Boysober

Patterns are hard to break. Cue: Therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, who joins the show to help Hope tackle her own tendencies of becoming enmeshed in codependent relationships and learn how to change her behavior in both romantic and platonic relationships. Nedra's new book, The Balancing Act: Creating Healthy Dependency and Connection Without Losing Yourself, is out now. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope is no stranger to real-life romance, but when it comes to the genre of romance—books and TV shows like Heated Rivalry or Bridgerton—she’s a complete virgin. Today, she gets her education with a trip to a romance bookstore, a conversation about monster romance with romance novel expert Sanjana Basker, and a serious look at how wounds from past relationships could be keeping her from embracing stories about love. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cheating is often treated like the ultimate dealbreaker — but it’s way more complicated than that. Therapist (and author of "Beyond Infidelity") Lauren LaRusso talks with Hope about why cheating happens, why staying or leaving a relationship is rarely black and white, and what actually helps people heal after betrayal. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Comedian Britt Migs tells us the story of the man she married, the bot that tore everything apart, and where dating after divorce led her. Britt is adapting this story into a special called "Dolphin Mode." For updates on when that's coming out, be sure to check out her website brittmigs.com, or follow her on Instagram and TikTok. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do the straight men in your life have friends? Do they have a close emotional relationship with someone other than their romantic partner? If not, and you are in a relationship with one of these men, you might be “mankeeping,” a term coined by psychologist Angelica Ferrara to describe the emotional labor many women take on for their male partners. Today, we have Angelica on the pod to guide us through why it’s so hard for straight men to find connection and what the answer might be to this patriarchal mess. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope is boysober but she’s also sober sober… like from alcohol. For Dry January, she’s chatting with her friend Chris Murch (aka Nigel Roxbury, content creator and host of the online series "Dumb Hot") who has been sober for almost two years. Many might think dating while sober is hard, but without alcohol, it can be easier to understand who you are and what you want. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether you’re looking for love or completely boysober in 2026, you’ll likely be inundated with dating trends and terms that might affect how you think about relationships these days. Hope, with producers Emily and Cristina, get in the studio to discuss these terms and talk about what they’re really looking for in the new year. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A look back on our favorite answers to Boysober's signature question: "What have you unlearned about love?" See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s the holidays, which is the perfect time to force your family to overshare on mic. That’s what Hope is doing this week with her mom Sharon, who opens up about her own path through love, heartbreak, and the patterns the women in their family keep repeating. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It feels like everything is expensive these days. So what does that mean for dating? Comedian Esmond Fountain shares his own experience of struggling to find love when his bank account was basically zero. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your boyfriend might not be embarrassing, but the way you talk and post about him probably is. For too long, women have been taught to flaunt their relationships to prove their worth. In this live episode of Boysober, Hope talks to creator Kate Glavan about rewriting that script, and how she had to unlearn the rules of dating to figure out what she actually wanted. To hear more from Kate, don't forget to check out the return of her hit podcast Seamossgirlies when it returns in January! Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is living alone so glamorized? Especially when there's a more affordable and less lonely option to live in an intentional community. That’s the message Gillian Morris is preaching. Gillian has lived communally for 10 years in various environments, and is even working to raise her child in one as a single mother. What does that mean exactly and why could it be the answer to so many of society’s shortcomings? To learn more about communal living, check out Gillian's Substack Supernuclear. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop being curious. That’s what Michelle MiJung Kim realized once she married her husband. As a queer woman, Michelle felt it was important to continue exploring her sexuality even while in a stable relationship. So when she asked to open the marriage, Michelle started her journey to find out what she needed to be happy. To hear more about the story that inspired this episode, check out Michelle's podcast I Feel That Way Too. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Consider this your fertility Q&A, minus the misinformation you might see on social media. Hope sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon to talk egg freezing: When is the right time to do it? What's a man's responsibility in all this? And most importantly, how can we plan for the future without freaking out about it? To learn more, be sure to pre-order Dr. Lucky's book The Lucky Egg (out Jan. 13, 2026). Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can men and women really just be friends? That’s the question at the heart of this week's Boysober Rom-Com Roundtable. Comedians Nikki Martin and Andy Spector help break down the iconic When Harry Met Sally—and all the messy, funny, and heartfelt truths about love and friendship it brings up. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boysober has always been about healing the parts of ourselves we’d rather ignore. This week, Hope explores an unconventional way to heal… with clown class. What seems silly at first becomes a powerful lesson in vulnerability and forgiveness. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are no rules when it comes to dating. Tiff Baira, TikTok's cupid and author of the new Modern Dating for Dummies, joins the pod to break down the difference between situationships and flings, healing after heartbreak, and the kinds of dating advice we should ignore online. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love bombers, mama’s boys… and oh god, another musician?! We’ve all got our list of dating red flags—but that doesn’t mean we always listen to it. This week, we’re diving into your wildest dealbreaker dating stories, the warning signs you ignored, and the hilarious (and painful) lessons that followed. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Hope's friend Storrey brings us a tale about a recent tumultuous relationship involving a finance bro, Miami, and some power play. Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to the start of Boysober October! To kick off the anniversary of Hope's flirtation with celibacy and decentering men, comedian Annabel Meschke joins the pod and reveals why she stopped being Hope's "sponsor." Plus, we hear from the listeners and their own boysober journeys! Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.