biracial woman with training in health and executive coaching, ancestral healing work and community building, she has a unique relationship to the ecology of leadership and a profound ability to catalyze growth for her clients. Her work centers around the path of matriarchal leadership as an expression of our devotional care. For 18 years, Nisha has guided intimate councils and online courses and taught 65+ live retreats, supporting women in liberating their leadership and weaving their gifts in service of a more beautiful world. Learn more about Nisha and her work on her website. Timestamps 00:00:42 - Guest introduction 00:03:59 - Layla reads the email love letter she sent to Nisha in 2014 00:10:58 - You never know what might happen when you take a chance 00:12:03 - Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important 00:15:16 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:16:00 - Layla shares the internal narrative she used to carry around leadership 00:21:04 - The world teaches women that in order to be powerful, they must remain frozen 00:27:06 - How savoring life begins to naturally start shifting your attention outward 00:29:36 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:30:34 - Layla and Nisha drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:32:54 - You can be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman 00:37:28 - We are exhausted from hypervigilance 00:44:47 - Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary 00:51:42 - How to be engaged in the sensual experience of life 00:54:08 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:57:12 - Nisha’s advice to people who believe in their erotic power but don’t feel it yet 01:04:03 - Why the most real sense of power comes from trusting your body 01:08:44 - Why the world represses mothers from the knowledge that they are erotic beings 01:11:34 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery 01:13:19 - Nisha shares a powerful moment from her journey to erotic reclamation 01:18:27 - Nisha explains what she calls the “great trick” of midlife for women 01:21:04 - Conclusion

Shownotes Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important Why hiding your power creates disarray Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level Bio From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous cultures. His quest to understand himself and the life he was experiencing led him to explore the very nature of his existence, often guiding him down challenging paths, including struggles with addiction and depression. Through this deep exploration, Tom gradually opened up to a more profound connection with his own humanity, confronting the limitations that prevented him from fully feeling and embracing it. His personal journey has taught him invaluable lessons, enabling him to be present with others in a spontaneous and creative way, facilitating their own process of discovery. Tom’s work, particularly through The Sapience Retreat, focuses on helping individuals integrate all aspects of their being – mental, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual – in a way that fosters a true sense of homecoming, both within themselves and in connection with others. At the heart of his approach is cultivating an open awareness and a deep sense of choice, empowering people to show up more fully and authentically in life. Learn more about Tom and The Sapience Retreat on his website. Timestamps 00:00:54 - Guest introduction 00:05:46 - Tom describes what a “meeting” is in his work 00:09:54 - A meeting can be any flavor of energy 00:13:36 - The heart of this work is to have less and less resistance to what’s happening 00:14:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:16:59 - Relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t 00:18:44 - The various traps humans get caught in 00:20:19 - Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey 00:23:01 - Layla summarizes spiral dynamics 00:26:41 - The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important 00:29:27 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:31:20 - Layla describes her experience with the beige stage 00:35:10 - Trust and safety only exist in this moment 00:39:51 - The power of unconditional somatic connection 00:40:40 - Layla and Tom drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:43:20 - Layla talks about her “Reclamation in the Red Stage” 00:51:30 - When we hide our power, it can become a force that creates disarray 00:55:23 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:58:35 - How to be present with what’s true in the moment 01:01:09 - Layla shares about her entity removal at The Sapience Retreat 01:08:08 - What Tom whispered to Layla’s inner little girl 01:10:55 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:11:46 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery 01:13:40 - We don’t have to become cosmic starchildren to touch magic 01:17:39 - Just meeting each other as humans is the most advanced thing we can do 01:21:48 - Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level 01:25:42 - Layla shares about the stuffed animal she used to carry 01:27:46 - Conclusion

Shownotes The best and worst sex ideas of 2025 The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic The biggest sexual problems people face Dr. Emily’s take on why people cheat How sex is a multi-layered experience Bio Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She’s a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others. Dr. Emily’s mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website. Timestamps 00:00:41 - Guest introduction 00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex 00:04:43 - If you can’t talk about something, then you can’t have an empowering relationship to it 00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT 00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025 00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe 00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman 00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone 00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness 00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human 00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements 00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy 00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic 00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face 00:54:56 - Do people who don’t practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex? 00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you 00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠ 00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat 01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience 01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers 01:20:07 - Conclusion

Shownotes The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner The biggest mistake people make in modern dating Bio Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. Dr Tatkin is the author of In Each Other’s Care, We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships and co-author of Baby Bomb. Dr. Tatkin received his early training in developmental self and object relations (Masterson Institute), Gestalt, psychodrama, and family systems theory. His private practice specialized for some time in treating adolescents and adults with personality disorders. More recently, his interests turned to psycho-neurobiological theories of human relationship and applying principles of early mother-infant attachment to adult romantic relationships. Dr. Tatkin was clinical director of Charter Hospital’s intensive outpatient drug and alcohol program and is a former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter. He is a veteran member of Allan N. Schore’s study group. He also trained in the Adult Attachment Interview by way of Mary Main and Erik Hesse’s program through UC Berkeley. Timestamps 00:00:43 - Guest introduction 00:03:58 - The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning 00:06:00 - How to find compassion for an anxious or avoidant 00:09:59 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at ⁠LaylaMartin.com⁠ 00:11:49 - Layla describes an avoidant’s experience as a baby 00:13:19 - Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles 00:16:17 - Attachment isn’t personality, it’s memory 00:21:49 - Plan for your devils, not your angels 00:25:43 - How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer 00:26:54 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠ 00:33:32 - Dr. Tatkin’s advice for the moments you see your partner as an enemy 00:37:27 - Discover ⁠MOOD™ Sex Magic⁠ 00:38:20 - What do you secretly put in front of your relationship? 00:45:48 - Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner 00:46:53 - How to learn to take care of your partner’s nervous system 00:49:14 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with ⁠Obliss⁠ 00:50:50 - One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner 00:54:05 - Why apologizing can subconsciously feel like weakness 00:57:11 - Dr. Tatkin explains the details of “The Couple Bubble” 01:00:34 - What Dr. Tatkin sees that the happiest long term couples do 01:03:50 - Insecures don’t believe there’s such a thing as fairness and justice 01:05:44 - The biggest mistake people make in modern dating 01:08:07 - Dr. Tatkin celebrates his wife and his relationship 01:11:55 - Secure functioning is very hard but it’s worth it 01:12:00 - Conclusion