#teakink with Dominatrix Eva Oh

Eva Oh dived head first into a BDSM dungeon with no kink or sex work experience - but she wouldn’t be where she is today if she hadn’t paid attention to the many kind (and not so kind) individuals along the way. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast Eva introduces us to a few key people who have helped her develop her place in the industry, her opinion on Dominatrix Schools and Workshops and why she offers her Mentoring Calls and Training Sessions at this stage of her career. Book a Mentoring Call or Training Session: https://eva-oh.com/training (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - A Question on Mentorship (01:18) - My Mentor Calls and Training Sessions (02:30) - My Mentors (07:20) - Elders in the Dominatrix Community (09:05) - My Opinion on Dominatrix Schools and Workshops (11:39) - Finding Mentors (14:20) - Personal vs Professional Mentorship (17:39) - Leatherfolk, Families and their Value (21:40) - Booking a Mentoring Call or Training Session

Eva Oh’s naivety shielded her from the initial realities of competition and sabotage in the sex industry, but she had to learn some hard lessons eventually. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast Eva answers a question on how rivalry in the industry exists, revealing a slightly rough journey from competition within the brothel styled system of the Dungeon, to gossip over social media; and how she continues to navigate how to best align herself with those who share her values in the present day. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - A Question on Rivalry in the Sex Industry (00:45) - How I See “Stolen” Clients (02:00) - How I See “Competition” (03:00) - The Influence of Sibling Rivalry (04:50) - My Naivety (05:00) - The Competitiveness of the Dungeon (05:20) - Sabotage (11:45) - Competition vs Camaraderie, and Social Media’s Role (17:00) - Rivalry within Deeper Relationships (18:40) - The Potential Intensity of Sex Worker Friendship (20:03) - Aligning Your Values (21:20) - Some People Adore Drama

Welcome to Season 4 of the #teakink Podcast, where Eva Oh answers all the questions! Responding to your voice notes, Eva will lead us into insights on her work as a Dominatrix in the sex industry including episodes on rivalry, mentorship, boundaries, gender fluidity, the importance of play, and loneliness. She also reveals a few mishaps of the last season of the #teakink Podcast, including a slightly touchy update on slave m; and some plans for future seasons ahead. More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Season 3 Ends, Season 4 Begins (00:58) - Highlights of Season 3 (01:30) - Season 4, Your Questions Shall be Answered (02:15) - Mishaps (02:40) - Changes with slave m (03:58) - Thinking About Future Seasons, Interviews Maybe?

When Eva Oh inched her way onto social media, she didn’t quite imagine the titles that would soon be getting used on her. Not the titles that she was used to, of Dominatrix or Mistress, but Educator, Mentor and Influencer. In this episode of the #teakink Podast Eva walks us through her mild disgust with some of the terms, the gossip that she catches wind of about them, and a few theories as to why things are the way that they are. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Educator? Mentor? Influencer? (01:56) - Playing the Influencer Game, A Mild Disgust? (03:20) - My Mentoring Calls (06:00) - Not As Intimidating as I Look? (09:00) - Great Feedback from Isabella Sinclaire (10:30) - When Gatekeeping is Better or Worse? (11:15) - Desperation for Power Amongst Those Stripped of It (12:15) - Educational Courses? (14:40) - How I Became How I Am

When people ask Eva Oh how her dates or partners “handle” her job and industry, it’s a frustrating time. Although she has come to understand the societal shortcomings that inspire this question, she has also learned of the incredible skills that sex work can offer the individuals who choose to work in it - and so perhaps the more important question is, ‘Would a Sex Worker Date You?’. Listen to this eye opening episode of the #teakink Podcast to find out. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Would a Sex Worker Date You? (01:00) - Unfortunate Case Studies (05:11) - Sex Work and Elevated Communication Skills (06:30) - Do You Deserve the Empathy? (08:55) - How Sex Work Has Changed Me (14:49) - Understanding Society’s Shortcomings (16:25) - A Better Case Study (18:00) - “I Never Thought I Could Have a Relationship Like This” (19:50) - How and Why Monogamy Was Constructed? (22:14) - Why I’ve Become So Picky, What I Deserve

What is a sex party? How do you find one? Do you have to have sex there? Eva Oh dishes out her international sex party experience in a #teakink episode with a lot of valuable information gathered through deep, hard and extensively serious research. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - The Ultimate Sex Party Episode (01:09) - What is a Sex Party? (03:00) - How Do You Find Out What Kind You’ll Liked? (03:55) - My First “Sex” Party, Hellfire (05:24) - I Discover Swingers Clubs (06:30) - Consent (07:30) - Safeguards (09:15) - My Sex Party Evolution (11:20) - Sex Clubs, Membership Spaces and Saunas (12:15) - Sex Club Nights and Meet-ups (14:00) - BDSM Clubs (15:20) - Travel Weekenders and Conventions (18:10) - The Orgy Dome at Burning Man (18:30) - From Berlin to Bali, Sex Parties Worldwide (20:40) - All Women Play Parties (22:00) - I Probably Need a Second Episode on This, At Least!

Eva Oh dedicates a #teakink episode to her experience working as an Escort, Brothel and Massage Worker. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - What is an Escort? (00:50) - How I Became an Escort (03:50) - My First Escort Photoshoot, in the middle of nowhere (07:00) - A Bad Feeling (08:00) - A Better Feeling (09:15) - Job Satisfaction (10:15) - These Ease of My First Booking (11:00) - Escort Agency and Dungeon Loyalty (12:20) - What the Job of Escorting Is - to me (13:20) - Girl Friend Experience VS Porn Star Experience (15:20) - Brothels (18:50) - Massage Parlours (20:20) - How I Structured My Work Life (21:00) - My Physical Gratification (21:50) - Missing the Workplace

A Dominatrix from London walks into the dungeon that Eva Oh is training at, and she chooses Eva to assist on an enlightening session. Eva sees things that take her years to understand. Quite the raucous episode of the #teakink Podcast. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Glorifying a Dominatrix from London (02:45) - She Chooses Me (05:10) - Entering Her Session, Two Slaves - Engorged… (08:40) - Is He Okay? (10:50) - It Took Me A Few Years to Get It! (12:40) - Still Learning, The Value of My Presence (15:10) - She Leaves. Everyone Complains in the Workplace. (17:30) - Time for a Raucous Session?

Listen in on an intimate conversation between Eva Oh and her dear and accomplished friend Laura Desiree that spans erotic callings, orgasms, banned erotica, stigma, drive and their favourite philosophy podcasts. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - My Darling Laura Desiree (00:40) - Disrupting Laura’s Structure (02:04) - What Laura is Up To (02:50) - Laura’s Event, ‘Eros Unbound’ (05:40) - Our Orgasms (07:00) - Voice, Sound and the Erotic (08:15) - Laura’s Erotic Calling (10:00) - Porn vs the Personal (12:15) - More On Our Orgasms, ‘Under the Skin’ and Astral Projection (13:55) - Laura’s Banned Erotica (15:00) - The Shared Stigma, Sex Workers and Sex Educators (18:25) - What Motivates Laura’s Drive (21:00) - Sex Workers Becoming Activists and Educators (23:50) - Eva Oh vs an FBI Agent (24:40) - The Meaning of Podcasting and a Platform? (29:00) - Our Favourite Philosophy Podcasts (29:40) - Limitations Birthing Creativity and Laura’s Tragedy

The Berlin Travel Guide that Eva Oh didn’t give you in Season 2 when she got sidetracked with a salacious story. But here it is! Club culture, sex clubs, sexuality learning spaces, kink festivals, bondage furniture makers, kink gear and fashion stores. Dig into Eva’s favourite places in Berlin, Germany - all from the comfort of her hotel bed after a successful weekend in Berlin herself. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Good Morning-ish from Berlin (00:59) - Why Do I Come to Berlin (04:00) - Club Culture, We Must of Course Talk about Berghain (09:00) - My First Berlin Sex Clubs and Playing with a Stranger (14:00) - Kit Kat Club, My Many Experiences There (19:55) - The German Fetish Ball (23:20) - Sexuality Learning Spaces, Karada House (24:30) - EURIX Rope Week (27:00) - Bondage Furniture Makers (28:40) - Kink Gear and Fashion Stores (31:00) - Playing with the Door Person at a Swingers Club

Nobody told Eva Oh that there would be an influx of younger folk interested in dating women much older than them. Eva is called “mature” by a date for the first time and “Mommy” by multiple admirers and it stirs thoughts on how she could best approach this surprise. A #teakink episode that makes obvious the difference between the conversations we have around older men dating younger women versus the far more swept under the rug world of the older dating woman. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Being Called “Mature” on Dating Apps (00:55) - What Do I Do?! (01:12) - What I’m Looking For (02:25) - Nobody Told Me That There’d Be All This Interest (03:00) - “Cougars” and Their Fans (04:45) - Cindy Gallop’s TED Talk (06:25) - My Largest Age Gap (07:00) - Do I Entertain It? (07:30) - A Slave’s Age and Privilege Gap (08.55) - My First Age Gap Date (11:25) - How Desirability Evolves and What Sex Work Taught Me About It (12:45) - The More Commonly Talked About “Silver Fox” (14:10) - How I Might Embrace Being Called “Mommy” (16:30) - Age and Height on Dating Apps (18:00) - What is Appropriate? Give Me Dating Advice. (20:14) - Becoming Mommy Part 2?

A bartender tells Eva Oh that she reminds him of his Mother, a Dominatrix. He shares more about what his childhood looked like with BDSM slaves around and Eva is inspired to imagine parenthood as a Dominatrix and Sex Worker. Her investigation finds her clients jumping at the chance to “provide” and proves to be a revealing exercise in societal stigma and suffering. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - A Dominatrix Walks into a Bar (02:00) - The Bartender Notices Something Familiar (02:55) - His Mother Is a Dominatrix (06:00) - I Start to Think About Motherhood (07:15) - Clients Jumping at the Chance (08:30) - The Logistics (11:00) - How Client-Slaves May Be Useful (13:00) - Ideal Conditions? (14:30) - Why I Decided Against It, Resources and Suffering (17:30) - Fostering (19:00) - A Revealing Exercise (20:55) - Telling My Child About My Work (21:30) - Sex Work, Kink and Parenthood (22:50) - Tell Me About Kink and Parenthood Resources!

What is Eva Oh’s ultimate fantasy? Find out in this deeply revealing episode. A fantasy born out of graphic novels, porn channels and a lifetime of stimuli - Eva invites us into her masturbatory mind in fascinating detail. Inside we find a dystopian landscape, a robotic facility and otherworldly plays on light, texture, movement and sound. Leave a voice note question or story about anything for Eva to respond to on the next season here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - My Only Fantasy (01:00) - My First Wet Dream (02:10) - Erotic-ish Graphic Novels (03:00) - Motel Porn Channels (04:00) - The Evolution, from Dreams to Hentai to… (05:00) - Pay for Your Porn (06:40) - What Might Tie Everything Together? (07:00) - What is it?! Describing My Only Fantasy (07:20) - A Political and Societal Framework (08:30) - A Human-like Facility (09:10) - My Infiltration (10:55) - A Simulation (13:30) - A Morphing Dress (14:50) - The Initial Touch (15:15) - The Room Changes, I “Throw” Us Into Another Scene (15:55) - Auditory Hallucinations, Surrounding and Within (17:10) - A Platform Appears in Crystal Dust (19:00) - Merging with the Target, An Important Realisation (20:30) - The Visceral (21:30) - A Near Future (23:00) - What Might All This Mean? (27:00) - Zima Blue, Love Death and Robots (29:00) - Parallels with My Reality? (31:10) - How Could I Improve My Fantasy?

Eva Oh kicks off Season 3 on a reflective note, indulging us in how she’s found the podcast so far and what she’s found to be her biggest reward. Eva reveals more on how she creates each episode; and opens up her voice notes - for you to ask questions and share stories that she will respond to and create a whole #teakink season out of next! Leave a voice note here: https://bit.ly/teakinknote More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Season 3. How I’ve Found the Podcast So Far. (01:00) - The Biggest Reward (03:13) - What Season 3 Holds (04:20) - How I Create the Episodes and Why (07:14) - What Shall I Do with the Next Season? (07:55) - My Voice Notes are OPEN, Contribute to the Next Season

In the riveting season finale of #teakink, Eva Oh delves deep into her career as a Dominatrix, sharing her approach to play, scene negotiation, and offering invaluable advice for BDSM newcomers. More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) Welcome. What is #teakink (00:24) How I Play as a Dominatrix (03:57) Inside My Mind During a Scene (05:12) How I Play Now (06:12) The Role BDSM Tools and Toys Play (07:49) How I Negotiate a Scene (09:09) Becoming And Being My Plaything (12:39) Familiarity and Comfort in My Relationships (13:41) Presence, Speed, and Communication (16:29) Is There an "Eva Oh" Domination Formula? (17:45) Donning and Discarding Intensity (20:30) Advice From Eva (24:50) Vulnerability and Ending Season 2

Award-winning Dominatrix Eva Oh meets with Åste Amundsen, Experience Designer and Researcher, to find out more about the potential of her AI Companionship and its overarching effect on our lives. Listen in on a conversation that explores the evolution of human interaction, parallels to the early internet and sex work, chatbot rights, the ‘Interaction Arms Race’ and Åste’s Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test. Eva asks, can designing her AI Companion be done ethically or does that even matter? More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Meeting Åste Amundsen, Interaction Researcher (01:40) - How Åste Found Me (02:40) - How Åste Thinks My Work Parallels to Hers (06:40) - Why AI Companies Are Interested in Me (07:30) - The Evolution of Human Interaction including Parasocial Relationship and How AI Could Manipulate Our Shortcomings (10:30) - Åste's Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test Installation (13:10) - Sex Workers as Interaction Experts (15:00) - The Evolution of Human Dating and it’s Merging with Technology (16:00) - Esther Perel’s Fears for AI Chatbots and Digital Interaction (18:00) - How Could I Design an AI Companion Ethically? (21:40) - Sex Work as Emotional Labour, Designing ‘Friction’ Into AI (24:40) - Sex Work Hobbyists (26:30) - Porn and Fantasy as a First Sexual Experience, AI Companionship as Similar? (27:30) - My One Fantasy (29:45) - Current Attempts at AI Companionship (32:00) - The Relational Bonding and Interaction Arms Race (33:00) - Chatbot Rights (34:00) - Government (34:30) - What Makes a “Good” Interaction? (37:00) - What Sex Work Might Become (37:40) - How Could We Value Ourselves (41:25) - How These Developments Might Evolve Us (42:40) - What Motivates Me to become an AI Companion (43:55) - An Opportunity (46:00) - Åste’s NSFW Chatbot Research (48:00) - The Disturbing and The Violent (50:00) - The Nether, A Play (52:40) - Angela Carter, Benefiting From Our Sexual Capacity (57:40) - The Transactional Nature of Interaction (59:10) - Potential and the Parallels to the Early Internet Links: Åste Amundsen, http://asteamundsen.com

Award-winning Dominatrix Eva Oh meets with Åste Amundsen, Experience Designer and Researcher, to find out more about the potential of her AI Companionship and its overarching effect on our lives. Listen in on a conversation that explores the evolution of human interaction, parallels to the early internet and sex work, chatbot rights, the ‘Interaction Arms Race’ and Åste’s Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test. Eva asks, can designing her AI Companion be done ethically or does that even matter? More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Meeting Åste Amundsen, Interaction Researcher (01:40) - How Åste Found Me (02:40) - How Åste Thinks My Work Parallels to Hers (06:40) - Why AI Companies Are Interested in Me (07:30) - The Evolution of Human Interaction including Parasocial Relationship and How AI Could Manipulate Our Shortcomings (10:30) - Åste's Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test Installation (13:10) - Sex Workers as Interaction Experts (15:00) - The Evolution of Human Dating and it’s Merging with Technology (16:00) - Esther Perel’s Fears for AI Chatbots and Digital Interaction (18:00) - How Could I Design an AI Companion Ethically? (21:40) - Sex Work as Emotional Labour, Designing ‘Friction’ Into AI (24:40) - Sex Work Hobbyists (26:30) - Porn and Fantasy as a First Sexual Experience, AI Companionship as Similar? (27:30) - My One Fantasy (29:45) - Current Attempts at AI Companionship (32:00) - The Relational Bonding and Interaction Arms Race (33:00) - Chatbot Rights (34:00) - Government (34:30) - What Makes a “Good” Interaction? (37:00) - What Sex Work Might Become (37:40) - How Could We Value Ourselves (41:25) - How These Developments Might Evolve Us (42:40) - What Motivates Me to become an AI Companion (43:55) - An Opportunity (46:00) - Åste’s NSFW Chatbot Research (48:00) - The Disturbing and The Violent (50:00) - The Nether, A Play (52:40) - Angela Carter, Benefiting From Our Sexual Capacity (57:40) - The Transactional Nature of Interaction (59:10) - Potential and the Parallels to the Early Internet Links: Åste Amundsen, http://asteamundsen.com

Eva Oh revisits Berlin and takes us into an industrial neighborhood where two Dominatrixes would unlock an otherworldly BDSM experience. Later in the episode, Eva reflects on how Berlin has impacted her personally and professionally. And perhaps most importantly, Eva wonders if her professional kink life feeds into her private kink life, and where those boundaries lay. All that and more on this episode of #teakink. More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) Hello From Berlin (02:07) My History With the City (03:47) My Introduction to the World of Sex Clubs (04:30) Studio Avalon (05:58) The Dominatrix Who Caught My Eye (07:21) I, A Woman, Arrive At The Dungeon (08:33) The Dungeon Interior and I, an Open Minded Sub (09:35) But Why is a Dominatrix Paying to Submit? (10:25) The Scene Begins (12:00) My First Exposure to Someone Else's Scent (13:45) Introducing Another Mistress (15:00) Pleasure and Screams (17:00) The Scene Simmers Down (19:20) Filet-o-Fish Sandwich With a Side of Berlin Memories (20:50) Berlin Today (22:50) A Personal Rendezvous With Myself

In this very special video episode of #teakink, Eva Oh brings us into the inner workings of Klub Verboten, the most wanted kink sex party in the world that hosts over 3000 bodies a month in London and Berlin. At Klub Verboten you may see a leather clad human puppy being led around on a leash, or a couple in latex chatting by the bar, or a mass of a more-some gyrating on the dance floor. But how does this all emerge, and do so in a way that can inspire such freedom? It takes a lot thought, structure, dungeon furniture, campaigning against oppression and an ever growing team of very dedicated people. In this episode Eva Oh reveals why the party means so much more to her than ‘just’ sex and she chats with a board member and a safeguard from the team who make it all happen. A special video episode produced by Viscerals. Sound by Zak Nicholls. Music by Simao. More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) Welcome to Klub Verboten, the most wanted kink sex party in the world (01:43) What Happens Inside Klub Verboten (KV) (02:45) We Meet Ayo, A KV Safeguard (03:04) How to Get in to KV, and stay in (04:00) What are Safeguards (04:50) Safeguard Training and The Good Night Out Campaign (05:50) What Safeguards See and Do in the KV Playspace/Dungeon (07:40) How Ayo Became a Safeguard (09:00) the Team Behind KV (10:20) The Dress Code and Why it’s Important (12:10) Vanilla (Non-Kink/Queer) VS Kink Club Spaces (14:25) We Meet a Caged Gimp, a KV Board Member (15:50) Why the Gimp was Searching for a Space like KV (16:25) The KV Advisory Board (17:40) ‘Contemporary’ Kink Culture (18:45) What is Possible Inside KV (19:55) The Queer Kink Community (20:30) We Release the Gimp

Eva Oh interviews her main BDSM slave, m. This intimate conversation offers a unique look into the Dominatrix-submissive relationship, and the extraordinary dynamics that shape it. m sheds light on his journey from fear to complete surrender, candidly discussing his initial hesitance and intrigue, his struggle to let go, and the allure of Eva Oh’s dominating personality that finally led him to cherish the power exchange. Join us as we delve deeper into the dynamics of BDSM relationships, exploring intimacy, trust, and the profound fulfilment they can offer. More on Eva Oh, https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:18) - Meet My Main Slave, m (00.35) - The Foot Cam (00.56) - How We Met (02:10) - Ruling m’s Thoughts (02:40) - Why m Was Interested in Me (03:55) - m ‘Letting Go’ (05:25) - m’s Second Thoughts (06.20) - My ’Strong Personality’ (07.20) - m’s Fears and Attempted Manipulations (08:10) - The Ruler will Rule (08:50) - Rejection, Acceptance and Trust (10.30) - Preconceptions Meeting Reality (11.40) - m’s Growing Relationship to Pain and Resilience (12.20) - Taking Lessons from BDSM into m’s Workplace (13.30) - Love and Lust (15.00) - m Learning Compassion (15:30) - Why m Has Learned So Much (16.30) - What Our Day to Day Looks Like (19.15) - Navigating Expectations (20.13) - Communicating Needs and Understanding Each Other (22.35) - Sexuality and Intimacy (27.00) - m’s Concept of BDSM before Meeting Me vs Now (29.55) - m’s Hopes for The Future (31.00) - m’s Question for Me, Why Do I Accept Him? (35.30) - The Importance of Hearing the Submissive Voice (39.00) - How Vanilla Relationships Fit, or Don’t