The Terri Cole Show

When you're a high-functioning codependent, you don't look stuck. You look capable. You're the one who pulls everything together, gets it all done, and rarely asks for help. People see you as someone who has it handled. But there's a cost. And recovering from being a high-functioning codependent is the path to living the happy, healthy, balanced life you deserve. I created the HFC Recovery Code because people kept asking me for a condensed list to help them remember their rights and responsibilities when they're feeling overwhelmed or pulled toward doing too much. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/799

I want to start with a question. When you want something, do you have a way of talking yourself out of it? Like, let's be "realistic"? Or say the odds are slim? Do you allow yourself to want what you want with all your heart? That's what this episode of The Terri Cole Show is all about. We're going to talk about manifesting. Note: This is a little woo, I'll admit. But this is one real aspect of how I've created my current life. I believe that what we think about and what we feel impacts what happens in our lives. So let's get into it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/798

In my almost three decades as a psychotherapist, I've seen passive-aggressive anger quietly destroy more relationships than infidelity. It's a slow drip of poison. And most of us don't even realize we're doing it. Do you ever say you're fine when you're not? Use sarcasm to let someone know you're pissed off instead of just saying it? Or are you ever on the receiving end of these behaviors? If you've done it or been on the receiving end of it, welcome to being a human in relationships with other people. On this episode of The Terri Cole Show, we are going to discuss passive-aggressive anger. Why we do it, what it looks like, and what we can do instead. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/797

When two people with the same traumatic experience find one another, is it an incredible coincidence, or simple fate? Gabrielle Stone and Taymour Ghazi don't know the answer either, but it happened to them. On today's episode, Gabrielle and Taymour share their long journey to finding one another and holding one another in healing after each had a childhood experience encountering the bodies of their deceased parents. They also describe how they found time to write their new book Finding You Through Finding Me while also caring for their newborn child. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/796

Have you ever looked at people who seem to have figured it out? They're in their sixties, seventies, or eighties, and they're healthy. They're happy. They're in great relationships. And you think, "what do they know that I don't?" Guess what? We don't have to wonder anymore. The Harvard Study of Adult Development is the longest longitudinal study ever done on physical and emotional well-being. Over 80 years, researchers tracked people across their entire lives to answer one question: what actually makes life feel good? The results were surprising: The quality of your relationships is the number one predictor of your mental health, your physical health, and your overall life satisfaction. It isn't money, success, fame, productivity, or hustling harder. It's not achieving some perfect version of yourself. On today's episode, I'm sharing some objective ways you can make your life happier and healthier, according to 80 years of research. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/795

Before you write a single resolution this year, I want you to try something different. It's a ritual I've been doing for over a decade, and it's completely changed how I move from one year into the next. Here's the thing: New Year's resolutions don't work. And I'm inviting you right now to trade yours in for something that will not only open your mind and your heart, but will powerfully clear the way for you to actually create what you want for the next 12 months. Here's why resolutions fall flat: we try to decide what we want to change without ever processing the year that just happened. How can we know what shifts we need to make if we haven't unpacked where we've been? This ritual is different. My hope is that it helps you process the experiences of 2025, raise your awareness about the lessons learned, and release what no longer serves you as we move into the next twelve months. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/794

Discover why menopause isn't the end—it's your most powerful beginning. Dr. Mindy Pelz, bestselling author of "Age Like a Girl," reveals the groundbreaking neuroscience behind menopause and how this transition rewires your brain for leadership, confidence, and purpose. Learn why 40% of our lives are designed to be lived WITHOUT our reproductive system, the evolutionary "grandmother hypothesis," and practical tools to navigate this transformation. From the neurochemical shift that eliminates people-pleasing to finding what truly brings you joy, this conversation will completely change how you view menopause. Perfect for women in perimenopause, menopause, or post-menopause—plus anyone who wants to understand this revolutionary life stage. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/793

Do you feel like you're overworking without feeling satisfied? Do you have difficulty accepting praise or compliments? Do you suffer from perfectionism? Do you have trouble asserting yourself with your clients? If you're nodding your head yes, then today's episode is for you! On today's episode, we're exploring how your inner child might be influencing your business decisions and how to put your adult self back in charge. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/792

The fawn response is the fourth trauma reaction beyond fight, flight, and freeze. Childhood experiences create patterns of people-pleasing that disconnect you from yourself. Meg shares her personal journey from a volatile, addiction-affected home to clear boundaries. Along the way, she reveals practical tools including her NICER technique for managing anxiety and overthinking. Stop self-silencing, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect with your authentic self. Are you struggling with people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, or feeling uncertain who you really are? This episode is perfect for you. Plus, we chat about grieving relationships that will never be and creating a sense of home within yourself. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/791

Are you managing other people's feelings more than you're managing your business? Are you doing tasks that drain you because you don't know how to delegate without guilt? Or you don't trust people to do it right? Are you walking on eggshells around your own team? If you're a woman in a position of power, creating healthy boundaries at work can be challenging. You may feel mean or selfish. But disordered boundaries don't just make you tired; they can also cap your success. In today's episode, I'm sharing tips to help you become less drained, more productive, and more energized at work. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/790

Are you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion? Nurse practitioner and somatic therapist Baya Albina reveals what "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's sabotaging your relationships and health. Learn about "functional freeze", constantly doing but feeling nothing and discover practical steps to reconnect with your body, set boundaries without guilt, and stop fixing everyone around you. If you can't relax when someone's upset or always put others first, this conversation will change everything. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/789

Do you feel like you're trying to outrun the clock when it comes to aging? Is there a part of you that feels like you're trying to turn back the hands of time? How deeply are you caught up in the anti-aging vibe, and how is it affecting you personally? I want to talk about something I'm really passionate about. It's not about not aging, it's about aging healthily and aging well. But there are so many things that get in the way of us being able to focus on it that way, and so many of those things are unconscious. I'm going to talk about how anti-aging culture is impacting us, what the emotional toll is, what you can do about it, and what I'm doing about it. This is an invitation to join me in this pro-living revolution. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/788

If you've ever felt like your relationship was falling apart and didn't know why, this is for you. Therapist Thais Gibson opens up about her own journey and shares the six relationship stages that changed everything. You'll finally understand why the honeymoon phase ends, what the "Power Struggle" really means, and how vulnerability can heal what feels broken. You're not failing—you're just in a stage that requires different tools. This conversation will give you hope and a clear path forward for the love you deserve. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/787

Was love or support inconsistent in your family of origin? Do you ever feel yourself respond emotionally and impulsively to things that make you feel frightened? Today, I'm introducing you to your inner child, a part of yourself that holds old wounds and might take over when you feel scared. I'm giving you tips and a visualization exercise that can help you stay in communication with your inner child and offer them love and validation so that they don't need to act out to get your attention. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/786

Are you trapped in a relationship that swings between love and pain? Dr. Nadine Macaluso, survivor of the real Wolf of Wall Street marriage, reveals the hidden signs of trauma bonds and why leaving feels impossible. This isn't weakness—it's neuroscience. Learn the strategic escape plan that helped her client of 35 years break free safely. Discover the two-part healing framework that transformed Dr. Nay from victim to healer. You deserve peace, and this roadmap shows you how to reclaim yourself. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/785

As seasons change, our energy shifts too. Even if you live in a place without big weather changes, there is a rhythm to life that invites pausing, assessing, and resetting. Think of this as a psychological closet clean-out. Just as you pack away your summer clothes and pull out cozy sweaters, you can review your mental habits, emotional clutter, and daily commitments to decide what stays and what goes. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/784

Struggling with boundaries? Attachment expert Daphna Lender reveals why "gentle parenting" trends miss the mark. Learn the neuroscience-backed technique of parental self-regulation that transforms difficult moments with your kids. Discover why your own nervous system holds the key to effective boundaries. With 30 years of clinical experience, Daphna shares evidence-based strategies for managing challenging behaviors in children and teens. Learn how to "clear your screen" before setting boundaries, why listening with curiosity changes everything with teenagers, and the surprising power of disengagement. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/783

Be honest. Have you ever felt your walls go up when someone gives you feedback? Maybe your partner says, "You're always on your phone," or your boss points out a mistake, and before you even realize it, you're explaining, justifying, or firing back. You are not alone. Defensiveness is a profoundly human response. It is our nervous system's way of saying, "I feel threatened." But while it may feel like protection, defensiveness actually builds a wall between you and the people you care about most. Let's talk about why it happens, how to shift it, and how to give feedback in a way that strengthens the connection rather than breaking it down. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/782

Your mother-in-law isn't the problem. The lack of clear boundaries is. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish reveals why 85% of women fight with their partners about their mothers-in-law and what to do about it. The biggest mistake: when your husband blames you for the boundaries ("She doesn't want to come for Christmas"). Learn how to communicate as a team, establish your own traditions, and stop being the "people-pleasing victim" or the "villain." Concrete strategies for newlyweds and new moms. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/781

Do you ever shrink, freeze, or overreact with authority figures? It could happen with a boss, a professor, or even a doctor. Your heart races, your thoughts scramble, and afterward you think, Why did I react like that? You are not alone. For many women, interactions with authority can trigger strong emotional responses that may not make sense in the moment. Today, we are breaking down why this happens, how it shows up, and the practical steps you can take to change the pattern. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/780